

If you’re a fan like me, you’ve been down with Rihanna since she was wearing a traditional sew-in (when lacefronts could never), rockin’ cropped hoodies with boyfriend jeans, and asking Mr. DJ to “turn the music up.” Much of her music is part of the soundtrack of my life, from “Umbrella” and “Live Your Life” (both representing the moment that sparked my 5-days-a-week-in-the-club years), to "Take A Bow" (the breakup song I had on repeat for two years straight after my first real grown-ass-woman breakup), to "Man Down" (my F-you song for the abusive boyfriend I stayed with one minute too long that year).
Rihanna has a catalog going back almost two decades, has won multiple Grammys, Billboard Music Awards, and BET award honors, and has experienced the glow-up of three lifetimes in expanding her reach beyond music into fashion and beauty, to the tune of $1.4 billion.
In anticipation of her Super Bowl LVII performance—and as we all reminisce on why Rihanna is the queen of reinvention and authenticity—let’s take a look at a brief snapshot of her career’s most bossed-up and bankable moments:
2005-2016: Music Career
As a teen, Rihanna earned the chance of a lifetime after she went solo (she was in a group, y’all) and was signed by Jay-Z to a multi-album deal with Def Jam when he was president. Her first album, Music of the Sun, was certified gold just a year later and she’d go on to record more albums with Def Jam before her official departure to join Roc Nation in 2014.
In total, she has sold more than 60 million albums worldwide, along with 215 million digital tracks as a music artist.
She has also earned millions on tours, with few notable ones being 2010’s Last Girl On Earth Tour (which promoted her fourth studio album "Rated R”) grossing $40 million, the Loud Tour in 2011, where she reportedly earned an estimated $90 million, and the Diamonds World Tour in 2013, which grossed more than $140 million in sales worldwide and sold out 84 out of the 87 stops on the tour.
2009: Fragrance Launches
She was one of the forerunners in the celebrity fragrance line craze of the early 2000s when she signed a licensing deal with Parlux Fragrances Inc. to get paid in royalties, profit-sharing and Parlux stocks instead of cash. It turned out to be a smart move because by the time her fragrance Reb’l Fleur was launched in 2011, it was projected to rake in $80 million. Two other perfumes, Rebelle and Nude, were launched in 2012, and Rogue, was released the next year. Several of them are still on the market today, proving she had that winning touch in the beauty industry even back then.
2011-2017: Big Steps Into Fashion
In one of her first major breaks in the industry, Rihanna teamed up with Emporio Armani Underwear and Armani Jeans to create a capsule collection and was the face of fall 2011 ad campaigns for the lines. In 2013, she signed a deal with British fashion retailer River Island, debuting at London Fashion Week.
In 2014, Puma tapped her to serve as creative director, brand ambassador, and campaign star. She also released her first shoe, the Puma Creeper, which reportedly sold out in three hours.
Reports at the time indicated that her work with the brand helped boost its sales 17.1 percent, with its 2015 earnings hitting almost $975 million.
She went on to design four ready-to-wear collections for the brand, including Fenty Puma by Rihanna, making its debut at New York Fashion Week for fall 2016, and, for her second and third collections, she took on Paris Fashion Week. Her last collection with the brand was launched in New York for spring 2018.
2017: Fenty Beauty Is Born
Fenty Beauty was launched in 1600 stores in 17 countries, and the brand’s products reportedly sold out “almost immediately” both online and in Sephora stores. “Makeup is there for you to have fun with. It should never feel like pressure,” she says via parent company LVMH’s website. “It should never feel like a uniform. Feel free to take chances, and take risks, and dare to do something new or different.”
Rihanna has a 50% stake in the brand (valued at $1.4 billion), which earned her billionaire status on the Forbes list. She also became the youngest self-made billionaire with the success of the brand, her earnings from music and performances, and other investments.
The brand, which includes makeup, skincare, and fragrances, is loved for its inclusivity and embracing of all lovers of cosmetics, was named one of Time magazine’s “Best Inventions of 2017,” and generated $550 million by the end of the first year of operation.
2018: Savage x Fenty
In 2018, Rihanna introduced her line of lingerie to the world with an immersive experience during New York Fashion Week. Continuing the message of inclusivity, power, and fluidity, the show and line became a viral sensation on social and in the media. Her stake in this brand is now worth an estimated $270 million.
2022: Retail Stores & Going Public
After the brand saw major success with online sales, the first brick-and-mortar Savage x Fenty location was opened in Las Vegas in January 2022. This year, the company has reportedly raised $125 million in a recent funding round. There are reports that the company is edging toward going public, which could bring the company’s value to at least $3 billion.
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'Sistas' Star Skyh Black On The Power Of Hypnotherapy & Emotional Vulnerability For Men
In this insightful episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Sistas star Skyh Black, as he opened up about his journey of emotional growth, resilience, and self-discovery. The episode touches on emotional availability, self-worth, masculinity, and the importance of therapy in overcoming personal struggles.
