
November 5 taught us a lot. November 6 started the beginning of a social media cleanse of all the creators whose values don’t necessarily align with mine. Because we can’t just "agree to disagree" when it comes to my human and civil rights.
Social media gets a bad rap sometimes, but let's be real – it's a game-changer for social justice. We've seen how it can give a voice to those who've been silenced, bring communities together, and push for real change. It's on us to use this power responsibly. By sharing info, raising awareness, and speaking up for what we believe in, we can help build a fairer world.
Whether it's supporting movements like Black Lives Matter, fighting for LGBTQ+ rights, or pushing for a greener planet, social media lets us connect, learn, and inspire action.
But remember, posting and retweeting is just the start. Real change happens when we get involved offline, think critically, and challenge the status quo. We need to go beyond just "looking" like we care and put in the work to fix the root of the problems.
In the wake of that cheeto being elected again, we found out about some of the popular TikTokers and their support of him. But like my girl Eni said, “A lot of you would not be as disappointed in your favorite influencers right now if you made more Black women your favorite influencers.”
@theasiafrances If youre on black tiktok younwould know that theires nothing new on the other side ! Creators: theemillennialmanager, jaydanotpinkettsmith, _simplystephh #ladyinthebathroom #blacktiktok
From The Lady in The Bathroom to Nara Smith, there were some surprises on the MAGA front. It also reminds me of my idea to have non-Black folks request access to our culture before appropriating it. No need to dance to GloRilla in your bathroom if you ain’t Black or don’t have a permission slip signed by us.
Now, I am thankful I didn’t have to cleanse my feed too much because I support Black women in all ways, always. In case you needed some help finding Black Girl Magic on TikTok, ahead, find some of our faves.
@EniGivenSunday
@enigivensunday Its the dress
Eni is a vibrant creator based in NYC who transitioned from a career in law to self-employment, using her platform to share a mix of lifestyle, humor, and travel content. Her videos often provide thoughtful commentary on life experiences, such as navigating solo travel as a Black woman, finding joy in new beginnings, and embracing change. Eni also offers engaging daily vlogs, travel diaries, and beauty content, blending authenticity with a touch of wit. She’s celebrated for her ability to connect with her audience through relatable insights and an inspiring journey of self-discovery.
@JazTurner16
@jazturner16 cause i loveee to smell delicioussss
Jaz Turner embodies empowerment and individuality through her content. From bold fashion statements to uplifting messages, Jaz inspires her audience to embrace their personal style and inner strength. Her creative videos highlight her vibrant personality and passion for self-expression, making her a standout voice in the fashion and lifestyle space.
@Kristy.Sarah
@kristy.sarah his personal alarm clock
Kristy Sarah is one-half of the hilarious and viral couple behind @kristy.sarah. Known for their playful pranks, relationship skits, and family-centered content, Kristy and her husband provide endless laughs. Beyond humor, Kristy also shares snippets of their daily life, parenting moments, and relationship advice, making her a must-follow for comedy and lifestyle enthusiasts.
@JeneeNaylor
@jeneenaylor Airport Fit
Jenee is a TikTok creator celebrated for her expertise in style and beauty. She shares content ranging from outfit inspiration, seasonal fashion guides, and beauty tips to behind-the-scenes glimpses of her partnerships with brands like Victoria’s Secret and Bobbi Brown. As a style expert, she curates eclectic looks that balance sophistication and fun, offering tips for everything from everyday outfits to holiday-themed ensembles. Her videos often showcase her vibrant personality, making her content relatable and aspirational for her followers.
@JaylaBrenae5
@jaylabrenae5 They are now fully as invested as us and want to go visit the new build every day too😭💕 #customhome #homebuilding #homebuild #ourhenryhome #thehenryresidence
Jayla Henry is a rising star in the lifestyle space on TikTok. Based in Dallas, Texas, known for her engaging lifestyle content and heartfelt storytelling. Her platform serves as a video diary where she shares relatable moments from her life as a mom, her family milestones, and everyday experiences. She often highlights her journey with her son, showcasing tender moments that resonate with her audience, such as celebrating his milestones and navigating the joys and challenges of motherhood. You’ll quickly fall in love with her husband Tony and two kiddos, Nyla B and Braylon.
