

November 5 taught us a lot. November 6 started the beginning of a social media cleanse of all the creators whose values don’t necessarily align with mine. Because we can’t just "agree to disagree" when it comes to my human and civil rights.
Social media gets a bad rap sometimes, but let's be real – it's a game-changer for social justice. We've seen how it can give a voice to those who've been silenced, bring communities together, and push for real change. It's on us to use this power responsibly. By sharing info, raising awareness, and speaking up for what we believe in, we can help build a fairer world.
Whether it's supporting movements like Black Lives Matter, fighting for LGBTQ+ rights, or pushing for a greener planet, social media lets us connect, learn, and inspire action.
But remember, posting and retweeting is just the start. Real change happens when we get involved offline, think critically, and challenge the status quo. We need to go beyond just "looking" like we care and put in the work to fix the root of the problems.
In the wake of that cheeto being elected again, we found out about some of the popular TikTokers and their support of him. But like my girl Eni said, “A lot of you would not be as disappointed in your favorite influencers right now if you made more Black women your favorite influencers.”
@theasiafrances If youre on black tiktok younwould know that theires nothing new on the other side ! Creators: theemillennialmanager, jaydanotpinkettsmith, _simplystephh #ladyinthebathroom #blacktiktok
From The Lady in The Bathroom to Nara Smith, there were some surprises on the MAGA front. It also reminds me of my idea to have non-Black folks request access to our culture before appropriating it. No need to dance to GloRilla in your bathroom if you ain’t Black or don’t have a permission slip signed by us.
Now, I am thankful I didn’t have to cleanse my feed too much because I support Black women in all ways, always. In case you needed some help finding Black Girl Magic on TikTok, ahead, find some of our faves.
@EniGivenSunday
@enigivensunday Its the dress
Eni is a vibrant creator based in NYC who transitioned from a career in law to self-employment, using her platform to share a mix of lifestyle, humor, and travel content. Her videos often provide thoughtful commentary on life experiences, such as navigating solo travel as a Black woman, finding joy in new beginnings, and embracing change. Eni also offers engaging daily vlogs, travel diaries, and beauty content, blending authenticity with a touch of wit. She’s celebrated for her ability to connect with her audience through relatable insights and an inspiring journey of self-discovery.
@JazTurner16
@jazturner16 cause i loveee to smell delicioussss
Jaz Turner embodies empowerment and individuality through her content. From bold fashion statements to uplifting messages, Jaz inspires her audience to embrace their personal style and inner strength. Her creative videos highlight her vibrant personality and passion for self-expression, making her a standout voice in the fashion and lifestyle space.
@Kristy.Sarah
@kristy.sarah his personal alarm clock
Kristy Sarah is one-half of the hilarious and viral couple behind @kristy.sarah. Known for their playful pranks, relationship skits, and family-centered content, Kristy and her husband provide endless laughs. Beyond humor, Kristy also shares snippets of their daily life, parenting moments, and relationship advice, making her a must-follow for comedy and lifestyle enthusiasts.
@JeneeNaylor
@jeneenaylor Airport Fit
Jenee is a TikTok creator celebrated for her expertise in style and beauty. She shares content ranging from outfit inspiration, seasonal fashion guides, and beauty tips to behind-the-scenes glimpses of her partnerships with brands like Victoria’s Secret and Bobbi Brown. As a style expert, she curates eclectic looks that balance sophistication and fun, offering tips for everything from everyday outfits to holiday-themed ensembles. Her videos often showcase her vibrant personality, making her content relatable and aspirational for her followers.
@JaylaBrenae5
@jaylabrenae5 They are now fully as invested as us and want to go visit the new build every day too😭💕 #customhome #homebuilding #homebuild #ourhenryhome #thehenryresidence
Jayla Henry is a rising star in the lifestyle space on TikTok. Based in Dallas, Texas, known for her engaging lifestyle content and heartfelt storytelling. Her platform serves as a video diary where she shares relatable moments from her life as a mom, her family milestones, and everyday experiences. She often highlights her journey with her son, showcasing tender moments that resonate with her audience, such as celebrating his milestones and navigating the joys and challenges of motherhood. You’ll quickly fall in love with her husband Tony and two kiddos, Nyla B and Braylon.
