Every morning is the start of something great and has us ready to do our hair toss and check our nails *cue Lizzo*. But by the time we brush our teeth and unwrap our hair, the day tends to fall into the rut and pattern of the ones before.
Before we know it, days, weeks, months and even years have gone by before we realize that we haven't been making our days great. Instead, our days have been making us tired and exhausted. It doesn't have to be this way though.
By making small steps like these on a daily, we can make the most out of our time and flourish with a meaningful life.
1.Wake Up Earlier
Have you ever wondered how some people are SO much more productive? We all have the same 24 hours in a day (blah, blah, blah), but sometimes, it seems like other people get blessed with a couple of extra hours at the top. Well, that's actually true. While some of us are rolling over and hitting the snooze button, others are tapping into their discipline and rising and shining hours ahead of time.
Getting out of the habit of waking up just in time for work and being intentional about waking up earlier to knock out your to-do list before you even leave the house can create some pretty meaningful changes. You'll feel more energetic and make the most out of your day.
2.Do Something That Makes You Nervous
Sometimes, it's so easy to get into a funk because we're doing the same thing day in and day out. Where's the motivation in that? No wonder we feel depleted, uncreative and uninspired. Meanwhile, we're watching others live their best lives feeling like we're not worthy of doing the same. If this is you, try something new… literally.
Do something every day (or at least every week) that makes your palms sweaty. Take a risk and get out of your comfort zone. You'll not only find that your life can truly be meaningful but also realize that you're getting closer to your goals that you might have been too afraid to go for in the past.
3.Have Conversations That Inspire You
It's no secret that conversations we have with others can make or break our day. So why not let it make your day count? Whether it's a conversation with a friend or a coworker, talk about something that excites you. You never know what kind of inspiration you might get out of it, or even what type of encouragement you could offer. All it takes is a conversation about your dreams, goals, and things that put a smile on your face.
Sometimes we can be so afraid to share things with others out of fear that they'll "hate" on it, or just not be supportive. But having conversations about things you love with people you trust can help you become more fulfilled and purposed by the end of the day.
4.Journal It!
Journaling is the gift that keeps on giving. Whether they were good or bad, it's so amazing to look back on dreams, thoughts, goals, feelings, and ideas that we once had. It shows the growth and progress that we might not have even realized we made. Sometimes having a more meaningful life is just capturing the one that you already live.
We might feel like we're too busy in the hustle and bustle to take time to sit down and reflect (and even remember) how far we've come. But writing journal entries for just a few minutes a day can push us toward the life we think we don't have time to live.
5.Thank God!
No matter what happens each day, finding something to be thankful for can create such a refreshing mental state. I once received the advice to write down 10 things I'm thankful for before I go to bed, and it's been life-changing! On those days we go to bed convinced that something won't work out, or that our lives are just blah, we can be thankful for things that did work in our favor that day, even if it's something as (seemingly) small as making it to work on time, getting around safely and our health. Keeping an "attitude of gratitude" is what keeps our lives full and meaningful.
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Yep. I actually read one survey (that consisted of 2,000 people) that said folks tend to have twice as much sex while they are on vacation than they do when they’re at home. It makes sense too when you factor in that you have less to do (unless you’re traveling with those folks who act like you need an itinerary for every damn thing — and we all know one…SMDH), which makes you less stressed out, which makes it easier to feel sexy and to want to get sexual.
And so, in the spirit of that indeed being the case, I want to make sure that you carve out a corner of your suitcase or carry-on to include at least half of the following 12 things that are on this list — things that can help to make “summer vacation sex”…that much hotter, y’all.
1. Edible-Grade Sunscreen
GiphyIt can’t be said enough that, no matter how melanated you may be, your skin needs sunscreen. Not only to protect yourself from the risk of skin cancer (which 1 in 5 Americans will get in their lifetime) but from premature aging that can come from sun damage too. That said, if the urge arises to have sex outside somewhere, I did find some edible-grade sunscreen, in case you’re either worried about what sex in the sun will do to your skin or how all of the chemicals in sunscreen will affect your (digestive) system. The company is called Sky & Sol and you can read up on them here.
2. Flavored Lip Balm
GiphyIf you’ve ever wondered why your lips are so susceptible to being chapped, it’s because they don’t contain any oil glans to keep them moisturized. This is especially important to keep in mind when the weather is extremely cold or hot because that can do a real number on the sensitive skin that your lips are made out of. That’s why it’s essential to stay well-hydrated and to also keep some lip balm in tow. Lip balm is especially designed to moisturize your lips, reduce chapping, exfoliate, soothe irritation and protect your lips from UV damage. As a bonus, lip balm will also help to keep your lips super soft and kissable; especially if you get the flavored kind. #wink
3. Condoms
GiphyI’m still out here, literally shaking my damn head, that reportedly, only one-third of men and one-fourth of women use condoms (and even many of those folks don’t do it consistently). It can’t be said enough that if you’re not in a monogamous (married) or exclusive (dating) relationship where you both are getting regularly tested and are on some other form of birth control (unless you want to get pregnant) — you absolutely should be using condoms and, as a woman, you should not solely rely on your partner to have some that are ready and available.