@EaseWithAlex
@easewithalex Visit TikTok to discover videos!
Alex Elle is a wellness and self-care advocate who uses her platform to promote healing and personal growth. As a celebrated writer and poet, her content is a mix of affirmations, introspective talks, and mental health tips. Alex's soothing voice and thoughtful insights provide a safe space for followers looking to engage in mindfulness and self-love practices.
@JaydaPickettNotSmith
@jaydanotpinkettsmith MUSTAAAAARRRRRD #kendricklamar #djmustard #jaydanotpinkettsmith #bigjayda❤️🔥 #blacktiktok #blackfyp #fypシ #fyp #newmusicfriday #newmusic #hiphop #calitiktok
Jayda Pickett Not Smith has always been the only lady in the bathroom that matters. I can’t tell you the number of times she’s put me on to a trending sound. Also known as Big Jayda, she is a Chicago-based TikTok creator who captivates her audience with nostalgic content and her love for music. Her videos often feature throwbacks to early 2000s R&B and hip-hop, creative mashups, and relatable commentary about life as a music enthusiast.
Known for her vibrant personality, she blends humor and music appreciation, showcasing her deep connection to cultural moments from past decades. Jayda's content often sparks feelings of nostalgia while highlighting her sharp wit and engaging storytelling style.
@Meccavelli
@meccavellii #greenscreen
Meccavelli is a standout creator known for her raw and honest takes on social issues, culture, and life as a Black woman. She seamlessly blends humor with deep discussions, creating a space where her followers feel seen and heard. Meccavelli's charismatic delivery and thought-provoking content make her a must-follow for those who enjoy smart, impactful commentary.
@QuenBlackwell
@quenblackwell @Duke Dennis
Quen Blackwell, often referred to as Quen, is a comedic powerhouse with a larger-than-life personality. Her content ranges from hilarious rants and absurd skits to candid talks about mental health and self-acceptance. Quen's unpredictable humor and relatability have made her one of TikTok's most beloved and unique voices.
@JackieAina
@jackieaina Black women you are doing amazing with what you can and what you have 😘🫶🏾 #blackwomentiktok #blackwomenluxury
Jackie Aina is a beauty industry icon known for her makeup tutorials, product reviews, and strong advocacy for inclusivity. On TikTok, she brings her expertise in beauty along with a dose of her signature humor and sass. Jackie’s candid takes on beauty trends, skincare, and fashion make her a go-to for anyone seeking honest advice and a good laugh. Not to mention, her cleaning videos scratch the brain in the most appropriate way.
@ShariDyonne
@sharidyonne Had to get in my self care bag real quiicckkk #selfcare #naturalhair
Shari is a versatile TikTok creator specializing in food, lifestyle, and travel content. She shares recipes, food reviews, and her experiences exploring unique culinary delights, often adding a touch of humor and authenticity. Shari also highlights moments from her daily life, such as house hunting, interior decorating, and trips to destinations like Jamaica, blending personal stories with aspirational content. Her vibrant personality and relatable approach have garnered her a loyal following, with her platform serving as a source of inspiration for embracing life’s adventures.
@AllyiahsFace
@allyiahsface My natural hair is loving this glow out using @Kérastase Elixir ultime! #KerastasePartner Look at how bouncy and shiny! I’m in love #KerastaseGlowOut Available @sephora
This OG YouTuber is the ultimate destination for beauty and lifestyle inspiration. Known for her polished aesthetic and relatable personality, Allyiah delivers makeup tutorials, skincare tips, and glimpses into her glamorous yet approachable life. Her content exudes confidence and elegance, making her a go-to creator for anyone looking to elevate their everyday routine. Whether it’s a candid GRWM or an in-depth beauty haul, Allyiah keeps her audience hooked with her vibrant energy and expert recommendations.