@EaseWithAlex
@easewithalex #GentleReminder: You are not doing too much. #NotetoSelf #fypツ #relationships #mid30s #healingjourney
Alex Elle is a wellness and self-care advocate who uses her platform to promote healing and personal growth. As a celebrated writer and poet, her content is a mix of affirmations, introspective talks, and mental health tips. Alex's soothing voice and thoughtful insights provide a safe space for followers looking to engage in mindfulness and self-love practices.
@JaydaPickettNotSmith
@jaydanotpinkettsmith MUSTAAAAARRRRRD #kendricklamar #djmustard #jaydanotpinkettsmith #bigjayda❤️🔥 #blacktiktok #blackfyp #fypシ #fyp #newmusicfriday #newmusic #hiphop #calitiktok
Jayda Pickett Not Smith has always been the only lady in the bathroom that matters. I can’t tell you the number of times she’s put me on to a trending sound. Also known as Big Jayda, she is a Chicago-based TikTok creator who captivates her audience with nostalgic content and her love for music. Her videos often feature throwbacks to early 2000s R&B and hip-hop, creative mashups, and relatable commentary about life as a music enthusiast.
Known for her vibrant personality, she blends humor and music appreciation, showcasing her deep connection to cultural moments from past decades. Jayda's content often sparks feelings of nostalgia while highlighting her sharp wit and engaging storytelling style.
@Meccavelli
@meccavellii #greenscreen
Meccavelli is a standout creator known for her raw and honest takes on social issues, culture, and life as a Black woman. She seamlessly blends humor with deep discussions, creating a space where her followers feel seen and heard. Meccavelli's charismatic delivery and thought-provoking content make her a must-follow for those who enjoy smart, impactful commentary.
@QuenBlackwell
@quenblackwell @Duke Dennis
Quen Blackwell, often referred to as Quen, is a comedic powerhouse with a larger-than-life personality. Her content ranges from hilarious rants and absurd skits to candid talks about mental health and self-acceptance. Quen's unpredictable humor and relatability have made her one of TikTok's most beloved and unique voices.
@JackieAina
@jackieaina Black women you are doing amazing with what you can and what you have 😘🫶🏾 #blackwomentiktok #blackwomenluxury
Jackie Aina is a beauty industry icon known for her makeup tutorials, product reviews, and strong advocacy for inclusivity. On TikTok, she brings her expertise in beauty along with a dose of her signature humor and sass. Jackie’s candid takes on beauty trends, skincare, and fashion make her a go-to for anyone seeking honest advice and a good laugh. Not to mention, her cleaning videos scratch the brain in the most appropriate way.
@ShariDyonne
@sharidyonne Had to get in my self care bag real quiicckkk #selfcare #naturalhair
Shari is a versatile TikTok creator specializing in food, lifestyle, and travel content. She shares recipes, food reviews, and her experiences exploring unique culinary delights, often adding a touch of humor and authenticity. Shari also highlights moments from her daily life, such as house hunting, interior decorating, and trips to destinations like Jamaica, blending personal stories with aspirational content. Her vibrant personality and relatable approach have garnered her a loyal following, with her platform serving as a source of inspiration for embracing life’s adventures.
@AllyiahsFace
@allyiahsface My natural hair is loving this glow out using @Kérastase Elixir ultime! #KerastasePartner Look at how bouncy and shiny! I’m in love #KerastaseGlowOut Available @sephora
This OG YouTuber is the ultimate destination for beauty and lifestyle inspiration. Known for her polished aesthetic and relatable personality, Allyiah delivers makeup tutorials, skincare tips, and glimpses into her glamorous yet approachable life. Her content exudes confidence and elegance, making her a go-to creator for anyone looking to elevate their everyday routine. Whether it’s a candid GRWM or an in-depth beauty haul, Allyiah keeps her audience hooked with her vibrant energy and expert recommendations.
