A Pisces can fall in love with anyone. Their capacity to love and create space for others is limitless, making their compatibility with other signs a diverse one. They accept others openly and truly believe in the fairytale type of love. Pisces being a water sign is one of the more emotional signs of the zodiac and they wear their heart on their sleeve. Though it can be difficult for Pisces to settle down as they are very aware of all the fish in the sea, and they want to experience it all. They crave deep affection and transparency in a relationship and feel that their partner should be able to fulfill all of their fantasies in life which is not always possible. At the end of the day, however, Pisces has a heart that expands love and makes a relationship a heartfelt one.
When it comes to how Pisces love, they exude a sweet type of demeanor toward their partners. A Pisces has a childlike love that is very exciting to potential suitors. They want a love that is for the books, and you can often find a Pisces daydreaming about the possibilities of it all. When an evolved Pisces is in the picture, this is the type of person to be there for you rain or shine and to show you how much they love you every day. An unevolved Pisces can lead you on an emotional rollercoaster and will take some time to find their way.
All in all, Pisces compatibility is a wildcard, but once they are in love, it’s difficult for them to think of anything else.
Pisces + Aries Love Compatibility
Pisces and Aries together can either be a recipe for disaster or a recipe for success. There is more compatibility between them than noticed right away, however, their differences can often be too substantial in the long haul. Pisces and Aries operate on different playing fields. Aries is energy, and Pisces is emotion. Aries likes to always be on the go, and Pisces likes to take their time while moving through the world. They have a lot of different interests and unless they are willing to learn more about each other and try new things, then this relationship can run dry pretty quickly.
Pisces + Taurus Love Compatibility
This is a good match. Pisces and Taurus get along well, and this is one of Pisces’ best matches in Astrology. What makes this relationship work so well is the give and take here. These two are both romantics at heart, and Pisces is often swept off their feet by sensual Taurus. Pisces is compassionate, and Taurus is chill. These two aren’t one to rush each other or step on each other's toes, allowing the relationship to grow and form in its own divine time and space. Pisces and Taurus is a relationship that has all the potential to be a forever type of love and these two often make it long-term.
Pisces + Gemini Love Compatibility
Pisces and Gemini are both mutable signs, and there is an instant connection here. Whether the relationship turns into a romantic one is another story, however, you can’t deny the chemistry between Pisces and Gemini right off the bat. What makes this relationship work is their flexibility and ability to go with the flow and not put too much pressure on the relationship. The downside to this combo is that both signs are a wildcard which can lead to a chaotic relationship. Not to mention, Pisces wants to feel, and Gemini wants to think. They need to understand each other to make the relationship work.
Pisces + Cancer Love Compatibility
Pisces and Cancer have a relationship that feels like they’ve been soulmates for many lifetimes. Being together is like a breath of fresh air for them because they feel like they are finally with someone that understands them and how they feel. This relationship is a lot of fun and there is a lot of happiness between the two. The only precaution with this union is that together they can be pretty impulsive and tend to rush into this relationship. However, by taking things one step at a time, and enjoying what they are building together, this can be a truly once-in-a-lifetime love.
Pisces + Leo Love Compatibility
This is an unusual combo, but anything is possible. Pisces and Leo are either attracted to each other or immediately turned off. Leo can come off as too self-centered for Pisces and where most zodiac signs are enamored by this bold sign; Pisces doesn’t get the hype. Pisces is endearing to Leo but they immediately get the feeling that Pisces is too wishy-washy for their strong-willed selves. Pisces’ emotional world can feel too heavy at times for Leo’s spirit and they are often not on the same page. This relationship can get better over time but is not the best match for Pisces at the end of the day.
Pisces + Virgo Love Compatibility
Pisces and Virgo are the yin and yang of the zodiac. These two are opposite signs, but they both happen to be mutable signs as well which makes for a strong connection. The relationship between Pisces and Virgos is either a hit or a miss. This can be the best relationship they both have as they feel like they are each other’s other halves and like they found their soulmate. Though, these two signs often test each other without even trying as they are both coming from different directions trying to meet each other in the middle. What makes this relationship work is that they are both best friends and lovers, and they truly love and adore each other.
Pisces + Libra Love Compatibility
Pisces and Libra together is a slippery slope. They have more in common than most water and air sign duos, but the relationship can also be one that’s not as fulfilling for Pisces as they would have hoped. Both of these signs want to be adored and are both very receptive. The challenge with these two is that Pisces likes to be led in love and so does Libra. They can often feel like they aren’t getting what they need in the relationship and like there is no growth, often questioning who is going to make the first move or wondering where each other stands. They are both very compromising and understanding, however, and they can form a sweet connection overall.
