Fat Nwigwe Says ‘Family Order’ Is How She Is Able To Balance Being A Mother And Wife
The Nwigwes are legendary within their own right and we stan everything about them. Everything.
If you're unfamiliar, Tobe Nwigwe is a Nigerian-American rapper and singer known for his mint minimalism, in collaboration with his wife, Fat. They've built a cult following for years but the two gained popularity last year with songs such as, “Try Jesus" and “I Need You To (Breonna Taylor)".
The duo brings family dynamic to the forefront in all that they do, often incorporating, and feeding off of, each other in their artistry. The entertainment industry has certainly come knocking on their doors, as they have built a powerful brand, their way—and only, their way.
Recently, the two sat down for an episode of OWN's They Call Me Dad where each of them opened up about the importance of men being a present in a child's life. It was here where Fat profoundly described their family, and how she is able to balance being a mother and wife despite their booming careers.
“I never questioned if [Tobe] was going to be a good father because he was a good man. Tobe loves on his children hard. He loves them and he plays with them often but most of all, he believes that he is the one that has to lead his children."
And by lead, she means being the leader of their household. She continues:
“The way our family is set up is God, Tobe, me, and kids. And so, when situations arise, he leads. I support him, I tell him what I think, and we go. I am able to know what I need to do as a woman and as a mother and as a wife, because we have that order. And so that order allows us to have peace, happiness, joy, so I can fully support him, he can fully support me because we know who we are individually in this relationship and as parents."
Tobe goes on to say Fat loved him even when he was broke and all he had was a vision. “And she love me, despite me.”
Whew.
Well, the conversation of 'family order' dates back to the end of time, where many believe in today's society, the lines are blurred. Should kids come before everyone? Or should families align in biblical context: God, man, woman, and child?
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Regardless of what you believe, no one can deny that the Nwigwes have put in the time, and work, to establish their foundation—from family to music. And whether you believe in their order or not, at the end of the day that's what it's all about.
Do you believe in having a family order?
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Devale Ellis On Being A Provider, Marriage Growth & Redefining Fatherhood
In this candid episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Devale Ellis, actor, social media personality, and star of Zatima, about modern masculinity, learning to be a better husband, emotional presence in marriage, fatherhood for Black men, and leading by example.
“I Wasn’t Present Emotionally”: Devale Ellis on Marriage Growth
Devale Ellis On Learning He Was a ‘Bad Husband’
Ellis grew up believing that a man should prioritize providing for his family. “I know this may come off as misogynistic, but I feel like it’s my responsibility as a man to pay for everything,” he said, emphasizing the wise guidance passed down by his father. However, five years into his marriage to long-time partner Khadeen Ellis, he realized provision wasn’t just financial.
“I was a bad husband because I wasn’t present emotionally… I wasn’t concerned about what she needed outside of the resources.”
Once he shifted his mindset, his marriage improved. “In me trying to be of service to her, I learned that me being of service created a woman who is now willing to be of service to me.”
On Redefining Masculinity and Fatherhood
For Ellis, “being a man is about being consistent.” As a father of four, he sees parenthood as a chance to reshape the future.
“Children give you another chance at life. I have four different opportunities right now to do my life all over again.”
He also works to uplift young Black men, reinforcing their worth in a world that often undermines them. His values extend to his career—Ellis refuses to play roles that involve domestic violence or sexual assault.
On Marriage, Family Planning, and Writing His Story
After his wife’s postpartum preeclampsia, Ellis chose a vasectomy over her taking hormonal birth control, further proving his commitment to their partnership. He and Khadeen share their journey in We Over Me, and his next book, Raising Kings: How Fatherhood Saved Me From Myself, is on the way.
Through honesty and growth, Devale Ellis challenges traditional ideas of masculinity, making his story one that resonates deeply with millennial women.
For the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker peels back the layers of masculinity with candid conversations that challenge stereotypes and celebrate vulnerability. Real men. Real stories. Real talk.
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Tisha Campbell Shares Why She Got A Mommy Makeover & And We’re Here For The Transparency
Tisha Campbell is still here. Here. Here. Here. (If you know, you know.) The 56-year-old actress and singer is living her life loudly and without apology, all while keeping it real about the work she's had done.
While gracing the 2025 BET Awards red carpet last week, the My Wife & Kids alum let it be known that she has nothing to hide as she revealed to Entertainment Tonight that she recently had a mommy makeover. "I had extra skin from the baby and a little bit of droppage here and a little bit of droppage there," she shared with the outlet as an exclusive. "They tighten me together."
The mother of two shared that changing her body wasn't about anyone else; it was first and foremost about pleasing herself. "I'm a single mom, not ready for dating," she added. "But I just wanted to feel good for me."
Why Tisha Campbell Chose to Share About Her Plastic Surgery
Tisha isn't new to keeping it a buck and has always been transparent about subjects that others might shy away from, whether it's about her decision to walk away from the show that put her on the map as an actor or her decision to walk away from a 22-year marriage to ex-husband Duane Martin. Cosmetic surgery is simply another topic for the Tisha to be open about.
Even in a post-BBL era, cosmetic procedures are something that is still taboo to talk about, especially among women in Hollywood who have spent decades in the public eye, like Tisha. The self-proclaimed "open book" shared her why behind disclosing her surgery:
"I just think it's more important for people to know why one does it. If you wanna feel good about you. And I just wanted to be honest about it," she told ET. "I think it's more important, to be honest, to know that you know I didn't all this by myself. It's nice to be a little bit more snatched around that area."
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So, What Is a Mommy Makeover?
For those who are unfamiliar, a "mommy makeover" refers to a combination of cosmetic procedures and can differ for every woman depending on her personal goals. While the overarching intention of a mommy makeover is often to "restore" their bodies to their "pre-baby" status, the procedures are customizable and ultimately based on what feels good to her personally.
This might look like a tummy tuck or liposuction, a breast lift, reduction, or augmentation, a labiaplasty, or any other nips and tucks that support how they feel in their bodies after giving birth.
What stood out in Tisha's clip wasn't just her transparency in action, but also the intention behind her decision to have surgery. She waited until her sons Xen, 23, and Ezekiel,15, were older to have her procedure and made it clear that she centered herself in her choice. In her new season life, this is how she is honoring herself.
"For me. It's not for everybody, it's for me."
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