
There’s just something about HBCU Homecoming that just hits different. Whether it’s your first time stepping onto the yard since graduation or you’re a regular at every Homecoming tailgate, HBCU pride is undeniable. It’s a vibrant celebration that unites the legacy of excellence and tradition with the energy and resilience of Black culture.
The experience goes beyond a typical college reunion; HBCU Homecoming is a family reunion, a fashion show, a cultural festival, and a week-long turn-up that embodies what it means to be unapologetically Black and educated. For HBCU alumni, the journey back to the yard each year is rooted in a love and pride that’s hard to put into words but impossible to deny.
From statement pieces to tech must-haves, every item represents the intersection of Black pride and HBCU love, ensuring that you show up to the yard in style and with intention. So whether you’re repping your alma mater for the first time since graduation or looking for fresh pieces to express your HBCU pride, these essentials will have you standing out, because, at HBCU Homecoming, it’s not just about showing up—it’s about showing out.
Thread Goals
diarrablu Jant Pants in Alia Noir

High-waisted, wide-legged, and ready to shut down the yard, the Jant Pants by diarrablu bring a whole new meaning to campus chic. Handcrafted in Dakar, Senegal, these free-flowing jacquard pants are perfect for stepping onto the yard with style and ease—making them a must-have for any HBCU alum’s closet.
Silver & Riley Convertible Executive Leather Bag Classic Size in Olive

This all-in-one luxury bag isn’t a bestseller for nothing. The Silver & Riley essential is made of Italian calfskin leather and thoughtfully designed, as it can be worn in four different ways: a shoulder bag, crossbody, a top handle, and a backpack. Chic and elegant, the Convertible Executive Leather bag is “the bag that every woman needs in her collection.”
Renowned Women's Intuition Cotton Graphic T-Shirt

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Renowned’s Women’s Intuition Cotton Graphic T-shirt features a bold graphic print inspired by the power and essence of women’s intuition. With its striking design, this all-cotton tee is a vibrant thing, making it a statement piece that celebrates feminine energy.
Mifland Million M Mesh Crop Shirt

Talk about bold, the Million M Mesh Crop Shirt combines edgy style with comfort, featuring Mifland’s signature print on a semi-see-through mesh fabric. Show up and show out in sophisticated flair.
HBCU Love FUBU
Melanin Is Life Melanated & Educated - I Love My HBCU Hoodie

Show off your HBCU love with this piece that represents everything you gained from your alma mater: a top-tier education, a community that lifts you up, and a deep sense of esteem for yourself and your culture. Wear it loud and proud, because being melanated and educated isn’t just a flex—it’s a legacy.
HBCU Culture Spelmanite Sweatshirt in Navy

Spelmanites, rep your Spelman pride with this unisex crewneck sweatshirt, designed for ultimate comfort and a relaxed fit. Made from a cozy cotton/polyester blend, this classic sweatshirt is as durable as it is stylish—making it an ideal piece for any Spelmanite showing love for their alma mater.
HBCU Culture Howard Is The Culture T-Shirt

Rock the ultimate flex by showcasing your Howard U love with HBCU Culture’s Howard Is The Culture t-shirt. This unisex tee offers a comfortable, relaxed fit that’s perfect for celebrating your HBCU spirit without sacrificing style or comfort.
DungeonForward FAMU - Strike Bucket - Reversible

DungeonForward’s Strike Bucket Hat brings versatility and style to the FAMU Crown collection with its reversible design, giving you two looks in one. Featuring a sleek black snakeskin-embossed brim lining and a bold outline Rattler emblem, this hat is all about repping your Rattler pride in style.
DungeonForward Savannah State University - HBCU Hat - TheYard

The Savannah State University HBCU Hat by DungeonForward is more than just a hat—it’s a symbol of Tiger pride and a nod to the culture. Perfect for gamedays, tailgates, or just showing off your HBCU love, this hat lets you carry a piece of the yard wherever you go.
Tech the Halls
Anker iPhone 16 Portable Charger, Nano Power Bank

