
A Scorpio’s love life is fueled with passion, intensity, and intimacy. A Scorpio in love brings out an emotional and vulnerable side to Scorpio that not that many people see right away.
Scorpio in Love & Relationships
They love the chase, and they are willing to pursue what it is their heart desires. They will go to the ends of the earth for those they love, and they are very protective, supportive, and loving. Not to mention, Scorpios are sexy. They naturally exude this type of magnetism and mystery in their life, and they intrigue many who come in their peripheral.
Scorpios are known to be the sexual and passionate sign of the zodiac, and there is a reason for this. Scorpios are ruled by the 8th house of intimacy, sex, commitment, and emotional depth. Scorpio also rules the reproductive system and sexual organs of the body. Needless to say, the sex life of a Scorpio is one for the books. Their stamina is unmatched, and people’s experience with them in love is often unforgettable in many different ways.
Scorpio Love Compatibility: Best & Worst Matches in the Zodiac
The downside of Scorpio in a relationship is that they tend to get attached to people in a way that can be detrimental to them and those involved. Scorpio’s emotions run high, and if not regulated properly, they can be very emotionally impulsive, leading them to make decisions they later regret. Scorpios can be led by passion and power rather than positive intention, and moves through a lot of transformations in their love life, evolving and learning more about themselves through each experience.
When Scorpio is paired with someone who they are naturally compatible with, however, fewer challenges get in the way of the positive and harmonious traits they possess. If a Scorpio feels trust and safety in their relationship, you will get the best of them. Overall when it comes to a Scorpio in love, they are like sour patch kids. First, they're sour, then they’re sweet.
Who Are Scorpios Most Compatible With?
Scorpio + Aries Love Compatibility
Scorpio and Aries have an immediate connection that is fueled by the fiery energy they both contain. These two come together through their passionate demeanor and they often hit it off right away. The challenges here come through during the relationship as with both of these signs being ruled by Mars, there can be a tendency for disagreements and aggressiveness in this relationship. The intimacy is great, but is it worth the fights and heated arguments? This pairing will have to work on being open to each other’s perspectives and feelings and watch out for power struggles between each other.
Scorpio + Taurus Love Compatibility
This is a soulmate pairing. One of Scorpio’s best matches in life is a Taurus. Scorpio and Taurus are sister signs, meaning they are on the exact opposite sides of the zodiac wheel, and they’re like the yin and yang. Scorpio and Taurus give power couple energy, and they accomplish a lot together. What makes this relationship work is that they both tend to have the same goals and need for security within a partnership. There is a good give and take here, and Taurus is someone who brings out a more calm and dedicated Scorpio. This is a relationship that will go the distance.
Scorpio + Gemini Love Compatibility
Scorpio and Gemini together is a bit of a chaotic pairing. There is a lack of similarities in the relationship to sustain this connection, but they do make life very interesting together. Gemini's energy is too curious for Scorpio’s “I need to know everything” personality. Scorpios in a relationship want to go deep and know everything about their partner. This type of vulnerability is what makes them feel safe in a relationship. Gemini starts to feel claustrophobic with this type of attention, and they would have to learn to understand what each other needs in order to make this relationship work.
Scorpio + Cancer Love Compatibility
This water sign duo is a match for the books. Scorpio and Cancer are a sweet couple and a couple that puts each other first. This is a pairing that has both love and friendship, and they also tend to have a good family base and support system around them. The intimacy and sexual chemistry between Scorpio and Cancer are off the charts, and this is an unforgettable connection. Being that this is a water-water duo, emotions will run high in this relationship, however, and things will get messy if there is not enough grounded energy and logic. This couple will need to be careful with the dramatics and emotional impulsivities, however, there is enough chemistry and love here to end up at the altar.
Scorpio + Leo Love Compatibility
Scorpio and Leo are not a pairing you see too often. Although there is passion, this is often a fling type of relationship where there is an immediate spark and connection, but one or other ghosts never speak again. You don’t see too many Scorpios and Leos together for years because this pairing tends to have a lot of ego struggles. What makes this work is if they both put their egos aside, and look at each other as human beings looking to connect and not someone looking to conquer the other. Scorpio and Leo are both fixed signs and it can be hard to compromise or cooperate with one another, as they tend to be stuck in their ways.
Scorpio + Virgo Love Compatibility
This is another soulmate relationship. Scorpio and Virgos are some of the most similar zodiac signs, and their zodiac symbol is also very similar as well, showing the connection these two have. Scorpio and Virgo are both lovers and best friends. They get each other and are both highly intuitive individuals, giving this couple an ethereal type of energy together. Scorpio encourages self-empowerment and passion within Virgo, and Virgo shows Scorpio the importance of the mind, and of slowing down more to enjoy life. This is a couple that can have fun together out and about, and also be completely satisfied staying home and being in their own world. This is a very good match.
Scorpio + Libra Love Compatibility
Scorpio and Libra are right next to each other on the zodiac wheel, which is just about the only similarity they have. Scorpio and Libra are a couple that would have to put in the work in order to make the relationship last. Although they are both relationship-oriented signs, Scorpio tends to be more dominant in their approach than Libra. Libra wants to be swept off their feet and loves to romanticize their life. Scorpio loves the idea of this rom-com type of life, but when it comes to living in it, it leaves them feeling more uneasy than settled. The thing about Libra and Scorpio together is that Scorpio tends to feel like the rug is going to be pulled under the feet at any moment.
