As someone with multiple different groups of friends, when it is time to take a vacation together, there are several factors I have to consider in order to plan the perfect girl’s trip. I have friends that I’ve known since I was a teenager, friends who are parents, bougie friends, beach bums, and those who are just always with the shits. Each set of friends we keep will come with a different set of needs and preferences, which all have to be considered when booking trips.
Comparing budgets and dietary restrictions is just the beginning of the things you need to factor in to ensure that everyone’s needs are met. Truly understanding what type of friends you are traveling with will allow you to accurately choose the right destination and activities to satisfy everyone.
And I know for some people, group trips are a no-no due to the reputation for people leaving as friends and coming back as enemies. We’ve all heard stories about people beefing on vacation and losing friends in the process (looking at you, Miami). Conflicts often arise when the destination doesn't align with the group's diverse interests, leaving some feeling left out or unsatisfied. This makes it crucial to choose a location that resonates with the collective vibe of your friends.
Choosing a peaceful beach destination may not work for adventure-seeking friends, and a “we’ll only be sleeping there” mindset when choosing a hotel won’t cut it with your luxury-seeking girlies.
Understanding the unique dynamics and desires of your group—whether they crave adventure, relaxation, cultural experiences, or vibrant nightlife—can help ensure a harmonious and enjoyable trip for all. In this article, I’ll delve into a variety of destinations tailored to different types of friend groups, helping you select the perfect spot that meets everyone’s needs and creates lasting memories.
From serene beaches and bustling cities to mountain retreats and cultural havens, let's find the ideal location for your next girls' trip!
For the luxurious friends...
Italy
We all have that one friend (or group of friends) who does not believe in budgets when it’s time to travel and requires the best of the best, from hotels to restaurants to activities. This is not a group trip to try out hostels or 2-star Yelp restaurants because the standards are high. For this group of friends, Italy is the perfect destination to jet-set off to. I like Italy for the bougie friends because with so many different cities, each providing its own vibes and feelings of luxury, everyone in the group will leave happy.
If you want stunning countryside and opulent wine tasting, take the group to Tuscany, which is known for art, culture, food, and wine. Stay at the Grand Universe Lucca, located in the heart of the city, which offers lavish rooms and suites that will fit the high standards of the group. If the group consists of fashionistas, take a trip to Milan, the fashion capital of Italy, and drop a few racks on some luxury shopping.
For the partiers...
Cabo San Lucas
If your friend group is often referred to as the “Too Live Crew,” then you're gonna wanna head to Cabo for a turn-up trip for the books. Sure, some people go on vacation to get some peace and quiet, but for others, it’s an opportunity to let loose and have fun. Cabo is the perfect destination to balance enjoying some sun and then hitting the town. The nightlife here is not one to mess around with, so grab the girls and hit up the Downtown Tourist District, a turnt-up strip of bars, lounges, and restaurants to hop in and out of.
And did you even go on vacation if a boat isn’t involved? Book one of Cabo’s many party catamarans, where you can take in beautiful views, sip cocktails, and twerk while overlooking the ocean.
In terms of accommodations, there are a number of resorts that keep the party going, like RIU, which has three resorts in Cabo that all host daily events and activities, such as an all-white party and foam party, and also has its own club. Another option is Corazón Cabo Resort & Spa, which boasts its own beach club and rooftop bar and is located a short walk from the main party strip. Leaving you and the crew just steps away from the action at all times.
For the foodies...
San Antonio
Calling all foodies! If you didn’t know already, San Antonio has a huge culinary scene and offers a lot for folks like me who will travel for food. For reference, San Antonio was designated as a Creative City of Gastronomy by UNESCO, specifically because of the city's rich culinary heritage and diverse food options. From authentic Mexican and Tex-Mex to mouthwatering BBQ and healthy farm-to-table dining experiences, the city has something for every palate. Foodies should spend a Sunday Funday exploring the iconic River Walk, which is lined with an array of different restaurants, bars, and cafes paired with scenic views.
