A Cancer and Virgo relationship is often a match made in heaven. There are a lot of similarities in the ways that Cancers and Virgos love that gives them a special kind of kinship. Cancer and Virgo are service-oriented signs. They love to give, be there for each other and have a natural gift for making others feel good or better in some way.
In a relationship, there is a sweet alliance these two form, and they quickly become each other's strongest allies. A Cancer woman's emotional world may be a little more foreign to a Virgo man’s analytical mind, but he has a sense of wanting to protect and know this soul. They both live up to each other’s type of ideal partner in many ways and they are more about working together rather than anything else. This partnership can last the tests of time and is one that both nourishes and grounds.
What attracts a Cancer woman and a Virgo man to each other?
There is an attraction between these two that is often one of those, “how have we not met sooner” moments. These two almost always meet like magnets and are at the right place at the right time when this connection forms. The Cancer woman is attracted to the Virgo man's sense of assuredness yet humble nature and wants to know what else is behind the stern exterior. She can immediately sense there are layers to this man and she is intrigued to dive deeper and know more.
The Virgo man is attracted to the Cancer woman's nurturing yet empowering nature. There is alluring energy that a Cancer woman exudes that makes the connections she forms somewhat mysterious to others. The Virgo man likes to make sense of things and will find the Cancer woman an intriguing mystery he wants to figure out. The immediate connection between these two is empowering yet almost vague and it’s once these two dive deeper, trust each other, and let their guards down, that the true connection and relationship begin to form.
What is the relationship like between a Cancer woman and a Virgo man?
When in a relationship this couple loves to spend time at home in their safe spaces, they love to make food or go out to eat together, and their relationship is filled with doing sweet things for one another as well as for others. Tiny gestures go a long way with these two and they quickly learn this about each other. Both Virgo and Cancer’s love language is acts of service and they both tend to feel fulfilled in what they are receiving in the relationship. If one person can keep up with a Virgo’s perfectionist eye, it’s another Virgo or a Cancer.
These two create a strong bond almost immediately, and that bond doesn’t go away. As they continue to learn more about each other they continue to fall even deeper in love, and this relationship is a gift that keeps giving. Although both signs can get a little cranky and critical over the tiny things, they also remember the tiny things, and this relationship is filled with a lot of sweet moments.
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What is the sex like between a Cancer woman and a Virgo man?
Sex between a Cancer woman and a Virgo man is all about understanding each other's needs. Both of these signs love to cater to one another, and they will take their time in figuring out what works for them and what doesn’t. The chemistry these two have does most of the work, and there isn’t much these two have to complain about in the bed. A Cancer woman is all about creating the right vibe and atmosphere, and this sense of comfortability and care is important to the Virgo man. They both want to have the best experience and will work with one another to provide that.
Differences can arise here between the two when it comes to the Cancer woman wanting their sex life to be more surprising and impulsive and will want to make love in those emotionally exciting moments. A Virgo man has to make sure everything is checked off his to-do list before he can feel fully relaxed and in the moment more often than not. The biggest challenge these two will have is timing when it comes to making love, and will have to work together here.
What makes a relationship between a Cancer woman and a Virgo man work?
What makes a relationship between a Cancer woman and a Virgo man work is their chemistry and dedication towards one another. Both signs aren’t ones to give up on something important to them, and they create the right conditions for their relationships to continue to bloom. The Cancer woman makes the house a home, and the Virgo man wants to sustain what world they have created together. Their support systems outside of the relationship all most likely see them as the nurturers and givers in their own lives and value that these two types of people have found each other.
There are not too many dull moments in the relationship of a Cancer woman and a Virgo man as Cancer is always feeling through something and Virgo is always thinking through something. If the Cancer woman wants to be in her shell, the Virgo man is probably in his too, and rather than poke at each other all day, they respect each other’s boundaries and needs. Both of these signs tend to feel more pressured around the fire or air signs as they need a lot more external stimulation than they can always provide. What makes this relationship work is that they can truly just be in each other’s company in silence or laughter and feel completely fulfilled and satisfied.
What may cause a Cancer woman and a Virgo man to break up?
What can get these two tangled in challenges is their tendency to be too critical toward one another. Both of these signs have a moody nature to them and if they aren’t on the same page immediately, it can be difficult to get there. If the Cancer woman isn’t feeling good internally, she isn’t feeling good externally; and if the Virgo man isn’t feeling good about what’s happening externally, he isn’t feeling good internally. Although these signs both tend to be more introverted, Virgo’s high sensitivities are activated by external circumstances, which cannot always be controlled. Virgo will try to fix the outside before the in, whereas Cancer is like let's work through these emotions before we figure out what to do externally. They both will need to work on getting on the same page and meeting each other in the middle in this relationship.
