So you're moving into your first place -- first of all, congrats! There's nothing like the mix of pride and independence you feel when you seal the deal on your first apartment and can say goodbye to your childhood bedroom at your parent's house, or the couch your bestie let you sleep on for the past however many months.
Having your own place for the first time is a big deal. But since this is your first go at adulting apartment-style, you may not know all of the essentials you need to check off of your list after moving day. Most of us know the big ticket items that are considered necessities -- bed, couch, TV -- but there are a lot of other things you should have in your first home to make it the peaceful oasis you need after a long day of work. Here are our recs.
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Bella 2-Quart Electric Air Fryer
Macys
Bella 2-Quart Electric Air Fryer
Don't listen to anyone who tells you cooking with an air fryer isn't real cooking. As a matter of fact, who says you have to really cook? Air fryers are by far the easiest and quickest way to make a home-cooked meal. You can plop a piece of poultry in the air fryer and keep working as it cooks. Clean up is simple with this small device which doesn't fit more food than what's needed for one or two people. And with versatile colors to choose from, you can pick a fryer that matches your kitchen decor.
Cuisinart ® Anodized Dishwasher-Safe 11-Piece Cookware Set
Bed Bath & Beyond
Cuisinart ® Anodized Dishwasher-Safe 11-Piece Cookware Set
If you're the type who likes to cook cook, then you need a set of pots and pans to see you through meal prep Sundays and dinner party Saturdays. In college, one or two pans might've been enough, but if you're truly preparing a feast -- say your first Thanksgiving dinner -- the last thing you need is to be slowed down by not having pots to cook in. This 11-piece set has all of the essentials needed to boil a pot of pasta, pan sear meat, and sauté vegetables at the same time.
Oxo Good Grips 10-piece Kitchen Starter Set
Macys
Oxo Good Grips 10-piece Kitchen Starter Set
Trust us when we say a large fork will only get you so far when it comes to flipping and stirring whatever's in those new pots of yours. This set comes with all of the basic cooking tools, like tongs, spatulas, and spoons, you need when just starting out and the bonus is they're nylon so they won't scratch cookware. The ice cream scoop and pizza wheel are also musts for those nights you need a little comfort food.
Bose SoundLink Micro Bluetooth® Speaker
Bose
Bose SoundLink Micro Bluetooth® Speaker
Trust us, you're going to want something to vibe to when cleaning the house Saturday mornings. Blast your tunes (at a respectable level) with this SoundLink Micro Bluetooth® speaker from Bose. You can connect by Bluetooth, give voice commands via Siri and Google Assistant, and even take the waterproof speaker with you on your next socially distanced bike ride or beach day.
Dyson V7 Absolute
Dyson
Dyson V7 Absolute
We don't need to tell you how quickly dirt can pile up on carpet and hardwood floors, especially if you have a pet tracking in dirt and shedding hair. Stay on top of the mess with this lightweight vacuum cleaner you can easily run each day to prevent the need for deep cleans on the weekend.
Hamilton Beach Stainless Steel Can Opener
Walmart
Hamilton Beach Stainless Steel Can Opener
Items like this are easy to overlook until you're ready to cook a big pot of spaghetti and can't get a can of tomato sauce open. Think ahead and grab an affordable electrical can opener like this within the first week in your new place. No matter what you decide to cook on a random night, you'll always have it on deck, and it even opens bottles and hard plastic packages making it the perfect multi-tasker.
Sterilite Wide 3-Drawer Chest with Wheels
The Container Store
Sterilite Wide 3-Drawer Chest with Wheels
This one's for the product junkies, i.e. all of us. Rarely does a bathroom come with enough storage for all of our hair butters, styling tools, and leave-ins. That's when a storage chest like this one comes in super handy. You can keep it hidden in a closet if it doesn't fit your decor and roll it out - because it has wheels - when you need it. The clear plastic will keep you from searching through unnecessary drawers prior to finding what you need.
simplehuman® Adjustable Shower Caddy
Bed Bath & Beyond
simplehuman® Adjustable Shower Caddy
Speaking of product junkie organization, chances are your shower isn't going to have enough space for your favorite shampoo, conditioner, hair mask, body wash, face wash, and loofah. And since nobody wants to have to remember to grab those items before stepping under their rainwater showerhead, keep them where you need them with this rust-free adjustable shower caddy.
