Rihanna Says She’s Having A Baby By 40 With Or Without A Man & I Felt That In My Spirit
I recently took a look around my circle and realized that I'm the only one who isn't a mom. As I approach my 27th birthday, this is a sobering thought.
As I straddle this hump that is a quarter-life crisis, I realize that while my biological clock is still ticking, I no longer have the time or the energy to pour into sh*t that doesn't serve me and this is true when it comes to every area of my life––professional opportunities, friendships, and most especially, romantic relationships, and in her recent exclusive with British Vogue, our favorite bad girl revealed that after her most recent birthday, she has that same energy.
The singer, who ended her long-term relationship with her ex-Saudi billionaire bae, Hasaan Jameel, earlier this year explained that as she settles into her 30s, she has a higher vision for her future and a much lower tolerance for bullsh*t. She told the publication:
"Since I turned 32, I'm realizing life is really short. You don't have a lot of time to tolerate shit, you know? You put so much on your plate. When you're overwhelmed, you need to start cutting things out. And I'm overwhelmed too much. What's happening now is that I'm going back to black and white. My grey area is shutting down."
In lieu of her very lucrative business dealings, aggressive philanthropic work, and upcoming studio album, Rihanna has now decided to put her dating life on hold and shift her attention to securing a bag. While this workaholic says that non-stop late nights and early mornings can become taxing, her hustle is inspired by this very important reason:
"I'm working like this now so that I don't have to in the future. I know I will want to live differently."
Thanks to technology, women are finally able to take the wheel when it comes to our biological clocks and Rihanna says that she's willing to take that ride alone if she has to. When the multihyphenate hustler was asked where she sees herself in 10 years, she revealed that she'll be well on her journey into motherhood, with or without a man and honestly, same sis.
"Ten years? I'll be 42! I'll be ancient. I'll have kids—three or four of 'em."
While others may not be in agreement with Rihanna's potential path to motherhood, she says that it's a choice that she's made with confidence.
"Hell, yeah. I feel like society makes me want to feel like, 'Oh, you got it wrong…' They diminish you as a mother if there's not a dad in your kids' lives. But the only thing that matters is happiness, that's the only healthy relationship between a parent and a child. That's the only thing that can raise a child truly, is love."
To read Rihanna's full interview, click here!
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Taylor "Pretty" Honore is a spiritually centered and equally provocative rapper from Baton Rouge, Louisiana with a love for people and storytelling. You can probably find me planting herbs in your local community garden, blasting "Back That Thang Up" from my mini speaker. Let's get to know each other: @prettyhonore.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
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Rihanna Talks Shedding Expectations And Finding Balance As A Mother
Since becoming a mother in 2022, Rihanna has defined parenthood by her terms and hopes to pass that sense of autonomy on to her children.
For Vogue China’s April cover story, Rihanna shared her perspective on raising her two sons with A$AP Rocky, and how she hopes to preserve her children’s uniqueness, devoid of societal expectations.
"The most beautiful thing...is that [children] come into the world with their own individuality and sincerity, without any logic or conformity,” she told the publication. “Which usually makes you feel that you must fit into a certain group."
The “Work” artist, known for her trendsetting style and captivating persona, expressed her desire to support children in fully embracing their individuality and encouraging them to be whoever they want to be. "It's really beautiful to see and I want to continue to help them navigate that and make sure that they know they can be whoever they want to be,” she says.
She continues, “They should embrace it completely, because it's beautiful, and it's unique. I love them just that way."
From shattering music charts to shaking up the beauty industry, Rihanna has forged a path that has since created the “dream” life we see today. One that she says has made her parents proud of.
“I’m living my dream,” she continued. “My parents were very proud of that because they just wanted me to be happy and successful. So, I think the key thing is to find some kind of balance. Yes, balance is important. Do this and you get the best of both worlds. You can write your own life the way you want, and it will be beautiful. Sometimes, you just need to let go of everyone’s expectations and start living your own story.”
Rihanna, who shares sons, RZA, 23 months, and Riot, 8 months, with rapper A$AP Rocky, recently shared her vision for expanding her family in the future in Interview Magazine.
When stylist Mel Ottenberg asked about the number of additional children she hoped to have, Rihanna replied, "As many as God wants me to have.”
"I don't know what God wants, but I would go for more than two. I would try for my girl,” she adds. “But of course, if it's another boy, it's another boy."
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