Stay charged up with the Anker Nano Power Bank, which features dual USB-C ports, a foldable connector, and a compact design, making it perfect for those HBCU tailgates and late-night parties you pull up to.
Drip Check
Wisdom Frame 14 Square Sunglasses

Elevate your look with these angular square-frame sunglasses by Wisdom, bringing an ultramodern edge to any outfit. The sleek design makes them perfect for blocking out the haters while you stunt on the yard.
Coco and Breezy Eyewear Fortune in Gray Turquoise

The Fortune Glasses in Grey Turquoise is a bold statement piece to any Homecoming weekend ‘fit that “embody our fearless and outspoken DNA.” With their color and edgy design, these frames by Coco and Breezy are perfect for anyone looking to stand out and express their unapologetic confidence.
Howard U Lapel Pin

Rep your Bison pride wherever you go with this Howard U Lapel Pin from Pretty AmbVision. Whether adding it to your jacket, shirt, or bag, this pin is the perfect way to showcase your love for your alma mater while rocking your HBCU love with honor and distinction.
Mifland Standard Rucksack Mini

The Standard Rucksack is designed to evolve like that HBCU pride—getting richer, bolder, and better with time. Durable, stylish, and built to last, this Rucksack by Mifland is a timeless piece equipped with versatile carrying options and fully adjustable back straps for ultimate comfort.
Stay Fresh, Stay Blessed
Slip Pure Silk Sleep Mask in Pink

Keeping it cute starts with beauty sleep. This luxurious silk mask is an essential for a reason. If protecting your skin and waking up refreshed is your priority, look no further than this Homecoming essential.
Liquid I.V.® Hydration Multiplier Lemon Lime - Hydration Powder Packets

Stay hydrated and energized throughout Homecoming weekend with this Liquid I.V.® Hydration Multiplier in Lemon Lime. Just add a packet to your water bottle, and bless your body with 2-3 times more hydration than water with every packet. Because staying hydrated is the key to popping up and showing out all weekend long!
Loop Experience Plus Earplugs High Fidelity Hearing Protection

Designed for your hearing protection, these sleek earplugs reduce noise without compromising sound quality—perfect for enjoying the band’s halftime show, late-night parties, and DJ sets. Whether you’re front row at the step show or hitting the yard, your ears deserve to be protected in style!
Black Girl Magic Glass Cup

Sip in style and celebrate your melanin with the Black Girl Magic Glass Cup. Perfect for morning coffee, your favorite iced drink, or showing off your HBCU pride on the yard—this cup is all about keeping it cute while radiating your endless supply of Black Girl Magic.
Glow Up & Show Out
Black Girl Sunscreen SPF 30

What Homecoming weekend can be complete without an assist from this beauty find? Formulated to blend seamlessly into melanin-rich skin (no white-cast), protect your glow while you turn up with the Black Girl Sunscreen SPF 30.
Sienna Naturals Issa Rae's Wash Day Ritual Set

Issa Rae’s Wash Day Ritual Set from Sienna Naturals includes the H.A.PI. Shampoo, the Plant Power Repair Mask, Dew Magic, and Lock and Seal to get your crown right. Whether you’re repping your coils or rocking a new color on the yard, these products restore and nourish your strands, keeping your hair healthy, strong, and Homecoming-ready!
54 Thrones Ivorian Cocoa + Ghanaian Coconut Beauty Butter

Stay glowing from the tailgate to the after-party with the 54 Thrones Ivorian Cocoa + Ghanaian Coconut Beauty Butter. Infused with African-sourced ingredients, this rich, multi-purpose butter is the answer to keeping your skin soft and radiant through all the festivities all Homecoming long.
Saie Glossybounce Hydrating Lip Oil