@SerenaPagee
@serenapagee this was supposed to be a cute video..😂😂😂
If you’re not a Serena Page fan, now’s the time. The Love Island USA winner blends humor, authenticity, and relatability in her content, making her an instant favorite. Her witty takes on everyday situations and laugh-out-loud storytelling resonate with audiences looking for a good chuckle and a dose of realness. Serena’s ability to turn the mundane into something hilarious is unmatched, and her charismatic personality keeps followers coming back for more. Not to mention, we love every moment she shares with PPG and Kordell.
@KennedyandKeyonce
@kennedyandkeyonce Yes I need a steamer but more importantly…which purse should I wear?
Kennedy absolutely captivates TikTok with their infectious personality and authentic content. From hilarious skits to relatable hair moments, she brings joy and laughter to her audience. Kennedy’s posts often explore relatable scenarios with a comedic twist, making her videos enjoyable and widely relatable. Additionally, she uses TikTok LIVE to connect with her audience in real-time, fostering an interactive and personal connection.
@TaylorAnise
@tayloranise not as flat, but so much easier 😅 #naturalhairtiktok #naturalhairtips
Taylor Anise is a beauty and skincare enthusiast who shares expert tips with her audience in an approachable and engaging way. Her tutorials, product reviews, and self-care routines exude elegance and practicality. Taylor’s passion for helping her followers look and feel their best shines through in her thoughtful and informative content. Whether it’s a twist-out tutorial or a review on scalp oils, we trust Taylor.
@Lexssentials
@lexssentials My current fixation meal: lamb with fries + caesar salad 🤍 #cookwithme #cookingvlog #minivlog #comfortmeals #foodcravings #easyrecipe
Lex’s page is a hub for all things wellness, self-care, and minimalism. Lex's content offers calming energy, thoughtful tips, and easy-to-follow hacks for improving your daily life. Her focus on intentional living and nurturing both mind and body resonates with followers seeking balance and inspiration. She makes us want to get in our baking bag every Sunday.
@Aniyahmorinia
@aniyahmorinia the long awaited slick back bun tutorial! 🫡 #slickbackbun #slickback #blackgirlhairstyles #blackgirlhairtutorial
Aniyah brings nothing but joy and vibrance to TikTok through her lively and relatable content. Whether she’s sharing candid moments, creative skits, or motivational messages, Aniyah’s energy is so good. Her ability to connect with her audience through humor and positivity makes her a standout creator in the lifestyle space. Aniyah’s perspective as a 20-something living in NYC gives us a little Sex and The City.
@ElTheEgg
@eltheegg It’s giving MAKEUP ARTIST! Don’t let your mind trick you into not doing things that were meant for you! I applied to Sephora Squad so lots more makeup looks coming!! #blackgirlmakeup #selfportrait #sephorasquad #avantgarde
The recent law school grad serves up comedy and charm in spades, turning everyday observations into hilarious moments. With her unique sense of humor and sharp wit, El creates content that’s both entertaining and endlessly relatable. Her playful personality and knack for storytelling make her videos a must-watch. She also created a list of her favorite Black creators in appreciation for Eni’s TikTok.
@MakaylaMashell
@makaylamashelle Replying to @ollyisfried contour placement to lift and snatch your face✨ - this is just where I place my cream contour and bronzer but the rest of my makeup really finishes everything 💕
Self-proclaimed girly girl Makayla Mashell is a versatile creator who showcases beauty in her engaging content. Her storytelling skills and warm personality make every video feel like a conversation with a close friend. From relatable anecdotes to stunning beauty tips, Makayla keeps her audience entertained and inspired. Need to know more about big hair or contour placement? Makayla has got you covered.
@RuesWorldd
@ruesworldd Oh just a girl and her camera// jacket from @SUPA888 #fyp #foryou
Rue's TikTok account is a must-follow for fashion enthusiasts. Her unique ability to blend classic and contemporary styles, along with her engaging presentation and knowledge of fashion history, sets her apart in the crowded fashion space. She offers a refreshing take on fashion trends, providing inspiration and styling tips while showcasing her impeccable taste and creative flair. Her content is not only visually appealing but also informative and entertaining, making her a true fashion innovator and a valuable resource for anyone seeking to elevate their style.
