Astrology is reflected in our personalities and also in the way we style and prefer our homes. When looking at your zodiac sign and the symbols, colors, and aesthetics associated with it, you can discover ways to enhance your home and have it reflect your tastes and style. Home decor is such a personal perspective in one's life and can create the overall mood for your day and how you move through the world.
Having a home that makes you feel like yourself and reflects to others what you want them to see in you is sentimental, and by studying the stars, you can develop your personal style in the home.
When it comes to your overall taste and vibe in the home, there are a few different areas you can look at in Astrology. Your sun sign, first and foremost, encapsulates you in your entirety and what makes you feel most like yourself. We all know Cancers and Taurus love their home, and they tend to have and create spaces that make people feel comfortable, safe, and taken care of. Their home decor style borders simplicity with comfort, and they know how to create an inviting ambiance.
Your Venus sign also has a way of pointing you in the direction of what aesthetics resonate with your heart, and you’ll want to learn more about the sign your Venus is in and different ways you can express this side of you in the home.
Your Home Decor Aesthetic, According to Your Zodiac Sign
Finally, your 4th house in Astrology, which rules your home, foundations, inner world, and family, is the perfect place to look at and discover how you can reflect more of your personal energy in the home. Having a planet like Jupiter in the 4th house can represent having a large home and a grand taste for extravagant decor.
Having Venus or Libra here could reflect a more feminine and soft touch in the home, and being inspired to create a space that makes people feel at ease and loved.
With Scorpio in the 4th house, people are private with their homes. When you enter, you get a sense of mysticism and depth with unique art surrounding, that gets you sucked in and intrigued by their world. Dive into where the stars align for you, and get inspired by what you can create in the home.
Read below for your home decor inspo for your sun sign. You can also look at the sign of your 4th house or your Venus sign for more inspiration here.
ARIES: Prints & Patterns
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Aries express themselves freely in the home and have a more unique taste than most. They are inspired by colors, design, authentic pieces, and having an exciting energy in the home. Aries has the perfect balance of being a minimalist and also a person with an eclectic taste when it comes to their home decor style.
Prints mixed with simple pieces bring an elegant twist to their fiery personality, and it’s all about self-expression for Aries. Playing with different patterns and styles and having one-of-a-kind pieces works well for them and showcases their personality.
TAURUS: Romance & Luxury
Curvo 95" White Performance Fabric Sofa By Goop by CB2
Not many people can do home decor like a Taurus. The home is essential to this earthly soul, and they tend to have good taste. The Taurus home is filled with candles, lush rugs, deep colors, and an ambiance of romance and safety. Taurus makes the best plant parents, and a space filled with greenery makes them feel at home.
Earthy tones, gem tones, greens, and pieces that have a sense of comfort and luxury are perfect for the Taurus soul. They want to feel beautiful and comfortable in their home, and they want others to feel the same way as well. They are the type of zodiac sign to invest in good, high-quality, pieces.
GEMINI: Modern & Minimal
Gemini’s home incorporates their creative personality and style, but it also represents a more minimalist and intentional side to them. Most Geminis prefer a modern, minimal, and airy home. They don’t like clutter, and they want a space that can help ease their mind.
Different textures, open windows, and a neutral color tone are perfect for the Gemini home. They will have a few pieces of color and charm, but overall, they thrive in spaces that are a blank slate for them to roam, be, and create.
CANCER: Comfort & Connection
Isobel Console
Cancer thrives when there is flow in the home. Unique pieces that are inviting and express comfort, connection, and love are what they are inspired by. Everything has a place when it comes to Cancer’s home and belongings, and they often keep their pieces forever. They see their home itself as an investment, and everything within it has a purpose and special meaning.
Furniture pieces that provide comfort but that also make you want to connect, talk, and enjoy the comforts of the home align with this water sign. Creams, tans, light blues, rounded or uniquely shaped pieces, and an atmosphere that provides calmness are the perfect home decor style for Cancer.
