30 Closet Staples Every Curvy Woman Needs In Their Wardrobe
The best thing a woman can have is options, and thanks to online shopping, curvy women now have a sense of freedom when it comes to fashion. Each day, brands are finding ways to become more inclusive to sizes beyond XL because of the advocacy of curvy fashionistas who refuse to not take up space, who demand attention, and admiration...because why the hell not?
No matter what size, every woman needs foolproof pieces that will embrace and flatter each curve on her body while being multipurpose. Shopping for the right fit can be a daunting task for any woman, let alone curvier women who do not have the option of having their sizes in store to try on. But fear not sis, we got you!
We gathered up the expertise of 29 curvy fashionistas of all different shapes and sizes to sound off on what they thought were essential pieces that every curvy girl needs in their wardrobe. Representation matters the most, and after seeing these beautiful women work it, it's time for you to make sure you are equipped with the wardrobe that will have you feeling confident enough to overdress for one occasion and shake a 'lil something the next!
1. A fashionable sneaker.
"I love that sneaker brands are taking women seriously. The styles have come a long way. I love that sneakers are not only comfortable but stylish and functional. I love wearing sneakers with a dress or a nice pair of denim or even a suit." - Essie Golden
2. A bustier or lace bra.
"Every girl needs lingerie. Lingerie is not only for when you want to serve up sexy for bae, it is perfect for when you want to feel good about yourself by yourself. Lingerie is the beginning of a great look because it complements what you are wearing. Lingerie can also be worn as a top in some cases. A suit with a bustier or lacy bra is the perfect look and it screams bold and sexy." - Maui Bigelow
3. A bold statement top.
"A statement top that says something dramatic and shows off a great deal of personality." - Idorenyin
4. A sexy yet breathable dress.
"A sexy dress you can wear without Spanx or girdle because after 30, don't nobody want to be hooked up at every occasion (laughs)." - Kamari Richardson
5. A luxurious faux fur jacket.
"A luxurious faux fur jacket because it can really change your life if you let it."- Chardline Chanel
6. A block heel/booties.
"Block heels and/or booties if it is cold, preferably cream or black because they are way more comfortable than stiletto heels and they look good with almost any outfit. They also elevate the look. You could wear a tee and jeans throw them on and bam! Your outfit is fire."- Brenda S
7. A good pair of jeans.
"A good pair of jeans is a staple piece that when they are fitted correctly on a curvy girl and they are also comfortable. You can always switch it up on them! From a fresh pair of kicks to a stunning pair of heels!" - Shawna V
8. A dress that screams "the dress."
"'The dress' is that one that makes you feel the most beautiful or the sexiest or the most confident. It can be your go-to for a girls' night out or dinner with your love. Everyone deserves a garment that makes you appreciate yourself just a little bit more." - Yanique Holder
9. A statement coat/jacket.
"A statement coat/jacket because on days where you are feeling plain. A good statement coat/ jacket will make any outfit." - Bianca Gale
10. A combat/utility boot.
"Every curvy girl needs a pair of combat/utility boots! Truly a staple in my wardrobe, I can rock them with a slip dress, jacket, and wide-brimmed hat, or ripped jeans with a white tee and moto jacket. I love a great pair of lace-up or studded combat boots."- Laudie J
11. A bodycon dress.
"Every curvy girl should own at least one bodycon dress that flatters their shape." - Alissa S. Wilson
12. A black blazer.
"A black blazer. It's essential because it is versatile. You can use it to dress up an outfit, but can also be used casually. You can wear it with a cute top, jeans, and heels for a night out on the town, or you can roll the sleeves up and wear it with a t-shirt, jeans, and a pair of Chucks (or J's)."- Sasha Renee
13. An oversized denim jacket.
"Oversized cropped denim jacket (it accentuates curves and the waist)!" - Aspen
14. A polka-dot ensemble.
"Polka dots because fashion should be fun and what's more fun than polka dots?"- Faith Lasha
15. A chic jacket.
"Moto jackets are my favorite. It adds a little edge to your outfit but still can be modest."- Chante Burkett