@SerenaPagee
@serenapagee this was supposed to be a cute video..😂😂😂
If you’re not a Serena Page fan, now’s the time. TheLove Island USAwinner blends humor, authenticity, and relatability in her content, making her an instant favorite. Her witty takes on everyday situations and laugh-out-loud storytelling resonate with audiences looking for a good chuckle and a dose of realness. Serena’s ability to turn the mundane into something hilarious is unmatched, and her charismatic personality keeps followers coming back for more. Not to mention, we love every moment she shares with PPG and Kordell.
@KennedyandKeyonce
@kennedyandkeyonce Yes I need a steamer but more importantly…which purse should I wear?
Kennedy absolutely captivates TikTok with their infectious personality and authentic content. From hilarious skits to relatable hair moments, she brings joy and laughter to her audience. Kennedy’s posts often explore relatable scenarios with a comedic twist, making her videos enjoyable and widely relatable. Additionally, she uses TikTok LIVE to connect with her audience in real-time, fostering an interactive and personal connection.
@TaylorAnise
@tayloranise not as flat, but so much easier 😅 #naturalhairtiktok #naturalhairtips
Taylor Anise is a beauty and skincare enthusiast who shares expert tips with her audience in an approachable and engaging way. Her tutorials, product reviews, and self-care routines exude elegance and practicality. Taylor’s passion for helping her followers look and feel their best shines through in her thoughtful and informative content. Whether it’s a twist-out tutorial or a review on scalp oils, we trust Taylor.
@Lexssentials
@lexssentials My current fixation meal: lamb with fries + caesar salad 🤍 #cookwithme #cookingvlog #minivlog #comfortmeals #foodcravings #easyrecipe
Lex’s page is a hub for all things wellness, self-care, and minimalism. Lex's content offers calming energy, thoughtful tips, and easy-to-follow hacks for improving your daily life. Her focus on intentional living and nurturing both mind and body resonates with followers seeking balance and inspiration. She makes us want to get in our baking bag every Sunday.
@Aniyahmorinia
@aniyahmorinia the long awaited slick back bun tutorial! 🫡 #slickbackbun #slickback #blackgirlhairstyles #blackgirlhairtutorial
Aniyah brings nothing but joy and vibrance to TikTok through her lively and relatable content. Whether she’s sharing candid moments, creative skits, or motivational messages, Aniyah’s energy is so good. Her ability to connect with her audience through humor and positivity makes her a standout creator in the lifestyle space. Aniyah’s perspective as a 20-something living in NYC gives us a little Sex and The City.
@ElTheEgg
@eltheegg It’s giving MAKEUP ARTIST! Don’t let your mind trick you into not doing things that were meant for you! I applied to Sephora Squad so lots more makeup looks coming!! #blackgirlmakeup #selfportrait #sephorasquad #avantgarde
The recent law school grad serves up comedy and charm in spades, turning everyday observations into hilarious moments. With her unique sense of humor and sharp wit, El creates content that’s both entertaining and endlessly relatable. Her playful personality and knack for storytelling make her videos a must-watch. She also created a list of her favorite Black creators in appreciation for Eni’s TikTok.
@MakaylaMashell
@makaylamashelle Replying to @ollyisfried contour placement to lift and snatch your face✨ - this is just where I place my cream contour and bronzer but the rest of my makeup really finishes everything 💕
Self-proclaimed girly girl Makayla Mashell is a versatile creator who showcases beauty in her engaging content. Her storytelling skills and warm personality make every video feel like a conversation with a close friend. From relatable anecdotes to stunning beauty tips, Makayla keeps her audience entertained and inspired. Need to know more about big hair or contour placement? Makayla has got you covered.
@RuesWorldd
@ruesworldd Oh just a girl and her camera// jacket from @SUPA888 #fyp #foryou
Rue's TikTok account is a must-follow for fashion enthusiasts. Her unique ability to blend classic and contemporary styles, along with her engaging presentation and knowledge of fashion history, sets her apart in the crowded fashion space. She offers a refreshing take on fashion trends, providing inspiration and styling tips while showcasing her impeccable taste and creative flair. Her content is not only visually appealing but also informative and entertaining, making her a true fashion innovator and a valuable resource for anyone seeking to elevate their style.
