It’s March, and the celebrity baby announcements are already pouring in. Whether they’re in music or sports, some of our faves have shared their exciting news in beautiful ways that are touching and full of love. Some are simply adding a new baby to their already big family while others are having their first child, with one celeb having twins.
Celeb Pregnancy Announcements of 2024
Below is a list of celebrity pregnancy announcements in 2024, so read on and join us as we anticipate the arrival of the little ones. This list will be updated as new pregnancy announcements drop throughout the year.
Celebrities Who Announced Their Pregnancies in 2024 So Far
Ayesha Curry and Steph Curry
Congrats are in order for Ayesha Curry and Steph Curry who have another addition joining their family. The restauranteur and cookbook author showcased her baby bump on the cover of her magazine, Sweet July, for The Village Issue. This will be the Curry’s 4th child.
Gabourey Sidibe and Brandon Frankel
Gabourey Sidibe is having twins! The Empire actress revealed the surprising news on Instagram with a photo of her alongside her husband, Brandon Frankel. “I’m pregnant! We thought it was time to give our cats some responsibility so we’re giving them each a baby to take care of! Double the babies,double the cats, double the fun!! Twin Delivery coming soon! Twinty Twinty Four!!,” she wrote.
Bria Anderson and Tim Anderson
Wife of MLB free agent Tim Anderson and founder of Millennial Mom, Bria Anderson, is now pregnant with her third child. While she hasn’t made an official announcement, she posted a compilation video on her Instagram, which showed her and friends cradling her baby bump.
Martica "Fat" Nwigwe and Tobe Nwigwe
Married singing collaborators Martica aka "Fat " and Tobe Nwigwe are expanding their family once again. Tobe shared a photo on his Instagram revealing that his wife was pregnant with their fifth child. "happy pregnantines day. round 5. #thefinale," he wrote.
Kali Uchis and Don Toliver
Musical couple Kali Uchis and Don Toliver revealed in January that they were welcoming their first child together. The R&B singers made the shared announcement on their perspective Instagram pages with a heartwarming video showing Kali's baby bump, their pregnancy journey as well as clips of them when they were both kids. The caption read, “Starting our family❤️🩹 don’t take too long to get here little pooks, mom & dad can’t wait to share our life with you.”
Deiondra Sanders and Jacquees
Deiondra Sanders took to Instagram in early March to announce her pregnancy with a transparent caption around some controversy surrounding her relationship with R&B crooner Jacquees. In her caption, she assured spectators that her pregnancy wasn't planned but it is a "divine blessing." "I’m not having my baby to keep a man. I am having my baby for all the times I was told I wouldn’t be able to," she wrote.
"I’m having my baby for the 4 myomectomy surgeries I have had. I am having my baby for all the years I stayed on birth control even though it gave me breast tumors. I’m having my baby for all the Doctors that told me I wouldn’t make it out the first trimester. I’m having a baby for the 7 current fibroids that surrounds my uterus to this day."
Deiondra is the daughter of retired NFL player turned football coach Deion Sanders who publicly showed his support for her and her decision.
Draya Michele and Jalen Green
Draya Michele announced her pregnancy on International Women's Day accompanied by a series of maternity photos on Instagram. She has been romantically linked to NBA star Jalen Green, who at 22, is nearly two decades her junior, a fact that sparked some backlash shortly after her announcement. The couple are expecting a girl. "We are overjoyed to share our love for you, little girl. I’m am excited to speak words to the daughter I never thought I’d have," her caption read.
"We are anxious about your arrival, but take your time — this world can be tough. But know you are being brought into a space of love, security, and adornment."
Vanessa Hudgens and Cole Tucker
@therealmarcmalkin Mama-to-be @Vanessa Hudgens and @JulesHough at the #Oscars #redcarpet #justforvariety
Newly married Vanessa Hudgens and Cole Tucker have a lot to celebrate, including expanding their family in 2024. Vanessa announced her first pregnancy at the 96th Academy Awards. The High School Musical alum revealed the sweet news while donning a form-fitting black long-sleeved gown as she walked the red carpet and later rocked a more revealing look in a sheer black number that showcased her very prominent baby bump. This will be the couple's first child together.
