Whether it was in passing at a meeting, while chatting with your best friend over cocktails, or in your favorite travel group, the phrase Mercury Retrograde has always been associated with catastrophic setbacks - especially those that relate to technology, travel and communication. This final Mercury Retrograde of the year takes place from September 27 to October 18 and is based in Libra, the sign ruling relationships, harmony, balance and justice. Don't be surprised if an ex comes crawling back to you now, or if you find yourself trying to slip back in your old bae's DMs in the coming weeks!
Every Mercury Retrograde is different. But in general, it is critical to take extra time in your day-to-day activities and to practice patience while communicating, especially through text or email. If possible, hold off on any major purchases or binding contracts.
Mercury Retrogrades are conducive to all things related to the past, for better and for worse. It is not a time to push full steam ahead on any future plans. If you work against the energy of this time period by trying to start something new, expect delays and setbacks! Instead, take this time to reflect on past habits and experiences.
Here's how to use this month's Mercury Retrograde to your benefit, according to your sign.
Aries
aries horoscope GIF by MashableGiphyThinking about giving a past love a second chance? With this Mercury Retrograde taking place in your seventh house of partnerships, you will definitely be reflecting on your old romantic connections - whether they're from a past city or a past life! Expect an ex to attempt to reestablish a connection with you, or to find yourself pondering on "what if?" and reaching out to an ex instead. Expect setbacks if you meet someone new during this time.
Taurus
horoscope taurus GIF by MashableGiphyIf you're looking for work, now would be the perfect time to reach out to old co-workers and employers that you've remained pretty tight with. You may be surprised to find that an opening is available there for you and that they think you're the perfect person for the job! Take a moment to invest in your health and daily habits. Reflect on any old exercise or diet programs that were effective for you in the past and see how you can incorporate them now.
Gemini
Zodiac Horoscope GIF by MashableGiphyHave you been all work and no play lately? This is the perfect time to connect with your inner wild child. Indulge in an old hobby! Were you into Zumba or yoga before the pandemic? Check out some virtual options. Art? Now's a great time to tap into your inner Basquiat. Make some time for play. Reflect on your childhood, look through old photos. Express that creative energy and enjoy recreation, whether it's through a favorite pastime or through sex.
Cancer
Cancer Zodiac GIF by MashableGiphyFocus on your foundation. Has it been a while since you spoke to a trusted family member? How can you strengthen your sense of family and home? Look back on old family traditions that you used to enjoy and figure out how to reincorporate them into your life now. If possible, take a drive by your old neighborhood or connect with your mom whether it's through phone, in-person or in spirit. Now is not the time to enter into a new lease or any real estate contracts.
Leo
Lion Leo GIF by MashableGiphyReconnect with your siblings. Spend more time taking in the scenes of your neighborhood. Be extra careful with your words during this period. You may say something that you will regret. Take your time when communicating with others. Don't be quick to shoot off that angry email. Feeling extra tense or anxious during this Mercury Retrograde phase? Practice meditation or take a soothing ayurvedic adaptogen like Ashwagandha or Tulsi.
Virgo
Zodiac Horoscope GIF by MashableGiphyNow's the time to monitor your expenses. Think twice about any large purchases that you plan to make at this time or better yet? Hold off on them altogether. Get your financial house in order, re-work your budget and consider debt repayment options. What has added value to your life or sense of self-worth in the past? Whether it's a new look or a person or habit that always made you feel good about yourself, now's the perfect time to revisit it.
Libra
Zodiac Horoscope GIF by MashableGiphyTake time to reflect on the way you represent yourself. It may be easy for you to be misinterpreted by others during this period of time. Make who you are and your intentions extra clear in order to avoid drama!
Scorpio
Zodiac Horoscope GIF by MashableGiphyTake some time alone to reflect on yourself and your subconscious. Haven't seen your therapist in a while? Set up an appointment during this period. Revisit any healing modalities you've used in the past that you may have overlooked lately like meditation, yoga, or spiritual baths.