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Joce Blake is a womanist who loves fashion, Beyonce and Hot Cheetos. The sophistiratchet enthusiast is based in Brooklyn, NY but has southern belle roots as she was born and raised in Memphis, TN. Keep up with her on Instagram @joce_blake and on Twitter @SaraJessicaBee.
Devale Ellis On Being A Provider, Marriage Growth & Redefining Fatherhood
In this candid episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Devale Ellis, actor, social media personality, and star of Zatima, about modern masculinity, learning to be a better husband, emotional presence in marriage, fatherhood for Black men, and leading by example.
“I Wasn’t Present Emotionally”: Devale Ellis on Marriage Growth
Devale Ellis On Learning He Was a ‘Bad Husband’
Ellis grew up believing that a man should prioritize providing for his family. “I know this may come off as misogynistic, but I feel like it’s my responsibility as a man to pay for everything,” he said, emphasizing the wise guidance passed down by his father. However, five years into his marriage to long-time partner Khadeen Ellis, he realized provision wasn’t just financial.
“I was a bad husband because I wasn’t present emotionally… I wasn’t concerned about what she needed outside of the resources.”
Once he shifted his mindset, his marriage improved. “In me trying to be of service to her, I learned that me being of service created a woman who is now willing to be of service to me.”
On Redefining Masculinity and Fatherhood
For Ellis, “being a man is about being consistent.” As a father of four, he sees parenthood as a chance to reshape the future.
“Children give you another chance at life. I have four different opportunities right now to do my life all over again.”
He also works to uplift young Black men, reinforcing their worth in a world that often undermines them. His values extend to his career—Ellis refuses to play roles that involve domestic violence or sexual assault.
Watch the full episode below:
On Marriage, Family Planning, and Writing His Story
After his wife’s postpartum preeclampsia, Ellis chose a vasectomy over her taking hormonal birth control, further proving his commitment to their partnership. He and Khadeen share their journey in We Over Me, and his next book, Raising Kings: How Fatherhood Saved Me From Myself, is on the way.
Through honesty and growth, Devale Ellis challenges traditional ideas of masculinity, making his story one that resonates deeply with millennial women.
For the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker peels back the layers of masculinity with candid conversations that challenge stereotypes and celebrate vulnerability. Real men. Real stories. Real talk.
Want more real talk from xoMAN? Catch the full audio episodes every Tuesday on Spotify and Apple Podcasts, and don’t miss the full video drops every Wednesday on YouTube. Hit follow, subscribe, and stay tapped in.
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'When You Build It, They Can’t Tell You You Can’t Sit': DJ Miss Milan, Marsai Martin & More Talk Confidence
The Marie Claire Power Play Summit wasn’t just another branded panel event—it was an inspiring, sometimes emotional, and always honest look at what it really takes to rise, thrive, and stay at the top. From Olympians to entrepreneurs, artists to execs, the room was full of powerful women sharing the real stories behind their highlight reels. I walked away moved by their vulnerability, strength, and refusal to dim their light.
Here are some of my favorite takeaways from three standout panels featuring Jordan Chiles, Marsai Martin, and Kandi Burruss.
Leveling Up Your A-Game with Jordan Chiles, Morgan Shaw Parker, Chelsea Fishman, Laura Correnti, and Tabitha Turner-Wilkins
Jordan Chiles
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Olympic gymnast Jordan may have medals and magazine covers to her name, but her mindset is refreshingly grounded. “The day I finally feel pressure,” she said, “will be the day I know there’s still more for me to learn.” For her, joy—not pressure—is the fuel. Her confidence isn’t performative; it’s rooted in family, self-worth, and authenticity.
“Everything I’ve done in my career—tattoos, long nails, rocking my crew at the Olympics—that’s all me. It’s not because someone told me to do it. It’s because I felt confident doing it. And that’s where my ambition comes from: being my authentic self.”