Skyh Black on Emotional Availability & Love
On Emotional Availability & Vulnerability
“My wife and I wouldn't be where we are today if both of us weren't emotionally available,” he shared about his wife and Sistas co-star KJ Smith, highlighting the value of vulnerability and emotional openness in a relationship. His approach to masculinity stands in contrast to the traditional, stoic ideals. Skyh is not afraid to embrace softness as part of his emotional expression.
On Overcoming Self-Doubt & Worthiness Issues
Skyh reflected on the self-doubt and worthiness issues that he struggled with, especially early in his career. He opens up about his time in Los Angeles, living what he calls the “LA struggle story”—in a one-bedroom with three roommates—and being homeless three times over the span of 16 years. “I always had this self-sabotaging thought process,” Skyh said. “For me, I feel therapy is essential, period. I have a regular therapist and I go to a hypnotherapist.”
How Therapy Helped Him Heal From Self-Doubt
On Hypnotherapy & Empowering Self-Acceptance
Skyh’s journey is a testament to the power of tapping into self-development despite life’s struggles and being open to growth. “I had to submit to the fact that God was doing good in my life, and that I'm worthy of it. I had a worthiness issue and I did not realize that. So, that’s what the hypnotherapy did. It brought me back to the core. What is wrong so that I can fix it?”
Watch the full podcast episode below:
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Women Are (Still) Spelling 'Coconut' With Their Hips. And Guys Are Losing Their Damn Minds.
While prepping for a podcast interview a while back, because I received the questions beforehand, I did a bit of research into one of the inquiries: what are men’s current favorite sex positions? I doubt any of you are shocked by the fact that what continued to pop up (like here, here, and here) was doggy style and the cowgirl position (i.e., when a woman is on top).
When it comes to ridin’, specifically, that got me to thinking about something that was all over the internet a few years ago: women who were advising that you spell “coconut” with your hips, during sex, in order for you and your partner to receive maximum pleasure and satisfaction.
When I asked a few women I know if they ever tried that before, I was surprised to discover that not only had they, but many didn’t treat it as some random social media fad — they actually still do it to this day. Partly, because it’s fun to them and partly because their partner(s) seem to go crazy for it.
Listen, any time something sexual works like a charm, I’m going to shout it out — (late) trend or not. And so, if you’ve never heard of the whole coconut thing, you tried it and forgot all about it, or you just want to try something new/different/else tonight — here’s a reminder, in article form, that coconut-ting is still alive and well, y’all. And the men are all about it!
But First, The Grapefruit Technique
Video Credit: Myem/YouTube (Funny part starts at 2:40)
If this woman is not familiar to you on sight, you ain’t a real one. LOL. Although I know that a lot of people think that the concept of grapefruiting came from the movie Girls Trip (you can see the clip from the film here) that absolutely is not the case. Auntie Angel (whose real name is reportedly Denise Walker) is the creator of the Grapefruit Technique and although I thought that this video came out way earlier, apparently it made its way onto the YouTube streets sometime back in 2014.
If for some reason, you’re not familiar with grapefruiting on any level, I will tell you right now that I had to download this video because it is absolutely NSFW — so you should probably watch it on your lunch break (on your phone with the volume as low as possible) or at home…because chile, the sound effects? Whew, the sound effects. LOL. However, when I sat down to pen this piece, I thought it was hilarious that this video is what immediately came to mind because it seems like, when it comes to “blow his mind sex hacks,” fruit is constantly on the menu.
When it comes to oral sex, it’s grapefruit.
When it comes to ride ‘em cowgirl, it’s a coconut.
What Is the “Coconut” Sex Trend?
@windy_moraba #duet with @mysteri0us.gir1 spell coconut with your waist 😂😂😂
Okay, so what in the world does a coconut have to do with intercourse? Well, for starters, if you and your partner are looking for an all-natural lubricant, coconut oil works well. HOWEVER, do keep in mind that the disclaimer on this is you shouldn’t use it if condoms are in the mix because they can actually cause rubbers to be less effective (silicone lube is a solid bet for condoms, by the way).
There is another way that coconuts are kinda-sorta incorporated when it comes to making sex more pleasurable — and it actually became pretty popular right after COVID lockdown (2021): spelling C-O-C-O-N-U-T with your hips while you’re on top of your partner.
It’s wild how I forgot all about this until a client of mine was telling me how much her husband liked her on top while it wasn’t her favorite thing to do because it felt awkward to her. When I said, “Have you ever heard of spelling ‘coconut’ with your hips before?” — at first, she looked at me like I was crazy and then she busted out laughing: “Girl, no” was her reply.
Hmph. Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it because, as wild as it might sound on the surface, the word isn’t the point so much as the movements that come with spelling it out are.
When you’re moving your pelvis around to make a “c,” “o” or U-turn, not only does it intensify the level of sensation that both you and your partner feel during intercourse, it can also increase the level of blood circulation to both of your genitalia which can make your orgasms more satisfying too.
