Here’s How The Full Moon In Aries Will Affect Your Zodiac Sign
Have you been prioritizing the needs of others over your own? Feeling stretched thin as a result? This month's Full Moon in Aries will ensure that you start putting yourself first. It's about time, Queen! Deep down you know it's overdue. In astrology, the Full Moon is a period of reckoning, manifestation and culmination. You are likely to find yourself on a fast track to resolution or closure when it comes to the people, relationships and situations that have been putting an unnecessary strain on your mind, body and spirit.
This Full Moon in Aries, taking place on October 20, will form an opposition to the sun in Libra. Aries, which rules self-assertion and courage, will directly oppose Libra, the sign that rules relationships, balance and harmony.
Any imbalances taking place in your relationships now will have to be rectified, for better and for worse - no matter how much you've been trying to avoid it.
On the positive end of this, you may find yourself finally taking the leap into making things official with that special someone. Otherwise, this moon phase will highlight any imbalances in your relationships. They will be brought to the forefront of your life in some shape or form so that they can be addressed or concluded. Expect to finally receive closure over an issue that may have been bothering you on a subconscious level.
Examples?
Don't be surprised if you receive revelations about friends, your significant other, your job, or a close loved one who you may now realize has been taking your kindness for weakness.
Have you been financially supporting someone in good faith but are now starting to feel a little salty about it? Your hunches about feeling taken advantage of will likely be confirmed in some shape or form. If you've been dating a hobosexual on the low, you are likely to come to the realization now and cut that person loose!
Any relationships that end or revelations that you receive during this time are meant to set you on a path that is better aligned with the people, places and situations that are most beneficial to you.
The energy of this moon phase is especially suitable for self-care. Take some time to pamper yourself! A moon ritual bath is an ideal way to heal and manifest during most full moon and new moon phases. This is especially true if you are dealing with a breakup.
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Here’s what your sign can expect during October’s Full Moon in Aries:
Aries
You will decide to take your relationship to the next level, otherwise you will cut them loose.
Taurus
If you've been carrying more weight than normal financially or at work, it will be addressed during this period.
Gemini
Expect issues with neighbors or siblings to be brought to your attention for immediate resolution.
Cancer
Work-life balance incompatibilities that have been simmering underneath the surface may finally come to a head now. Whatever happens is intended for your greater benefit.
Leo
Feeling isolated from your friends due to your responsibility as a parent? You will figure out how to strike a balance now.
Virgo
Schedule a visit with your doctor to figure out the source of that nagging, mysterious symptom you've been dealing with for the past few months.
Libra
Now's the time to put your foot down in your relationships. Never feel guilty about making your needs clear to others. Whoever takes offense to what's best for you isn't meant to be in your life at this time.
Scorpio
Has sex or a lack of sex been getting in the way of your bag? Or of you feeling anything less than the Queen that you are? Sexual incompatibility of all forms are likely to be addressed during this time.
Sagittarius
Don't be surprised if you find yourself taking a brief impromptu trip locally or abroad in the week preceding and following this moon phase!
Capricorn
You may finally hit a stride in your career where you finally enjoy a healthy balance between your work and your home life. Your career may now set you on a path to experience a closer relationship with your fam, or to finally put some money down on your new crib.
Aquarius
Do you feel like you're being pulled in two different directions when it comes to old friends and new friends? Now's the time to reflect on who is meant to join you on the next part of your life's journey and who you've outgrown.
Pisces
You are likely to receive an epiphany or significant message of some sort during this period. Pay attention to your dreams. They may reveal something noteworthy about your health or your job.
A Full Moon is an ideal time for gaining closure, or for manifesting all that you've dreamed of and have worked hard for. Use the dynamic and fresh energy of this moon phase to bring your dream life to fruition.
The primary theme of this month's Full Moon in Aries is that of establishing balance and boundaries between yourself and your loved ones.
Choosing to put yourself first isn't selfish. It's self-care.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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I think we all can agree that social media really is a double-edged sword. What I mean by that is there is just as much bad that can come out of it as good. At the end of the day, it really is about 1) having your own mind, 2) finding balance when it comes to how much time you spend online, and 3) doing your own research instead of taking random people’s opinions as the gospel (i.e., facts).
Gee, I wish more folks did all of this when it comes to if a man needs to have a large penis to sexually satisfy a woman (he does not) and if a woman who has had multiple sex partners will ultimately end up with a vagina that is too large for smaller penises to please her (a lie).
Science totally has my back on debunking both of those things (more on that in a bit). Know what else does? A particular type of sex method that is becoming more popular by the day. One that just might convince you to, as they used to say back in the day, focus less on the “size of the wave” and ride out the “motion of the ocean” instead.
It’s called shallowing. Here’s what it’s all about.
What Is Shallowing?
GiphyIf there’s one thing that I wish folks would say more thoroughly when it comes to women and orgasms, it’s that when it comes to75 percent of women not being able to orgasm from only intercourse, the accurate statement is they struggle with achieving a vaginal orgasm without the assistance of some type of clitoral stimulation. Yeah, we’ve really got to remember that very few things in this life are a complete monolith — orgasms included (check out “U-Spot Orgasm, Fantasy Orgasm & 6 Other Orgasms You Should Try Tonight”).