Scorpio + Scorpio Love Compatibility
A Scorpio/Scorpio pairing is intense, intimate, and hot. This is a relationship where you wouldn’t expect these two to go together and be compatible, but they prove everyone wrong. The thing about dating your own sign is that there is an underlying energy of just getting each other in a way that no one else can. This is especially true for a Scorpio and Scorpio match as these two aren’t open books, so the fact that they can understand each other without having to dig too deep right away, makes them feel more safe and comfortable to pursue the relationship. This is a healing, passionate, and empowering couple.
Scorpio + Sagittarius Love Compatibility
A Scorpio and Sagittarius couple is rare, and to be honest, a little underrated. Scorpio and Sagittarius together create a life of adventure, freedom, and hope. Sagittarius helps Scorpios get out of their emotions, and into the world. Scorpio shows Sagittarius that emotions aren’t scary or something to run away from and that the further you are willing to go within, the more treasures you can find and healing that can take place. Scorpio provides security in the relationship, while Sagittarius provides flexibility. If they are willing to work together and get to know each other better, this can work.
Scorpio + Capricorn Love Compatibility
Scorpio and Capricorn are the power couple of the zodiac. This relationship is all about evolving together and creating a successful and passionate life together. Scorpio meets their match when it comes to Capricorn, and they can’t get away with a lot of the stuff they can with other zodiac signs. Their driven and goal-oriented personalities are what makes this couple pair so well, and they tend to create a nice life and family life together. They will need to work on not being too hard on each other however and will need to remember to put romance and positive energy into the relationship as well.
Scorpio + Aquarius Love Compatibility
This is an eccentric couple. Scorpio and Aquarius tend to hit it off right away, and they just vibe. What makes them have this immediate connection is that both of these signs tend to be lone wolves in life. They can sense this energy from each other, and immediately understand that they come from the same place. When it comes to longevity in the relationship and if this relationship can last the tests of time, that is a different story. In order to make this relationship work, they will have to make sure they are growing together in life and that they aren’t moving in separate directions. This relationship tends to be better in theory than in reality.
Scorpio + Pisces Love Compatibility
Scorpio and Pisces make a highly emotional, intuitive, and compassionate relationship. They deeply understand each other and want to make the relationship work. They both tend to cater to each other’s feelings in this relationship and will go the distance to make sure the relationship is doing well. The work they are both willing to put in is what makes this relationship work, and they are both willing to do so because they genuinely love each other. With all water/water signs duos, however, they have to watch out for over-compromising and letting emotions rule everything, and if they are willing to take things slow and really examine the intentions of the relationship and what they both want as a couple, this can be a forever.
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Because We Are Still IT, Girl: It Girl 100 Returns
Last year, when our xoNecole team dropped our inaugural It Girl 100 honoree list, the world felt, ahem, a bit brighter.
It was March 2024, and we still had a Black woman as the Vice President of the United States. DEI rollbacks weren’t being tossed around like confetti. And more than 300,000 Black women were still gainfully employed in the workforce.
Though that was just nineteen months ago, things were different. Perhaps the world then felt more receptive to our light as Black women.
At the time, we launched It Girl 100 to spotlight the huge motion we were making as dope, GenZennial Black women leaving our mark on culture. The girls were on the rise, flourishing, drinking their water, minding their business, leading companies, and learning to do it all softly, in rest. We wanted to celebrate that momentum—because we love that for us.
So, we handpicked one hundred It Girls who embody that palpable It Factor moving through us as young Black women, the kind of motion lighting up the world both IRL and across the internet.
It Girl 100 became xoNecole’s most successful program, with the hashtag organically reaching more than forty million impressions on Instagram in just twenty-four hours. Yes, it caught on like wildfire because we celebrated some of the most brilliant and influential GenZennial women of color setting trends and shaping culture. But more than that, it resonated because the women we celebrated felt seen.
Many were already known in their industries for keeping this generation fly and lit, but rarely received recognition or flowers. It Girl 100 became a safe space to be uplifted, and for us as Black women to bask in what felt like an era of our brilliance, beauty, and boundless influence on full display.
And then, almost overnight, it was as if the rug was pulled from under us as Black women, as the It Girls of the world.
Our much-needed, much-deserved season of ease and soft living quickly metamorphosed into a time of self-preservation and survival. Our motion and economic progression seemed strategically slowed, our light under siege.
The air feels heavier now. The headlines colder. Our Black girl magic is being picked apart and politicized for simply existing.
With that climate shift, as we prepare to launch our second annual It Girl 100 honoree list, our team has had to dig deep on the purpose and intention behind this year’s list. Knowing the spirit of It Girl 100 is about motion, sauce, strides, and progression, how do we celebrate amid uncertainty and collective grief when the juice feels like it is being squeezed out of us?
As we wrestled with that question, we were reminded that this tension isn’t new. Black women have always had to find joy in the midst of struggle, to create light even in the darkest corners. We have carried the weight of scrutiny for generations, expected to be strong, to serve, to smile through the sting. But this moment feels different. It feels deeply personal.
We are living at the intersection of liberation and backlash. We are learning to take off our capes, to say no when we are tired, to embrace softness without apology.
And somehow, the world has found new ways to punish us for it.

