Even though I’m pretty sure that no one is surprised that December is the most popular month for marriage proposals, did you know that December 11 is reportedly the most popular day for break-ups? Aside from the fact that the end of the year is the time when a lot of people are self-reflecting when it comes to pretty much every area of their life, the holiday season can also bring with it a fair amount of stress, which could be a leading cause of why folks decide to call it quits.
How to Reflect on Your Relationship Before the New Year
Knowing all of this is actually what inspired me to encourage those of you who are currently in a relationship to take some time aside to ask yourself (then your partner) some questions that can help you decide if you should go into a new year with your significant other — or if it really is time to do some emotional and relational shifting. Because if you are indeed someone who uses this time of year to reprioritize people and things, it’s important (and highly beneficial) to know, beyond the shadow of a doubt, that you’re not just “in a relationship”…but with the right person. Wouldn’t you agree?
Key Questions to Ask Yourself About Your Partner
1. Do We Truly Want the Same Things?
GiphyI definitely think that one of the biggest mistakes dating couples make is thinking that just because they deeply care for each other or even love one another, they believe that those feelings must mean that they are meant to be together. Listen, some of my male friends? I brag on them every chance I get. They’re attractive, spiritual, smart, and make really good money…hands down, some of my favorite folks — and yes, it never fails that I am asked why I don’t see them as options. One of the main reasons?
We are close enough for me to know that we ultimately don’t want the same things out of life — so, why try and “make us gel” when our life plans are different in so many ways…when I already know that, as friends, we support each other’s goals beautifully, yet what’s required as a partner? We would fail, semi-miserably, because we do not complement one another on that level.
So yes, the first question that you and your man need to ask each other — and please be prepared for the answer either way — is if you both indeed do want the same things out of life: Marriage? Yes or no. Kids? Yes or no. A traditional home? Yes or no? Are you on the same page spiritually and financially when it comes to how you prioritize family and friends? Are you sexually compatible (even if the two of you choose to wait to have sex, there are definitely things that you can find out in a conversation)? Do your relational needs “sync up”? Do you have similar interests when it comes to spending quality time, travel, and social activities?
I truly could go on and on, yet I think you get the gist. Again, loving someone is one thing — knowing that you want the same things? That is oftentimes another matter entirely different.
2. Is the Passion Strong?
GiphyRecently, while talking to a client of mine about why she and her now ex-husband did not go the distance, she brought up, yet again (because she is on-repeat when it comes to this topic), how lust was not really present in their dynamic — and how she needs it to be in her relationships moving forward. Even though she’s not a Christian, she was raised in that faith, and so I said, “Why do you think that the Bible is not fond of lust?” (and it’s not — I John 2:16). She didn’t have an answer, and so I said, “It’s because, by definition, something that lacks self-control and you never should desire something that you can’t bring balance to. That’s why I’m a bigger fan of the word ‘passion.'”
Even though passion can be associated with sex, when it comes to this question, I’m encouraging you to go beyond that. Past the bedroom, do you have a deep desire for each other (because I’ve been in situations where I convinced myself that I was into someone more than I actually was)?
Are you both enthusiastic about being in each other’s space and the potential of where the relationship is headed? Do you like each other…A LOT? Is there plenty of affection between the two of you? Do you bring each other joy (yep, joy is a synonym for passion)? Do you almost crave spending time together (not in a clingy or obsessive way; however, are you BOTH intentional about cultivating quality time)?
Look, is love important in a relationship? Sure, it is. However, if you and your partner are lacking passion, that love can turn into friendship real quick. Passion is something that takes a relationship to a whole ‘nother level, in every room of a home — and everyone deserves to be with someone who is truly passionate about them.
3. Do We “Trigger” Each Other or Bring Each Other Serenity?
GiphyI’ve got a male friend right now who is in quite the bind because he’s engaged to someone who he loves on a deep and profound level; the problem is, they trigger each other like nobody’s business. I mean to the point where, if I didn’t know their backstory, sometimes I would wonder if they were even friends, not just based on the things that they argue about but how they argue with one another. I know enough about both of their histories to get that a part of the issue is she speaks in a harsh tone and can be very dismissive, and because it’s like a lot of the women who raised my friend during his childhood, it really gets to him.
On her end, because she’s been a single mom all of her life, she can be very defensive about his insights because she’s never really known how to “loosen the reins” and allow a man to provide leadership in some areas. Yep, as one of my favorite sayings goes, “adulthood is surviving childhood” and sometimes, people come into our lives to show us where we are hurt/harmed, unhealed, and need therapy. Real talk.