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Your October 2025 Monthly Horoscopes Are All About Magnetic Love & Divine Timing
October is about the power of attraction. This is the month to set your intentions, create space for a new beginning, and find your balance between the past, present, and future. There aren’t many astrological transits this month, signaling more possibilities in the air and an opportunity to create that which you desire.
We begin the month in Libra Season, and Libra Season is always the time of year when love is the highlight. With Juno also entering Sagittarius on October 1, right as we begin the month, it’s about committing yourself to a new adventure, to the gifts of love, and to perspectives that heal and bring you closer to another.
October 2025 Astrology: An Overview
Mercury enters Scorpio on October 6, and Mercury in Scorpio only knows depth. The conversations being had this month are inspiring, transformative, and a little more blunt than usual. This energy is good for the power of persuasion and for asking for what you want, especially within business and financial matters. On the same day, we have a Supermoon in Aries, and this is a powerful Full Moon for reflection, owning your power, and letting go of the insecurities that don’t resonate with what you want for yourself and your future.
Venus, the planet of love, moves into Libra on October 13 after being in Virgo for the past month, and after some time of healing and clarity in love, Libra is here to bring in the romance. Venus loves being in Libra, and this energy creates new beginnings within relationships and provides a little extra magic in this area of life. With Pluto going direct in Aquarius on the same day after being retrograde since May, life and love move forward mid-October, helping provide more stable and nurturing foundations in your personal life and community as well.
The New Moon of the month occurs in Libra on October 21, making it a beautiful time for manifesting romance, balance, and harmony in your world.
This New Moon aligns with the Sun in Libra, and it’s all about letting a new beginning transform your world and the love in your life for the better. Scorpio Season officially begins on October 22, and Neptune retrograde enters Pisces on the same day, bringing in some water sign energy into the mix. As we close out the month, it’s time to renew, honor the transformations occurring, and know that your dreams aren’t as far out of reach as they may seem at times.
Read for your sun and rising sign below to see what October 2025 has in store for you.
What October 2025 Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
ARIES
AriesKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is all about perspective, Aries. This is the month to trust the divine timing of your life, and not let the what-ifs overwhelm you. With the Sun in Libra, your sister sign, for most of the month, October is about building connections, finding your balance in love, and knowing that you are worthy of what your heart is seeking right now. We have a Supermoon in your sign on October 6, and emotions are a little heavier this month, but also healing. Give yourself grace, and let go of what isn’t working for you.
Venus is in your house of love from October 13 until November 6, and there is a lot to look forward to when it comes to romance and the relationship dynamics in your life as you move through the month. It’s about being confident in your power of attraction and letting love come to you right now. Before October comes to an end, we have a New Moon in your 7th house of love as well, and with all this energy in your relationship zone, life changes for you in love for the better in October.
TAURUS
TaurusKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is a spiritual month for you, Taurus. You are thinking a lot about your next steps ahead, and are getting organized, focused, and aligned. The Supermoon on October 6 is a time of reflection for you, and you are entering the month ready to let go of the past, heal, and create space for something new in your life. This month is all about trusting your intuition and letting your wisdom guide you in your personal growth and evolution.
You are more than where you have been, and this month is a reminder of that.
With Mars in Scorpio and in your 7th house of love all month, you are motivated by the partnerships in your life right now. Your love life and relationships are where the action is for you this month, and you are honoring your passion and direction here. Venus, your planetary ruler, moves into your house of health mid-month and into November, and you are leaving October seeking healthier habits, daily routines, and relationships. Overall, this month is helping you align with your vision.
GEMINI
GeminiKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is a fresh start for you, Gemini. Your heart is free, love is beaming, and you are feeling larger than life. This month is about taking a leap of faith in yourself, honoring your confidence in life, and being your biggest advocate. With the Sun in your 5th house of self-expression, romance, and happiness, and with Venus entering this same area of your chart mid-October, there is a lot to look forward to right now, and things are looking up for you.
On October 21, we have a New Moon in a fellow air sign, and this is a good time to set your intentions for creative projects, hobbies, romance, and your overall happiness in life. There are a lot of little moments of magic unfolding for you this month, and this New Moon is one of them. Before October comes to an end, Mercury, your ruling planet, enters Sagittarius, and this brings open communication into your relationships, and you are having lively conversations and insights.