In lifestyle, women like Kayla Nicole and Ayesha Curry have been ridiculed for daring to choose themselves. Tracee Ellis Ross was labeled bitter for speaking her truth about love. Meghan Markle, still, cannot breathe without critique.
In politics, Kamala Harris, Letitia James, and Jasmine Crockett are dragged through the mud for standing tall in rooms not built for them.
In sports, Angel Reese, Coco Gauff, and Taylor Townsend have been reminded that even excellence will not shield you from racism or judgment.

In business, visionaries like Diarrha N’Diaye-Mbaye and Melissa Butler are fighting to keep their dreams alive in an economy that too often forgets us first.
Even our icons, Beyoncé, Serena, and SZA, have faced criticism simply for evolving beyond the boxes society tried to keep them in.
From everyday women to cultural phenoms, the pattern is the same. Our light is being tested.

And yet, somehow, through it all, we are still showing up as that girl, and that deserves to be celebrated.
Because while the world debates our worth, we keep raising our value. And that proof is all around us.
This year alone, Naomi Osaka returned from motherhood and mental health challenges to reach the semifinals of the US Open. A’ja Wilson claimed another MVP, reminding us that beauty and dominance can coexist. Brandy and Monica are snatching our edges on tour. Kahlana Barfield Brown sold out her new line in the face of a retailer that had been canceled. And Melissa Butler’s company, The Lip Bar, is projecting a forty percent surge in sales.