Anyway, whenever he comes to me about how he should handle certain matters, one of the things that I share with him is you don’t want to sign up for a life where you are triggered in your own house on a constant basis. Y’all, if there is any place where you should be able to find and provide peace, tranquility, calm — it’s at home. Unfortunately, that is going to be hard to do if you and your partner know each other’s buttons and are constantly pushing on them.
That said, if you know that your partner triggers you and it’s not really about them but some stuff that you need to deal with internally, even if you don’t break up, I definitely advise “pushing pause” on moving forward in your relationship until you are able to get some professional help. However, if after reading all of this, you see that the source of a lot of your frustration is things that your significant other says and/or does, you need to bring it up, and be open to if they feel the same way about you — and then you both need to decide if there are compromises that can be made or if you simply are not each other’s source of peace — so that you can separate…peacefully.
4. Are We Evolving Together?
GiphyEvolving is about gradually growing — so, I already hope you caught that if you’re impatient or you’re with someone who is, that’s another reason to pump the brakes on your relationship because being with someone who is a constant source of stress and pressure, mostly because they want to see things happen in their way and timing, that ultimately isn’t going to be good for either one of you. At the same time, though, there will be plenty of times in life when you and your man will hit a fork in the road when it comes to decisions that need to be made, and going left or right, together or apart, will determine if you are truly evolving together…or not.
What do I mean? Say that you’ve been dating someone for about two years now, and you get a promotion that requires you to move to another city — that would be called a “fork in the road.” Long-distance relationships? Well, statistics say that the average shelf life of them is somewhere around five months, and the success rate hovers around something like almost 60 percent. So, do you and your partner want to attempt that? Or is it time to make some real decisions about where the two of you are headed? Is it time to get engaged? And if not, why not?
Because if marriage isn’t on the menu, does that mean that you both want to eternally date? If one of you does desire a spouse (and possibly children), staying together without a plan ultimately only wastes time. Why do I say that? Because if you’re just staying together without any real future and then you meet someone else who does want what you do, if they know their value (and they operate with a good amount of common sense), they aren’t going to want to try and start up something serious with an individual who still has emotionally “webs” with someone else.
And so yes, if there are some forks in the road right now between you and your man, you’ve got to figure out if you are going to evolve together or if it’s time to grow…apart.
5. Would We Be Better Off As Individuals…Apart?
GiphySpeaking of growing apart, this one really could be an article all on its own because, while people are out here looking for someone who will make them “happier,” I wish that they would focus on finding someone who will make them better — and yes, there is a difference.
An example that I constantly use to illustrate this point is although working out on a constant basis, without question, makes you BETTER — you may not always be HAPPY about doing it. Because this isn’t discussed enough, sadly, some people either ditch relationships faster than they should because they put being happy over being better, or they remain in a relationship well past its time and purpose, and it’s all because they don’t ask themselves if they are becoming a better individual as a direct result of being with their current “person.”
And what if you’re currently so emotionally attached to someone that you don’t know how to self-evaluate when it comes to this point?
How has your spiritual growth been since being in your relationship? Has it gotten better or worse? How have you been doing mentally and emotionally? Are you getting better or worse? Your purpose and its evolution? Since your relationship, have you seen progress or…not so much? Your self-awareness, maturity, and accountability levels? Are they elevating or nah? Are you more financially responsible? Are you professionally flourishing? Your physical (and sexual) health and well-being? Can you say that everything is thriving, or is it stagnating or on the decline?
If you get nothing else out of this article, I hope you truly hear me when I say that if you can’t clearly articulate how being with your partner has made you a better person — not just made you “feel good” but you have clear examples of how you have grown and developed — you really should do some soul-searching on whether it’s time to call it quits. Life is too short, and time is far too precious to share your world with someone who really isn’t helping you to be better…especially if, instead, they honestly are only making matters…worse.
6. Are We Trying Too Hard to Make This Thing Work?
GiphyRemember the engaged guy who I mentioned earlier?
Y’all, in my opinion, it truly can’t be said enough that we really need to stop “dating like we’re married” because it “programs” us into thinking that we owe a boyfriend the same kind of commitment level that we do a husband — and as controversial as it might be for some folks to hear these days, that simply IS NOT the case.
Dating is about seeing if someone “fits the bill” when it comes to becoming a spouse or long-term partner; however, while dating, no vows are taken, and no paperwork has been signed…in other words, until you are married, you don’t have to consider them in the way that you would if you were married to them.
