November is a game-changer. Eclipse Season is over, but that is not stopping the transformative energy that this month is bringing. Saturn goes direct in Pisces at the start of the month, and this is exciting news after the emotional uneasiness Saturn retrograde brought over the past few months. Saturn has been retrograde since June, and on November 4, it officially goes direct, allowing more of a clear vision when it comes to your intuition, your creativity, and your emotional world.
However, as with any change, time is needed to settle into the new energy. This month is here to bring in some more magic (maybe even a little chaos?) before the year ends.
What November 2023 Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
Venus enters Libra on Nov. 8, and Venus loves being in this air sign. With Scorpio Season in full effect this month and Venus now in Libra, there is a balance needed between the head and the heart right now. Venus in Libra prioritizes love, relationships, and connection, and the Sun in Scorpio will be reminding us to do so, but not at the expense of our own well-being and emotional needs.
Mercury enters Sagittarius on Nov. 10, bringing in some heat into the month. Mercury in Sagittarius is bold, and you can expect people to not be afraid to speak their minds right now.
Overall, this energy is about allowing your inner muse to create abundance in your world and to open your mind to what is possible for you.
The New Moon this month is occurring on Nov. 13 and will be in Scorpio, aligning with the Sun. This New Moon is an emotionally healing one and is creating new beginnings and a rebirth. Set your intentions for your inner power, your shared resources, and where you want to overcome in your life right now. Sagittarius Season officially begins on Nov. 22, and with the Sun in a fire sign, emotions are heightened, but in a new way. Sagittarius Season is all about seeing the bigger picture, expressing your authentic self, and focusing on the positives.
Mars enters Sagittarius on Nov. 24, and this is a good time of the year to travel for most or just find new avenues to explore in your life. Spontaneity is favored when the energy is in Sagittarius, and things are getting exciting right now. The Full Moon will be happening on Nov. 27 and this Full Moon is occurring in Gemini. Gemini is a wildcard, and you may be surprised with what’s being brought to your attention right now.
This Full Moon is a reminder that change is constant, and it’s best to work with the energy that is coming to fruition in your life and mold it to where you want it to be. Overall, November is all about overcoming and claiming your space.
Your November 2023 Monthly Horoscopes For Each Zodiac Sign
ARIES
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is all about nurturing your world, Aries. Patience is needed now as you prepare for your dreams and intentions to come to fruition. At the beginning of the month, Saturn goes direct after being retrograde in your 12th house of closure since June of this year. Now that Saturn is direct, you feel free to heal finally, let go, and create space for the new to enter.
November is an excellent month to treat yourself, enjoy the riches in your world now, and believe that you deserve everything you are trying to create in your life. On Nov. 8, Venus enters your opposite sign, Libra, and moves into your 7th house of love. Your love life sees improvements with this energy, and with the New Moon on Nov. 13 highlighting the intimacy in your life, support is really coming in for you right now.
TAURUS
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The tables are turning for you in November, Taurus. This is a fulfilling and abundant month for you and a time when you are seeing positive culminations in your life. Your ruling planet, Venus, is in your 6th house of work, health, and daily routines for most of the month, and this energy is inspiring you to take care of yourself, your well-being, and the special people in your life.
The New Moon in Scorpio on the 13th aligns with your house of love and is creating a new beginning within your relationships this month. You are looking forward to where the romance is headed in your life right now, and there is growth taking place within your heart. At the end of the month, there is a Full Moon in your 2nd house of investments, and what you have been spending your time and energy on is coming full circle for you. This month, love is coming your way.
GEMINI
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleIn November, communication is clear, and your energy is direct, Gemini. You are focused on moving forward and letting go of anything that keeps you in a state of confusion or stagnancy. Venus is in a fellow air sign for most of the month, and as it’s moving through your 5th house of romance, you are able to feel more love in your life, and you are truly focused on following your happiness right now.
The Sun moves into your sister sign, Sagittarius, on the 22nd, even more fueling the love and romantic energy that is in your life right now. This is your time to shine within your relationships and to receive what you have been looking for here. On Nov. 27, before the month ends, there is a Full Moon in your sign, and you are seeing some personal goals come to completion and are closing chapters in your life that no longer resonate with who you are today.