Kash Doll and Tracy T
Rapper Kash Doll announced that she is expecting baby number two with her boyfriend Tracy T. The BMF actress shared the news on Instagram on her birthday. "It’s my birthday and God bless me with another one!!! This birthday is special bc I’m sharing it with my last child 🥹so no drinks, no snatch waist, no outside but listen y’all I’m so grateful and blessed to b in the position I’m in i wouldn’t trade my hand with no oneee!! ❤️🤰🏾," she wrote.
Joie Chavis and Trevon Diggs
Joie Chavis is having a baby with Dallas Cowboys cornerback Trevon Diggs. The choreographer made the surprising reveal on Instagram in a video showcasing her baby bump. She and the NFL star reportedly have been dating since 2022, and this will be his fourth child and Joie's third. Joie shares 12-year-old daughter Shai with Bow Wow and 5-year-old son Hendrix with Future.
Brittney Griner and Cherelle T. Griner
Phoenix Mercury player Brittney Griner and her wife attorney Cherelle T. Griner are expanding their family. The proud parents-to-be announced their pregnancy news on Instagram with an ultrasound of their bundle of joy who will be arriving earth side this July. "Can't believe we're less than three months away from meeting our favorite human being," their caption read.
Candiace Dillard Bassett and Chris Bassett
Following her decision to "take a break" from The Real Housewives of Potomac, 37-year-old Candiace Dillard Bassett has some exciting baby news! The singer announced she is pregnant with her first child with Chris Bassett, 46. Candiace and Chris' journey to conceive was explored in some of her later seasons of the Bravo franchise with the couple ultimately deciding to do IVF. "It's been weird, but also really wonderful, I think, to keep it kind of to ourselves to this point. ... It's just been, like, kind of quietly just growing a bun," Candiace shared with Entertainment Tonight of her pregnancy.
Ashanti and Nelly
After months of pregnancy rumors, Ashanti finally confirmed that she is having her first child with Nelly and not only that, they are engaged. The "Baby" singer made the cute reveal in an Instagram video that also featured her mom and manager, Tina Douglas. In the video, Ashanti is seen getting ready backstage for a concert. Her mom asks the Grammy artist, "How much time you need?" To which Ashanti responded, "Imma need about nine months."
Ashanti talked about this new chapter in her life to ESSENCE. “This new year of my life is such a blessing full of love, hope, and anticipation,” she said. “Motherhood is something that I have looked forward to, and sharing this with my family, fiancé, and loyal fans, who have been so supportive of my career, is an amazing experience.”
Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins and Darroll Jenkins
Actress Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins announced her pregnancy in April. The Dear White People alum took to Instagram to share the exciting news that she and her husband Darroll Jenkins had achieved IVF success and are welcoming their bundle of joy soon. In an exclusive with ESSENCE, the podcast host detailed her 'daunting' IVF journey that followed a diagnosis of unexplained infertility. "I had to go through so many things that felt unnatural, whether it was medications, brain scans, a myomectomy, or countless doctor's appointments," she recounted to the publication.
She continued, "I've been through so much it pertains to my reproductive system. I'm incredibly grateful. I feel proud of my body."
Eboni K. Williams
Eboni K. Williams is pregnant with her first child. The lawyer and TV personality shared the news on Instagram writing. "Thank you God…Abundantly blessed and so excited to welcome my daughter to this world 🙏🏾💕 HE will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4."
She also gave a statement to PEOPLE detailing her journey with IVF. "Anybody who's gone through IVF or attempted IVF will tell you so many things have to go right for the final result of this journey to be a baby," she said. "That's why I've called this 'my remarkable miracle,' because it really does feel like I've been the recipient of some very enormous favor from God above."
Trina McGee
Trina McGee made the surprising announcement that she is pregnant at 54 years old. The Boy Meets World actress wrote in an Instagram post, "At the tender age of 54 I have found myself pregnant. Please bless us with your prayers for a safe delivery. Thank you." This will be Trina's fourth child.
Shaniece Hairston
Shaniece Hairston may be known as reality TV star Evelyn Lozada's daughter, but now she will be known as mom to her unborn child. The yoga instructor made the announcement on Father's Day with a photo of herself cradling her baby bump. "Another trip around the sun and in my purest birthday suit yet 🥹🤍 Oh and Happy Fathers Day baby daddy 😜," she wrote. She hasn't revealed who the father is.
