What The New Moon In Capricorn Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
If there was one sentence to describe the vibe of this month’s New Moon in Capricorn, it’d be "new year, new you." The energy of this moon phase is going to support your New Year’s resolutions, especially during the first half of the month, so don’t be afraid to dream big! Capricorn is the astrological sign that rules career, tradition, major institutions, ambition and mentors, among other things - this month’s New Moon will highlight all things related to structure, growth and social status.
In astrology, the New Moon is a period of new beginnings and fresh energy. This New Moon in Capricorn cycle is an excellent time to start a new job, create a business, schedule a meeting with a mentor, or to create a vision board. Additionally, a New Moon is an ideal time for setting new intentions and goals. Use the rejuvenating energy of this moon phase to embark on a fresh start in your life.
Here’s how your sign can make the best use of January’s New Moon in Capricorn:
1.Aries
Keep an eye out for new job opportunities this week, Aries! Schedule a meeting with a higher-up or mentor figure in your life during this time. Flesh out that five-year career plan.
2.Taurus
You’re feeling bold and will enjoy a streak of luck this week, Taurus! Lean into that energy by stepping out of your comfort zone - allow your curiosity to lead you to exciting new horizons and experiences.
3.Gemini
Pay attention to any gut feelings you receive this week, Gemini. They are likely to be spot-on and significant in some way. You may finally have sex with a new lover or receive some unexpected cash.
4.Cancer
Expect and embrace a brand new chapter in your relationship, Cancer! Have a meaningful discussion with your significant other during the week of this New Moon. The results of it will be significant and well in line with whatever the future holds for you both.
5.Leo
Your health, weight, and the way your life is organized are on your mind this week, Leo! Any changes that you make related to those right now will have positive energy and blessings behind them.
6.Virgo
This is an excellent time for conceiving a child, dating someone new, or doing something that feeds your authentic self-expression. Don’t waste this opportunity, Virgo.
7.Libra
This week marks a new beginning as it relates to your home and/or family life, Libra. This is a great time to plan out new decor for your space or to sign a lease.
8.Scorpio
This is a great time to have a conversation with a sibling or a neighbor. A small weekend getaway will prove to be very fulfilling for you. You may meet a friend that you vibe with on a soul-level, Scorpio.
9.Sagittarius
Focus on the things that nourish your sense of self-worth this week, Sagittarius. Stay away from the negative Nancies in the days leading up to and following the New Moon. Spend time doing things - and with people - that affirm how amazing and valued you are.
10.Capricorn
Now’s your time to shine, Capricorn! All eyes will be on you this week. Take this time to reflect on how you are currently perceived and how you’d like to fine-tune that. Make sure you’re making the best impressions you can at this time because people of significance are watching.
11.Aquarius
Any epiphanies that you experience now are significant. Pay attention to them. Spend this time alone and in reflection. Meditate or take a spiritual bath.
12.Pisces
New directions in friendship are featured for you this week, Pisces! Put yourself out there and allow yourself to be vulnerable with a trusted companion.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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