Here's How Your Vagina Will Fall In Love With V-Day This Year

1. Make a Sugaring Appointment

During the pandemic (well, more like when we were more cautious about the pandemic, because COVID is still out here, y’all), I got into sugaring because my favorite waxer went MIA for a season. Even though we’re back reunited, I’ve been trying to convince her to train to sugar because two things that I liked about that form of hair removal are the ingredients are all-natural and, after time, it can permanently remove unwanted body hair faster than waxing does. Plus, I personally find it to be a less painful process.

Anyway, the reason why I’m mentioning it here is, that since Valentine’s Day tends to have a lot of sweets associated with it, in following along with that theme, sugaring is a sweet way to get your vulva ready for any plans that you might have in store that day.

2. Write Your Vagina a Love Letter

Last summer, I wrote an article entitled, “12 Men Told Me What They Love So Much About Vaginas.” When you get a chance, check it out because it’s always nice to hear praise about different parts of us — vaginas included. And since men have no problem affirming that very special part of a woman, why shouldn’t we do the same by also declaring, to ourselves, what we appreciate and adore so much about what does so much for us?

So yeah, consider writing your vagina a love letter. It doesn’t have to be super long or deep. Just take a moment to jot down why it’s so precious to you. You’d be amazed at what it can do for your self-esteem, including your sexual self-esteem, and how it will remind you to treasure “her” (yes, I oftentimes refer to vaginas in that way) always.

3. Buy Her Some Pink or Red Panties

If it’s been more than 12 months since you’ve treated yourself to some new panties, there is absolutely no time like the present. If you’re not sure what to get, check out “These Are The Kinds Of Panties Your Vagina Actually Prefers,” and then, in honor of V-Day, make sure that at least a couple of them are pink or red. On the color psychology tip, pink represents things like femininity, peace, playfulness, healing, and warmth, while red is all about love, passion, sex, energy, and stimulation.

4. Treat Her to Some Jewelry Too

If you’re looking for a surefire way to intensify your orgasms this year, why not invest in a clit clamp? If you’re curious about how much pleasure they are able to provide, yet you’d prefer to tiptoe into the idea, something that you might prefer (at least for now) is a clit clip. They are faux piercings that tend to not be as long as clamps and can be worn like…earrings on your clitoris. A pretty one that I recently saw on Etsy (that site is so my jam!) is a hoop with a Swarovski crystal (here). There are also simple pearl clips like this one here.

5. Try a Tube of Vaginal Lipstick

Kissing tends to happen a lot on Valentine’s Day. Well, in honor of Kelly Rowland’s throwback “Kisses Down Low” (receiving) and Usher’s “Good Kisser” (giving), if you want to get your lips down below ready for a few kisses of its own, Medicine Mama is a brand that carries something known as VMAGIC Lips Stick. It’s an all-natural vulva moisturizer that contains ingredients like honey, beeswax, olive oil, avocado oil, and sea buckthorn (which is a great vaginal lubricator). Soft and smooth lips (up top and down below) are always a Valentine’s Day delight…right? If you’re interested, you can get it here.

6. Sip on Some Red Wine

Does nothing make you happier than sipping on a glass of red wine? If so, and you’ve got a significant other this year, red wine has a solid reputation for being a pretty reliable aphrodisiac. Some of the reasons why is it stimulates arousal, increases (natural) vaginal lubrication, and can help to intensify your sexual experience overall. Plus, red wine contains antioxidants that can keep your vagina healthy on a myriad of different levels.

7. Enjoy Some Dark Chocolate

Next to red roses, probably the first thing that comes to people’s minds as it relates to Valentine’s Day gifts is chocolate. Well, if you like dark chocolate, your vagina will certainly thank you for it. Not only does it also have a lot of antioxidants in it, the magnesium that it contains will also help to keep your libido high as well as help to stimulate blood flow down to your vagina — and that helps to bring orgasms abundant into your direction.

8. Apply a Hydrating Mask to Your Pubic Hair

A part of the reason why I penned the article, “Here Are The Pros And Cons About Different Types Of Pubic Hair Maintenance” last summer is because it is my personal opinion that, for a lot of us, pubic hair does not get the kind of TLC that it truly deserves. Case in point: when’s the last time you’ve given yours a hydrating mask? Yeah, exactly. I mean, if the hair on our head could use a conditioner to keep it soft and manageable, why wouldn’t our pubic hair as well? You can apply a hair conditioner to it for five minutes and rinse.

You can create a hydrating mask of plain yogurt, some aloe vera gel, and vitamin E, leave it on for 5-7 minutes and rinse. You can also combine an egg white, a teaspoon of shea butter, and a few drops of lavender oil, leave it on for 10 minutes, and rinse.

All of these moisturizing recipes will soften your hair down below. Just make sure that you focus on the outside of your vulva so that your vagina doesn’t get irritated by any of these ingredients in any way.

9. Bathe Her in Some Rosewater and Rose Petals

Rosewater contains antioxidants and anti-inflammatory properties that help to soothe eczema and psoriasis, speed up the healing process of wounds, help to bring relief to headaches, bring you out of a sober mood as well and strengthen your immunity. And since it’s so good for your skin and it contains anti-aging properties (and yes, vulvas and vaginas do indeed age; check out “Vaginas Age Just Like Everything Else. You Can Slow It Down, Though.”), soaking in some homemade rosewater can be a great way to pamper “her” — as well as the rest of you.

While you’re at it, since roses are the signature flower for Valentine’s Day, why not toss some rose petals into your bathwater while you’re at it? Just make sure to thoroughly rinse the petals beforehand in the skin in order to remove any pesticides, dirt, or dust particles that may be on them.

By the way, a recipe for how to make rosewater is located right here.

10. Speak Your Vagina’s Love Language

Words of affirmation. Physical touch. Acts of service. Quality Time. Gifts. When it comes to these love languages, how do you prefer love to be expressed to you the most? Whatever that is, why not give that same kind of lovin’ to your vagina? I’m dead serious.

• For words of affirmation, we covered writing a love letter to your vagina.
• Physical touch? How about doing a self-exam or some vaginal mapping?
• Acts of service, schedule a professional vaginal facial appointment.
• Quality time? Make a meal out of some foods that are proven to be good for your vagina.
• Gifts? If a clit clip isn’t your thing and panties aren’t what you need, perhaps indulge with a bottle of Fur Oil.

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Again, with all that vaginas do for us and with all of the “work” that it will be puttin’ in for so many on Valentine’s Day, I thought it was imperative to give our girls a special shout-out.

Show her some extra lovin’ on V-Day. How could you not agree that she’s earned it?

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