Have you been prioritizing the needs of others over your own? Feeling stretched thin as a result? This month's Full Moon in Aries will ensure that you start putting yourself first. It's about time, Queen! Deep down you know it's overdue. In astrology, the Full Moon is a period of reckoning, manifestation and culmination. You are likely to find yourself on a fast track to resolution or closure when it comes to the people, relationships and situations that have been putting an unnecessary strain on your mind, body and spirit.
This Full Moon in Aries, taking place on October 20, will form an opposition to the sun in Libra. Aries, which rules self-assertion and courage, will directly oppose Libra, the sign that rules relationships, balance and harmony.
Any imbalances taking place in your relationships now will have to be rectified, for better and for worse - no matter how much you've been trying to avoid it.
On the positive end of this, you may find yourself finally taking the leap into making things official with that special someone. Otherwise, this moon phase will highlight any imbalances in your relationships. They will be brought to the forefront of your life in some shape or form so that they can be addressed or concluded. Expect to finally receive closure over an issue that may have been bothering you on a subconscious level.
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Don't be surprised if you receive revelations about friends, your significant other, your job, or a close loved one who you may now realize has been taking your kindness for weakness.
Have you been financially supporting someone in good faith but are now starting to feel a little salty about it? Your hunches about feeling taken advantage of will likely be confirmed in some shape or form. If you've been dating a hobosexual on the low, you are likely to come to the realization now and cut that person loose!
Any relationships that end or revelations that you receive during this time are meant to set you on a path that is better aligned with the people, places and situations that are most beneficial to you.
The energy of this moon phase is especially suitable for self-care. Take some time to pamper yourself! A moon ritual bath is an ideal way to heal and manifest during most full moon and new moon phases. This is especially true if you are dealing with a breakup.
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Here’s what your sign can expect during October’s Full Moon in Aries:
Aries
You will decide to take your relationship to the next level, otherwise you will cut them loose.
Taurus
If you've been carrying more weight than normal financially or at work, it will be addressed during this period.
Gemini
Expect issues with neighbors or siblings to be brought to your attention for immediate resolution.
Cancer
Work-life balance incompatibilities that have been simmering underneath the surface may finally come to a head now. Whatever happens is intended for your greater benefit.
Leo
Feeling isolated from your friends due to your responsibility as a parent? You will figure out how to strike a balance now.
Virgo
Schedule a visit with your doctor to figure out the source of that nagging, mysterious symptom you've been dealing with for the past few months.
Libra
Now's the time to put your foot down in your relationships. Never feel guilty about making your needs clear to others. Whoever takes offense to what's best for you isn't meant to be in your life at this time.
Scorpio
Has sex or a lack of sex been getting in the way of your bag? Or of you feeling anything less than the Queen that you are? Sexual incompatibility of all forms are likely to be addressed during this time.
Sagittarius
Don't be surprised if you find yourself taking a brief impromptu trip locally or abroad in the week preceding and following this moon phase!
Capricorn
You may finally hit a stride in your career where you finally enjoy a healthy balance between your work and your home life. Your career may now set you on a path to experience a closer relationship with your fam, or to finally put some money down on your new crib.
Aquarius
Do you feel like you're being pulled in two different directions when it comes to old friends and new friends? Now's the time to reflect on who is meant to join you on the next part of your life's journey and who you've outgrown.
Pisces
You are likely to receive an epiphany or significant message of some sort during this period. Pay attention to your dreams. They may reveal something noteworthy about your health or your job.
A Full Moon is an ideal time for gaining closure, or for manifesting all that you've dreamed of and have worked hard for. Use the dynamic and fresh energy of this moon phase to bring your dream life to fruition.
The primary theme of this month's Full Moon in Aries is that of establishing balance and boundaries between yourself and your loved ones.
Choosing to put yourself first isn't selfish. It's self-care.
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In a xoNecoleexclusive, the iconic actress opens up about embracing this season of her life, new projects, and overall being a “bad motherfucker.” Gabrielle reveals that she was 37 years old when she was diagnosed with perimenopause and is still going through it at 51 years old. Mayo Clinic says perimenopause “refers to the time during which your body makes the natural transition to menopause, marking the end of the reproductive years.”
“I haven't crossed over the next phase just yet, but I think part of it is when you hear any form of menopause, you automatically think of your mother or grandmother. It feels like an old-person thing, but for me, I was 37 and like not understanding what that really meant for me. And I don't think we focus so much on the word menopause without understanding that perimenopause is just the time before menopause,” she tells us.
Gabrielle Union
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"But you can experience a lot of the same things during that period that people talk about, that they experienced during menopause. So you could get a hot flash, you could get the weight gain, the hair loss, depression, anxiety, like all of it, mental health challenges, all of that can come, you know, at any stage of the menopausal journey and like for me, I've been in perimenopause like 13, 14 years. When you know, most doctors are like, ‘Oh, but it's usually about ten years, and I'm like, ‘Uhh, I’m still going (laughs).’”
Conversations about perimenopause, fibroids, and all the things that are associated with women’s bodies have often been considered taboo and thus not discussed publicly. However, times are changing, and thanks to the Gabrielle’s and the Tia Mowry’s, more women are having an authentic discourse about women’s health. These open discussions lead to the creation of more safe spaces and support for one another.
“I want to be in community with folks. I don't ever want to feel like I'm on an island about anything. So, if I can help create community where we are lacking, I want to be a part of that,” she says. “So, it's like there's no harm in talking about it. You know what I mean? Like, I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change. I'm just getting better and stronger and more intelligent, more wise, more patient, more compassionate, more empathetic. All of that is very, very welcomed, and none of it should be scary.”
The Being Mary Jane star hasn’t been shy about her stance on therapy. If you don’t know, here’s a hint: she’s all for it, and she encourages others to try it as well. She likens therapy to dating by suggesting that you keep looking for the right therapist to match your needs. Two other essential keys to her growth are radical transparency and radical acceptance (though she admits she is still working on the latter).
"I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change."
Gabrielle Union and Kaavia Union-Wade
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“I hope that a.) you recognize that you're not alone. Seek out help and know that it's okay to be honest about what the hell is happening in your life. That's the only way that you know you can get help, and that's also the only other way that people know that you are in need if there's something going on,” she says, “because we have all these big, very wild, high expectations of people, but if they don't know what they're actually dealing with, they're always going to be failing, and you will always be disappointed. So how about just tell the truth, be transparent, and let people know where you are. So they can be of service, they can be compassionate.”
Gabrielle’s transparency is what makes her so relatable, and has so many people root for her. Whether through her TV and film projects, her memoirs, or her social media, the actress has a knack for making you feel like she’s your homegirl. Scrolling through her Instagram, you see the special moments with her family, exciting new business ventures, and jaw-dropping fashion moments. Throughout her life and career, we’ve seen her evolve in a multitude of ways. From producing films to starting a haircare line to marriage and motherhood, her journey is a story of courage and triumph. And right now, in this season, she’s asking, “What’s next?”
“This is a season of discovery and change. In a billion ways,” says the NAACP Image Award winner. “The notion of like, ‘Oh, so and so changed. They got brand new.’ I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
"I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
She continues, “So I'm just trying to figure out what's next. You know what I mean? I'm jumping into what's next. I'm excited going into what's next and new. I'm just sort of embracing all of what life has to offer.”
Look out for Gabrielle in the upcoming indie film Riff Raff, which is a crime comedy starring her and Jennifer Coolidge, and she will also produce The Idea of You, which stars Anne Hathaway.
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