Wiz Khalifa and Aimee Aguilar
Wiz Khalifa revealed that he and his partner Aimee Aguilar are expecting a baby girl. The rapper shared a post of the couple on Instagram and captioned it "Baby Girl On The Way." Wiz already shares on child with ex-wife Amber Rose.
Ella Mai and Jayson Tatum
While they haven't made an official announcement, it looks like "Boo'd Up" singer Ella Mai and Boston Celtics star Jayson Tatum are expecting. Ella was spotted celebrating her man's win last night, rocking a Celtics jersey that seemingly accentuated her baby bump.
Raven Goodwin
Raven Goodwin recently announced that she is expecting her second child with her husband, Wiley Battle. The Being Mary Jane actress shared the news on her birthday. "32! Thank you God! Waiting for my gift to arrive! Baby #2 Happy Birthday to me!!!!!! Any day now. ♋️♋️," she wrote.
Nikki Mudarris
Nikki Mudarris, aka Miss Nikki Baby, is expecting her second child with professional basketball player LiAngelo Ball. She also made the announcement on her birthday and shared that she previously had a miscarriage. "One of the best birthday gifts I could have received 🤍🤰 Thank you God! I’m feeling overly blessed & grateful. After suffering a miscarriage to then later waking up to a positive pregnancy test. Here we are now… about to be a family of 4. Never lose faith because God always has the final say and bigger plans 🙏🏼🥹❤️
To my Baby: You are beyond loved and we cannot wait to meet you. Thank you for being my rainbow 🌈 after the storm ☔️ God knows we truly needed you.
P.S. You have the best Big Brother 🩵"
Kaliii
Kaliii is pregnant with her first child. The "Area Codes" rapper shared a video of herself dancing, and when she turned around, her baby bump was on full display. She captioned her video, "ouu he did his BIG ONE wit this one right here 🤰🏾💐 #BIGONEOTW #RICHMUTHA."
Lashana Lynch
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Lashana Lynch is expecting her first child with her husband, Zackary Momoh. The Matilda actress showcased her bump at the New York premiere of her television series The Day of the Jackal.
Skai Jackson
After much speculation, Skai Jackson confirmed that she is expecting. The former Disney actress debuted her bump to the world while walking around LA. The 22-year-old told PEOPLE, “I’m thrilled to begin this new chapter in my life — embracing motherhood and diving into new acting projects. My heart is so full!”
Flo Milli
Surprise! Flo Milli is pregnant. The rapper posted photos of herself posing in a white crop top with her baby bump on display. She also shared a video on Instagram dancing seductively with a man, who is presumed to be her child's father.
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On December 15, Mars enters Capricorn until the end of January 2026, and this is the extra push we need to make important changes and to be on the path towards greater abundance, stability, and prosperity. Mars in Capricorn takes care of business, and we have extra energy at our disposal during this time to do so. This transit is an ideal time to focus on your career or financial goals for next year and to start putting some of these plans into motion now. A few days later, we have the New Moon of the month, which will be in Sagittarius on December 19, and this is the perfect New Moon to manifest.
The energy is high, magic is in the air, and it’s all about moving forward with the new beginnings that are inspiring you and bringing you joy to think about right now.
Capricorn Season officially begins on December 21, and this earth sign energy is how we heal, gain closure, and build new foundations in our world. With Venus also moving into a Capricorn a few days later, there is something about peace, prosperity, and security that we are gaining in life and in love as we close out the year, and this is what we need right now. This month is about reflecting on what was, letting go of old hurt, and renewing. December is an ending and a new beginning in one, and there is magic in this space to be created.
Read for your sun and rising sign below to see what December 2025 has in store for you.
AriesKyra Jay for xoNecoleARIES
December is a full-circle moment for you, Aries. You are seeing the gifts in your world and have a lot of gratitude for the way things have come about for you as of late. There are culminations in your world that are providing you with more abundance, stability, and community, and you are exactly where you are meant to be this month. With the Sun in a fellow fire sign and in your 9th house of travel for most of the month, December is a good time to get out of your comfort zone, explore the world around you, and get your body moving.