Keep your lips looking luscious and nourished with the Saie Glossybounce Hydrating Lip Oil. Perfect for adding an extra pop to your pout before hitting the yard or freshening up between events, this lip oil is a beauty essential for staying camera-ready all weekend.
Join us in celebrating HBCU excellence! Check out our Best In Class hub for inspiring stories, empowering resources, and everything you need to embrace the HBCU experience.
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Sleek & Heat-Proof: Straightened Hair, The Summer It List Way
This article is in partnership with SheaMoisture.
The world may try to convince you that straight hair is a no-go for the summer heat, but if you’re an It Girl, defying the odds is embedded in your DNA.
When it comes to achieving sleek strands for the summer, xoNecole and SheaMoisture have your blueprint for smooth, frizz-free, humidity and heat-damage-resistant hair throughout this season!
From hair styling oils to bond repairing products, and strengthening shampoo and conditioner, SheaMoisture offers a range of products that help you achieve the perfect silk press without worrying about the heat damage, thanks to formulas that moisturize, reduce breakage, and more.
We want your silk press to stay pressed, not stressed, so here’s our quick, three-step guide featuring SheaMoisture products from our xoNecole Summer It List for straightened hair all summer long.
Step 1: Keep Your Hair Strong
Like everything in life, if the foundation is rocky, things won’t last, and the sentiment remains when it comes to your hair.
SheaMoisture’s Hair Styling Oils are a must-have when preparing and protecting your strands before getting them pressed. The Bond Repair Oil is perfect reinforcement that your hair needs from within to prevent breakage and dryness when using heat-forward tools to achieve your look.
Protecting the hair before adding heat with SheaMoisture’s Bond Repair Leave-In helps guard against styling damage. The product also ensures hair bonds are repaired and essential proteins are replenished, resulting in less breakage. It also provides a boost of hydration and 24-hour control against frizz.

