Something that I really appreciate about sex — other than the fact that it's, well, sex — is there really is so much to learn about it. Just when you think that you know all that there is — BOOM! Some new info reveals itself that helps to take things to a whole 'nother level. In walks, the G-Scale orgasm.
If you've never heard of it before, I'm pretty sure that you're absolutely not alone. I mean, I wasn't super familiar with it either until a few weeks ago. Once I did some reading, researching and pondering, I must admit that I do dig the concept. So, if you're ready to make your orgasms even more intense than they (hopefully) already are, knowing where you land on the G-Scale may be just what you need.
So, What Does “G-Scale” Mean?
OK, so from what I've researched, it would appear that when it comes to the actual concept of a G-Scale orgasm, the credit needs to go to a female neuroscientist and sex therapist by the name of Nan Wise, Ph.D. who decided that it would be cool to come up with a literal Richter scale for orgasms. Meaning, you know how earthquakes have levels to them and they are measured on the Richter scale? Well, Dr. Wise figured that this same mindset can apply to how powerful an orgasm is — or not? Because let's not sit here and act like all orgasms are created equal…that some aren't way more intense than others.
So, besides just knowing that some feel different, how do you actually measure an orgasm? Well, it would seem that the intensity that we feel, on many levels, is directly connected to the erogenous zones that are stimulated during sexual activity. For instance, when focus is put on to your clitoris (including your clitoral hood), an area of your brain known as genital sensory cortex is awakened; the more it is stimulated, the more powerful your orgasms will feel.
And just how do you figure out where you fall on the Richter scale? Well, that is where the sex toy company Hot Octopuss comes in. They actually created a quiz that you can take that will help you to determine where you currently fall on the scale (you can take the quiz for yourself here). And what if you discover that your orgasms don't leave you nearly as "shaken up" as you deserve to be? Well, that's where the next point comes in.
How Can the G-Scale Make Your Orgasms Better?
So, here's the deal when it comes to orgasms as it relates to the G-Scale. According to it, if you pretty much only cum when your clitoris is stimulated, that would be considered a "one-level" orgasm (I know, right?). Now an orgasm, period, is pretty grand. Still, check this out — a six-level orgasm (which is pretty much the peak) is defined as being where you land when you've had your vagina, clitoris, G-spot, nipples and also your mind aroused. When you've got a partner who is able to literally touch you in all of these areas, he's been able to get you into what is known as "the M-Zone" — and baby, if you're there, you've literally reached the mountaintop of orgasms!
So, you get where this is going, right? If you want to achieve more pleasurable climaxes, it's important that more than your genital region is stimulated (surprise, surprise). Matter of fact, Dr. Wise believes that the more that we are mentally aroused, the lighter (less stressed and "heavy") our brains will become and the easier it will be to have more fulfilling orgasms (orgasmic meditation, anyone?).
3 Ways to Up Your Orgasms on the G-Scale
With all of this broken down, what do you do if you realize that you've been sitting at around a 1 and you want to get close to a 6 on the G-scale? Good question. After taking the quiz, there are three hacks that can definitely help you, as soon as tonight, even.
1. Mentally connect more with your partner.
I don't know about y'all but I personally feel bad for people who've never really had a strong mental and emotional connection with a sex partner. I don't care of it's a man or a woman, almost everyone I've talked to about this topic can vouch for the fact that when two people are in sync beyond the physical, sex goes to an entirely different dimension. And, as you've already read, in order to get to a 6, to hit the M-Zone, that's exactly what needs to happen.
Verbally affirm one another. Go on "love language dates" more often (check out "15 Date Ideas Based On Your Love Language"). Become intentional about being a better listener. Make the sexual experience more romantic.
When you feel connected, you feel seen. When you feel seen, it can make you feel cherished. And when you feel cherished, the sky really is the limit on how passionate the sex can become. Amen? Amen.
2. Be intentional about exploring (more) erogenous zones.
So, from what I have researched, men and women both have approximately 14 different erogenous zones — scalp (cue Mario's "Braid My Hair"), mouth, neck, ears, nipples, armpits, wrists, hands, bottoms of the feet, behind the knees, stomach (especially the belly button), lower back, inner thighs and of course, the genital region. This means that there are at least 14 different places we all can go to make our partners feel absolutely amazing.
When it comes to getting to a 6, edging (bringing certain erogenous zones to the brink of orgasm before backing off for a spell) helps. So does mastering foreplay when it comes to these spots; especially when it comes to — for us — the nipples, vagina, clitoris and G-spot. Once again, a reminder that intercourse alone can "get us there" but to really reach the peak, other body parts need to be involved.
3. Slow the process down.
Personally, when I think of what could be done to enter into the M-Zone, having sex in the spoon position definitely comes to mind because it's an easy way for your partner to stimulate all of the parts of your body that need to be in order to achieve a 6. Yet more than anything, what I got out of all of this is sex needs to be intentional — slower, intensified, with both people exploring all of what their bodies have to offer.
Put a playlist together. Get the clock out of your bedroom. Lose yourself in one another. Do that and things can go from mild tremors to literally y'all shaking the room up! The M-Zone, indeed.
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As someone who has spent the larger part of her life in the South, I have never felt heat and humidity quite like New Orleans, Louisiana.
Last year, I visited ESSENCE Fest for the first time, and with little context as to what the weekend of events would entail, one thing I did know — for a fact — was that I would be sweating from head to toe. While prepping for the trip, I was advised by a festival expert that if I was going to make it through Bourbon St. and beyond, one item I needed by my side was a compact, handheld fan to serve as my personal central air, on hand. And with two summers down, it’s been my greatest cooling companion ever since.
The JISULIFE Handheld Fan has guaranteed my personal cooling experience, and I can’t help but stan this fan.
The device boasts an impressive amount of endurance, delivering a remarkable 46 hours of battery life at speed one, 35 hours at speed two, and 13 hours at speed three, and might I add that’s all on a mere 3-4 hours of full charging. It provides micro wind power that’s sure to make this fan your ultimate BFF in the battle against heat.
Not only is this fan adorable in its design, but it’s also compact enough to fit in your clutches and pocketbooks that meet bag size restrictions at concerts or for when you want to drop it in your bag or pocket while making moves this summer.
It’s whisper-quiet, and as if its design wasn't already impressive, it comes with a built-in flashlight, that activates with a simple long press of the power button when the fan is stationary. I wasn’t kidding when I said it truly has it all.
I’ve personally found my JISULIFE Handheld Fan to have the extra perk of being a conversation starter when I’m out running errands through the city or keeping the sweat at bay while at a summer night function.
I recently attended a party that attracted a noticeably large crowd and an even more notable layer of heat in the midst of all the dancing. Being quick on my feet, I remembered that I had packed my handheld fan along with me and pulled it out to come to my rescue. When my little pink propellers started twirling in the dim club, I soon began to get requests from suitors looking to bask in my personal cooling experience.
I obliged some for a moment and politely declined the request to share with others, but in both cases, it was fun to see my little cooling BFF work overtime as my ventilation system and party trick for the night.
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