Mars, your ruling planet, also makes a change and moves into Capricorn on December 15, which will fuel your inspiration and power in your career space. You are making a lot of professional progress as we close out the year; however, make sure to be more mindful of your competitive drive right now. The New Moon on December 19 is the perfect opportunity for you to create some new plans and goals when it comes to traveling, education, and where you want to gain some new inspiration in your world. Overall, this is a month of things coming together for you serendipitously.
TaurusKyra Jay for xoNecoleTAURUS
December is about trusting your intuition, Taurus. You have a lot on your mind this month, and it’s best to delegate, communicate, and allow yourself some relief by opening up to someone and not feeling like you have to hold everything in. As we begin the month, we have a Supermoon in Gemini happening in your house of income, and the plans and projects you have been building here come to fruition for you now. This is the time to gain clarity on your financial world and to take a look at what spending habits you want to let go of here as well.
With Venus in your 8th house of shared resources for most of the month, you are doing a cleanse on your commitments, partnerships, and business ventures. You are taking a look at what you want to dedicate yourself to in the future, and what commitments you may need to let go of now in order to be in the space you truly want to be, both financially and within some of your relationship dynamics. Before we end the month, we have a New Moon in this same area of your chart, and it’s time to look at the opportunities that are presenting themselves and to trust your internal guidance system to lead you forward.
GeminiKyra Jay for xoNecoleGEMINI
You are moving forward fearlessly this month, Gemini. December is your month of love, passion, and dignity, and you are owning the light that you shine. We begin the month with the last Supermoon of the year, happening in your sign, and you are stepping up to the plate. You are showing up, owning how much you have grown this year, and allowing yourself to heal while also acknowledging that you have done your best and you deserve to have fun in the midst of the changes you are creating.
Mercury, your ruling planet, is officially out of retrograde, and you can use this energy to the fullest potential now. With Mercury in your 7th house of love, it’s time to speak from the heart and to talk about the things that matter and that are inspiring you right now to your loved ones. You never know what kind of epiphanies you may have when you open up the conversation to others. Before the month ends, you have a New Moon in this same love area of your chart, and this New Moon is all about manifesting romance, commitment, and abundance in your world.
CancerKyra Jay for xoNecoleCANCER
December is an opening for more love, more joy, and more freedom in your life, Cancer. You have come to a place where you hold so much gratitude in your heart for where you are today and where your heart is shining, and things come together for you with more ease right now. With the Sun in your 6th house of health, work, and daily routines for most of the month, you are getting your ducks in a row while also putting more energy and effort into taking care of yourself, your priorities, and your well-being. This month surprises you in many ways, and it’s because you are showing up.
Mars and Venus both move into your house of love, relationships, marriage, and abundance this month, and you are making strides in your love life. You have both of these opposing forces on your side and are being recognized for the love you are while also receiving the love you want. This month, overall, is about focusing more on the positives in your world and letting your heart have its joy. Before December comes to an end, there is a New Moon in Sagittarius, and this is the perfect opportunity to create the plans you want to see through next year, especially when it comes to your work life, colleagues, business ventures, and health.
LeoKyra Jay for xoNecoleLEO
The scales of karma are balancing, and they are balancing in your favor this month, Leo. December is your month of truth, and of seeing it clearly in your world. The Sun is in your house of romance, pleasure, and happiness for most of the month, and it’s time to relax, be in the present moment, and allow what is meant to be, to be. With a Supermoon in your 11th house of manifestation as December begins, this is a powerful month for seeing your dreams come to fruition, and for feeling like the intentions you have set this year are finally here for you now.
Mars also moves into your 6th house mid-month, and this is the perfect energy to have to move into the new year. You have extra energy at your disposal right now and are feeling fearless with what is possible for you and your daily routine. Before the month ends, we also have a New Moon in a fellow fire sign, Sagittarius, and this is a breakthrough moment for you and your heart. December, overall, wants to show you how loved and supported you are and will be doing so in magical, unexpected, and concrete ways.
VirgoKyra Jay for xoNecoleVIRGO
December is a month of victory, Virgo. You are showing up and experiencing some new successes in your world that move you forward on your path in life. With a Supermoon in your 10th house of career as we begin the month, the effort and intentions you have made this year come into full bloom, and you are being recognized for who you are and the good work you have done. This month is all about showing up and allowing yourself to be seen and loved, knowing that you deserve the support and opportunities you are receiving.
