
Even though I am dating a Virgo now, for a while, I vowed that I would never date a Virgo. My sister is a Virgo, and although we get along now, we fought and bickered when we were younger. Even more so, although I love my sister to death, we are two totally different people and I could never imagine myself romantically linked to anyone with the same personality. I'm a Gemini and from my experience, Geminis and Virgos don't pair well together. Having a sister as a Virgo is one thing, but the idea of dating a Virgo - those insanely blunt, perfectionists - was a complete 'hell no.'
Similar to reading your horoscope for love or for fun, there is a lot that your zodiac sign can tell you about yourself when it comes down to your work ethic and professional behavior. Now, I'm not saying that you should make all of your career and work choices based off of astrology, but after speaking with Astrologer Mecca Woods of mylifecreated.com, I have learned that there is so much that we can learn about our work behavior by just being knowledgeable about our zodiac sign.

As Mecca told me, “By looking at a your birth chart (which is kind of like a cosmic map or blueprint to who you are individually) you can see the kind of career you might pursue, your natural born talents or gifts, what kind of work environment you would thrive in, and the kind you would run from."
Even more, depending on our sign and birth chart, the time of the year when our work ethic is the weakest can be determined. According to Mecca, “In astrology when the planets move through water signs, it's usually a time when people seem to be more low-key and less active. Those times of the year marked by the Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces seasons are when we tend to need more rest and privacy than usual. This is because the element of water in astrology tends to absorb whatever it comes in contact with and frequently needs periods of solitude/recharging in order to avoid burnout."
"When we're in these seasons many of us will be feeling the same way. Plus, water is a 'go with the flow' kind of energy. It's hard to buckle down and barrel through assignments under its influence."
I recently came across an astrological sign list by the University of California, Davis. Listed below, I have gathered the pros and cons of each sign, and I've listed how this can relate to a person's work ethic or behavior.
Also, don't mind the Beyoncé-inspired zodiac signs. I'm a proud member of the Beyhive.
The Work Ethic of an Aries (March 21 - April 20)
Pros: Adventurous, energetic, confident, and enthusiastic
Cons: Selfish, impatient, quick-tempered, and impulsive
In the workplace: You don't have to tell an Aries that they are the shit, because they know it. It's very refreshing to work with Aries because they have so much energy and their joyful attitude is refreshing to be around. However, their joyous attitude won't lasts long if you irritate them. Because they can be easy to anger, nagging them or not trusting their work is an easy way to turn an Aries employee off.
The Work Ethic of a Taurus (April 21 - May 20)
Pros: Patient, persistent, reliable, and warm-hearted
Cons: Jealous, resentful, possessive, and resentful
In the workplace: The Taurus employee is an ideal manager because they are kind and patient, which are two major qualities to have if you are a leader in the workplace. On the flip side, when you cross a Taurus, forgiveness won't come easy and this type of bad energy can bring negativity to the workplace.
The Work Ethic of a Gemini (May 21 - June 21)
Pros: Adaptable, lively, communicative, and versatile
Cons: Nervous, tense, and cunning
In the workplace: People say that Geminis are moody because of the dual personalities, but a Gemini's personality is just the best of both worlds. Geminis are amazing to work with because they have a natural ability to adapt to all types of people. Also, they are a likeable bunch and are natural leaders. However, Geminis can easily jump to conclusions and sometimes freak out at the slightest inclination of trouble.
The Work Ethic of a Cancer (June 22 - July 22)
Pros: Intuitive, imaginative, cautious, and sympathetic
Cons: Changeable, moody, and over-emotional
In the workplace: Cancers are naturally creatives and are great to include on brainstorming teams. Because of their nurturing personalities, Cancers are most likely able to make a positive impact in an organization. On the flip side, Cancers can be very moody and over-emotional at times because of their sensitive nature.
The Work Ethic of a Leo (July 23 - August 21)
Pros: Generous, creative, enthusiastic, faithful
Cons: Bossy, patronizing, and interfering
In the workplace: Leos are very energetic and when on a team, they are able to keep everyone pumped up and focused. It is not second nature for a Leo employee to take the lead in any situation, however, sometimes their take-charge personality can be taken off as bossy and demanding, and can be a turn-off to other employees.
The Work Ethic of a Virgo (August 22 - September 23)
Pros: Meticulous, reliable, practical, and analytical
Cons: Overly critical, perfectionist, and harsh
In the workplace: Virgos are very analytical, so they work well on projects that require detail-oriented characteristics. Because they are perfectionists, you can count on Virgos to get their job done well, with minor errors. On the flip side, sometimes their perfectionist mindset can come off as tense and demanding. When working with others that are not as detailed-oriented and analytical, Virgos unconsciously are overly critical and judging.