If you really want to maximize your trip, plan your visit around one of San Antonio's renowned food festivals, such as the Tasting Texas Wine and Food Festival, which showcases the best local cuisine, wines, and craft beers. With its blend of traditional and contemporary culinary delights, San Antonio promises a memorable and delicious adventure for food-loving friends.
For the friends who stunt for the 'gram...
The Bahamas
In the age of TikTok and Instagram, some groups are filled with influencers and people looking to “do it for the 'gram.” If that’s your friends, The Bahamas provides a range of picturesque backdrops and fun activities that will provide you with plenty of dope content to make your followers jealous. The crystal blue beaches alone are perfect for an IG post, but there’s so much more. Pig Beach in Exuma is a popular experience for travelers, and you can film videos swimming alongside pigs. Another way to really stunt is to visit Bimini, arriving in style on a seaplane from South Florida or booking a private charter for a truly VIP experience showing your followers the views from the sky.
Then head to Resorts World Bimini, where y’all can post pictures from the private beach, rooftop infinity pool, or the 600-foot stretch lagoon pool with a swim-up bar. If you have the time, plan for the group to hit up Nassau, first checking out the famous Fish Fry, which is a lit-uation full of amazing food, good music, and all of the vibes. Then book a stay at Baha Mar, one of the most luxurious resorts in Nassau, which boasts its own beachside waterpark and beautiful suites with the best views. The whole crew will be sure to snag the perfect Insta shot!
Courtesy of 8, The Experience
For the self-care mami's...
Curaçao
Sometimes, booking a vacation stems from literally needing a break from the day-to-day aspects of our lives and wanting to relax. Curaçao, with its serene turquoise waters and tranquil beaches, is the ultimate destination for a group seeking peace and self-care. This is ideal if your friend group is the type that doesn’t need a packed itinerary full of excursions but could benefit from laying out on a beautiful beach followed by a body scrub and massage. This island offers a plethora of luxurious spas, wellness retreats, and peaceful resorts that will allow you and the girls to take care of yourselves.
Book a spa day for the group at 8, The Experience, where the group can enjoy full body massages or hang out in the whirlpool with spectacular views of the ocean. Staying at luxury properties like Kontiki Beach Resort will allow for the ultimate self-care retreat, with an onsite spa, restaurants, and beach club, so you won’t have to plan out things off the property.
Courtesy of Robin D. Thomas
For the No Passport Crew....
U.S. Virgin Islands
No passport, no problem! If you live in the United States and need to plan a getaway somewhere tropical, someone being passportless can seriously limit your options. Whether it’s because someone has never had a passport, misplaced theirs, or waiting for a renewed passport because the wait times are ridiculous right now, that shouldn’t stop the girls' trip from making it out of the group chat. For U.S. citizens, the U.S. Virgin Islands offers the allure and beauty of the Caribbean without the need for the little blue book.
Grab the girls and visit Saint Thomas, spending your days on one of the many crystal blue beaches and eating all the conch and fresh lobster that your heart desires. Aside from beaches and delicious food, Saint Thomas also has a great nightlife for the party folks, as well as a lot of opportunities for shopping. You can also visit the other two Virgin Islands, Saint Croix and Saint John, each of which offers its own vibes but the same beautiful, passport-free beaches.
Let’s make things inbox official! Sign up for the xoNecole newsletter for love, wellness, career, and exclusive content delivered straight to your inbox.
Featured image by Dimensions/Getty Images
Robin D. Thomas is a brunch loving, Brooklyn born and raised Licensed Social Worker currently working in the Bronx. When she's not writing about all things wellness, entertainment and love, you can find her eating her way through different cities and tending to her plants. Connect with her on IG and Twitter at @_MissRobin or on her Instagram wellness page @thisnoirethat.