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Step 2: Seal The Deal With Some Shine
Whether you’re preparing to attend a summer wedding or hitting a rooftop with your girlfriends, finishing the look with SheaMoisture’s Manuka Honey & Yogurt Lightweight Oil serves you and your hair right by adding luster, locking in moisture, and taming flyaways.
Step 3: Repair Your Hair Following The Heat
Before jumping into your next style, a moisturizing cleanse is a great repair duo to put the life back into your hair after a silk press.
The SheaMoisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Shampoo and Conditioner offers damage-repairing benefits that will have your hair thanking you. It restores, nourishes, and strengthens hair, eases detangling, and brings damaged hair back to life with shine and movement, while most importantly, restoring moisture.
Who said that straight hair was off the table during the summer heat wave? With SheaMoisture and a plan, you’ll hit the scene like the It Girl you are for every summer festivity.
Consider your It Girl era unlocked. Shop all of our beauty and lifestyle must-haves on The It List.
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Platonic Intimacy Is The Missing Piece In Your Friendships
When it comes to the word intimacy, we often associate it with romance, physical connection, or sex. But the concept of intimacy encompasses a deeper meaning, platonically or romantically. Societally speaking, even when we think of the word friendship, we normally don’t think of the word intimacy either. Relationships are either platonic or romantic, with no in between. And with the word “platonic” meaning non-romantic or non-sexual. But strong, healthy friendships require depth, intentionality, and substance.
In 2013, I wrote, “Intimacy is what is lost and lacking. I mean the casualty of hi and bye. The random, “Hey, how are you? The phone call after weeks, months, and years has passed. Just to see if you are around or to be all in your business.” I don’t know what prompted me to share that thought publicly, but maybe at the time, I noticed or felt the absence of intimacy in friendships. Maybe, at the time, I was not fulfilled in my current friendships. Maybe I missed the constant togetherness and closeness I felt in friendships in my early twenties, minus the petty drama.
Fast forward to 2025, my friendships have consistently deepened with intentionality. And it's because I place a high value on my connections, friendships, and relationships. For me, most of my friends have become family. Many of my friendships are lifelong – I’m talking 10-20 years and counting. As a young girl, if I called someone my friend, I truly and deeply meant it. It was forever until I was shown otherwise. But I also quickly realized friends come and go just like seasons, too. I was never one to run in cliques or circles. I don’t play favorites, and I treat my friends equally. There isn’t one thing I would not do for one friend that I would not do for another friend.
My ability to and choosing to show up is effortlessly genuine. My standard of friendship requires transparency, depth, consideration, reciprocity, growth, honesty, boundaries, mutual respect, emotional maturity, emotional intelligence, accountability, and raw, uncomfortable conversations. It includes creating moments and memories filled with laughter, beauty, joy, and ugly crying. It's showing up for the good moments, the hard moments, and everything else in between. I have always been this way.
With that said, I think I have been a long-time practitioner of something called platonic intimacy.
If you don’t know what platonic intimacy is, by the end of this article, you will know what it looks like, what works and what doesn’t in these friendships, how to develop platonic intimacy in friendships, and how it deepens friendships.
What Is Platonic Intimacy?
Intimacy vs. Platonic Intimacy
Before we confuse or intertwine intimacy with platonic intimacy lets understand the differences between the two concepts. Intimacy is defined as a deep emotional connection and closeness between individuals. This includes emotional, intellectual, and physical intimacy. Most people would associate this with romantic relationships. Think, sharing deeply personal thoughts and feelings with a partner or experiencing physical intimacy.
Whereas platonic intimacy is defined as a deep emotional connection and closeness between individuals without any romantic and sexual involvement. Focused on emotional and intellectual, spiritual, and experiential intimacy with physical affection limited to friendly gestures.
The Origins of Platonic Love
The Word Platonic Was Defined By The Greeks
The concept of platonic intimacy isn’t new. With that said, the word “platonic” originated from the ancient Greek philosopher Plato and his writings on different types of love in dialogue “The Symposium.” An article published by Verywell Mind says Plato believed that platonic love could bring people closer to a divine ideal. A higher form of love that focuses on a connection of minds and souls – serving as the foundation for platonic love.
Platonic intimacy refers to emotional depth and closeness possible in non-romantic friendships. Lately, it seems like social media has increasingly become an educational platform about social interaction, human connection, emotional intelligence, and emotional maturity. With growing conversations around mental health and non-traditional relationship structure, it is evident there is a major shift towards recognizing the value of deep friendships.
In reviewing “The Ins and Outs of Platonic Intimacy” by Keys Soulcare, they interview Lightworker Tiffany Curtis on platonic partnerships and deepening meaningful connections. Curtis’s thought-provoking opinions on platonic intimacy allow us to think about relationships in a nontraditional manner and go against the norm. Curtis states:
“I think that platonic intimacy gives us space to experience love and affection in an abundant way. So many of us grow up thinking that platonic relationships and friendships are a consolation prize, a second place to a romance coming first in our lives. Our society has this binary view of relationships: you’re either friends or partners. But sometimes the two coexist, and sometimes they don’t, and platonic relationships are not 'less' than romantic ones.”
The article also highlights that “Friendships can teach us what’s possible in our connections when we don’t adhere to a prescribed relationship ladder. What can love and care and choosing someone over and over again look like when we dismiss the idea that relationships have to follow certain steps?”