The Work Ethic of a Libra (September 24 - October 23)
Pros: Charming, easy-going, peaceful, and diplomatic
Cons: Indecisive, gullible, and easily influenced
In the workplace: Libras are one of the easiest types of people to work with because of their “go with the flow" attitude. Libras are known to exude positive energy and this can be felt among their peers, bosses, and clients. Because Libras seek peace and not conflict, at times they can easily be influenced and fail to voice their opinions.
The Work Ethic of a Scorpio (October 24 - November 22)
Pros: Passionate, magnetic, emotional, and determined
Cons: Secretive, obsessive, and resentful
In the workplace: Scorpios are very ambitious and driven. When a Scorpio has a goal, they will work hard and nonstop to achieve that goal. Sometimes because of their “can't stop, won't stop" attitude, they can be considered as opportunists. Also, once you cross a Scorpio, they can be unforgiving and can hold grudges.
The Work Ethic of a Sagittarius (November 23 - December 22)
Pros: Optimistic, good-humored, and honest
Cons: Careless, irresponsible, and tactless
In the workplace: Sagittarius employees see the good in others and are natural motivators. They possess a positive attitude and thrive in making others happy. However, because they work hard at being good stewards to others, sometimes their execution in handling projects isn't well thought through. They are also sometimes perceived as irresponsible because of their lack of direction for large-scaled, detailed projects.
The Work Ethic of a Capricorn (December 23 - January 20)
Pros: Practical, ambitious, and disciplined
Cons: Lack of imagination, grudging, and pessimistic
In the workplace: Capricorns are the ideal leaders in the workplace because they are self-disciplined, pragmatic, and go-getters. They work well in operational type roles because they can easily manage different types of projects and people. However, because of their straight-forward attitude, they can come off as too blunt at times.
The Work Ethic of an Aquarius (January 21 - February 19)
Pros: Friendly, honest, loyal, and independent
Cons: Unpredictable, unemotional, and detached
In the workplace: Aquarius' work well in teams and as individuals. They are also very trustworthy and believe in being loyal to the people around them. On the contrary, Aquarius' can sometimes lack empathy for others and can come off as distant when they get in their zone.
The Work Ethic of a Pisces (February 20 - March 20)
Pros: Imaginative, compassionate, and selfless
Cons: Vague, easily-led, and weak-willed
In the workplace: Because of their compassionate and selfless attitude, Pisces are great to work with because they are very likeable. They are creative spirits, and easily inspires those around them. On the flip side, Pisces fail at standing up for themselves and are sometimes easily talked into situations that they may not wholeheartedly agree with.
Whether or not you are an astrology lover, your zodiac sign can disclose a lot about your work personality and those around you.
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This Is How To Keep 'Holiday Season Stress' From Infecting Your Relationship
Hmph. Maybe it’s just me, but it seems like there is something really weird happening in the fall season air (because winter doesn’t officially begin until December 21) that cuddle season is in full swing while break-up season is as well. In fact, did you know that break-ups are so popular during the holiday season that December 11 is deemed Break-Up Day?
The reasons why relationships shift around this time vary; however, I did both roll my eyes and chuckle when I read that a very popular one is because it’s an easy way to get out of getting one’s significant other a Christmas present. SMDH.
Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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Whew. Did you know that somewhere around 122 million Americans travel during the holiday season? Listen, I went to see my godbabies this past September and got caught up in a crazy ass traffic jam at BNA (the Nashville airport) that damn near has me considering air travel ever again — especially during this time of the year.
Besides, it’s not like it’s a written rule that you have to travel over the holidays. In fact, if you want to play it chill this year, why not enjoy a staycation instead? Although it might seem like it’s a “poor man’s compromise,” as you’re about to see, it actually…isn’t.
1. Go All Out with the Christmas Décor
GiphyThere is someone I know who is so obsessed with Christmas, she’s damn near annoying-borderline-terrifying. I’m. Not. Kidding. Yet hey, if you’re going to do a holiday-themed staycation (emphasis on “holiday-themed”), that’s kind of how you’ve got to be. Some décor ideas include:
- A fresh Christmas tree (is the most ideal) that is ultimately decorated
- Wreaths on outside and inside doors
- Garland (with twinkle lights) in predictable and unpredictable places
- Poinsettias
- Mistletoes
- Snow globes
- A stocking (with some of your favorite things in it)
- Fake snow
- Stars
- Angels
- Candy canes
- A BLACK Santa (LOL)
I mean, since you are going to be spending a lot of time at home, it can feel like a mini-winter wonderland if you are intentional about doing more decorating to your living space than you ever have before!
2. Buy a Couple of Christmas-Themed PJs
GiphyWhile I was doing some research on a totally different topic, I happened upon an article that talked about the psychology behind why we should be intentional about what we wear to bed. When you stop to think about the fact that (hopefully) you are sleeping somewhere between 6-8 hours every night, it would make sense that things like the color and fabric of your sleepwear would have a real impact on you — even subconsciously.
