Many trends we saw at the beginning of the 2020 season were making their mainstream debut right before the pandemic became the dominant focus of our lives. While we swiftly adjusted to our new lives, the uncertainty ultimately tucked high-end fashion and its trends away. Luckily for us, the coat styles we we're eyeing earlier this year are back and better than before with updated and sleeker designs on stylish classics we've come to know and love over the last few decades. Although colder months are ahead, there are plenty of shirt jackets, coats and vest trends to layer as needed.
Picking up where we left off, many of these styles are finally making their way into our wardrobes and I can't get enough. From longer lengths to cozy comforts, these coat and jacket trends are heating up for fall/winter. Check out a range of my seasonal picks below!
The Best Fall & Winter Coats For 2020
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Leather
From blazers to trench coats, there are a variety of styles now trending for a range of cold weather temperatures. Although leather is a staple worn casually or chic depending on your mood, pair with a sleek matching knee-high heeled boot and an oversized tote bag for the ultimate fall look.
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Talking Classics
The trench is a universal coat, perfect for everyone. The best part of wearing such a classic is discovering which style, color and material fits perfectly for your personal style. Have fun wearing an eye-catching patent leather or go for a more subtle approach in a classic beige or colored trench. Pair with a chunky rain boot for a gal on the go during wet and gloomy winter weather.
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The Shacket
My favorite fall trend of 2020, the shacket is one of the best clothing inventions of all time. I love wearing this oversized shirt jacket as an alternative layering piece with biker shorts, sweatpants and so much more. From plaids to faux leather, this style and a crop top with pointed toe boots for model off-duty look.
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The Puffer Coat
The massive 90's puffer coat trend is back and I am here for the updated additions to this throwback classic. From cropped, to faux leather and oversized looking sleeping bag-looking styles, these coats are what 2020 is made of. As most of us have been home more often in the last few months, it's no wonder the need for comfortability is on the rise as the puffer coat resurfaces on our radar. My favorite aspect of the upgraded puffer makes it feel as though we can take our bed with us wherever we go in this coat. Pair with a lace-up combat boot and a long length dress for ultra feminine casual street style.
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So Shearling
Super chic with a vintage vibe, the shearling jacket is here to stay. Spending decades as a top fall/winter trend, this coat detail comes in a variety of styles to look good and feel at your coziest. Mix and match with different shoe styles from sneakers to leather boots for the maximum amount of looks this season.
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The Quilted Coat
Your grandmother's quilt has had a major upgrade, this coat style is another comfy trend coming straight out of quarantine. For the ultimate cozy look, layer with a hoodie underneath a quilted coat paired with a screen tee, combat boots and a skirt for an effortlessly casual slay. There are several quilted styles to choose from however, choosing a solid neutral fall color is always a good choice!
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The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:Â Â
​Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
​Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
​Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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