CANCER
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is inspiring you to new heights, Cancer. You are taking off on the new ideas and passions you have been tapping into and are ready to communicate your vision with others. You are being guided to express yourself thoroughly but to also have patience with the delivery. With Venus in Libra and aligned with the area of your life having to do with the home and family for most of the month, spending time in your safe spaces and with close loved ones is truly therapeutic for you now.
On Nov. 13, there is a New Moon in your 5th house of romance, and love is coming in for you in new ways. You are opening the door to your personal happiness and creativity, and are being received especially favorably right now. By the end of the month, there is a Full Moon at the very bottom of your chart, and you need more quiet time alone to renew and emotionally regroup as the month ends.
LEO
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleThis is a month of success for you, Leo. You are experiencing new developments taking place in your life and your professional world and are being seen for the light you are in this world. You have been putting in the work while also creating space for your dreams to grow, and with the Sun in Scorpio for most of the month, you are seeing a lot of these manifestations coming through within the home, your emotional well-being, and your sense of security in life.
This month, the key for you is to have balance with what you are doing. Venus is in your 3rd house of communication for most of the month, and you are experiencing a lot of breakthroughs here that will help you feel safer to take up space and ask for what you need. The Full Moon on the 27th is showing you just how worthy you are of abundance, and you are letting go of insecurities and embracing your success in life.
VIRGO
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYour intentions are manifesting for you this month, Virgo. This month is allowing you to tap into your inner source of abundance, and in turn, you are creating more material abundance in your life as well. This is a creative, fruitful, and nurturing time for you, and with Saturn moving direct in your 7th house of love and partnerships at the start of the month, you get to enter November with a weight off your shoulders and your heart.
November is about creating beauty in your world and claiming the blessings that are entering- without the self-sabotage.
Venus is in your house of investments this month, and you are seeing a return on yours. The New Moon in Scorpio on the 13th is an excellent time for you to see things more clearly and come up with some new ideas and perspectives for the life you are trying to create right now. This month is all about releasing stress and having more compassion and support for your growth.
LIBRA
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleLibra Season is officially over, but you are just beginning the new journey of love that November is bringing you on, Libra. Venus enters your sign as the month begins on Nov. 8, and you are ready for a new beginning. Relationships feel more personal and sensitive for you right now, but you are also recognizing where in your life you could be showing yourself some more love and attention.
The New Moon on the 13th is a good time to set your intentions for your finances and the plans you want to set in motion here. New beginnings and financial opportunities are here for you, make sure you don’t overcomplicate things with fear or self-doubt. The Full Moon on Nov. 17 is an eye-opening time for you, and you are gaining a bigger picture that you may have missed before. By the end of the month, you are starting from square one in the best way possible.
SCORPIO
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleNovember is about having patience and trusting the process, Scorpio. This is your season, and it’s your time to allow the light to shine on you. Your personal goals and motivations are being highlighted right now, and you are moving through a space of self-development. Divine timing is everything this month, and what you are hoping to bring to fruition right now is taking some time for better conditions.
With Venus in your 12th house of closure, spirituality, and healing for most of the month, your heart is giving you some new wisdom. You are really feeling things through this month and need some time to grasp where things are and where they could be. On Nov. 13, there is a New Moon in your sign, and this New Moon is all about setting intentions for your future and your dream life, and aligning with your higher self. November is helping you see yourself clearer and reinvest and align with what you want.
SAGITTARIUS
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is all about connection, Sagittarius. Love is filling your world, and there is a sense of feeling more whole right now. The month begins with the Sun moving through the very bottom of your chart, allowing you more time to rest, contemplate, and spend more time with your heart. On Nov. 8, Venus moves into your 11th house of friendship, hopes, and dreams, and you are going to feel more social and make some new connections in your life. Mercury moves into your sign this month on the 10th, and the vision is clearer.
You are communicating freely and from the heart, and the smoke is moving away from your life. Where you once felt pressure and challenge in your world, you are now feeling resolution and balance.
Sagittarius Season begins on Nov. 22, and it’s all about living in your light right now. With Mars also entering your sign a few days later, the empowerment is really there for you this month, and its love is seeping into many different areas of your life.