Well, when it comes to Christmas décor, specifically, not only does it take you back to nostalgic memories, it can also boost your moods. So, aside from being on-10 with your Christmas décor, also invest in some Christmas-themed PJs. Since you’re going to be doing a lot of lounging around (RIGHT?), do it in something that makes you think about all of your favorite things about this time of year.
3. Cop Some Christmas-Scented Candles
GiphyThere really is no telling how many articles that I’ve written where I am singing the praises of scented soy candles. Candles are soothing, comforting and a very easy way to reduce stress. Also, since it gets darker quicker and for a longer period of time around this time of the year, candles provide a relaxing vibe to your home. Since it is Christmastime, go with scents that are reminiscent of the season:
- Cinnamon
- Vanilla
- Cranberry
- Apple
- Pine
- Frankincense and Myrrh
- Peppermint
- Cashmere
- Ginger(bread)
- Orange
- Sugar Cookies
- Sandalwood
- Cloves
- Cedarwood
- (Hot) Chocolate
Personally, one of my favorite candle companies is Goose Creek. Their signature collections will have your entire house smelling like a high-end bakery. No exaggeration.
4. Play Some Winter-Themed ASMR Sounds
GiphyI’m from Nebraska and my mother was a New Yorker. So, if there is one thing that I like, it’s seasons and that includes snow during wintertime. Unfortunately, Nashville is cray-cray when it comes to that. If, where you live, the weather is all over the place too (which is why I think it’s insane that some people still give pushback to global warming) and you would like for it to at least seem like you are in your own winter wonderland — invest in some fake snow to strategically place around your home.
Oh, and don’t forget to turn on some winter-themed ASMR sounds too. YouTube has videos that run for hours on end that feature blizzards and howling winds that really can make you feel like you are in the midst of an ice storm.
5. Host a Holiday Movie Marathon
GiphyOne thing to remember about a staycation is it doesn’t mean that you have to be alone or that the only people who can participate are the ones who live with you. Since a staycation is simply about staying close to home instead of traveling afar — absolutely consider having some of your favorite people over for a holiday-themed movie marathon. Shoot, Black America Web even did you a solid by publishing “25 Best Black Christmas Movies Of All Time;” plus, Tubi has a Black holiday hits section of indie films too.
Oh, and make sure to get creative with the Christmas-themed snacks. Some ideas? Some Kentucky-fried turkey tenders with cranberry hot sauce (recipe here), some Holiday Hot Spinach Dip (recipe here), some Grinch Kabobs (recipe here), some roasted pecans (recipe here) and some Pomegranate Guacamole (recipe here).
6. Spend a Night (or Two) at a Hotel or Vacation House
GiphyJust like you don’t have to be alone during a staycation, you also don’t have to be cooped up in your house the entire time. Get a change of scenery in your own city by spending the night in a hotel that you’ve always wanted to try out or renting a vacation house for you and some of your folks to hang out in during the time between Christmas and New Year’s Day. I have a “love little sister” who does this randomly when she needs a break from her work as a therapist. She says that it’s damn near like taking a trip (and she has PLENTY of passport stamps; trust me).
7. Have Brunch or Dinner at a Christmas-Themed Restaurant
GiphyIf nothing puts a bigger smile on your face than the thought of DoorDashing meals and barely even touching your stove during your staycation — hey, I am right there with you. Do consider going out to brunch or dinner during your chill time, though. It’s another way to bond with people and create some current holiday memories. And if you’ve got a bae and you opt for dinner, it can be a wonderful type of Christmas-themed date.
8. Go to a Holiday-Themed Concert
GiphyBeing that I got my start as an entertainment writer, hear me when I say that I’m not someone who just has to go to a live concert every chance that I get. Oh, but baby, when I saw that El DeBarge was doing a City Winery tour and he was going to be here right before Christmas — I booked myself a ticket quick, fast and in a super-duper hurry! Shoot, I didn’t even want to go with someone because I plan to give him and that falsetto voice of his my complete and undivided attention. LOL.
I don’t know what it is about the holiday season that makes live music that much more enjoyable — but if there is a concert that features one of your favorite artists happening right through here, consider that to be a cool way to “tour your city” while cultivating a really awesome memory at the same time.
9. Also, Go Ice Skating
GiphyOne of my fondest memories of time with my father is going ice skating. We actually would do it in the summer (because that is when I would visit him) and, every year, he would get me a new ice skating outfit. Even now, when I watch someone ice skate (even in movies; like in the classic movie Garden State), I will have warm fuzzies.
Anyway, if you’ve never been before, go. If it’s been forever since you have, also go. There is something that is very sweet and so signature Christmas about it. Plus, it’s a top-tier form of exercise.
10. Take a Christmas Lights Tour
GiphyAnother one of my favorite Christmas memories is driving through neighborhoods and looking at the Christmas lights. And just like a Christmas concert can be a form of hometown touring, so can doing this if you decide to choose a couple of areas where you’ve never really been or rarely frequent.
Now are you excited about the thought of experiencing a holiday-themed staycation?
I thought you would be. ENJOY!
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