Oster Metallic Black Electric Wine Opener
Oster Metallic Black Electric Wine Opener - FPSTBW8225Like with a can opener, you don't want to get caught at home alone with a tasty bottle of wine gifted to you at your housewarming and no way to indulge in it. With the way 2020 has gone, you know you're going to need a sip (or seven) of vino sooner rather than later. Make sure this item is at the top of your To Buy list.
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In a xoNecoleexclusive, the iconic actress opens up about embracing this season of her life, new projects, and overall being a “bad motherfucker.” Gabrielle reveals that she was 37 years old when she was diagnosed with perimenopause and is still going through it at 51 years old. Mayo Clinic says perimenopause “refers to the time during which your body makes the natural transition to menopause, marking the end of the reproductive years.”
“I haven't crossed over the next phase just yet, but I think part of it is when you hear any form of menopause, you automatically think of your mother or grandmother. It feels like an old-person thing, but for me, I was 37 and like not understanding what that really meant for me. And I don't think we focus so much on the word menopause without understanding that perimenopause is just the time before menopause,” she tells us.
Gabrielle Union
Photo by Brian Thomas
"But you can experience a lot of the same things during that period that people talk about, that they experienced during menopause. So you could get a hot flash, you could get the weight gain, the hair loss, depression, anxiety, like all of it, mental health challenges, all of that can come, you know, at any stage of the menopausal journey and like for me, I've been in perimenopause like 13, 14 years. When you know, most doctors are like, ‘Oh, but it's usually about ten years, and I'm like, ‘Uhh, I’m still going (laughs).’”
Conversations about perimenopause, fibroids, and all the things that are associated with women’s bodies have often been considered taboo and thus not discussed publicly. However, times are changing, and thanks to the Gabrielle’s and the Tia Mowry’s, more women are having an authentic discourse about women’s health. These open discussions lead to the creation of more safe spaces and support for one another.
“I want to be in community with folks. I don't ever want to feel like I'm on an island about anything. So, if I can help create community where we are lacking, I want to be a part of that,” she says. “So, it's like there's no harm in talking about it. You know what I mean? Like, I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change. I'm just getting better and stronger and more intelligent, more wise, more patient, more compassionate, more empathetic. All of that is very, very welcomed, and none of it should be scary.”
The Being Mary Jane star hasn’t been shy about her stance on therapy. If you don’t know, here’s a hint: she’s all for it, and she encourages others to try it as well. She likens therapy to dating by suggesting that you keep looking for the right therapist to match your needs. Two other essential keys to her growth are radical transparency and radical acceptance (though she admits she is still working on the latter).
"I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change."
Gabrielle Union and Kaavia Union-Wade
Photo by Monica Schipper/Getty Images
“I hope that a.) you recognize that you're not alone. Seek out help and know that it's okay to be honest about what the hell is happening in your life. That's the only way that you know you can get help, and that's also the only other way that people know that you are in need if there's something going on,” she says, “because we have all these big, very wild, high expectations of people, but if they don't know what they're actually dealing with, they're always going to be failing, and you will always be disappointed. So how about just tell the truth, be transparent, and let people know where you are. So they can be of service, they can be compassionate.”
Gabrielle’s transparency is what makes her so relatable, and has so many people root for her. Whether through her TV and film projects, her memoirs, or her social media, the actress has a knack for making you feel like she’s your homegirl. Scrolling through her Instagram, you see the special moments with her family, exciting new business ventures, and jaw-dropping fashion moments. Throughout her life and career, we’ve seen her evolve in a multitude of ways. From producing films to starting a haircare line to marriage and motherhood, her journey is a story of courage and triumph. And right now, in this season, she’s asking, “What’s next?”
“This is a season of discovery and change. In a billion ways,” says the NAACP Image Award winner. “The notion of like, ‘Oh, so and so changed. They got brand new.’ I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
"I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
She continues, “So I'm just trying to figure out what's next. You know what I mean? I'm jumping into what's next. I'm excited going into what's next and new. I'm just sort of embracing all of what life has to offer.”
Look out for Gabrielle in the upcoming indie film Riff Raff, which is a crime comedy starring her and Jennifer Coolidge, and she will also produce The Idea of You, which stars Anne Hathaway.
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