Mars moves into Capricorn on December 15, which brings the passion and excitement into your love life, hobbies, and little pleasures in life that light you up. You want to have fun this month and are going to be walking into the new year with this fearless, happy, and spontaneous energy within you. Before the month ends, Venus also enters Capricorn, and in this same area of your chart, you have a lot to look forward to and believe in right now. Overall, December wants you to be happy and will be doing everything possible to make that happen for you. This is your month to shine, Virgo.
LibraKyra Jay for xoNecoleLIBRA
December is a month of opportunity for you, Libra. New doors open, and you are financially making breakthroughs this month because of it. December begins with a Supermoon in your 9th house, and you are getting a clearer view of where you have been making strides in your life and how it has all brought you here to this present moment of freedom. This month is showing you what happens when you are fearless with your purpose and when you believe in yourself and what you are worthy of.
Moving further into December, Mars moves into your 4th house of home and family mid-month, and you are closing out the year in your safe spaces. You are spending more time with your loved ones and taking the time to quiet your mind and listen to what your heart has been telling you. Before the month ends, we have a New Moon in Sagittarius, happening in an area of your life that deals with communication. This is a great time for getting the answers you have been looking for and for feeling more clear-headed and confident about the decisions you are making as you move into the new year.
ScorpioKyra Jay for xoNecoleSCORPIO
Patience is a virtue this month, Scorpio. December is all about remaining patient and vigilant with what you are creating in your world, and knowing that the universe has your back. It’s time to be reminded of the power of hope, and this month is an opening to greater clarity in your life. There is a lot of energy in your financial zones right now, and this is providing you with new opportunities and new insight; however, the speed at which things come about for you may feel daunting. Keep your head up and eyes focused on what you want and know that you are more than worthy of receiving it.
With Mercury in your 2nd house of income this month, December is a good time to plant new seeds and to think about where you want to be financially a month from now or even a year. This month is asking you to think bigger and to think more long-term so that you can set the appropriate plans into motion now. We also have a New Moon in your house of income before the month ends, and this is when you will see more of your dreams come to fruition in this area of your life, and have more opportunities to build. Overall, December will be teaching you a lot, Scorpio.
SagittariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleSAGITTARIUS
Sagittarius Season is here, and there is a lot in store for you this month, Sag. December is all about what you are dedicating yourself to. It’s about setting your intentions and putting the work in to back up your dreams, and about getting things in order so that when the new beginnings come, you are ready for them. The Sun and Venus are in your sign for most of this month, and there are a lot of eyes on you right now. You have the potential to create a new beginning for yourself, and it’s time to invest in yourself, your love life, and your dreams.
Mercury moves into Sagittarius on December 11, and this is giving you another opportunity to see through some of the plans that you had initiated in November. Mercury was retrograde in your sign last month, and there may have been some disruptions to your vision and plans for the future, and now this energy is turning around for you. Before the month ends, we also have a New Moon in Sagittarius, and you are walking through new doors fearlessly. You are catching others by surprise by your growth this month, and you are thinking a lot about your purpose, future, and plans for the new year.
CapricornKyra Jay for xoNecoleCAPRICORN
December is all about the vision, Capricorn. You are moving through a lot of changes and transformations this month, yet they are giving you a chance at a new beginning in the process. You are focused more on the future and what goals you want to manifest for yourself right now, and are ready to let go of what hasn’t been working for you. With the Sun in your 12th house of closure for most of December, this is your time for healing, but remember, healing doesn’t have to be isolating or boring; you can thrive while you renew, and you are this month.
Mid-month, the excitement picks up for you, and you are feeling more energized than you have in a while. Mars moves into Capricorn until the end of January 2026, and you are being proactive with your goals, intentions, and passions. You are a force to be reckoned with this month, and you are making things happen for yourself with confidence. Capricorn Season officially begins on December 21 this year, and this is definitely speeding up your healing process. You are breaking free from what was, and with Venus also moving into Capricorn before the month ends, you are leaving this year in high spirits and with love opening a new door for you.
AquariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleAQUARIUS
December is all about community, creativity, and manifestation, Aquarius. This is the month to work together with others to help bring your dreams to life. You are in a space of inspiration, empowerment, and beauty, and are creating more of this energy around you and in your world. Look out for what support comes your way this month and know that you don’t have to do everything alone to succeed. With the Sun in your 11th house of manifestation and friendship, your intentions are coming to fruition, and it’s time to celebrate with the people you love and to own how far you have come this year.