Pisces + Scorpio Love Compatibility
These two believe in love at first sight, and they often experience it when they meet. Scorpio is one of the best matches for Pisces, and these two often make it to the altar. Scorpio has a way of sweeping Pisces off their feet, and Pisces appreciates Scorpio's energy of emotion yet a bit of dominance and confidence. This is a sexy combo, and these two coming together is a recipe for success. With all water and water duos, emotional impulses can get the best of them but if they are both evolved and ready for a committed relationship, then they have found a good partner for that in each other.
Pisces + Sagittarius Love Compatibility
Pisces and Sagittarius are a fun couple. This couple loves to explore life together, go on vacations, and escape into their own little world. They are fun to be around, and they prefer to keep things light. Not only are these two mutable signs, but they are both also ruled by benevolent Jupiter, making this a lucky duo. While being together they often experience profound insights, good luck, and serendipitous moments. Challenges may arise here, however, when it comes to both of these signs being free spirits as they may never settle down in a way that can bring a strong foundation to the relationship. All in all, this is an inspiring relationship for both of them.
Pisces + Capricorn Love Compatibility
Capricorn is a really good match for Pisces, and these two are often found in long-term relationships with each other. Pisces experiences harmony with Capricorn who brings the perfect balance of stability and devotion to them. Pisces brings the warmth and sensitivity into this relationship that Capricorn needs to soften up a little, and these two know how to make it work. They both are open to what they want and need within a relationship right away which helps them be on the same page and know what they are moving forward to. These two together also make great manifesters as Capricorn helps Pisces bring their vision into reality, and Pisces helps Capricorn believe in miracles.
Pisces + Aquarius Love Compatibility
Pisces and Aquarius are the oddballs of the zodiac and they have a connection because of it. These two both live life out of the ordinary, and love all things unique. They appreciate each other’s sense of style and perspective and find a lot of happiness and excitement together. Overall, air signs aren’t the best matches for Pisces, but Aquarius is the most similar to Pisces when it comes to air signs, so these two already have the upper hand there. This relationship will work if Aquarius can drop into their heart more rather than their head and if Pisces can define their values and boundaries in the relationship creating an atmosphere for honesty and stability.
Pisces + Pisces Love Compatibility
Pisces and Pisces relationships aren’t the most recommended, but they can work if the two signs in question are evolved individuals. When dating someone of the same sign as yourself, there are often a lot of tests and triggers experienced as it's like someone holding up a mirror to you constantly. If these two have already learned a lot in love and have a good sense of self, then they can understand each other and value each other and the connection altogether. Water and water combos can get messy, however, and emotions will run from high to low.
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Tayler Barakat is a Mystic who has studied Astrology for over a decade. She does intuitive astrology and tarot readings for people all over the world, and her work focuses on healing and empowering individuals. Follow her on Instagram @taylerbarakat_ and check out her website www.listentothevirgo.com.
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Here's Why Very Few Relationships Can Actually Be 'Platonic'
Recently, while in an interview, someone asked me if I think that men and women can be just friends. I didn’t even hesitate to answer; my response was immediate, “Absolutely.” What I followed that up with is what intrigued them — “Life has taught me that not a lot of male/female dynamics are ‘platonic,’ though.” When they asked me to expound, the interview ended up taking a whole ‘nother turn.
As a writer who really pays attention to word meanings, something that can be a bit frustrating about our culture is the fact that based on whatever is popular at the time, folks will just up and change the original definitions of words to suit a particular agenda or whim — and the word “platonic” 1000 percent fits into this category. And perhaps that’s why we seem to continue to go in circles about whether or not people of the opposite sex can (and should) be friends and what that even can (and should) look like.
Let’s talk about it for a bit. Because as a word-literal type of individual, while again, I absolutely believe that men and women can be friends, at the same time, I think it’s about as rare as a red diamond to truly find yourself in a friendship that is…platonic.
It’s Time (More) Folks Knew What ‘Platonic’ LITERALLY MeansGiphy
So, let's do first things first — let's define what it literally means for something to be platonic. If you go to your favorite search engine and put something along the lines of "What does platonic mean?", the first thing that you're (probably) going to see is a ton of dictionary definitions that say something along the lines of "of, relating to, or being a relationship marked by the absence of romance or sex" (Merriam-Webster), "designating or of a relationship, or love, between a man and a woman that is purely spiritual or intellectual and without sexual activity" (Your Dictionary) and, my personal favorite, "purely spiritual; free from sensual desire, especially in a relationship between two persons of different sexes" (Dictionary). Yeah, bookmark that last one; I'll be circling back.