At the end of the day, spelling “coconut” is simply reminding you that there are more options to riding than simply sitting there while your partner pumps for all he’s worth or you humping up and down like you’re on a pogo stick.
Spelling “coconut” is an easy hack to bring some variety into cowgirling. However…
Honestly, the “Fruit” Isn’t the Point. THIS IS.
From grapefruiting and spelling “coconut” to reading articles that I’ve penned for the platform like “How To Improve The Taste Of Sperm” — fruit and sex are always going to be a winning combination, one way or another. However, the main point of this article isn’t about making sure that you are a master speller so much as providing you with tips that will make the cowgirl position something that you are confident about and you find a ton of fulfillment in doing.
You can make both of these things happen by incorporating the following things:
Stretch beforehand. A charley horse during sex is the worst thing ever — and chile, don’t let it be right before you’re about to climax. SMDH. Yeah, if you want to feel more comfortable when you’re on top, make sure that you stretch beforehand and that you are well-hydrated. That will reduce the chances of experiencing a totally-out-of-nowhere muscle spasm — whether you decide to “spell” during sex or…not.
Bring pillows into the mix. Sometimes riding is a challenge because your partner feels farther away from your body than you would like. Putting a pillow underneath him can help to elevate his pelvis, so that you don’t feel like you’re stretching and straining. Speaking of pillows, a longer one can really come in handy because it can give your knees some additional support as well.
Also, ask him to put his knees up. Speaking of making the “grind” easier for you, ask your partner to put his knees up. That way, your back can recline on his legs as you’re moving your hips around. You’d be amazed how much this one hack can do for you. Straight up.
Add lube. When you get a chance, check out “The Wetter, The Better: 10 Creative Ways To Use Lubricant” and you will automatically see why bringing lubrication into a cowgirl session is an absolute must. It reduces friction. It makes your movements glide with ease. And it’s just more fun. Promise you that.
Lean in. If your partner happens to be on the larger side of life, one way that you can control his depth is by leaning forward into him. That way, your hips can better control how much or little he is inside of you, so that you can get into a position that gives you the sensation that you are looking for.
Get him to multitask. Again, whether you are spelling “coconut” or not and whether you are riding cowgirl or reverse cowgirl — something that is awesome about being on top is it frees your partner’s hands to do, umm, other things. And since it is so much easier to have an orgasm while your clitoris is being stimulated, get your partner to put some of the lube that we discussed earlier on his fingertips, so that he can gently rub on your clitoris while you are riding him. It doesn’t get much better than that!
Don’t wanna spell? Hula Hoop then. What if you try the whole coconut thing and it’s not a favorite for you (or him)? No problem — when’s the last time that you hula hooped? Pretend that you have one of those around your hips and move around that way. I’d be shocked if you ended up feeling “meh” about that option.
5 Guys Tell Me What They Love When Their Partner Is on Top
A part of the reason why I am “team cowgirl” is because it provides a lot of benefits to the woman: she has more control, it tends to be more comfortable for her, it’s a great position for a quickie and the orgasms tend to be that much more — wonderful. However, as I was thinking about spelling coconut, in general, I couldn’t help but wonder what guys thought about it and the cowgirl position overall.
If you’re curious, here’s what five of ‘em said.
1. Braxford. Engaged. 35. “Y’all be spelling up there? Who knew? My favorite thing about when my fiancée is on top is what I think every man likes: the view. It’s a chance to see her entire body and experience it at the same time. Not even doggy style accomplishes that. Damn, where’s my lady at?”
2. Denez. Single. 42. “Do you know how many ‘spots’ you have access to when y’all are on top? Breasts are in my mouth. Hickeys are on her neck. Prop my head up on a pillow and her tummy is getting licked. When a woman is riding you, it’s sensory overload! It’s crazy how each one looks amazing in that position too.”
3. Omar. In a Serious Relationship. 29. “[He said her name yet I’m not going to share it] isn’t a very vocal lover. Her body and technique are insane, so even though I love dirty talk, I’ve learned to compromise — except when she’s on top. She’s not saying much but those moans? And yeah, we tried the coconut thing. ‘Cs’ and ‘Os,’ hell yeah. ‘Ns’ and “Ts’? Nah.”
4. Nolen. Single. 45. “45 isn’t old but it’s old enough for your back to show out on you when you least expect it. My experience has been that women don’t want a lot of thrusting when they are on top, so it’s like having some of the best sex without having to do much at all. Well, aside from trying not to bust too quickly. I take that back: riding is easy on the body; it’s work on the brain.”
5. Ivan. Married. 37. “I like the spelling sh-t because it switches things up. We make a game out of it by her picking a word and spelling out while I try and guess what it is. We also try to see how many words that we can get to before one of us cums. 12 words is pushing it unless it’s like ‘dog’ or ‘cat’ or something. I’ve guessed ‘coconut’ a few times and I get what the excitement is all about. Spelling bee sex: try it.”
Yep. I concur.
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