On December 19, we have a New Moon in Sagittarius, lighting up your life in all of the best ways possible. This is your New Moon of freedom, victory, and magic, and you are seeing new beginnings appear that you were once just hoping for. Before the month comes to an end, Venus moves into your 12th house of closure, and after an active and successful month, you are ready to relax, heal, and give your heart some of the attention it has been asking for. You are moving into the new year with the need to release and renew what hasn’t been working in your relationships, and you are finally ready to.
PiscesKyra Jay for xoNecolePISCES
December is a big month for you, Pisces. You are making some huge accomplishments this month, and are feeling like everything you have been through this year has been worth it for these moments that are coming to fruition for you now. The Sun is in your 10th house of career and reputation for most of the month, and this is where a lot of your focus is right now. You are claiming your successes and putting yourself out there in ways that not only serve you, but that inspire others as well.
Neptune officially goes direct on December 10, after being retrograde in your sign since July, and you are finally seeing things a little more clearly. You are feeling renewed inspiration and passion in your life, and your intuition is your strongest asset right now. Before December comes to an end, we also have a New Moon in your 10th house of career, and what happens now not only changes things for you in the present, but it also opens new doors and what is possible for you in the new year as well. Overall, you are on top of your game this month and are owning the joy and empowerment you feel.
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Oh, but there are plenty of people whose egos have them thinking that they can read someone else’s mind. Then there are others who have fantasies, which create unrealistic expectations that others in their lives actually should read their mind. And you know what — both of these things can cause unnecessary stress, drama, and trauma, if folks aren’t careful.
And that’s why I think it’s important that we unpack this a bit more. Because if you’re someone who thinks that if another person truly cares for you, they should be able to read your mind, it’s time to let that ridiculous yet semi-popular notion absolutely and completely go.
Here’s why.
It’s Scientifically Impossible for Someone to Read Your Mind
There are a couple of reasons why I am starting this off with R&B singer Avant. For one thing, I don’t think that he gets nearly enough flowers and secondly, clearly, this is a more-than-fitting song for today’s topic, wouldn’t you say? Because, lawd, there really is something that makes some of us feel all warm ‘n fuzzy about the mere thought of a man telling us that he is so in tuned with us that he can basically read our mind.
Hmph. Problem with that is, as I said in the intro, it is scientifically impossible (for us and for AI to do, praise the Lord!). And yet the fact that so many individuals think that they defy scientific data and research is oftentimes why there are so many breakdowns in communication — because if you run on assumption (that you can read someone’s mind) without clarification and confirmation, you can create issues that didn’t exist before you decided to fall for your own mind-reading theories.
Now to be fair, while science is still trying to figure out why we can’t read minds, what is sure is that we do have the capability to perceive the thoughts and actions of others if we’re willing to pay really close attention. However, do keep in mind that reading and perceiving are different. Reading? It’s about being able "to apprehend or interpret the meaning of" and "to anticipate, expect, or calculate by observation." Perceiving? It’s all about “to become aware of, know, or identify by means of the senses” and “to recognize, discern, envision, or understand.”
And already, do you see the differences? So much certainty comes with reading while perceiving is about humbling oneself (bookmark that) to not try to know everything but instead to try and understand what is transpiring. And since no one person (or their mind) is ever truly static, that is a huge part of the reason why believing that you can read someone’s mind — no matter how close you may be to them — is futile. You can change your mind on a dime. Others can do the same. Learning to perceive what is going on instead of assuming that you can “read” folks is far more beneficial.
Besides, you might be surprised by a particular demo who thinks that if you are truly who they need you to be, you will read their minds — and boy, once you know who they are, that may cure you of the whole “read your mind” ish…quick, fast and in a hurry.
The Expectation Is Oftentimes Rooted in Egomania
GiphyWhile doing a bit of research on this topic, I thought it was interesting that a particular type of person kept coming up. Can you guess which one? A NARCISSIST. What I kept noticing is a telling sign of a narcissistic individual is they expect others to read their mind.