Keeping this in mind (and please do), where does the word "platonic" actually come from? From what I've researched, the philosopher Plato once penned something entitled "Symposium." In it, he addressed the topic of two people sharing the kind of love that is free of any type of sensual desire, one that is based on divine love alone. An author from the 1800s broke it down this way: "Platonic love meant ideal sympathy; it now means the love of a sentimental young gentleman for a woman he cannot or will not marry." A write-up on Merriam-Webster's site stated that "The term platonic was initially used to mock non-sexual relationships, as it was considered ridiculous to separate love and sex, but eventually this connotation faded away leaving us with today's notion of close friendships." Yeah, we used to live in a culture where love and sex were not separated. Hmph, that's another article for another time, though (check out "We Should Really Rethink The Term' Casual Sex'").
Anyway, as with many things (especially in our culture), the word "platonic" is kind of used in "broad strokes" these days (bromances, female friendships, etc.). However, because there continues to be this forever discussion — and oftentimes debate — about whether or not men and women can be "just friends," I'm going to tackle this topic strictly from that angle — from the place where platonic actually originated.
Yes, Men and Women Can Be Just Friends. But…Giphy
At this stage in my life, I'm pretty sure that I have more male friends than female ones. There are layers of reasons why, yet I think a huge one is because I like the balance that masculinity brings to my femininity (especially as I'm learning to embrace different aspects of my femininity, intentionally even more). And while every single one of my male friends is respectful and is a super safe space in my world on every single level that I can imagine (and have been for years now), there are probably only a couple who I would say 100 percent qualify as being…trulyplatonic.
Why would I say that? Well, I'll illustrate this point with something that one of my male friends once said to me. He's super cute. He can sing his ass off (and definitely has one of my favorite speaking voices). People see us out together often, and some have told us that they assume that we've had something going on at some point. Anyway, after hearing someone share their theory about us, I told it to him.
Me: "I told him, 'He's my brother. We would never mess around.'"
My Friend: "Correction, you are like a sister. You are not my sister, though. Under the right conditions, you could still get it."
When I shared that exchange with another male friend of mine, he basically cosigned on the sentiment: "Shellie, I have never approached you like that because I really respect you. I want to be good for you for the rest of our lives." (That reminds me: check out "Question: Is The Man In Your Life Good 'TO' You? Good 'FOR' You? Or...Both?" when you get a chance.)
Then I went to one more guy homie and ran both statements by him: "Girl, yeah. If I didn't want to keep you in my life long-term, I would've tried to holla a long time ago!" And he and I have been friends for almost 20 years at this point. When did he get around to telling me this? Eh, maybe two years ago. LOL.
So, my takeaway from all of these "for real?!" exchanges is even though men and women can be just friends, there is a certain level of intention, self-control, and ability to see into the future (on some level) that must go into account — because, just because something more-than-friends-like may not have gone down, that doesn't mean there isn't a "dormant seed" lying around somewhere…whether it's one-sided or on both sides of the friendship dynamic.
As you can see, I just provided you with three instances where the male friends in my life; we've had nothing sexual or even physically intimate beyond a hug when we greet each other in nature — although things aren't exactly platonic if there is some sort of attraction or sexual/romantic curiosity that simply never got explored. Because again, according to Plato, a platonic relationship is free from all of that kind of…tension — or possibilities. Zero. Nada. Zilch.
And now you probably get why I entitled this article in the way that I did…right? I mean, just think about it — out of your male friendships, where is there NO sensual desire or dormant romantic interest…on your side and/or on his? If you're not sure about "his"…have you ever asked him? Or them? Because again, once I really let the definition of platonic sink in, I think maybe two guys in my life totally fit the bill.
This brings me to my next point.
Are You Platonic? Or Are You Friend-Zoning?Giphy
Now that you know that probably 70 percent of the people you know (both online and off) have been using the true meaning of platonic all the way wrong, let’s go about deeper: when it comes to your friendships with men, are they genuinely platonic or…is it more like you’re friend-zoning them?
A few years ago, I penned an article on the topic entitled, “Before You 'Friend Zone' Someone, Read This.” If you’re skimming this on your lunch break, I’ll summarize friend-zoning as knowing that a guy has so-much-more-than-platonic feelings for you, yet because you basically want to keep the benefits of the friendship or even his emotions around, you will string him along on some level.
Personally, I can’t stand friend-zoning. I think it’s selfish, with some sprinkles of manipulation and wasting someone’s time. Don’t agree? How would you feel if a guy was friend-zoning you? (Yeah…exactly.)