16. A duster jacket.
"Dusters are a big girl's best friend. They can help dress up or dress down any outfit. Extremely versatile and can be worn year-round. It's like a cardigan on steroids (laughs)!"- Courtney Arlett
17. A flowy maxi-dress.
"A flowy maxi dress: A maxi is an effortless way to create sophisticated drama with just one piece. I absolutely love them." - Thamarr
18. The perfect peplum top.
"Inherently chic, the peplum is a plus girls' best clothing item when she wants to minimize her stomach area and accentuate the hips. And they are back on trend again. Find one with an asymmetrical hem for an edgy take on this nostalgic style that is here to stay." - Nikki Free
19. A convertible dress.
"A convertible dress A dress that you can tie and wear in a variety of ways. It doesn't matter the silhouette (flowy or form-fitting) but why have curves and not show them off a bit? Confidence is the best thing when dressing up. It always elevates ANY and EVERYONE outfit." - Jen Jeanpierre
20. Thigh-high boots.
"Thigh-high boots - sorry but I think every woman should have at least one pair. Nothing turns heads quicker when strutting in with good boots." - Yasmine
21. The perfect black belt.
"The perfect blackwaist belt! So crucial for cinching the waist and emphasizing the hips. It's great to have in a bunch of colors but you can do so much with a simple black belt." - Nzinga Imani
23. A well-made trench coat.
"A well-made trench coat (I've launched two that I designed with Tamara Malas)."- Kelly Augustine
24. A classic jumpsuit.
"The perfect jumpsuits allow you to transition from season to season as a wardrobe piece. Layer up with a jacket, blazer, duster, or not at all if the weather is on your side. Jumpsuits flatter almost every shape, define the waist and hug all the right curves." - Marinda Diane
25. A midi wrap dress.
"The wrap dress is flirty and fun. It hugs your curves at the right places and can easily be layered with a turtleneck and a knee-high boot for a chic look in fall or with a sneaker and denim jacket for a cute date look in spring." - Taelor Pawnell
26. A track suit.
"A track suit - yes anyone can wear them, but they hit different on our bodies! Plus, you can dress them up or down." - Nastasiaa Guy
27. A luxe bag.
"A signature designer bag. Nothing says fashion like a luxe bag. If you're not a girl who does a monthly splurge on bags and shoes, try investing in one luxe bag. My favorite is the Louis Vuitton Neverfull bag." - Ty Alexander
28. A faux leather top.
"Let's face it, leather and curves are a sexy yet sinful mix. By combining with softer textures, you are able to pull off an elegant look, but at the same time give off the hint that you have a sexy little secret." - Zaniah Boykin
29. Dependable shapewear.
"Shapewear is important for curvy girls (and other women) because it smooths things out. Shapewear also pulls things together for me. As a plus-size woman who loves her curves, I am not afraid of form-fitting pieces but I want to ensure that I eliminate or smooth things out as much as possible." - Maui Bigelow
30. A sexy bathing suit.
"It's all about comfort because once you are comfortable that helps you be as confident as you need to be in order to enjoy your time near the water. Bikini, two-piece, fat-kini, one-piece, you name it. Just rock it!" - Zaniah Boykin
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UnPrisonedhas returned for its highly anticipated second season, delving deeper into the complex dynamics of the Alexander family.
The series premiere comes a year after its debut season garnered rave reviews from fans and critics and earned record-breaking ratings for Hulu's Onyx Collective brand. UnPrisoned's success can be attributed to its raw, relatable themes and comedic appeal.
Inspired by creator Tracy McMillan's life, the show follows Paige (Kerry Washington), a therapist and single mother whose life takes an unexpected turn when her father, Edwin (Delroy Lindo) --who was released from prison-- moves in with her and her teenage son, Finn (Faly Rakotohavana).
Throughout UnPrisoned's first season, viewers witnessed how Edwin's incarceration deeply affected Paige's life and relationships. In the series, Paige unpacks her trauma through interactions with her inner child and her online followers. Meanwhile, Edwin is overcoming specific struggles with his own past that led to his life of crime, including a dysfunctional upbringing and his mother's arrest. As the Alexanders attempt to reconcile, new challenges arise.