Sagittarius
horoscope GIF by MashableGiphyUse this opportunity to take a trip down memory lane with old friends. Reconnect with a friend that you dearly miss, but haven't spoken to in a while.
Capricorn
horoscope GIF by MashableGiphyWhat is your true calling in your life? Now's a great time to reflect on your career and your relationship with old mentors and father figures. Write down and ponder over all of your long-term career goals and by all means, protect your public image during this retrograde phase.
Aquarius
horoscope aquarius GIF by MashableGiphyHave you lost your faith in the religion you grew up with? Have you been exploring Yoruba or other cultural and spiritual practices as an alternative? Now is the time to reevaluate your belief system. Explore and expand your knowledge on spiritual or philosophical subjects that you've been drawn to but haven't put into practice yet. Many of you may contemplate a return to school.
Pisces
Zodiac Horoscope GIF by MashableGiphyYou may find yourself reconnecting with someone you enjoyed an intense, transformative experience within the past. Someone you haven't been able to fully shake. This experience may or may not stand the test of time, but appreciate any lessons and insights that you gain from it.
For more about zodiac signs, horoscopes, and astrology, check out xoNecole's Horoscopes section here.
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Some women have their whole wedding planned out, from the bridal gown and venue to the bridal party and playlist. However, KJ was not one of those people. “I didn’t foresee a wedding in my future,” she reveals. “I was just gonna be the boss chick, rich auntie. I didn’t force love in my life until recently. I never had an idea of what a dream wedding would look like, it was easier for me to elope.”
KJ Smith
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
And to many people’s surprise, that was their original plan – until Skyh brought up a valid concern. He was raised by his grandmother and thought she should be at the wedding, and naturally, that led to KJ wanting her grandmother to be there as well – then her mom – and later her sister – and, you’ve gotta invite the besties too, right? From there, the guest list continued to blossom. Much like the updo and pop of color bold red lip, she wore on her special day, which was initially on her Pinterest board as a soft glam look with her hair hanging on her shoulders, KJ is okay with changing her plan if it brings her and her loved ones happiness.
So let’s get into the wedding, which took place in Malibu, CA. The first thing you should know about the celebrity couple is that they’re non-traditional. They know, and they don’t care. So, in true unconventional fashion, they shared the morning of the wedding together.
“I woke up with Skyh, we walked our dog, had black coffee, and said good morning to the people who stayed at the venue with us,” she says.
Now, it was time for hair and makeup. While she was getting glammed up, she had Black-owned McBride Sisters wine and champagne (which ties into The Black Experience theme) on deck with her mom and friends, had her besties help rework her vows, retried on every outfit (sis is very Type-A), took photos, and ended the early-celebration with prayer and meditation. It seems very non-Bridezilla, I said.
“Yeah, I was the most unbothered bride ever. Everyone was just so supportive. As entertainers, we go on red carpets all the time. We actually have a production company,” she explains. “The get-ready process was like a day at work, but with people we love the most. Being entertainers, we didn’t feel stressed at all, but my excitement was so high.”
Things moved quickly, and before she knew it, it was time to line up to walk down the aisle.
“Yeah, I was the most unbothered bride ever. Everyone was just so supportive. As entertainers, we go on red carpets all the time. We actually have a production company. The get-ready process was like a day at work, but with people we love the most. Being entertainers, we didn’t feel stressed at all, but my excitement was so high.”
KJ Smith and her bridal party
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
Since everything started with their grandmothers, the couple wanted to ensure they honored them and planned to keep an element of their wedding traditional. Although we’ve all seen the reception videos and photos online, you may have noticed visuals from the wedding itself are harder to find.
“We planned for it to be traditional, but we’re not like that, so we tried to create those moments. We jumped the broom and had a salt ceremony (where the bride and groom individually pour salt into a glass container, symbolizing their lives becoming one.) But honestly, still, nothing was traditional about it.”