CANCER
CancerKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis is a transformative month for you, Cancer. You are moving through closure, healing, and depth as you navigate the opportunities that are coming into your life, with the stability you are seeking. With the Sun in your 4th house of home and family in October, this is the month to spend more time in your safe spaces, connect with your loved ones, and get grounded. You are also more focused on your financial world right now, and this is a good time for building new foundations for yourself and looking at the bigger picture when it comes to your career and life goals.
Mars is in your house of romance and happiness for the entire month, and this is one of the highlights of your life right now. You are passionate about your joy and all the things that light you up inside, and you are protecting your peace and giving more of your energy to your pleasure. Before the month ends, we have a New Moon in Libra, highlighting your home life, and some Cancers may be moving at the end of the month or getting the opportunity to turn a page here. Overall, this is your month to reflect, go within, and make sense of what has been restricting you from feeling stable.
LEO
LeoKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about taking things one day at a time and being patient with what is presenting itself to you, Leo. This month, you are getting your ducks in a row and gaining the clarity needed to create a new beginning in your life. The month begins with a Supermoon in a fellow fire sign on October 6, aligning in harmony with you and fueling your need for adventure. You are going over the wisdom you have gained as of late and how it has shifted the way you navigate your life and see the world around you.
On October 13, Pluto goes direct in your 7th house of love, after being retrograde here since May. This is bringing in more balance, empowerment, and passion into your love life, and this is a positive change of energy for you after a time of some power struggles within your relationships. Before the month comes to an end, we have a New Moon in Libra, and this New Moon is the best time to set intentions for clarity, communication, and connection. October is about taking your time with things and knowing that everything is working out in your favor at the end of the day.
VIRGO
VirgoKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis October is about finding your balance, Virgo. There is a lot of energy when it comes to your finances this month, but you may be overworking or overcommitting yourself in the process. Honor the opportunities and responsibilities in your life, but make sure you are equally taking care of your health and prioritizing your time and energy so that you don’t burn out. Venus, the planet of love, is in your sign until October 13; use this energy to your benefit and let things come to you.
You are a magnet for abundance, romance, and support if you allow yourself to receive it.
On October 13, Venus moves into your 2nd house of income, and your relationships are a supportive place for you to lean on right now. Your love life and partnerships are where your financial world is evolving this month, and this is a good time to ask for what you want; you never know what may happen. At the end of the month, Neptune goes retrograde in your sister sign, Pisces, and you are taking a step back and reassessing what love means for you right now. Overall, October is about remembering that you don’t have to do it all alone, Virgo.
LIBRA
LibraKyra Jay for xoNecoleLibra Season is here, and it’s your time to shine and thrive! This Libra Season changes everything for you, and October is when you really begin to feel this shift in your life. The Sun is in your sign until October 22, and it’s time to put yourself first. With a Supermoon in Aries as we begin the month as well, you are letting go of any unhealthy attachments or relationship dynamics that take you away from yourself, and are moving into deeper clarity.
On October 13, Venus, your planetary ruler, enters your sign, where it loves to be the most. With Venus in your sign for the rest of the month, love takes on a new tone, and you are feeling more love for yourself and where life is taking you right now. To end the month, we have a New Moon in Libra, and it’s time to set your intentions for where you want life to grow for you over the next year. This is a month of embarking on a new journey of self, and allowing what is inspiring you right now to build your confidence in yourself and your relationships.
SCORPIO
ScorpioKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about honoring your freedom and your power to decide, Scorpio. A lot is going on for you this month, and you have the passion and energy to see things through. Mercury, the planet of communication, moves into your sign at the beginning of the month on October 6, and this is going to help you get your ideas across, making it a good month for business matters, networking, and getting inspired. With Mars also in your sign for the entire month, life moves forward for you in transformative ways in October, and you are a force to be reckoned with.
On October 13, Venus moves into your house of closure, healing, and endings, and you are ready to close one chapter of love and create space for a new one. You are in a contemplative space when it comes to matters of the heart, and you are ready to let go of any heaviness you have been feeling here. Scorpio Season officially begins on October 22, and you are ready to begin again. This Scorpio Season is about owning your confidence in life while letting go of insecurities or self-doubts that have been getting in the way of that.