LEO: Maximalism & Mirrors
Lila Adam Chair
Leo loves a space that reflects their sunny personality and, of course, a home with lots of mirrors. They need their home to be a place in their life where they can feel safe and loved, but also feel a sense of happiness and joy as well. They are not so particular about comforts like an earth sign, and they will choose style over comfort any day.
The Leo is a maximalist at heart and needs a large closet, prints, and colors. They aren’t so concerned with trends as they are with what appeals to their eye, and they want a space where they can entertain and enjoy their life with their loved ones.
VIRGO: Neutral & Pops of Color
Ruffle Marble Decorative Bowl
Virgos are the rulers of all things health, and they want a space that reflects good well-being, simplicity, and a healthy lifestyle, but also a home that looks lived in and has charm. They aren’t minimalist, but they aren’t maximalist either, and they tiptoe between the two with their home decor style.
Neutral tones thrive in Virgo's energy, but they also like a pop of color in the home as well and will have a space that showcases their mutable character. Flowers, rugs, plants, simple home decor pieces, crystals, and neutral backgrounds provide the perfect ambiance for Virgo.
LIBRA: Beauty & Venusian Energy
Light Beige Wabi-Sabi Painting
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Libras are ruled by Venus, the planet of love, and they take good care of their home. This is an area of their life where they exemplify a lot of beauty and comfort, and they want to experience love in the home and for other people to feel this energy when they enter. Libras typically have a more minimalistic style, and they know how to say a lot with very little.
A lush white rug, with a cream or pop of color couch, and a functionality of the home that makes people want to connect is perfect for Libra. They will have photos and sentimental pieces of loved ones around the home, and their home decor style reflects their Venusian energy.
SCORPIO: Emotional Depth & Deep Tones
Chambord Grand Pendant
Scorpio loves a moody atmosphere in the home. Blacked-out curtains are a must, and a sense of privacy and emotional depth in the home are, too. You will see a lot of dark colors, browns, burgundies, deep blues, and blacks in the home of a Scorpio, and they are intentional about every piece they have in their space.
They tend to be more minimal, but they do love to adorn their walls with pieces that reflect their heart and make them and others feel something as well. Scorpio’s home tends to look like a vampire's den, and they want their space to feel intimate, mysterious, and intriguing.
SAGITTARIUS: Free-Spirit & Feng Shui
Dowel Counter Stool
The Sagittarius home reflects their free-spirit personality. Sagittarius is one of the signs that is not home too often, so when they are they want things to be easy to find, easy to move around, and a little bit more quiet than all of the energy of the outside world.
They don’t have too much in the home because they prefer to keep things light and accessible, but they wouldn’t necessarily be defined as minimalist either. The Sagittarius has a bold personality that needs a room that’s going to match, colors that will enhance their mood, and a spiritual taste of Feng shui that reflects their inner wisdom.
CAPRICORN: Natural & Traditional
Morrell Dining Chair
Capricorns take their time with their home. They wait till they can acquire the best of the best for themselves and spoil themselves with things that bring them a sense of comfort and groundedness. They want their home to feel organized and comfortable and reflect their hard work and what they have accumulated for themselves.
As with all earth signs, plants are a must, and they enjoy a lot of earthy pieces, woods, and different natural materials as well. There is something traditional about the home of the Capricorn, and they provide a lot of history and value here.
AQUARIUS: Unique & Eclectic
Marais Sectional
The home of the Aquarius is inspired by their other-worldly, cultural, and magnetic personality and interests. Aquarius has a space that is unique and eclectic, and that represents everything that inspires them. They have a lot of pieces that some may not think to put together right away, but the way Aquarius does it makes it look like a masterpiece.
The Aquarius is the trendsetter, and they often do things ahead of their time. They love color, pattern, different aesthetics, and a lot of eclectic pieces on the walls and surrounding them. They need a space that can fuel their wondrous soul and that feels inviting and conversational to friends and family as well.