For Morgan Shaw Parker, President & COO of the Atlanta Dream, the conversation around pressure went even deeper. “Legacy work” is how she described her mission—navigating male-dominated spaces, sometimes pregnant and pumping on NFL team planes. “After COVID and George Floyd,” she shared, “it became clear to me: vulnerability is power. You don’t have to show up perfect to lead.”
Chelsea Fishman, founder of Atlanta's first bar dedicated to women’s sports, Jolene Jolene, shared how the haters (especially the Reddit kind) were her confirmation: “All those comments saying it would fail—those were the signs that I was doing something right.” She’s hosted 25+ watch parties already and is building the very community they said would never come.
This panel also touched on ambition, authenticity, and owning your power—both in sneakers and in suits. One of the best mic-drop moments came when the moderator flipped the question: “What if we stopped making ‘power’ a bad word for women?” A nod-worthy reminder that we’re not here to play small.
Making Your Voice Heard with Marsai Martin, Carol Martin, Miss Milan, and Heather McMahan
Marsai Martin
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This panel was a masterclass in staying grounded while growing up—or glamming up—on the global stage. Actress and producer Marsai talked about what it’s like to show up in high-pressure moments when your confidence is low but the world is still watching. From red carpets to long shoot days, she reminded us that even when you’re not at 100%, you still find a way to push through.
“There have been days where I wasn’t feeling the best, but I still had to show up on this carpet. Or it was that time of the month, but I still had to go on set. I just didn’t feel as confident—but it’s about how you take care of yourself in those moments and still keep pushing.”
Her mom and business partner Carol Martin dropped gems about motherhood and mentorship: “It’s like teaching your kid to ride a bike over and over again. Now the bike is a movie or a brand.” That balance between guiding and letting go? Not easy—but essential when you’re raising a mogul and running a company.
“There have been days where I wasn’t feeling the best, but I still had to show up on this carpet. Or it was that time of the month, but I still had to go on set. I just didn’t feel as confident—but it’s about how you take care of yourself in those moments and still keep pushing.”
Miss Milan, Grammy Award-winning DJ and Doechii’s right-hand woman, lit the crowd up with her no-nonsense energy. “I built my own table,” she said. “When you build it, they can’t tell you you can’t sit.” From journaling her dreams to manifesting Grammys, her story is one of resilience and intention—and a whole lot of faith in her own vision.
This panel didn’t shy away from hard truths either: the sadness that can come with success, the fear of fading relevance, the criticism that hits differently when it’s personal. But Marsai said it best: know your why. And let it evolve with you.
The Cost of Starting Your Own Business with Kandi Burruss and Nikki Ogunnaike
Kandi Burruss
Carol Lee Rose/ Getty Images for Marie ClaireKandi doesn’t sugarcoat the grind. From chart-topping songwriter to multi-business entrepreneur, she’s built her empire one risk—and one reinvention—at a time.
“Fear equals failure. If you don’t even try, you’ve failed automatically —and you did it to yourself. I’d rather take a risk and lose money than play it safe and never know what could’ve happened.”
She broke down the real costs of entrepreneurship: money, time, and emotional bandwidth. “You think you’re going to work less when you work for yourself?” she laughed. “You’re going to work more.” For Kandi, mommy guilt and financial setbacks are part of the package—but so is the satisfaction of seeing an idea through.
She opened up about scaling back on her clothing store and temporarily closing the original Old Lady Gang location. “It felt like failure,” she admitted, “but sometimes you have to step back to make things better.” Still, she’s not one to quit. She just pivots—with precision.
One of her most memorable reflections? How her music career hiccup led her to songwriting—ultimately writing the mega-hit “No Scrubs.” That song became the key to a new lane and legacy. “You may think you’re working on one dream,” she said, “but it could open the door to another.”
Also? Kandi wants you to stop emailing her from a Gmail. “You’re doing million-dollar business on a bootleg budget,” she joked. “Invest in yourself. Start with a domain name!”
The Marie Claire Power Play Summit was a powerful reminder that ambition, authenticity, and vulnerability aren’t separate traits—they work in tandem. Whether you’re building a bar, a brand, or a business from scratch, the key is to stay rooted in your voice, your story, and your why.
And if you need a sign to go for it? Consider this your green light.
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