CAPRICORN
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleNovember is a month of freedom, collaboration, and self-confidence, Capricorn. You are working together with others in harmony and are making your dreams come true through the efforts of yourself and those around you. With your ruling planet Saturn in retrograde over the past five months, it’s been difficult to find the inspiration or words for how you are feeling. Saturn officially goes direct at the start of November, and you finally have more room to express yourself and define your interests- and feel more safe doing so.
Venus is in your 10th house of career and reputation for most of the month as well, and you are thinking about how you want to show up in the world and what skills and talents you want to move forward with and experience success in. The Full Moon at the end of the month is another working area of your chart, and you are really getting things done in November. By the end of the month, you are seeing more rewards and recognition for the work you have been doing.
AQUARIUS
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYour guidance for the month, Aquarius, is to rest more, tend to your needs more, and give yourself time to think things through. The past cannot be undone, and how you treat yourself in the present moment is more important right now. One of your ruling planets, Saturn, officially goes direct this month, and for you, this means your financial world, self-confidence, and personal values experience a boost of direction and positivity, and you are overcoming the confusion you have been in.
Venus is in fellow Air Sign Libra for most of the month and is in your 9th house of adventure. You could be traveling this month or also just spending more time exploring your inner world.
Know that one door opening can lead to many other opportunities for yourself, and trust your instincts right now. The Full Moon at the end of the month on the 27th is signaling to you what energy to prioritize more in your life and where you can let go for the sake of your happiness.
PISCES
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYou are seeing abundance in a new way this month, Pisces. The new beginnings you are moving through in your career life right now are planting the seeds for your future financially, and you are getting a glimpse of how good it can get for you. Saturn goes direct in your sign at the start of the month, and you are moving into the energy of fewer obstacles towards your goals and more success with what you set your intentions on and dedicate yourself to.
The New Moon on Nov. 13 is allowing you to turn a new page when it comes to your perspective and mindset and helping you see your gifts in life clearer. This is a good New Moon to set your intentions for your future, your bucket lists, and what you want to learn more about and discover in life. At the end of the month, there is a Full Moon in Gemini, and this Full Moon is giving you closure, emotional healing, and making space for secure foundations to grow.
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Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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1. Create a Budget. Stick to It.
GiphyBudgets, boy. I recently read that one of the reasons why they don’t work for a lot of people is because many folks don’t have a clue about how much money they spend on a monthly basis to begin with. SMDH. That said, at the end of the day, it’s important to remember that a budget is simply setting boundaries/limits on your spending — and being intentional about moving in this fashion is always a wise move; especially when it comes to this time of the year…especially being that it’s typical for half of all Americans to take on some type of holiday season debt with 17 percent needing six (or more) months to pay it off.
Know what can prevent this kind of financial chaos? A SPENDING BUDGET. Tips for how to create one of your own this year can be found here.
2. Never Shop When You’re Stressed or Pressed
GiphyYou know how they say that it’s not a good idea to go grocery shopping when you’re hungry? Although the holiday season can be a stressful time, avoid shopping for gifts (or décor or food for recipes) when you are feeling stressed out or pressed for time. More times than not, that cultivates anxiety which could cause you to either purchase things that you don’t really want or to spend money that you don’t really have (P.S. If you’re relying on credit cards, that qualifies as money that you don’t really have. Just sayin’).
3. Don’t Keep Up with the Joneses
GiphyKnow something else that can stress you out: trying to keep up with the Joneses. And y’all, now that we have social media, the reality is that envy is at an all-time high. That’s because it can be really easy to watch holiday engagements, holiday trips and folks bragging about the things that they’ve received in times past, only for you to find yourself wishing that you were them — or putting pressure on yourself and those in your world to keep up.
Listen, it is King Solomon who once said, “So are the ways of everyone who is greedy for gain; It takes away the life of its owners” (Proverbs 1:19 — NKJV) and “A sound heart is life to the body, but envy is rottenness to the bones” (Proverbs 14:30 — NKJV) and he’s considered to be the wisest man who ever lived (during his time — I Kings 4:30). Yeah, both of these verses are a spiritual reminder that whatever you are planning to do or give, do it out of the goodness of your heart — not so that you can low-key “outdo” the next guy.
4. No Need to “Tit-for-Tat”
GiphyThis one might be a bit controversial yet I’m totally okay with that. I don’t care what the occasion is, no one is OWED a present. A gift is a voluntary token of one’s appreciation or affection. That said, if you decide to give someone a present this year, don’t automatically expect something in return. If you get something, cool. If not, if you were giving for the right reasons, it really shouldn’t matter (RIGHT?). On the flip side, if someone decides to get you something and you don’t have something to offer in return, also cool.