This all needs to go on record because, knowing that a guy wants to “take it there” with you (whether sexually or romantically), you not full-on addressing it and/or giving him just enough hope to take you out, listen to all of your stories about other men and give you the attention that you need knowing that he doesn’t have a shot in hell — that is NOT a platonic friendship and honestly, you’re not being a good friend at all. Friends protect each other’s hearts, not abuse them.
A platonic friendship means that you both have no interest in each other, and, as Plato put it, while you may have a strong and solid bond, it’s spiritual love that connects you. And what exactly does that mean? Spiritual love also deserves its own article, yet the gist would be that you recognize there is a purpose in your friendship, yet it’s about wanting what’s best for one another and even helping each other to get there.
For instance, a platonic friend of yours may know that you desire to be married one day, so he has no problem setting you up with a good guy in his life. And if things go well, he would have no problem standing up as your own best man (without feeling like he’s dying inside) because he never saw you beyond anything but a friend. A guy in the friend zone doesn’t move like this; he likes you too much to help you move on with someone else. See the difference?
Why Relationships Should Start Off As NON-PLATONIC FriendshipsGiphy
Before I end this with some tips on how to properly care for the few platonic friendships you may actually have, since the use of the word may require a bit of mental reprogramming, I do think we should also address that if you've got a good guy in your life, who right now is a friend and either you've never thought of him in that way or the topic has never come up — he's someone that you may not want to brush off.
What I mean by that is, it's one thing for there to be absolutely no interest in someone vs. never considering it before — and the reason why you might want to give it some thought is because, ask any healthy married couple who's been together for more than five years and I'll bet you my next rent check that they will say that the best relationships are birthed out of friendship (check out "Are You Sure You're Actually FRIENDS With Your Spouse?").
Yeah, just because you've filed someone in the "I see him as a good guy" category, that doesn't automatically mean that y'all's friendship is platonic. For instance, I have a male friend who is fine and I adore on many levels, yet the reason why it would never work on my end is because there are certain relational standards that I have that he does not meet. However, don't get it twisted — I've considered him because, on so many levels, we "fit." So, the mere fact that I ever seriously thought about him on that level means that we are "good friends," yet it's not exactly platonic.
I'm not free of potential sensual desire…I just choose not to act on it. Yet because I get the value of having friendship as the foundation for my own future marriage (should life play out that way), I am wise enough to know that I would've been a fool to not at least…ponder him and the possibilities.
So yeah, if there is a male friend in your life that the thought of dating or having sex with him doesn't make you want to throw up in your mouth, there's a pretty good chance that it's not a classic platonic dynamic — and you might want to consider if it could/should go to the next level — if not immediately, eventually. Because there's a pretty good chance that if you are thinking that way, he probably is as well.
Protect Your Genuine Platonic Friendship(s) At All CostsGiphy
Let me end this with how one of my platonic friendships rolls. We both think that the other is attractive, yet neither of us is attracted. We both give each other opposite-sex insights. We both have said that the mere thought of dating each other makes our noses turn up like there’s an odor in the air. And even when I try to imagine us together, my mind goes blank. I love, love, LOVE this man — oh, but it is absolutely nothing more than platonic — and he feels the same way. It’s as close to familial love without being blood relationships. It’s a rare dynamic, and that is what makes it so special. There is definitely a spiritual type of love there; no more, no less.
If you’ve got someone in your life who you feel the same way about (again, it’s got to be mutual; he must feel that way, too), you’ve got a gem of a situation going on because there is nothing like having the kind of friendship where you and a guy can hang out, exchange perspectives and thoroughly enjoy each other’s company, knowing that’s all it is and will ever be. Things will never get weird. No one’s feelings are gonna get hurt (from the whole friend-zoning thing). You don’t have to walk on eggshells. You can just be.
And that’s why I’m all for platonic friendships. And listen, if you’re blessed enough to have even one in your lifetime, be fiercely protective of it. Don’t take it for granted. Nurture it in a way that your male friend needs (because it probably won’t be the exact same as your female friendships). Y’all, platonic friendships are so bomb because, if it’s honored and protected correctly, it’s the one male friend that you can probably keep for life because even your romantic partner will not find it to be a (true) threat — hell, they honestly could probably end up becoming (some level of) friends with your platonic homie as well.
I hope that I broke this all down enough to where, when you decide to use a word to describe your opposite-sex friendships, perhaps you will pause and ask yourself, “Wait, is this a platonic friend or a good or close friend?” Because the clearer you are on the differences, the easier it will be to know how to maintain your friendship — and feel about your friend. Feel me? Cool.
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