We are no longer defining strength by how much pain we can endure. We are defining it by the unbreakable light we continue to radiate.
We are the women walking our daily steps and also continuing to run solid businesses. We are growing in love, taking solo trips, laughing until it hurts, raising babies and ideas, drinking our green juice, and praying our peace back into existence.
We are rediscovering the joy of rest and realizing that softness is not weakness, it is strategy.
And through it all, we continue to lift one another. Emma Grede is creating seats at the table. Valeisha Butterfield has started a fund for jobless Black women. Arian Simone is leading in media with fearless conviction. We are pouring into each other in ways the world rarely sees but always feels.

So yes, we are in the midst of societal warfare. Yes, we are being tested. Yes, we are facing economic strain, political targeting, and public scrutiny. But even war cannot dim a light that is divinely ours.
And we are still shining.
And we are still softening.
And we are still creating.
And we are still It.

That is the quiet magic of Black womanhood, our ability to hold both truth and triumph in the same breath, to say yes, and to life’s contradictions.
It is no coincidence that this year, as SheaMoisture embraces the message “Yes, And,” they stand beside us as partners in celebrating this class of It Girls. Because that phrase, those two simple words, capture the very essence of this moment.
Yes, we are tired. And we are still rising.
Yes, we are questioned. And we are the answer.
Yes, we are bruised. And we are still beautiful.

This year’s It Girl 100 is more than a list. It is a love letter to every Black woman who dares to live out loud in a world that would rather she whisper. This year’s class is living proof of “Yes, And,” women who are finding ways to thrive and to heal, to build and to rest, to lead and to love, all at once.
It is proof that our joy is not naive, our success not accidental. It is the reminder that our light has never needed permission.
So without further ado, we celebrate the It Girl 100 Class of 2025–2026.
We celebrate the millions of us who keep doing it with grace, grit, and glory.
Because despite it all, we still shine.
Because we are still her.
Because we are still IT, girl.
Meet all 100 women shaping culture in the It Girl 100 Class of 2025. View the complete list of honorees here.
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Give Thanks: 10 Tips For Hosting An Absolutely Awesome Friendsgiving
If you’ve never checked out an episode of the ReLiving Single Podcast featuring Maxine and Synclaire — oops, I mean Erika Alexander and Kim Coles — it’s worth listening to an episode or two; especially if you’re someone like me who watches the Living Single reruns on TV One, sometimes, like they just came out. Good times.
And what does this even remotely have to do with Friendsgiving? Well, if you ever wondered what the origin story of this non-holiday-holiday is, legend has it that it’s mostly due to the combination of a 2007 tweet and the show that tries to act like it wasn’t birthed out of Living Single: Friends (I’m not the only one who feels this way either; you can read more about all of that here, here and here).
Apparently, there was a Thanksgiving episode that featured all of the friends having dinner together. And y’all, there was simply no way that I was going to mention the latter without shouting out the original (amen?).
Okay, so with that out of the way — Friendsgiving. Something that I appreciate about twists to holidays like this is that it’s a reminder that there is no one way to celebrate special occasions. And so, if, for whatever the reason, you will not or cannot be with family during the holiday season, there are certainly other alternatives at your disposal.
That being said, if the thought of spending time with friends this Thanksgiving is something that you’d like to do, yet you’re not sure how to host it in a way that will make Friendsgiving a fan favorite for your entire circle — I’ve got 10 suggestions that can make the planning process easy as pumpkin (or sweet potato) pie.
1. Position Chrysanthemums or Orchids for Your Table Décor

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Let’s start with décor first. Listen, aside from cleaning up your place, you don’t have to be over the top. If you put together a really nice centerpiece or put a flower at each table setting, honestly, you’re all good. And if you’re someone who is big on details and symbolism, my recommendation would be to go with some chrysanthemums and/or orchids.
When it comes to chrysanthemums, not only are they a peak fall flower, they represent things like friendship and happiness. And orchids? They tend to bloom during the fall and spring seasons and, not only are they about luxury, certain orchid colors also symbolize friendship (for the record, yellow roses symbolize friendship too). Perfect.
2. Incorporate Scents That Cultivate Gratitude
Speaking of cultivating a warm and inviting space, you can never go wrong with scented soy candles — or at least having an essential oil diffuser in a few spots. Some scents that actually help to bring in the spirit of gratitude include vanilla, jasmine, ginger, cedarwood and frankincense.
3. Use Upscale Paper Products to Dine With