SAGITTARIUS
SagittariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleEverything unfolds for you in a beautiful way this month, Sagittarius. You are flowing well with the energy of October, and life opens up to you. With the Sun in your 11th house of aspirations, dreams, manifestations, and community, you are feeling in balance with your desires and your reality, and are bridging the gap here. This is a month of friendship, believing in your dreams, and creating space for love. With Juno also entering your sign at the beginning of the month until the end of the year, you are attracting soulmates into your life.
On October 6, we have a Supermoon in a fellow fire sign, allowing you some closure in love and a chance at healing. Your heart is feeling renewed, and you are owning your power in creating happiness in your life. Before the month ends, Mercury moves into Sagittarius, where it will be until mid-November, and inspiration is heightened. Pay attention to the guidance you are receiving this month, the conversations you are having, and the light bulb moments that are going off for you right now.
CAPRICORN
CapricornKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about going within and connecting with the guidance of your soul, Capricorn. You are taking more time for yourself this month, and rightly so, as you need time to fully process what has happened so far this year. Pluto goes direct in your 2nd house of income, and this moves things forward when it comes to your earning potential, abundance, and values.
The key this month is in valuing yourself, your perspective, and what you are building in your life right now.
On October 21, we have a New Moon happening in your career zone, and this is a good time to manifest your goals within your professional world. Put yourself out there, show up, and know that you are worthy of success and that your dreams aren’t too big for you. As we close out the month, Mercury moves into your house of closure, even further facilitating your desire for contemplation and alone time this month. Overall, October is about taking care of your mental health, owning your successes, and finding your peace.
AQUARIUS
AquariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is a new beginning for you in love and in life, Aquarius. Your heart is feeling inspired, and there is a lot to look forward to right now. The Supermoon at the beginning of the month will be occurring in your 3rd house of communication, giving you the answers you have been looking for and helping you close the door on a chapter in your life that left you feeling misunderstood or misdirected. You are ready for a change of pace this month, and you are receiving that as we begin October.
Mid-October, Pluto goes direct in your sign after being retrograde since May, and this is a huge breath of fresh air for you and your path ahead. You may have been a little harder on yourself while Pluto was retrograde this year, and now you feel ready to forgive, move on, and own your power. Before the month comes to an end, we have a New Moon in Libra, and you are embarking on a new adventure. The end of the month is a good time for traveling, exploring, and gaining a new perspective.
PISCES
PiscesKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is giving you the guidance, perspective, and passion to see yourself with clear, loving eyes, Pisces. There is a sense of feeling more overwhelmed with life lately, and October is allowing you to gain the insight needed to move on from this energy, or at least see more of the gifts of what has occurred. On October 6, we have a Supermoon in an area of your chart having to do with self-worth, values, and income, and it’s time to see the gifts of what you have been investing in and valuing in your life, including yourself.
Let go of the need to play it small or count yourself out of important conversations, and know that you deserve a seat at the table.
With Pluto going direct in your 12th house of healing as we end the month, you are finally getting the answers you have been looking for emotionally, and it’s changing your perspective on your commitments in life and making you feel empowered. Before the month ends, Neptune goes retrograde in Pisces, and you are going to be moving through a personal revolution as we close out the year. You are inspired by change right now, and this month is what kicks starts this metamorphosis within you.
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It’s Silk Press Season—Here’s How To Keep Yours Sleek & Healthy
The leaves are turning. The temperatures are dropping. And you know what that means: it's silk press szn.
Getting a silk press is a treat for me. I especially enjoy how a silk press trim shapes my natural curls and makes them pop. So when I was invited to The Purple Door Salon in Atlanta (which is stunning, btw) for a silk press with master stylist and Mizani artist and educator Todd Edwards, of course, I said yes.
My hair was fresh out of braids, so my natural hair desperately needed a little TLC (and gray coverage).
Most of us have experienced a silk press or, as it was known when we were growing up: a press and curl. But the process looks a little different with natural hair because without the proper steps, you'll walk outside, and your hair will say absolutely not.