She goes on to explain that her mom caught the holy ghost coming down the aisle, her glam team was on deck, and she became so nervous with excitement that she had an anxiety attack – something she struggled with for years, she explains tearfully. Her friends had to literally cheer her down the aisle because of how overwhelmed she felt until she eventually calmed down.
“Skyh was standing there with his hand on his heart; we have our own little language, and I could feel the support,” she shares.
It was surprising to hear all these emotional moments happened before the party we saw online. That is until she once again got into the backstory.
“As a Black woman actress, for so long, it was popular to be mysterious and secretive, but that’s not who I am or what I like. Plus, we both wanted to create an experience for everyone there. We are the people who always host family and friends,” she says. “Like for me, the first order of business was getting sandals for the women so they can dance all night long. We had oxtail, D'ussé, and a coffee and sativa lounge – which is part of Skyh and I’s lifestyle and routine. We wanted to bring them into our world.”
Skyh Black (L) and KJ Smith (R)
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
She went on to discuss the dance routine she did for her husband at the reception, which has taken over the internet. Apparently, that’s another thing that didn’t go according to plan. According to KJ, she had promised a performance at their joint bachelor/ bachelorette party, but her outfit got stolen from her car. So, Skyh ended up performing for her – complete with a strip tease. Still, she never forgot her promise to dance for him.
So, she hired her friend as a choreographer, learned the routine, made friends and family watch it endless times, and attended Beyoncé’s Renaissance show a few days before for a confidence boost. It ended up being a show to remember. But that wasn’t all the night offered. Lil Mo performed, and the guests received special goody bags featuring their favorite Black-owned products like journals, hair care, and more.
“We made sure everyone was taken care of all night. That kind of stuff makes us happy. I wanted everyone there to experience the joy and love I have for myself, my partner, and for them. I wanted them to feel full and whole, and they had the time of their lives,” she says.
But naturally, the internet is going to internet, and while there were countless people praising the event and applauding the newlyweds, some thought it was too over the top. I was curious to know her thoughts on some of the criticism.
“It’s cool. We did what we wanted to do. I’ve decided to share my world with people. Just how I went on social media platforms and found inspiration, I want people to do the same,” she explains. “I don’t think it's fair to my supporters not to give that out. There’s so much I wanna share with brides, specifically Black brides. I love that people are adding it to their Pinterest boards."
"I wanted everyone there to experience the joy and love I have for myself, my partner, and for them. I wanted them to feel full and whole, and they had the time of their lives."
KJ Smith
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
“I’m happy with it because we did what we wanted to do. They can do what they wanna do. Don’t be cruel, though, because you will get blocked,” she said, laughing.
The more I spoke with her, the more her sense of freedom shined through. People are always going to have their opinions, but at the end of the day, it’s you who has to live your life, and it seems like the couple realizes that and embraces that power. She also stressed the importance of not living for others and the lessons life has taught her.
“I’ve been to countless weddings, and I’ve been in countless weddings. I’m a generally older bride. So when women in my demographic get married, and you and your husband are busy working people like us, you deserve to have the one you want to have,” she shares.
“This is what we wanted to do. Our loved ones love and support us. We did so much to honor them, but we also wanted to start our own tradition, legacy, and creation. I'm not going to be pulled back into ideas of the past when I’m trying to create a future with my partner. “
If you’d like to see more of the couple, you probably won’t have to wait long. Although no content is planned yet, she admits to being an oversharer. “Me being open and transparent about my experiences lets people know it’s okay to have flaws; it makes you human, and for many years, I didn’t believe that was okay. I had pressure to be perfect, and I’d crumble every time,” she explains to xoNecole.
Now, she owns her flaws and uses them as a superpower to connect with her community and feel and express her love.
“Some people give us [Skyh and KJ] a hard time because they say we just seem too perfect. I’m like, why is that a bad thing? I love the people I love. From my man to my mama, to my friends - unabashedly. We move through time and space how we want to move. If we did it another way, we’d let ourselves and our union down.”
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Feature image by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