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Let’s be real — a lot more of us would probably host events in our home if it wasn’t for the mess that is left behind in our kitchen once the festivities are over. Wanna avoid that? Use paper plates. No, I don’t mean the cheap Styrofoam ones. SMDH. These days, there are paper (and plastic) plate brands that will low-key blow your mind when it comes to how bougie they look. Some that are worth considering are located here, here and here.
4. Handwrite Thank-You Notes (Use Them As Place Settings)
If you’re like Tiffany (from the HBO series Insecure — what a time) was at that memorable dinner party when all hell broke loose between Lawrence and Issa and you’re pretty anal — I mean, particular — LOL — about place settings, it’s a nice touch to pick up some blank thank-you cards that you can write a personalized “I’m thankful for you because…” message in. Place each one where you’d like each friend to sit. They won’t see it coming and it’s a really nice touch.
5. Have Everyone Bring Their Favorite Homemade Dish

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Okay, and what if what has you on the fence about hosting is you don’t feel like doing a ton of cooking? Chile, this is where the concept of having a potluck comes in. Get everyone to bring the dish that they claim they cook the best and make sure to let them know how many individuals you plan on coming (so that they will make enough). You can even make a game out of it by having everyone anonymously vote for the first, second and third best dishes out of the bunch. Take it up a notch by having a prize for each winner.
6. Take a Warm Drink and Dessert Poll Beforehand
You know what isn’t discussed enough about dinner parties? Folks bringing desserts that other people don’t even like. SMDH. You can avoid this from becoming an issue at your Friendsgiving by sending an email (most people prefer that to group chats; let’s be real — and make sure to BCC everyone as well) asking everyone to share what their top three favorite desserts and warm drinks are. Then pick the top 2-3 out of the bunch. That way, you won’t have a ton of (for instance) coffee cake or apple cider lying around that no one even wanted in the first place.
7. Create a Signature Friendsgiving Mocktail and Cocktail

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Speaking of drinks, another way to make your Friendsgiving memorable is to come up with a signature mocktail (for those who don’t consume alcohol) and cocktail. For the mocktail, you can also poll your friends about their favorite mocktail or fruits and come up with a mixture of your own. For the cocktail — although National Friendship Day is actually in August, I did peep that there are certain drinks that have been created in its honor. Some of them are located here for you to do a bit of tweaking on (if you’d like).
8. Ask Everyone to Share Their “Favorite Friend Quality” of Another
You know how it’s customary for everyone to go around and share what they are truly thankful for before having dinner? Well, to continue along with the Friendsgiving theme, have each person share what their favorite friend quality is about the person to their right. If folks are just meeting each other for the first time, instead they can share what they value the most in friendship overall, along with a story of how it was displayed to them personally over the past 12 months.
9. Send Each of Your Guests Home with a Fresh Gratitude Journal

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Wanna send folks home with a nice parting gift? It would be so on-trend to give each of them a gratitude journal. Listen, we are in some crazy times right through here (at least in the States) and so, encouraging your friends to set some time aside, regularly, to think about and then outwardly express what they are grateful for? That helps to keep stress down, keep things in perspective and it reminds us all to maintain a positive mindset as much as possible.
10. Watch a Nostalgic Movie
While everyone is enjoying dessert and drinks, how about watching a movie that brings back fond memories? A list of some of the most popular movies to come out previous Thanksgiving weekends is located here and a list of some favorite Black holiday-themed films can be found here. It’s a way to wind down and share some laughs before everyone heads home.
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Friendsgiving. What a wonderful way to celebrate your friends while also observing Thanksgiving in a way that is totally on your terms. And now that you know how to put it together, what are you waiting for? Hit your friends up and let them know that, whether it’s on actual Thanksgiving Day or a few days before or after, you’ve got a special dinner in mind.
One that has a good time with amazing friends written ALL over it.
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