So, I want to take you through my appointment and share the tips and tricks I learned.
Expert Tips for a Flawless Silk Press
First: Detangle
Detangling from root to ends is essential before your hair meets with shampoo and H2O. And this is especially important after removing braids, or you run the risk of product and hair buildup tangling and, subsequently, causing hair loss and damage.
Edwards ran his fingers through my hair as if it wasn't a tangly mess. That's how I knew I was in good hands. He ran his fingers from the root to the ends of my hair, detangling it section by section. If finger detangling isn't your preferred method, a wide-tooth comb or Felicia Leatherwood Brush makes excellent detangling tools.
Shampoo and Condition
Now it was time for my favorite part: the shampoo. As we were shampooing, I asked if the type of shampoo and conditioner makes a difference when preparing the hair for a silk press. And the answer is yes.
"They are very important because you always want to use a shampoo and conditioner that will aid the final look or style that you're trying to achieve," Edwards tells xoNecole.
In your shampoo, you want to look for a sulfate-free option that clarifies without stripping the natural oils from your scalp that also combats frizz in preparation for thermal styling. And after a good cleanse, of course, conditioning is a must. Look for vitamin E and omega fatty acid-rich oils like argan, avocado, and jojoba-infused options.
Mizani Press Agent Smoothing Sulfate-Free Shampoo, $22

Courtesy of Bianca Lambert
The Blow Dry
Now that my hair was cleansed, and conditioned, and my grays were covered, Edwards detangled and sectioned my hair into four quadrants. Next, he went section by section, applying a leave-in conditioner and following up with a blow-dry cream. If you're ever tempted to skip your leave-in and a product to protect your hair from heat damage, don't. Here's why.
“A leave-in is the foundation to any style you are trying to achieve or create," Edwards shares. This is largely because a leave-in adds and seals in moisture, gives the hair slip for detangling and helps protect it when heat styling. Mizani's Miracle Milk Heat Protectant Leave-In Conditioner is among his favorites because it's a multitasker acting as a leave-in and heat protectant. And it's a product I never complete a wash day without because it keeps my hair nourished for days. And if my natural curls need a moisture pick-me-up, I spray a little on in the shower midweek.
In addition, he adds, "Serums and creams are essential because they protect your hair from damage caused by the heat throughout the whole silk press process from beginning to end. [And], the creams and serums will also aid in retaining moisture and sealing the cuticle." After the leave-in and blow-dry cream was layered into my curls, Edwards used a paddle brush with a blow dryer to smooth my hair from root to tip.
Mizani's Miracle Milk Heat Protectant Leave-In Conditioner, $38

Courtesy of Bianca Lambert
The Press and Wave
I was always in a rush when I flat ironed my hair at home—flat ironing my thick hair in large chunks. One thing I noticed was how tiny the sections of hair were as Edwards moved the flat iron slowly down the lengths of my hair. After each strand of my hair was silky to the touch, it was time for a trim. A piece of the process I recommend leaving to the experts.
And after that was complete, I asked for a bump. Edwards told me no (haha!). He refused to send me out like a '90s baby with a bump that looked more like a James Brown do. Instead, he gave me loose waves that I shook like I was in the star of my own hair commercial.

Courtesy of Bianca Lambert
Post-Silk Press Maintenance
After your silk press, there are a couple of things Edwards recommends. First things first, wrap those strands. "[Wrapping the hair at night] helps you maintain the style and moisture in your hair from root to end." He also suggests investing in a silk bonnet, head wrap, or silk pillowcase. I use both a silk bonnet and pillowcase because we all know our bonnets like to slip off in the middle of the night and go to the fridge for a drink of water.

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Lastly, Edwards emphasizes: "Put the flat iron down." He means if you get tempted to re-lay the silkiness with more heat, don’t do it. One thing I've learned to accept with silk pressing and natural hair is gaining volume post-flat iron is just the name of the game. But, Edwards says, alternatives like silk rollers, flexi rods, or of course, wrapping your hair can help maintain your style sans adding any extra heat.
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Featured image by Bianca Lambert
Originally published on October 18, 2022