'Bel-Air' Actress Jazlyn Martin On Her Ongoing Identity Crisis And Its Influence On Her Creative Journey
Jazlyn Martin is a triple-threat performer known most for her role as Jackie on Peacock’sBel-Air. Her character’s fiery personality and questionable decisions have led to a few shocking moments in the series and quite a bit of convo on social media.
Now, I’ll be honest: as an avid TV-lover, I was well-prepared to hop on Zoom and jump into all the chatter around Bel-Air and her characters’ decisions. But after listening to her new EP Identity Crisis, I knew there was a lot more to talk about as well. During this exclusive conversation with xoNecole, Jazlyn Martin delved into the challenging journey she’s faced surrounding her identity, newfound fame, and family influence, and how it all plays a part in her art. Check it out!
xoNecole: So I know that your father is in the entertainment world, but when did you realize you shared the same passion?
Jazlyn Martin: I think it was very early on. I was a child who was full of attitude and fearlessness that would go after anything I wanted. I believe seeing my dad pursue music made me realize it was possible. I just had this hunger and fire, and my parents consciously fed and nurtured that - they are always all super supportive of whatever I do. So very, very early on, I was like, I'm meant to do this. And I just was like, I'm a star, and I know I'm a star.
xoN: Actually, let's talk about your family. What are some of your most important values, and how have your family and heritage played a part in shaping those values?
Jazlyn: I mean, my mom is like an angel; she's so graceful and kind, and I've had to work hard to get there. When I was young, I was very abrasive, headstrong, and stubborn. Whereas my mom gives an immense amount of grace in the way she carries herself. I had to learn that.
I think being strong is something I’ve always had. My parents always joke that they don't know where my personality came from. Because my dad is shy and timid and my mom is kind, and I'm a fireball. But my Dad always asked the important industry questions like, “Why do you want to do this?” And that instilled some purpose into me. It really carried me to keep going because it's so easy to be discouraged in this field, but that drive has helped me push through all of the challenges.
xoN: I bet. I have such a respect for actors and the way you all navigate the industry. Speaking of, let’s dig into “Bel-Air.” Were you a fan of the show? Did you have to go back and watch the episodes?
Jazlyn: So I actually did watch the show which is crazy because sometimes I don’t. I saw it was a reboot and was like, ‘Oh no, not another one.’ But I watched the first three episodes, realized how good it was, and ended up watching the whole season. I became a fan, and then a few months later, I booked the role!
I think the imagination is such a beautiful and powerful tool, and I feel like if you create something in your mind, it happens. It's a crazy thing, but I really just created Jackie's world - the house she grew up in, her parents leaving her, and everything. I created why she fell in love with dance. I really came at it from a human approach. If I see it, then the audience can see it.
xoN: Yeah, background plays into so much of how we deal with things, how we interact with people, and everything. And I feel like Jackie gets a lot of backlash. Like, we’ve all had a “Jackie Moment” to be real.
Jazlyn: She gets so much backlash! I just encourage people to give her grace and see the God in her because I do think she tells a lot of Black and brown girls' stories. People project on her, saying she’s too ratchet or hood, and I’m like does that mean she’s not loveable?
We have to be careful of what’s said and put out because Jackie has gone through things that I've never had to go through. The fact that she's alive and still highly functioning is a blessing. So what if she gets a little messy? I love her. Because she’s helped me extend empathy to people I don't necessarily want to or don't think deserve to have it. But she's 17, she's figuring it out, and she doesn't have parents. Like, that's such a huge factor.
"We have to be careful of what’s said and put out because Jackie has gone through things that I've never had to go through. The fact that she's alive and still highly functioning is a blessing. So what if she gets a little messy? I love her."
xoN: You mentioned how your character is viewed, which digs a bit into identity. So I want to talk a little bit about some of the emotional songs on your EP “Identity Crisis.” What inspired the track “Perfect?”