PISCES: Comfort & Luxury
Carson Bench
Pisces love their home, especially their bedroom, and the comforts of it. Pisces puts comfort over all else when it comes to their home decor style, and they have a home that makes others feel calm and at ease. Pisces' most important home decor piece is their bed, and they prefer the best bedding, the most luxurious bedroom furniture, and lots of pillows and items of comfort.
They have a good balance when it comes to colors and neutrals, and they overall just want to feel like they can wind down in peace when they are at home, and it’s more about how things feel rather than how they look for Pisces in the home. Their style is dreamy, sentimental, and comfortable, with a little bit of magic.
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Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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At the same time, though, it’s one thing to age; however, it’s another thing, entirely, to prematurely age — and that is what we are going to get into today: things that you can find yourself doing that can rush the season that you are supposed to actually be in as far as aging is concerned. And one of those things includes the kind of relationships that you choose to get (or remain) in.
Are you ready to learn how to choose wisely as far as your aging seasons go? Wonderful.
Things That Naturally Speed Up the Aging Process Overall
The reason why I am starting this off with a clip from the podcast ReLiving Single is because, if there is one person who I think is aging so beautifully and gracefully, it’s Queen Latifah. Personally, I like that she isn’t trying to look half her age and yet she still looks really, really good.
I’d venture to say that a part of the reason why is that she really does seem to “stay out the way” as far as dramatic celebrity culture goes which definitely can make one’s life less stressful — and there is quite a bit of proof that the less stressed out you are, the more you are able to slow down the aging process (more on that in just a bit). So, salute to you you, Queen. Salute, indeed.
Other than stress, you know what other things can speed up the (physical) aging process:
- Eating processed foods
- Wearing too much eye make-up (all of the time) and/or sleeping in your cosmetics
- Drinking out of straw (too often)
- Consuming too much coffee
- Not taking care of your teeth
- Not getting enough exercise
- Being consumed with/by negativity
- Stressing out your nervous system by being on your devices all of the time
- NOT PRIORITIZING REST
- Not having a quality social life
That last one? Watch how I connect the dots between it and the kind of friendships that you have. Because the reality is that if your relationships are causing stress, drama and/or trauma, are making you feel lonely rather than supported and/or they have you out here doing most of the work just to keep them going, that is absolutely going to age you, physically, mentally and emotionally, far faster than you should be aging.
How Friendships Impact How You Age
GiphyA couple of years ago, the American Psychological Association published an article entitled, “The science of why friendships keep us healthy.” The CliffsNotes are this: according to science, individuals who have HEALTHY FRIENDSHIPS report being more satisfied with their lives, are less likely to deal with depression and, physically, they are diagnosed with less diseases and end up living longer overall as well. In fact, it goes on to say that those who have no genuine friendships or poor quality ones are twice as likely to die prematurely.
A part of the reason is because good friendships equate to experiencing less stress which means that our health is in better condition, along with our brain. On the cognitive tip, that’s good to know because these types of relationships also motivate and inspire us to make plans, set goals and to become better people overall.
And that is why friendships can absolutely affect how you age as an individual. Yep, according to science, when your friendships are solid, intact and consistently that way, it can literally slow down your biological clock in the sense of your system experiencing less chronic inflammation (which can lead to diseases) and your cortisol levels being lower.
You know, I’ve written articles in the past that feature warning signs of having unhealthy friendships in your midst. Some of them include “10 Signs You’ve Got A Close (TOXIC) Friend,” “Why Friendships Should Come With Deal-Breakers Too,” “7 Signs Your Friendship...Actually Isn't One,” “Ever Wonder If A Friend Is Just...Not That Into You?” and “5 Signs Your Closest Friends Are The Most Envious Of You” and, as you can see, to be in a relationship with someone who really isn’t good for your mind and/or body and/or spirit?