In fact, it was while I was reading up on pairing — a word that is used for when clitoral stimulation transpires during penetration — that I decided to do some deep-diving into shallowing (because it was mentioned inone of the articles that I read).And what is it? Shallowing is when a penis, finger, tongue, or sex toy of some sort is used in order to ever so slightly penetrate the vaginal opening of a woman.
And why is shallowing not just a current sex trend but something that every woman on this planet should try? It’s because of what I’ve said, more than once, on this platform: it focuses on the most sensitive part of a woman’s vagina, which isthe first two inches of her vaginal opening.
When the emphasis is placed there, not only does it increase your chances of experiencing “the big O,” but it can also build up anticipation, which can intensify your orgasms too — yes, shallowing can also be seen as a form of edging.
Another thing that’s cool about shallowing is — and it really and truly can’t be said enough — something that makes vaginal and blended orgasms easier to achieve for some women really has little to do with the size of a man’s package or even his technique; it’s straight up anatomy. Yep, the closer that a woman’s clitoris is to her vaginal opening, the easier it is for a penis to stimulate both. So, science makes it possible for vaginal orgasms to be easier for some women than others.
At the same time, shallowing can make it possible for more women who want to see what a vaginal orgasm actually feels like (because it’s easier for the head of the penis to stimulate the opening of the vagina while the shaft can rub up against your clitoris; based on the position that you are in, of course — the missionary with some pillows propped under the lower part of your back is ideal for this).
Now that you see what shallowing actually is, do you get why I said that penis size doesn’t matter when it comes to doing it — and getting the kind of orgasms that you want? Contrary to popular belief, your vagina is only around four inches. In fact, some health experts say that it ranges between 2-4”. Anything larger, your body literally has to stretch out to accommodate; this includes penises and babies. So, if your vagina is “making room” for more than four inches, why in the world do you think you need a 10-inch man? Yeah…exactly. It really is time to get over the silliness. The average penis continues to be 5.5”. Makes sense when you take it all in (no pun intended).
Aight, so now that you know what shallowing is all about, let me try and hard sell you on why it’s a sex technique that you should try as soon as tonight (if you possibly can).
1. It takes the pressure off of you and your partner.
I’ve been working with couples for almost 20 years at this point. This means that the topic of sex comes up quite a bit. And if there’s one thing that continues to be an issue is inconsistent orgasms (check out “Why Do Orgasms So Often Seem Like A ‘Hit-Or-Miss’ Experience For Women?”).
Listen, no matter how many articles you read or sex positions you try, if you’re anxious, stressed out, or overthinking, it’s gonna get in the way of you experiencing high peaks of pleasure on a consistent basis. Since shallowing is something that can easily be done even in foreplay (via fingering and/ororal sex) if you get that first “release” off, that makes it easier to just sit back and enjoy the ones that (hopefully) are to follow.
2. It teaches you more about your vagina.
A part of the reason why I keep repeating certain facts about vaginas in these articles is that it’s amazing how little certain things are discussed en masse — like the size of the vaginal tube. And since shallowing helps you to stimulate the nerve endings at the entrance of your va-jay-jay along with your G-spot (which is housed a little ways from your opening), shallowing is a great way to explore that area of your body as you figure out what truly works for you and…what doesn’t.
3. It’s the perfect merging of foreplay and intercourse.
When you really stop to think about it, shallowing is like the bridge between foreplay and intercourse because you can use so many different things to do it. So, if you want to experiment with a new sex toy or you want a bit more time to “warm up the engine” before full-on penetration begins, shallowing is one of the most sexually arousing compromises there is.
4. It can help to increase your partner’s stamina.
A few years back, I penned an article for the site entitled, “We’ve Got Some All-Natural Ways To Increase Stamina & Sensitivity.” Listen, even though I onceread a GQ article that said that over 60 percent of the people they polled were fine with intercourse lasting no longer than 5-10 minutes — that poll doesn’t speak for all of us, chile.
So, if you would like your man to build up to going longer, shallowing can help to make that happen. Since he’s barely putting beyond the tip in, he can learn how to be in you for longer periods of time without being, well, in you.
5. It helps you to appreciate whatever “package” he has.
Again — and it really can’t be said enough — if shallowing is all about exploring the mere entrance of your vagina, you don’t need a man with BDE (check out “BDE: Please Let The 'It Needs To Be Huge' Myth Go”) or honestly, even anything close to it.
I mean, even though, reportedly, the size that the average woman says gives her the most orgasms is eight inches — I bet those women have never really tried shallowing before. 10”, 8”, or the average 5.5” can certainly get the job done. And well.
6. It feels A-MAZ-ING.
Okay,so now that you know about shallowing, I promise that if you put the word into your favorite search engine, you’re either gonna see articles on golfing (LOL) or sex, especially as of late. That’s because more couples are trying it out and getting mind-blowing results from it. So, if you’re looking for something new to try, give shallowing a shot.
Hey, anything that’s designed to stimulate your most intense vaginal nerve endings has got to be something for the record books. I mean, how could it not be? Lawd.
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