This new season promises to further explore their unconventional family dynamic. Here are several compelling reasons why season two of UnPrisoned should be on everyone's watchlist.
The Alexander Family Life Is Still In Shambles
UnPrisoned's second season resumes where the series left off, with Paige grappling with the fallout from her troubled therapy practice and Edwin navigating life independently after moving out. Meanwhile, Finn faces his own challenges. The teenager is battling anxiety and seeking information about his father—a topic Paige avoids discussing.
The Alexander Family Are Attending Therapy To Resolve Their Underlying Issues
Amid the chaos in their lives, the Alexander family decides to mend their bond by confronting their past traumas. They seek professional help and attend therapy sessions with a “family radical healing coach,” played by John Stamos, a new cast member. This collective effort aims to unravel the complexities of their shared history and strengthen their relationships.
The process of unraveling each character's internal conflicts and their potential impact on future relationships may clash with Paige's textbook therapy approach. While Paige is used to being in the therapist's seat in both career and family, this forces her into the unfamiliar role of a patient during therapy sessions. This shift would compel her to look in the mirror and try a radically different approach.
The Alexander Family Learned A Big Lesson During A Therapy Session
In therapy, the Alexanders are tasked with addressing their individual traumas to salvage their remaining relationships. One of the family therapist’s eccentric suggestions was an exercise involving a family wrestling match. During this session, Paige faces tough questions about her refusal to share information about Finn's father.
While it's unclear whether this scene is reality or fantasy, the image of the family duking it out in the ring certainly makes for hilarious yet compelling television.
Paige Tries Dating Again Following Failed Relationships
Amid her life's chaos, Paige decides to step back into the dating field. However, her many attempts have left her with mixed results. The dating apps have turned out to be a fail, and an outing with her ex Mal (Marque Richardson), who is also her father's parole officer, doesn’t go quite as expected after he brings an unexpected guest – his new girlfriend.
The situation takes an awkward turn when Mal's new partner learns why the former couple split, partly due to Paige's self-sabotage.
UnPrisoned Is A Perfect Balance Of Comedy And Drama
As a dramedy, UnPrisoned takes a comedic approach to its heavy subjects. The show takes us on a ride with Paige's dating misadventures and navigating a friendship with her ex.
Other lighthearted moments include Edwin's attempts at CPR based on online videos and, of course, the antics of the Alexander family's unconventional new healing coach.
The second season of UnPrisoned is now available on Hulu.
UnPrisoned | Season 2 Trailer | Hulu
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These Tips Will Keep Foreplay From Becoming Boring AF (No Pun Intended)
As a writer, I happen to like quotes A LOT. When it comes to the topic of sex, specifically, there used to be a page on Twitter (it’s always gonna be Twitter to me, chile) calledKinky Quotes that I would enjoy checking out from time to time. The reason why is it was good forshowcasing content like “Foreplay. Don’t rush it. Enjoy it.”
INDEED.
Okay, but what if you’ve been in a relationship for a while now, and although the foreplay is still pretty good, the real issue is that it’s also become a bit, well, boring? What do you do? First, don’t overthink it; you’re not in a position that is strange, rare, or anything to be overly concerned about. Second, there are a few things that you and your partner can do to bring a bit more spice back into the foreplay aspect of your sex life.
1. Build Up Anticipation
GiphyI’ve been working with long-term couples for a really long time now — and if there’s one thing that can tank the sex life of people who’ve been having sex for years, it’s not doing what builds up anticipation. At the end of the day, anticipation is all about giving your partner something to look forward to. Sexting does this. Sending your partner an email with a hotel reservation or some out-of-the-blue sexcation plans does this. Calling them to share something that you want to check off of your sex-themed bucket list does this.