They have to understand that they aren’t always going to be on the same emotional plane and learning how to find the balance between each other’s needs in that moment is critical to giving each other and the relationship the proper support and nurture needed to grow. These two can learn a lot from each other through open and honest discussion and by allowing each other space and time for reflection when needed. They have to remember that they won't always have the same needs or ways of expression, and learning to understand one another’s personal habits or rituals can lead to more synergy in the relationship.
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Summary
Overall, this is a relationship that takes less effort to work and leaves more room to love. These two naturally can give each other what the other is looking for, and even through their differences, they see so many similarities between each other that are heart-warming. Often an immediate attraction, the Cancer woman and Virgo man get together with the idea of forever in mind.
They understand that this is a love they both can’t pass up, and they truly value each other’s presence and heart. Loyalty is both important to the two, and they can provide this type of trust, security, and happiness in the relationship. Water and earth signs tend to give soulmate energy, and this pairing resonates well with that.
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Why can’t (more) singles just be single and be okay with that? Good Lord. Why does there need to be some sort of relational play-on-words to make it sound like we’re with someone — even if we’re not?
Now masturdating? Even though it’s not even close to being a “real” word, it’s something that also brought a laugh outta me — although it was then followed by a genuine smile. The laugh because I almost immediately caught the play-on-words. The smile was due to the intention behind it all.
If you’re not familiar with what masturdating is and you’re curious about why you should even care, take a few moments to at least skim through what it’s about and why I think participating, as a single person, is a pretty cool (and effective) concept.
@knotlukas Masturdate: a date w oneself
What’s Masturdating All About?
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Masturdating. Okay, so let the word marinate for just a moment. What does it sound like? Yeah…exactly. And since a huge part of masturbation centers around self-pleasure, it’s cool to explore how “self-dating” could produce similar (as far as pleasure is concerned in a broader sense) results. Because masturdating is all about spending quality time with yourself, pampering yourself, treating yourself— and yes, taking yourself out on dates.
Any of you who may think that masturdating is a consolation prize — and a pitiful one at that — for not being able to go out with another human being or get that dream $200 first date that social media was all in a tizzy about last year (bookmark that) — personally, I think that you’re the demographic who needs to try out masturdating first and the most. Why? Off top, I’ll share my three good reasons.
3 Reasons To Strongly Consider Masturdating
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1. It’s an intimate way to get to know yourself better. I’ve been working with couples for a pretty long time at this point and if there’s a pattern that I see arise, OFTEN, it’s that two people are oftentimes so busy trying to “find their person” that they didn’t even know who they were. As a direct result, they found themselves in a relationship with someone who only complemented the “kiddie pool version” of who they were.
That’s why it can be so beneficial to spend time getting to know yourself on the “deep end” of things: what makes you tick, what your passions are, what you want most out of life, what are your interests beyond obvious things — and masturdating can help you to discover all of this. Whether it’s traveling alone or taking out a weekend to drink some wine and journal, the more you get to know yourself, the clearer you’ll be about who complements you on a romantic and friendship level.
2. It will definitely help to boost your confidence levels. I guess since I’m an ambivert, I don’t really get why people freak out at the mere thought of going to a restaurant or movie alone. Personally, I think it requires a helluva lot more energy and gumption to wait around and plan stuff with other people (#Elmoshrug). However, whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert, there’s no way around the fact that the more comfortable you get with doing things alone, the more your confidence levels will increase — no, soar — because of it.
One article that I read on the topic said that doing things alone can make you more creative, improve your mental health, and help you to be totally okay with being alone (so that you’re not “needy” for other people’s attention). A psychotherapist from a New York Times article on the benefits of spending time alone said, “Getting better at identifying moments when we need solitude to recharge and reflect can help us better handle negative emotions and experiences, like stress and burnout.” And when you’re able to stare negativity in its face without flinching, how could that not make you bolder, more self-secure, and hopeful about your life?
3. It will teach you to value your time more effectively. In every facet of your world, you’re gonna operate from a healthier place if you’re operating from a “full cup” rather than an empty one. When it comes to this topic, think about it — if you’re constantly waiting on someone to call you to go out or wishing for a dream date with some guy, all you’re doing is wasting precious time that you could be spending taking a cooking class or hell, hiring a chef to make you dinner at your own home.
Indeed, waiting has two sides to it: when it’s in the form of patience, it is indeed a virtue, yet when it’s wrapped up in the notion that you’re not really living life unless you have an audience…it is totally working against you. Choose wisely.
10 Solo Date Ideas To Help You To “Master” Masturdating
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So, what if you’re someone who has either never considered actually masturdating before or you don’t really know what to do beyond dinner and the movies? Here are a few ideas to consider:
1. Attend a workshop or masterclass that you’re interested in. If there’s something that you’ve always wanted to learn, sign up for a workshop or masterclass. The cool thing about this option is there are probably some in your city, as well as some that you can find online (like here) that are convenient and affordable.