When you are single in the way that the Bible and IRS state (there are no boyfriends and girlfriends in Scripture or on tax forms), YOU ARE YOUR TOP PRIORITY, which means that it’s okay to be unapologetic about choosing what really works best for you.
This isn’t about not being flexible or compromising — in any relationship, that is required. This is about, well, if there is always a problem, you are constantly feeling like you are toiling, if it always seems like there is some drama or trauma going on…at the end of the day, if it seems like it’s just too hard to make the relationship work, what’s the point in staying in it?
Sis, even if all of what I just said isn’t a bright red flag, it’s most definitely a dark yellow or deep orange one because “your fit” won’t consistently stretch out your bandwidth — he will pour into your cup more than drain it (as you do the very same thing for him…that is key!).
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A wise person once said, “Be picky about who you invest your time in because wasted time is worse than wasted money,” and that’s because you can’t ever get time back (check out “Love Is Patient. But Is Your Relationship Just Wasting Your Time?” and “Are You Wasting Your Time With 'Expiration Dating'?”).
So, if you and your partner truly care about each other, before January 1 arrives, do some relational inventory to see if you’re ultimately helping or harming one another. Because hear me when I say that it’s ALWAYS best to let a relationship go so that you can get to who is actually best for you rather than to selfishly hold on to who you know is…not.
A harsh truth…a real one, though. TRULY.
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Contentment. By definition, it’s the state of not only being “satisfied with what one is or has” but also “not wanting more or anything else.” And you know what? Although it might not be a popular aspiration of many, it is a sign of spiritual maturity on certain levels. After all, it is the Apostle Paul who once said, “Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content…” (Philippians 4:19 — NKJV).
Being content is about not complaining. Being content is about learning to be comfortable in your present circumstances. Being content is about choosing to find joy and fulfillment, on some level, and in some way, on a daily basis.
Personally, I dig all of this so much because when you have mastered true inner contentment, it creates stability, self-awareness, and a type of resilience that makes you…shoot, powerful beyond measure, if you ask me. Because when someone knows how to “find the good” and “make peace,” regardless of what is going on around them, they truly are unstoppable. Yeah, on so many levels, contentment is the ultimate life hack. It’s something that each and every one of us should aspire to become: completely and genuinely content.
Thanksgiving is basically moments away at this point. In preparation for that time of self-reflection, pour yourself a glass of wine, turn on some soft music, sit on your coach, and then ask yourself, “Am I content?” If you’re not sure (or you need the definition unpacked for you just a bit more), here are seven signs that you may not be…and yet, there is no time like the present to do something about it.
1. You’re Super Impatient
GiphyHonestly, putting another Scripture right here could be all that is needed in order to bring this point to a swift and abrupt end. Which one? I Corinthians 13, the Love Chapter, starts off with “Love is patient” (I Corinthians 13:4). Yeah, if you want to know if you love yourself and love yourself well, how patient are you…including with yourself? Throughout the years, I have shared one of my favorite definitions of "patient" in several different articles: “bearing provocation, annoyance, misfortune, delay, hardship, pain, etc., with fortitude and calm and without complaint, anger, or the like.” For me, it’s a blaring reminder that mastering patience isn’t just about waiting (more on that in a sec); it’s about waiting with grace.
Content people can do this because, on some level, they know how to apply the John Piper quote, "God is always doing 10,000 things in your life, and you may be aware of three of them." Another way of looking at this is people who can wait well — without complaining or getting annoyed by delays or challenges in the meantime — get that in order for things to truly come together, there are lots of moving parts…some that they don’t even know about. And so, if they want the best outcome, yes, waiting well is oftentimes not just involved; it is required.
Impatient people don’t get any of this. That’s why they are so stressed out all of the time.
2. You’re Worried About Things You Can’t Control
GiphyThis. Past. Election. Chile. And then the cabinet that that man is putting together as we speak? I don’t even want to get my blood pressure up, expounding on it. Let me just pivot by adding one more Scripture — because it is beyond fitting: “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” (Matthew 6:34 — NKJV)
Although worrying is something that pretty much everyone does at one point or another, one of my favorite quotes on it is by an American humorist by the name of Erma Bombeck: “Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.” And really, when you stop to really think about worrying, isn’t that the truth? For one thing, all worrying does, by definition, is cause you to torment yourself by focusing on things that aren’t even going to happen (somewhere between 85-90 percent of the time, in fact; there is actually a science on that) or trying to control things that are beyond your control.