Pretty much doing anything that lets them know that you want them to get into the headspace of getting super excited about what you have in store for them, on the sexual tip — that is some of the best foreplay that there is, y’all. So, when’s the last time that you gave your man a preview of what is to come? Hmm…
2. Get Creative with Your Nudity
GiphyUnfortunately, our culture can be so…imbalanced (let’s go with that word) when it comes to sex that many people think it’s impossible to engage in intimacy with someone for years (even decades) on end and still find it to be an absolutely wonderful and fulfilling experience. Meanwhile, there areplenty of studies to support that sex actually gets better, the longer that you are with someone (one study says that it’s around the 15-year mark when things really start to soar!). The thing that you should avoid is falling into a rut — being lazy about intimacy, looking crazy while going to bed (y’all know what I am talking about), and not “dressing up” the gift sometimes.
I can’t tell you how many husbands I have worked with who have told me that they never get tired of their wife’s body (like…ever); what they do get sick of is no lingerie or creativity when it comes to her “sexual presentation.” Date night with no drawers on. Watching television in a sheer baby doll get-up. Celebrating a goal that he’s reached with nothing but a bow on when you come to bed. You get what I mean, right? He chose you. He wants you. Get creative with your body when it comes to intimacy sometimes, though. That way, he’ll never see you coming (well…until…you know. LOL!).
3. Leave Touch Out of It (Initially)
GiphyWhile once reading an article on Bustle’s site about where the term “blow job” came from (it’s a semi-long explanation; you can check it outhere), there’s a sentence that says, “The roots of the term ‘blow job’ began a bit earlier than this, however — in the 17th century, to be exact, when to ‘blow’ meant to bring someone to orgasm.” One definition of blow speaks to what we do with our breath whether it’s whistling, breathing hard, or creating a steady stream of air out of our mouth.
If you do this on your partner’s erogenous zones, it can provide a very flirty yet arousing level of stimulation to where they will want you to touch them as soon as possible. Oh, and if you add some dirty words into the mix, they will damn near be ready to climax the moment even your finger touches their body. Hey, try it. I’m absolutely not exaggerating.
4. Kiss Everywhere…BUT the Mouth (Again, Initially)
GiphyEven though some people don’t like to kiss (check out “Umm, What's Up With These People Who Hate Kissing?”), the rest of us? We want it as much as possible! There isa scientific reason for why that is the case too. When you kiss someone (especially in the mouth), it releases feel-good and bonding hormones and chemicals including dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin; not to mention the fact that it can also help to reduce stress. And while kissing does feel absolutely amazing, remember that the focus here is to “pregame” stimulation.
So, if you really want to get your man riled up, avoid his mouth (at first) and even his penis and opt for turn-on spots instead.The wetness of your mouth, the softness of your lips, and the texture of your tongue along his neck, around his ears or gently grazing his back? Girl, I’m getting a little hot ‘n bothered just talking — well, writing — about it.
5. Stay Out of the Bed
GiphyIf there are two things that couples can find themselves getting really lazy about (if they’re not careful), it’s when they have sex and where. As far as the “when” goes,although reportedly, guys tend to prefer it in the morning (I mean, morning wood…makes sense) and women do late at night, most couples will admit that there is usually a time when they have it the most (especially if they’ve got young children — check out “How To Make Sex Easier (& More Fun) When You've Got Kids”) as a way of “meeting in the middle.” For example, if for you and your man,that’s 10 p.m. and it’s pretty much that way, every time, that can get to become boring, simply because no anticipation is necessary; you know what’s coming.
Same thing goes for always having sex in the bed. Even though it’s comfortable and accommodating to most sex positions, trying other places (at least for foreplay) can cultivate a feeling of newness and excitement. Whether it’s on the kitchen floor, in your car (when it’s in the garage), in the shower (check out “So, This Is How To Make Shower Sex So Much Better”), in your closet (some people really like the closeness of it) or, what appears to be most folks’ favorite spot,the living room sofa (go figure, chile) — get out of the bed sometimes. The bed is comfy, no doubt. It’s also predictable as hell.
6. Have a Foreplay Staycation
GiphyIt honestly floors me, just how many married couples I know who either haven’t taken a romantic vacation in years or (what in the world?!) haven’t done it since their honeymoon. To that, I’ll just say this: there was once a study conducted of 2,000 couples. It was revealed that of those who felt like their relationship had lost its spark, 42 percent of them were able to get it back by spending some quality time together while taking a leisure trip (without the kids). To me, this makes all of the sense in the world because romantic vacations are designed to “get off of the grid” and focus, solely, on you and your partner’s needs.