Not only could it literally be putting your mental health and emotional well-being on the line, it could actually cut your life short too. And who in the world is possibly worth risking that? NO ONE.
Circling back to the ReLiving Single podcast, everyone appears to still be friends; they also seem to be thriving in their own special and distinctive ways as well. That is the goal that we all should have in our own friendship dynamics, don’t you think? Not either/or. BOTH.
So, in honor of aging wisely, well and gracefully as far as your own friendships are concerned, I’ve got a few tips to keep your own friendships on track.
5 Tips for Choosing Friends Who Keep You “Youthful”
GiphyFashion designer Karl Lagerfeld once said, “Youthfulness is about how you live, not when you were born” and when I think about synonyms for youthful like active, fresh, keen, vigorous and buoyant, I would absolutely have to agree.
So, how do you go about selecting friends who can help to keep you in this type of youthful head and heart space?
1. Cultivate friendships where you feel safe. Because several things about my childhood were unsafe, I spent many years selecting friends who were the same — and that will absolutely stress you TF out. At the end of the day, being in safe friendships is all about surrounding yourself with individuals who you can trust, who help you to feel secure while in and out of their space and who don’t come with a lot of emotional or relational risk. If you need some help figure out what that looks out, read Safe People: How to Find Relationships that are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't. It never disappoints.
2. Hang around people who don’t stress you out. Aight, you already saw that stress ain’t good — so definitely avoid people who are stressful — who are always in some drama; who never takes accountability; who like to play the victim; who constantly gaslight and deflect; who are unreliable and/or inconsistent; who take more than they give; who talk more than they listen — you get where I’m going. The reality is a lot of serious health-related issues (like heart disease, depression, headaches, weight gain, strokes and insomnia) are directly connected to stress. That said, always remember that friendships are supposed to enhance your life. If you’re not feeling your best because of some “friend”? It’s time to do some serious reevaluating. Your health depends on it. LITERALLY.
3. Spend time with friends who hold you accountable. Want to know another sign of a toxic friend: they don’t want to be held accountable and/or they don’t want to hold you accountable. Whew, I am so sick of people living by the totally f’ed up motto that if someone is their friend, they should back them no matter how ridiculous their choices may be. Nah, if something is going to cause hurt, harm or danger — you are a horrible friend to cheer that stuff on and/or they are a horrible friend to back you in your toxic decisions. Love means telling people things that they don’t want to hear sometimes in order for them to dodge foolishness. Mature and healthy friendships know this to be true.
4. Commit to friends where mutual reciprocity is evident. Back when my house burned down and I was trying to find a new place to stay, a friend of mine gave me some real money to put towards my down payment (because I also lost one of my main-paying gigs a month later). Fast forward to this year and she was in a bind, so I gave her some real money to bankroll a project. THAT’S WHAT RECIPROCITY LOOKS AND LIVES LIKE. A part of the reason why good friendships slow down aging is because they help us out in times of need so that we don’t feel like we are out here alone. That said, if you’re wondering if your friendships are worth a damn, ponder if you can consistently rely on each other; even if/when it’s (sometimes) inconvenient to do so (check out “Life Taught Me That True Friendships Are 'Inconvenient'”).
5. Surround yourself with friends who celebrate you. Question: Do your friends CELEBRATE you? Believe it or not, that is another way that they can play a role in you aging gracefully. That’s because, according to science, celebratory activities can reduce your stress levels, help to put/keep you in a good mood, prevent loneliness and isolation and make you feel like you are a priority in the lives of others. Think about the last time your friends made a big deal outta you? It will reveal quite a bit.
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Again, there is absolutely nothing wrong with aging. Case in point, every day, someone doesn’t make it to the age that you currently are — and that’s real. Just make sure that you aren’t doing things that “age you” before your time. This includes choosing friendships that put frown lines on your face instead of laugh ones.
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