Jazlyn: When I was creating “Perfect,” I already had the EP title. So I kind of mapped out, like, the different conflicts I had in my head and categorized them into seven songs, and so one of my identity crises was being perfect. Because I feel like a lot of men tend to put women on pedestals. They're expected to be perfect - especially when you’re in the limelight. You know, you can't slip up. You can't say the wrong thing. Cancel culture is such a huge thing. And I just wanted to encourage people to give people grace to be themselves because that's not an easy thing to do.
I just wanted to take down this facade that I’m perfect because I never pretended to be. I never wanted to be. I think that's something people have placed on me, that I have it all figured out, I think I just carry it well, but that doesn't mean it's not heavy. I just wanted to be very vulnerable and honest. I think people think “perfect” is a compliment, but I think it's a cage because it doesn't allow room for error. It doesn't allow for you to be human and mess up and fail and take risks. So I just wanted to encourage grace.
xoN: Do you ever feel like you went through an identity crisis?
Jazlyn: I go through one constantly. Growing up, I didn't really have one. But I think as you get older and more aware and cognitive, you know how the world goes, and the world starts telling you who you are, instead of you deciding who you are. And I feel like being mixed played a big role in that, not feeling Black or Mexican enough. I wanted to belong to both worlds but didn’t so I was just “other.” That was an identity crisis in itself.
Also, being introduced to a level of fame has been interesting, too. I think we all go through identity crises all the time because we’re evolving and changing. It’s beautiful, but it’s also scary; you see yourself this one way, and then something happens, and there’s a shift. So yeah, I think it’s something we all go through but no one talks about.
"I think as you get older and more aware and cognitive, you know how the world goes, and the world starts telling you who you are, instead of you deciding who you are. And I feel like being mixed played a big role in that, not feeling Black or Mexican enough. I wanted to belong to both worlds but didn’t so I was just 'other.'"
xoN: I love that. And I know Hispanic Heritage Month is coming up, and you'll be speaking at the New York Latino Film Festival. Talk to me about what that moment means to you and what you hope to bring to the event. *Editor’s note: The interview was conducted before Hispanic Heritage Month began.
Jazlyn: I’m bringing some Afro-Latino-ness! I always grew up seeing Latinos being represented in a very specific way—very Spanish, not very Indigenous looking. So I'm really excited to bring the Black experience, with the Latino experience, to the stage because that's something a lot of people don't know exists.
People are always like, “Are you Black or Latina?” Well, I'm both! We were just dropped off in different parts. I’m excited to speak on that and highlight how prevalent anti-Blackness is within Latino communities. A lot of Afro-Latinos have faced an identity crisis because of it, including myself. It sometimes feels like you’re supposed to hate the other half of who you are.
For me, I held onto that little Black girl inside. I refused to let her go. And that’s what I want to represent when I speak—resilience and acceptance of our full selves. I’m also looking forward to meeting fellow Latino people, especially Afro-Latinos, and sharing our stories. It’s not a narrative that gets much attention, and I’m excited to represent.
xoN: I’m excited for you! Finally, with all the praise and recognition you’re receiving now, what has it been like to transition from working in music, dance, and acting to now being in the spotlight? How have you embraced this new level of fame?
Jazlyn: Um, it's overwhelming. I think that's the best word. Sometimes, I'm joyful, because I'm giving back to the community. People resonate with Jackie's stories and see themselves in her, which I think is the biggest compliment to me. But then sometimes, you know, I feel sad because I'm like, ‘Damn, I'm not doing enough,’ like I should be doing more. It's crazy, the industry is so fast-paced that you don't really try to celebrate wins. It's just a transition, an identity crisis of the like.
Let’s make things inbox official! Sign up for the xoNecole newsletter for love, wellness, career, and exclusive content delivered straight to your inbox.
Featured image courtesy
There’s just something about HBCU Homecoming that just hits different. Whether it’s your first time stepping onto the yard since graduation or you’re a regular at every Homecoming tailgate, HBCU pride is undeniable. It’s a vibrant celebration that unites the legacy of excellence and tradition with the energy and resilience of Black culture.