So, if you are one of those couples who doesn’t have a trip, just for you and your man, on the docket for some time this year, here’s your sign that you need to figure something out — ASAP. And what if your money is tight? What should you do in the meantime? How about a foreplay staycation? Plan 24-48 hours where you and your man do nothing but kiss, lick, and touch without any penetration involved. Play sex games. Dance naked. Come up with (new) safe words. After a day or two of nothing but this, you will be ready to explode once it’s time to actually have sex with each other!
7. Play Your Own Version of “Hot, Warm, Cold”
GiphyTemperature play plays a solid role in sexual pleasure; that’s why I’ve written articles like “Hot Sex: 10 Super Sultry Reasons To Bring Wax Play Into Your Bedroom” for the platform. Anyway, aside from the fact thatit’s pretty damn hilarious that 69 degrees is the ideal room temperature for intimacy (umm, if you catch my drift), a big part of the reason why playing around with hot, warm, and cold temps is so effective is because your nerves respond,sometimes drastically so, to variations in them.
I mean, when you stop to consider that there are8,000 nerves in a clitoris and 4,000 in a penis, imagine what some ice would do during oral sex. Or, how about heating up a sex toy that’s made out of glass or metal in some boiling water, letting it cool just a bit, and running that up and down each other’s erogenous zones? If you do this while being blindfolded, there really is no telling where the peak levels of stimulation could take you!
8. Focus on Upping the Ante on Your Partner’s Stimulation (As They Do the Same for You)
GiphyI’ve already referenced the word “stimulation” a few times. To stimulate is “to rouse to action or effort, as by encouragement or pressure; incite.” Some synonyms include arouse, inspire, spark, activate, energize, enflame, support, urge — and motivate (cue Kelly Rowland’s song, "Motivation"). And so, keeping all of this in mind, when it comes to foreplay with your partner, how much effort do you put into stimulating him — into inspiring him, energizing him, motivating him…yes, sexually?
Something that I am a big-time believer of is, it’s hard to fall into a sexual rut, if the goal that BOTH PEOPLE have is to always outdo themselves, damn near every time that they come together. That said, how can you “out-inspire” him with your compliments? How can you “out-energize” him with a creative meal that’sfilled with aphrodisiacs? How can you “out-motivate” him with some new ideas that you’ve researched while you were at work?
When it comes to both foreplay and sex, “applying pressure” can be a ton of fun — when you see yourself as your own competition as far as taking your partner to new heights in the stimulation department.
9. Be Unpredictable
GiphyUnpredictable can go a lot of ways. In the context of what I’m referring to, I’m not talking about being fickle, erratic, and unreliable. Nah, what I mean is, be intentional about having a few tricks up your sleeve that your partner would never see coming.
An example of this comes from a song from a local legend here, Shannon Sanders (if you know, you know). He once wrote a song entitled “Interstate” and the intro starts off with him saying, “What you doin’? Not you. Didn’t think you were the type.” Yeah, you can read between the lines (or click on the hyperlink to the title) to get what he’s talking about yet I’m pretty sure that what made the experience, 50 times greater, is she did something that was outside of the norm. When it comes to foreplay and sex — that is typically the case. #wink
10. Switch the Energy Up
GiphyForeplay can — and should — have different themes from time to time. One time, focus on being romantic (rose petals and toasting each other). Another time, lean into being kinky (where are your handcuffs and bondage rope?). Still, another time, discuss a fantasy that you each want to fulfill. Then play dress-up as you role play. Record (the audio) of yourselves having sex one day; then play it another day — during foreplay.
Spoon naked and talk about all of the things that you adore about each other’s bodies. Get some oral sex dice (like thesehere) and see where throwing the dice will take you. Y’all, energy is such a big part of foreplay and sex, and the more you master switching it up, the more you and your partner will look forward to coming — and cumming — together for years to come. No doubt about it, sis.
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