2. Binge-read at a local coffee shop. Aside from their coziness and oftentimes inviting scents, I once read that a lot of us gravitate to coffee shops because we can be around people without having to actually socialize with them. So, if you want to “hang out” while still being able to enjoy a bit of solitude, take a book that you’ve been trying to finish to a local coffee shop, order your favorite latte, and sit in a big-ass comfy chair. Usually, you can sit there for hours, and the staff will be just fine with it (another bonus).
3. Have a spa day in the next town. You can never go wrong with a spa day. And while going with a friend can be fun, sometimes there’s too much talking transpiring to be able to fully chill out and relax. So, go off of the grid, get a change of scenery, and hit up a spa in the next city (or town). There are lots of studies out here supporting that day trips or “daycations” can actually be really good for your long-term health and well-being.
4. See a community play. Some of the best solo dates that I’ve ever been on consisted of taking in some of the local arts in my city. What’s really cool about this particular option is, oftentimes, they are extremely inexpensive, if not totally free of charge (in exchange for making a donation or putting money into a tip jar).
5. Plan a trip. Whenever people say something along the lines of, “If you don’t expect anything, you won’t be disappointed,” I know that they low-key have some (additional) healing to do from past disappointments. There’s simply too much intel out here to support that anticipation (of good stuff) makes us more motivated and optimistic, keeps our dopamine levels up, and makes life more exciting overall.
Since traveling alone is more cost-effective, gives you the freedom to do whatever you want (when you want), and increases the possibility of meeting new people and having new experiences on your journey — why not devote a day this weekend to planning a solo trip? All the way around, it’s good for you.
6. Try your hand at your own “$200 date.” Uh-huh. Roll your eyes if you want to, but it’s real easy to talk left about how a man should be able to just drop $200 like it’s nothing…until you actually try to do it. So yes, while taking yourself out on this type of date could serve as a bit of a reality check, it can also “scratch the itch” of waiting on some dude to do it for you. It’s also way less emotionally draining because, at least when you’re taking your own self out, it’s guaranteed that you’ll enjoy the company…right?
7. DIY some pampering. When you get a chance, check out “5 Reasons You Should Unapologetically Pamper Yourself,” “Want To Love On Yourself? Try These 10 Things At Home.,” “I’ve Got Some Ways For You To Start Pampering Your Soul,” and “When's The Last Time You Actually Pampered Your Vagina?” The bottom line here is pampering is all about, not mere self-maintenance; it’s all about treating yourself to levels of EXTREME SELF-INDULGENCE. So, if nothing else tickles your fancy on this list, at least consider doing that, chile.
8. Feed your creativity. Something that I used to be really good at is art. That said, one of my goddaughters is insanely talented, so she has reminded me to tap back into it. Also, a big part of what got me into the writing world is poetry; I actually used to be a house poet at a local spot. Sometimes, my best quality time moments with myself have been revisiting these creative sides of me — and this is definitely easier to do (and enjoy) alone.
9. Try some stargazing. When’s the last time you took a blanket into your backyard, laid down on it, and just stared at the stars for hours on end? While some say that stargazing can teach you to be mindful, others say that being in that form of nature reduces stress, while others believe that looking up at the universe at night can increase your attention span. All solid reasons to give it a shot, if you ask me.
10. DO. ABSOLUTELY. NOTHING. Let me tell you something that nobody will ever be able to make me feel bad about: doing absolutely nothing. I’ve got data to back me up. Good Housekeeping shares that doing nothing can help you decide how you want to respond or react to certain things. I like howThe Guardian says that taking this approach helps you to regain control of what you give your attention to.
TIME magazine says that it can ultimately make you more productive.BBC offers up that it can help you tap into your ingenuity.Henry Ford Health says that it can make you kinder and a better problem-solver. So, if you want to invest in yourself, do nothing sometimes.
Closing Thoughts from the Lovely Javicia Leslie
While some of y'all may know Javicia Leslie from being the former Batwoman, I discovered her back in the day from the indie series Chef Julian (and yes, "Julian" was right to say that "Mo" looks like Tatyana Ali...the real ones know). Sometimes I'll hop on her IG to see what she's got going on and this story popped up within a few hours of me penning this...so, I took it as hella confirmation.
TREAT YO SELF. WAIT FOR NO ONE.
WAIT FOR NO ONE. TREAT YO SELF.
RINSE AND REPEAT.
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Sooo…what kind of masturdating plans do you have for this coming weekend? While going out with others has its perks, hanging out with yourself has a ton of ‘em too. Enjoy!
No…for real. ENJOY!
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