I must admit that I was caught off guard by that at first because narcissists and their damn egos are so out of control (bookmark that) that it would seem like they would be more focused on acting like they know the thoughts of other people. Here’s the thing, though — the reason why narcissists want others to read their mind is because they want you to do things like guess what they want and need before they ask — and they want that to happen because they believe that they are so damn special that you should put in the extra blood, sweat and tears to figure it all out. Hmph. Now that tracks.
Another reason why narcissists want you to be able to read their mind is so they can manipulate and deflect. Meaning, if you say and do things based on what you thought they wanted you to, should everything crash and burn, they can dodge accountability and blame you for it. Hmm, does reading someone’s mind seem romantic and beautiful now? SMDH.
And again, all of this is tied to ego because, at the end of the day, mind-reading is a form of control and narcissists are definitely very controlling people. And honestly, mind-reading is as well because why do you even want to know someone’s private thoughts before they share them and, at the same time, why would you want someone to have that kind of power in your life either? “Eww” is what immediately comes to my mind. “Yuck” is what follows.
So, why is it that so many people think that it’s a good thing to have someone read their mind — I mean, the ones who don’t show narcissistic tendencies, that is? Good question.
5 Reasons Why Some People Wish Someone Would/Could Read Their Mind
GiphyOkay, so ego and pridefulness aside, what would be some other reasons why people think that it’s such a wonderful thing if someone who they are in some sort of intimate relationship with can read their mind.
1. They are caught up in Disney and rom-coms. One day, I am going to do an article on all of the ways that Disney and rom-coms have destroyed the reality of relationships. For now, I’ll just say that the scripted tales of both have caused a lot of people to think that if someone loves them, they should be able to read their mind. Nooo…if someone loves you, they should care to know what is on your mind. And that brings me to the second point.
2. They aren’t as good at communicating as they think. Are you a good communicator? One way to know if you are is you’re able to clearly articulate your wants and needs — because really, if you are able to do that, why should anyone even need to read your mind? Feel me? Let’s move on.
3. They want someone else to work harder at their relationships than they do. I say it in my sessions often — it’s beyond crazy to think that someone should work harder at figuring out what your wants, needs and expectations are than you are willing to express them. Hmph. It makes me think of a friend of mine who says that “should” is a dangerous word. What she means by that is saying that someone should do or not do something simply because YOU THINK that’s how it “should” go is a surefire way to stay disappointed and even be disillusioned. No, your man shouldn’t just know what you want every year for your birthday. Did you state it? If not, why aren’t you playing fair? Who has time for all of the guessing games and then getting penalized if they guess wrong? Stop it.
4. They think it’s the sign of a healthy relationship (it isn’t). Anyone who knows me knows that I am always and forever going to be Team Healthy over Team Happy and my reason why never changes. Only children expect to live in a world where they are happy all of the time — and yes, there are a lot of childish people out here. People who want their mind read? They tend to live in happy land. Meanwhile, a healthy relationship knows that clear communication, mutual respect, keen listening, patience and understanding that humans make mistakes are foundational to its success.
5. They are lazy. And yes y’all, some people want others to read their mind because they are lazy and it really is just as simple as that. Thing is, while they are being passive aggressive, dropping hints or giving the silent treatment so that you can figure out whatever it is that they…want you to figure out, that tends to take more effort than simply speaking up. Ridiculous, chile.
How to Let the Myth Go
GiphyGee, after reading all of this, suddenly reading minds just seems like a lot of silliness with a sprinkle of drama and potential trauma, doesn’t it? And it’s all because some people choose to treat something that is a myth like it’s a bona fide fact. SMDH.
And what if you happen to be one of those individuals? How do you break free? COMMUNICATE. Openly, clearly and maturely share what’s on your mind and heart because, the true tell of a solid relationship isn’t that someone can read your mind; it’s that they can retain what you’ve already stated.
Less reading. More perceiving. That’s the secret sauce.
And when you accept this for what it is, you will realize that it’s far better for you, your partner and your relationship to stop expecting the impossible and to accept what is actual: that learning your partner, as they strive to do the same thing with you, is better than you both assuming that you know what…maybe you do, maybe you don’t.
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Author Frank Sonnenberg once said, “People can’t hear what you don’t say. Thinking isn’t communicating” — and I think this is a perfect place to bring all of this to a close.
Find the kind of relationship(s) where intention is so strong that mind-reading isn’t even desired.
At the end of the day, it really is as simple as that.
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