The experience goes beyond a typical college reunion; HBCU Homecoming is a family reunion, a fashion show, a cultural festival, and a week-long turn-up that embodies what it means to be unapologetically Black and educated. For HBCU alumni, the journey back to the yard each year is rooted in a love and pride that’s hard to put into words but impossible to deny.
From statement pieces to tech must-haves, every item represents the intersection of Black pride and HBCU love, ensuring that you show up to the yard in style and with intention. So whether you’re repping your alma mater for the first time since graduation or looking for fresh pieces to express your HBCU pride, these essentials will have you standing out, because, at HBCU Homecoming, it’s not just about showing up—it’s about showing out.
Thread Goals
diarrablu Jant Pants in Alia Noir
High-waisted, wide-legged, and ready to shut down the yard, the Jant Pants by diarrablu bring a whole new meaning to campus chic. Handcrafted in Dakar, Senegal, these free-flowing jacquard pants are perfect for stepping onto the yard with style and ease—making them a must-have for any HBCU alum’s closet.
Silver & Riley Convertible Executive Leather Bag Classic Size in Olive
This all-in-one luxury bag isn’t a bestseller for nothing. The Silver & Riley essential is made of Italian calfskin leather and thoughtfully designed, as it can be worn in four different ways: a shoulder bag, crossbody, a top handle, and a backpack. Chic and elegant, the Convertible Executive Leather bag is “the bag that every woman needs in her collection.”
Renowned Women's Intuition Cotton Graphic T-Shirt
Renowned
Renowned’s Women’s Intuition Cotton Graphic T-shirt features a bold graphic print inspired by the power and essence of women’s intuition. With its striking design, this all-cotton tee is a vibrant thing, making it a statement piece that celebrates feminine energy.
Mifland Million M Mesh Crop Shirt
Talk about bold, the Million M Mesh Crop Shirt combines edgy style with comfort, featuring Mifland’s signature print on a semi-see-through mesh fabric. Show up and show out in sophisticated flair.
HBCU Love FUBU
Melanin Is Life Melanated & Educated - I Love My HBCU Hoodie
Show off your HBCU love with this piece that represents everything you gained from your alma mater: a top-tier education, a community that lifts you up, and a deep sense of esteem for yourself and your culture. Wear it loud and proud, because being melanated and educated isn’t just a flex—it’s a legacy.
HBCU Culture Spelmanite Sweatshirt in Navy
Spelmanites, rep your Spelman pride with this unisex crewneck sweatshirt, designed for ultimate comfort and a relaxed fit. Made from a cozy cotton/polyester blend, this classic sweatshirt is as durable as it is stylish—making it an ideal piece for any Spelmanite showing love for their alma mater.
HBCU Culture Howard Is The Culture T-Shirt
Rock the ultimate flex by showcasing your Howard U love with HBCU Culture’s Howard Is The Culture t-shirt. This unisex tee offers a comfortable, relaxed fit that’s perfect for celebrating your HBCU spirit without sacrificing style or comfort.
DungeonForward FAMU - Strike Bucket - Reversible
DungeonForward’s Strike Bucket Hat brings versatility and style to the FAMU Crown collection with its reversible design, giving you two looks in one. Featuring a sleek black snakeskin-embossed brim lining and a bold outline Rattler emblem, this hat is all about repping your Rattler pride in style.
DungeonForward Savannah State University - HBCU Hat - TheYard
The Savannah State University HBCU Hat by DungeonForward is more than just a hat—it’s a symbol of Tiger pride and a nod to the culture. Perfect for gamedays, tailgates, or just showing off your HBCU love, this hat lets you carry a piece of the yard wherever you go.
Tech the Halls
Anker iPhone 16 Portable Charger, Nano Power Bank
Stay charged up with the Anker Nano Power Bank, which features dual USB-C ports, a foldable connector, and a compact design, making it perfect for those HBCU tailgates and late-night parties you pull up to.