Other than going to someone’s home for a holiday dinner or party, for anyone to feel like they should have something in hand because someone else does…that’s not giving, that’s competing — and that absolutely should not be the spirit that you are in (or around) during this time of year.
Again, a gift is not an obligatory thing. If you’ve always thought otherwise, it’s time to do some serious reprogramming.
5. Avoid the Pressure to Buy for Lots of Adults
GiphyLast month, Newsweek published an article that said it’s wise to not spend a ton of money purchasing gifts for adults. A financial expert in the piece said that it’s best to buy for kids because, more times than not, you’re going to get adults something that they already have a lot of, they don’t really need or they’re not going to use (beyond maybe regifting) anyway.
If you’re not feeling that insight, my take would be to exchange names and set a price cap for the grown folks. I say that because, I don’t think that people ever outgrow wanting something over Christmas. It’s just that the over-the-top energy should be reserved for the kiddies — and even then, the “4-gift rule” (want, need, read, experience) is probably your best bet for them…financially and otherwise.
6. Go for Thoughtful over Expensive
GiphyIt’s kind of wild how much close-to-torture folks send themselves through to purchase gifts that, a good 6-8 months now, most folks aren’t even going to remember. That’s why it’s also a good idea to purpose in your mind to get something thoughtful over expensive.
Honestly, that’s a big part of the reason why Etsy continues to be a go-to for gifts (for every occasion) for me. It’s because you can oftentimes get things customized/personalized which ends up meaning so much more to people than something that you bought at a generic department store that might have a high price tag yet still lacks in sentimentality and deep meaning.
7. Use Coupons and Promo Codes
GiphyCoupons (and promo codes) are a slippery slope in the sense that…they remind me of when I used to go overboard while thrift store shopping. I say that because, just because I might find several bomb dresses for under $20, what am I going to do with 50 of ‘em (over time)? It’s just as much of a waste of money as buying couture if neither option gets much use.
And that’s kind of the thing about coupons and promo codes. Some people end up overspending because they rationalize that so long as there are discounts attached, it’s all good. At the same time, this doesn’t mean that you should forego coupons and promo codes altogether. The key is to put together your shopping list (and budget) and then use discounts specifically for those items. If you do this, you could save well over $1,000 annually (at least, depending on what you decide to buy).
8. Avoid Add-Ons
GiphyYeah. Dodge add-on expenses. Add-ons like what? The first thing that comes to my mind is a warranty. What’s the chance that someone is actually going to need that? Another example is paying for things to be “professionally” gift wrapped. Chile, throw that stuff in a gift bag with some tissue paper and go on about your day. All good.
9. Rethink Gift Cards
GiphyIf there is any time of the year when there is a noticeable hike in gift card purchases, now would be it. And although they are a convenient approach to gift giving, at the same time, many come with hidden fees, the full amount oftentimes goes unused (which ends up being a waste of money) and they do come with expiration dates that are oftentimes forgotten.
So, if you’re someone who likes to wait until the last minute to do your holiday shopping, resist the urge to impulsively pick up a handful of gift cards. Unless it’s to a place that you know someone is going to use within the next few months, they could end up in somebody’s kitchen drawer for the next couple of years. And what a waste that would be.
10. They’ll Get It When They Do. And That’s Okay.
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GiphyOne more. Although it is super thoughtful and proactive to get people their gifts in time for whatever occasion you purchased them for, if trying to reach that goal is going to require paying for rush shipping that is damn near as high as the price of gift or spending a lot of gas money that you don’t have at the moment to drive miles and miles away — take the pressure off to spend a ton of cash just to make sure that something arrives at December 25. Listen, through doing business with Etsy, I have learned that through this administration, there are all sorts of tariff issues going on and the USPS is slower than ever too, so paying more may not guarantee much.
The hack? Send a message that something special is coming…soon enough. The thought really is what counts (more times than not); plus, it builds anticipation of something good coming, even if it’s after all of the Christmas Day hoopla. And no one (with sense) is going to have a problem with that.
Now don’t you feel better? Happy Holiday Shopping, sis.
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