If being a worry wart is your internal struggle, my advice would be to look at life this way: If you’re worried that you’re about to get written up for getting to work late again, leave your house earlier — you can control that. On the other hand, if you’re worried that you’re going to get laid off before the holiday season ends, so long as you’ve been doing your best (which is also something that you can control), please put your energy elsewhere because that is something that you can’t control.
And I promise that when you choose to be calm and confident over worrying yourself to death, that can help you to manage what you can’t control so much easier. Oh, and your health will thank you, too, because worry is attached to things like insomnia, muscle tension, headaches, overeating, and drinking too much. All this over things that probably won’t happen in the first place? Yeah, sis…(choose to) relax.
And by choosing to chill out, there is some contentment that follows because you will see the good as much as, if not more than, the potential bad. Trust me.
3. The Past and/or Future Consume You
GiphyOn the heels of the Scripture that I just provided for the previous point, it also applies to this one. You know, back when I was doing some intentional research on forgiveness, I always appreciated the insight of author Gary Zukav: “Forgiveness is accepting that the past cannot change.” While this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t hold people accountable for what they have done, it does help you to be compassionate with those who are truly sorry (check out “Heads Up: It's NOT An Apology If An Amend Isn't Made”) because, no matter what has transpired between you and them, one thing they can’t do is go back into a time machine and change it.
And you know what? When it comes to the mistakes — or, let’s be real, sometimes they are conscious poor decisions — you have made, you can’t either. So, why let their misdeeds or your own consume you to the point of internally destroying you?
Then there’s the future. What if you get robbed? What if your mom gets cancer? What if your husband files for divorce? Girl, if you are caught up in the future that hasn’t even happened yet, you are definitely gonna drive yourself up the wall! And this is why so many mental health experts and platforms are all about encouraging individuals to live in the moment. You can do this by meditating, taking breaks from social media (and the news), journaling, doing things that you enjoy (instead of waiting to put them off), and resting.
Listen, one of the best things about choosing to only focus on the here and now is you can find little things about it to be content with — and that helps you to be/become more content overall.
4. You Always Think About Wanting More
GiphyAlthough it certainly wasn’t my plan for this piece to be so Scripture-heavy, I’ve got to flow with what immediately comes to mind and, for this point, the verse, “So are the ways of everyone who is greedy for gain; It takes away the life of its owners” (Proverbs 1:19 — NKJV) is it. And just what does it mean to be greedy? A greedy individual isn’t just low-key obsessed with getting and having more — please catch it — they are also quite EAGER.
Eager folks also tend to be impatient. Eager folks are perceived by others as being very intense (and not in a good way). More times than not, eager folks haven’t really mastered how to take a moment to appreciate what they do have because all they care about is what’s next. And when you’re in a state of that kind of, well, anxiety…how could it not affect your quality of life? I mean, really.
And what if you read all of that and said, “I’m not greedy; I’m just ambitious” — listen, there is nothing wrong with having goals and wanting to obtain them. However, an ambitious individual knows how to find balance. If they get a promotion, they will schedule a vacation to celebrate it. If they just got a new car, they are not in a rush to get a new house until they can financially afford it. If they were just proposed to with a really nice ring, they aren’t hounding their new fiancé about setting a date within the next two weeks.
People who always want more, without taking the time to enjoy what they already have, are never going to be content. Why? Because there is always something else that you can want…even if you don’t need it or it really isn’t the time for it. Meanwhile, content people get that it’s a good thing to not go after everything all of the time; that it’s far wiser to embrace what is already before them — because some folks don’t even have…that.
5. You Compare Yourself to Others
GiphySomething that I actually get asked fairly often is, do I feel “some type of way” that I do so much work in the realm of marriage when I’ve never been married myself. The short answer is “absolutely not” because I know that I could’ve been married, a few times over, at this point; however, I am just as intentional about not wanting to be divorced as I am about being in a healthy marriage, not just “a marriage.”
I’m grateful to be in that head and heart space too; otherwise, I would be out here comparing myself to other people — and there is nothing good, healthy, wise, profitable, or beneficial about doing that. In fact, science isn’t a fan of playing the “keeping up with the Joneses” game, either.
According to science, that can ultimately do things like lower your self-esteem, cause you to only see the bad/negative things in your world (in comparison to other people), and it can jack up your perception of what’s really going on with other people. For instance, if you’re 33 and comparing yourself to your friends who are already married and parents, you might want to talk to them about what their day-to-day, beyond their IG posts, is like.