Drip Check
Wisdom Frame 14 Square Sunglasses
Elevate your look with these angular square-frame sunglasses by Wisdom, bringing an ultramodern edge to any outfit. The sleek design makes them perfect for blocking out the haters while you stunt on the yard.
Coco and Breezy Eyewear Fortune in Gray Turquoise
The Fortune Glasses in Grey Turquoise is a bold statement piece to any Homecoming weekend ‘fit that “embody our fearless and outspoken DNA.” With their color and edgy design, these frames by Coco and Breezy are perfect for anyone looking to stand out and express their unapologetic confidence.
Howard U Lapel Pin
Rep your Bison pride wherever you go with this Howard U Lapel Pin from Pretty AmbVision. Whether adding it to your jacket, shirt, or bag, this pin is the perfect way to showcase your love for your alma mater while rocking your HBCU love with honor and distinction.
Mifland Standard Rucksack Mini
The Standard Rucksack is designed to evolve like that HBCU pride—getting richer, bolder, and better with time. Durable, stylish, and built to last, this Rucksack by Mifland is a timeless piece equipped with versatile carrying options and fully adjustable back straps for ultimate comfort.
Stay Fresh, Stay Blessed
Slip Pure Silk Sleep Mask in Pink
Keeping it cute starts with beauty sleep. This luxurious silk mask is an essential for a reason. If protecting your skin and waking up refreshed is your priority, look no further than this Homecoming essential.
Liquid I.V.® Hydration Multiplier Lemon Lime - Hydration Powder Packets
Stay hydrated and energized throughout Homecoming weekend with this Liquid I.V.® Hydration Multiplier in Lemon Lime. Just add a packet to your water bottle, and bless your body with 2-3 times more hydration than water with every packet. Because staying hydrated is the key to popping up and showing out all weekend long!
Loop Experience Plus Earplugs High Fidelity Hearing Protection
Designed for your hearing protection, these sleek earplugs reduce noise without compromising sound quality—perfect for enjoying the band’s halftime show, late-night parties, and DJ sets. Whether you’re front row at the step show or hitting the yard, your ears deserve to be protected in style!
Black Girl Magic Glass Cup
Sip in style and celebrate your melanin with the Black Girl Magic Glass Cup. Perfect for morning coffee, your favorite iced drink, or showing off your HBCU pride on the yard—this cup is all about keeping it cute while radiating your endless supply of Black Girl Magic.
Glow Up & Show Out
Black Girl Sunscreen SPF 30
What Homecoming weekend can be complete without an assist from this beauty find? Formulated to blend seamlessly into melanin-rich skin (no white-cast), protect your glow while you turn up with the Black Girl Sunscreen SPF 30.
Sienna Naturals Issa Rae's Wash Day Ritual Set
Issa Rae’s Wash Day Ritual Set from Sienna Naturals includes the H.A.PI. Shampoo, the Plant Power Repair Mask, Dew Magic, and Lock and Seal to get your crown right. Whether you’re repping your coils or rocking a new color on the yard, these products restore and nourish your strands, keeping your hair healthy, strong, and Homecoming-ready!
54 Thrones Ivorian Cocoa + Ghanaian Coconut Beauty Butter
Stay glowing from the tailgate to the after-party with the 54 Thrones Ivorian Cocoa + Ghanaian Coconut Beauty Butter. Infused with African-sourced ingredients, this rich, multi-purpose butter is the answer to keeping your skin soft and radiant through all the festivities all Homecoming long.
Saie Glossybounce Hydrating Lip Oil
Keep your lips looking luscious and nourished with the Saie Glossybounce Hydrating Lip Oil. Perfect for adding an extra pop to your pout before hitting the yard or freshening up between events, this lip oil is a beauty essential for staying camera-ready all weekend.
Featured image by Visual Vic/Getty Images