As someone that has come to believe my life is rich with good people, friendship, and community I wholeheartedly agree.
Platonic Intimacy Looks Like...
I read somewhere on social media that friendships are no longer like childhood friendships. Adult friendships require time and intentionality. Agreed. According to an article by Curina, what that means is platonic intimacy in general means trying to be more expressive with the people you call friends. This expression can manifest in many forms including physical touch, emotional support, and shared experiences. Think long awkward hugs, “just checking in” texts, helping with everyday tasks, creating traditions together, being vulnerable, sharing clothes, jokes, passwords, or celebrating wins joyously.
Platonic intimacy can also look like planning futures together, caring for each other when sick, praying in a time of need, deep late-night talks, sleeping in the same bed, shared playlists or photo albums, taking care of pets, walking through hard moments or big life transitions.
The idea is that close friendships deserve and should get the same type of attention that romantic relationships have.
Before I knew platonic intimacy was a whole thing, I’m the friend that will visit one of her lifelong friends and cook breakfast before she leaves for work and cook her favorite cuisine for dinner when she comes home. Fuzzy socks and pajamas — we will lay in the bed and play the social card game Wordaful or watch a movie. Another lifelong friend of mine was undergoing chemotherapy for breast cancer during one of my visits to California. So, I made it a point to see her. We simply laid in bed and talked for hours.
I might help a friend pack to prepare for a move. I may send a friend a thoughtful card just because, write a letter, or order an adult coloring book and colored pencils via AmazonPrime if they tell me if they're mentally struggling.
Other times it’s a coworking date at a friend's house. She buys the coffee and I cook lunch. I tend to notate the little details about my close friends. Maybe a favorite song, their favorite food, or social media memes that remind me of them. I show up in hard moments and crises too. And I don’t think I know anything different when it comes to friendship. I don’t know any other way to be.
Maybe it’s because I am a natural born giver, my strong Caribbean values, or because I grew up seeing my mother endlessly show up for family and friends.
How to Build Platonic Intimacy With Friends
How To Develop Platonic Intimacy in Friendships
The important thing to note about platonic intimacy is it's about allowing yourself to be vulnerable with another person. It's about acceptance, trust, honesty, loyalty, understanding, companionship, enjoyment, growth, gratitude, and closeness. Remember, Plato taught us that platonic love is a bond in which we can identify positive qualities that make us feel whole or complete within another person. It is the close relationships that are rooted in alignment, trust, confidence, and loyalty.
A non-romantic soulmate, if you will.
“This Is Platonic Love,” an article published by Psych Central, states that developing platonic intimacy within friendships involves shared similar interests and life passions. Deep conversations are key as a level of trust is required to share deeper opinions.
Platonic intimacy grows with routine maintenance where there is equal responsibility and intentionality to maintain the friendship. You have to show all the way up. This looks like prioritizing time, planned check-ins, open communication, and taking initiative to make plans.
Friendships like these also require mutual respect and boundaries. I think knowing a friend's love language (traditional or non traditional) also helps create platonic intimacy and strengthens friendships in general. For example, I know one of my friends' love languages is coffee and plants.
So, I suggested a co-working date in this new coffee shop that is also a plant store and she has never been so excited.
What Does Not Work for Platonic Intimacy
Another thing to remember is platonic intimacy is nurtured when two people actively show positive qualities and behaviors within friendship. Negative behaviors and/or patterns cannot co-exist in these types of friendships. In the same article by Psych Central, threats to platonic intimacy include inconsistency or ghosting habits where the responsibility of the friendship belongs to one person. Lack of consideration for boundaries is also a challenge.
Whether it's a female or male friendship – friends with benefits are definitely not welcomed in platonic intimacy. It creates a complicated, unhealthy, dynamic. Let’s be honest, complicated is the last thing anyone wants in deep connection and friendship. And healthy, reciprocal close friendships should be fluid, not complicated.
Lastly, one-sided vulnerability where one friend knows you intimately, but cannot reciprocate the same transparency doesn’t work either. The goal of platonic intimacy is closeness, not to play therapist.
Why Platonic Intimacy Improves Your Life
Life is Better When Close Friendships Are Deepened
To me, platonic intimacy in friendships is a conscientious effort over time. But any close friendship and/or relationship is exactly that. Close friendships are essential to our health and overall well-being. Research studies have shown that platonic intimacy or platonic love helps with improved health, lower stress, and resiliency. This includes reduced risk for heart disease, anxiety, and depression.
Close intimate friendships make us mentally and emotionally stronger. And what I mean by that is having support or lifelines. Sometimes, family cannot be our lifeline — this is where platonic intimacy comes in. It’s friendships that make us feel safe, seen, and heard that deepen this thing called life.
We as humans are not wired to be alone in any regard. We are not here to experience one type of love or life either. However, we are here to connect interdependently and love well.
I want you to know choosing someone doesn’t have to be limited to a romantic relationship. First and foremost choose yourself first. But also choose people who choose you as much as you choose them – each and every single time regardless of time, distance, or circumstances.
Choose the friendships that fill your cup, make you whole, understood, nurture your peace, and that make you feel undeniably safe.
Platonic intimacy in friendships is one of the greatest loves you will ever know and experience in this lifetime. And I hope you get the chance to know her.
(Thank you to my friend and client M.K.R. for inspiring me to write this article with her own examples of platonic intimacy in her friendships.)
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