Because while prayerfully, their life is filled with many blessings, if they are being totally honest with you, they will also share that you’ve got some “pros” to your life too (honey, there are some real benefits to being single; check out “If You're Not In Love With Being Single, Ask Yourself These 6 Questions.,” “10 Bona Fide Benefits Of Being Single,” and “10 Words That'll Make You Totally Rethink The Word 'Single'”). Content people get that every season does — because it’s true.
6. You Don’t Verbalize Gratitude Often
GiphyThere is someone in my world who I actually try to avoid as much as possible. It’s not that she’s not smart, and honestly, she’s one of the funniest individuals that I’ve ever known (and I’ve known her for most of my adult life). It’s just that…she is always wanting something, and I find that to make her a very draining individual. Lawd, even as I am typing all of this out, I’m trying to recall a time when I’ve heard her say, “thank you” for something (no joke), let alone express any form of genuine gratitude. She’s just got such a sense of entitlement that whatever she does receive, she thinks she’s owed and what she doesn’t have, she believes that something is wrong if it hasn’t arrived yet. Geeze, what a horrible type of existence.
You don’t have to take my word for it either because there is plenty of data out here to support that people who don’t take the time to be grateful for what they have ended up being unhappy, more stressed out, in more physical pain (yes, literally) and definitely more negative than everyone else — which would explain why people don’t like hanging out with them as much.
So, since this is the time when gratitude is the theme of the season, think about what you are grateful for when it comes to what you’ve accomplished this year, then write it down and post it up somewhere. Then, as far as the individuals, for whom you are grateful for — send them a handwritten note, get them a gift card to their favorite coffee shop, or even just call to tell them.
One of the most beautiful things about being in a state of contentment is it reminds you of a lot of what you already have. It really is enough…for now…in this very moment.
7. Being (and Living) Satisfied Is a Foreign Concept to You
Giphy“Tubi movies” really is a complete sentence. LOL. And yes, sometimes, when I’m taking a writing break, I will check out some of the most…I-wouldn’t-normally ones, just to lend my support. In walks Never Satisfied with its own self-explanatory meaning. Y’all, it really is oh so true that there are folks out here dealing with some unpredictable and sometimes even truly dire consequences — and it’s all because they didn’t know how to sit down somewhere and learn how to be satisfied with the people, places, things, and ideas that they already have.
That said, I am indeed a quotes gal, and one of my favorites on the topic of satisfaction is by actor Christopher Reeve: “Success is finding satisfaction in giving a little more than you take,” and although I don’t do what I’m about to do often (because I try to take Matthew 6:1-4 very literally and seriously), I’m going to illustrate what he said about satisfaction by sharing a recent situation.
This past week, a nurse practitioner (I prefer those to doctors) diagnosed me with wrist tendonitis for the first time in my life. If you knew how many keystrokes that I do a day, you’d probably be shocked that it took this long. Anyway, as I was waiting in line to get a prescription, a young Black man was basically freaking out because his insurance was refusing to cover his own meds. According to what he was telling the pharmacist, he always only pays $5; however, this time, they were charging $62, he simply didn’t have it, and the insurance company was not picking up.
As I watched him shaking and sweating while saying that he really needed it today and fretting while talking to his mom on the phone, I offered to cover it — and after going back and forth with him for about three minutes, I did. In my mind, although I didn’t plan on spending about $85 (total) that day, the little inconvenience that it was costing me was nothing in comparison to how much it was going to benefit him — I could tell from how he and his mother reacted (even the pharmacist mouthed “thank you so much”), and that is what made it money well spent.
To help someone who had no way of helping themselves in the moment? That brought me a lot of satisfaction because it’s nice to lighten someone’s load while leaving it to karma to handle it. ALL OF IT.
And that’s why I thought it was best to wrap all of this up with a reminder that being satisfied is being content. And when you can be so satisfied with your life that you want to help others? That is a level of contentment that is truly unmatched because you start looking for ways to bless others simply so that they can feel just as content as you do.
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Our culture? It really is never satisfied, which explains why a lot of people are so miserable. SMDH. You don’t have to be like the masses, though. This Thanksgiving, please purpose in your mind (and heart) to be(come) more content. It will make you a rare gem that benefits everyone and everything around you.
Including yourself, sis. No doubt about it.
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Originally published on November 28, 2024