Not just because you should be responsible for your body and health but because not all condoms are made equal, so you should bring along some that you prefer/enjoy. If you’d like a lil’ help picking those out, check out “These Are The Kinds Of Condoms Your Vagina Would Actually Prefer.”
4. Crotchless Swimsuit
GiphyPacking some sexy lingerie? I certainly hope that goes without saying. If you’ve got a hot tub around, though and you want to “get it in” without getting totally naked (so that nosey people won’t see every damn thing), you do know that there are some crotchless swimsuits out in these streets, right? An example of one is here. Of course, you can always do what Beyoncé said in “Drunk in Love” and just move ish over to the side but…I’m just giving you another creative option…if you wanted one.
5. Blindfolds
GiphyIf you’d like to cultivate an atmosphere of mystery or anticipation, a simple blindfold will do the trick. There is another reason why I think they are great for summer vacation (sex) trips, though — if your hotel room doesn’t come with blackout curtains and you want to have a quickie or two without the room being so bright, putting on a blindfold can solve that “problem” too.
6. Waterproof Sex Toys
GiphyWho said that you have to wait until you get to your hotel room to engage in some foreplay? If you bring a couple of sex toys around, you can tease each other practically anywhere — and if they are waterproof, that includes in the ocean or pool. Some, you can pair up with your smartphone in order to stimulate your partner from just about anywhere. Whew, chile.
7. Homemade Sex Toys Too
GiphySpeaking of sex toys, you’d probably be amazed at how many things in your house can double up as one. A spatula or wooden spoon is great for spanking. A necktie, some tights and a pair of clothespins work well for BDSM (use your imagination, sis). An electronic toothbrush is its own vibrator. A string of (lubricated) pearls in between your thighs? Girrrl…GIRL. Oh, and cop a silicone ice tray that comes in different shapes.
When you are rubbing ice in the shape of fruit, flowers or even animals over each other’s bodies, you’ll be surprised by how the combination of the cold with the texture of the space of the ice will stimulate you (make the ice out of juice instead of water for an extra sweet treat!).
8. Portable Charger
GiphyI don’t know what took me so long to get a damn portable charger but it’s one of the best things that ever happened to me. What I personally purchased is the ANKER Zolo Power Bank, 20,000mAh 30W High-Speed Portable Charger. I can throw it in my purse, it charges fast, I can use more than once before needing to recharge it; plus, it complements most devices. A great thing to keep in mind, so that your sex toys don’t end up going out on you while you’re…wherever you are.
9. Massage Oil Candle
GiphyGoing through security at the airport can be a HEADACHE. And while, how long it can take, oftentimes varies on the airport you’re at and the time you are traveling (you can read more about that here), the process is going to be especially annoying if they have to go through your bags. Since you can currently only pack a quarter-sized bag of liquid products on your carry-on, my two cents would be to leave the massage oil at home and pack a massage oil candle instead.
That way, you can still engage in some temperature play (check out “Hot Sex: 10 Super Sultry Reasons To Bring Wax Play Into Your Bedroom”) while you’re on the road without going through any security hassle hang-ups. Some edible massage oil candles are located right here.
10. Wine Cooler Sleeve
GiphySay that you end up going on a wine tasting tour while you’re on vacation and you end up purchasing a bottle or you simply want to toast with some champagne but you’re not sure how to store the bottle. Did you know that there are wine cooler sleeves that are lightweight, portable and will help to keep your bottles cold without condensation for hours on end? A brand that comes highly recommended is here.
11. Rose Petals
GiphyI think there are a few reasons why rose petals are oftentimes used to create a sexy mood. Red symbolizes love and passion. Rose petals are soft to the touch. The scent of them is considered to be an aphrodisiac as well. For all of these reasons, bring along some fresh rose petals for your hotel bed. If you put a damp paper towel in something like a small Tupperware container and then place the rose petals inside of that, they won’t dry out quickly which will make them feel great once you’re ready to start rolling around in them (you can also keep them in your hotel room’s fridge to further extend their shelf life).
12. Mints
GiphyMorning sex. Outdoor sex. Whatever kind of sex — it’s always going to be better when your breath and his smell good. And just so you don’t have to lug around a big bottle of mouthwash, pack some mints. Altoids are always going to be my number one draft pick — yet go with whatever are your personal faves. They’re the perfect hack for unbelievable summer vacation sex. Wouldn’t you agree? Enjoy!
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