

Your destiny can be defined as fate or the hidden power believed to control what happens in your future. Some say your destiny is not set in stone and can be changed or redirected over time. Others say you come into this life with events in the future predestined for you.
North Node In Astrology Meaning
Astrology considers both approaches regarding destiny and defines this phenomenon through the North Node. The North Node represents the direction toward your evolution, life lessons, your calling, and destiny in this lifetime. It is the area of astrology you want to go to when looking at the full picture of your life, your future potential, and where you should be directing your energy and intentions. “Living your best life” is living like your North Node sign.
The North and South Node In Astrology
The North Node or the “True Node” is one of two lunar nodes that form an axis, with the South Node on the other end. The North Node is where the Moon moves into the northern ecliptic hemisphere. The South Node is where the Moon enters the southern ecliptic hemisphere.
The North Node represents the aspects of your life you need to develop for spiritual growth and to fulfill your destiny in this lifetime.
We often feel challenged the more we pull away from our North Node energy, and it helps shape identity and purpose in the long haul. The South Node represents your past karma, what you already know, and the energy you are moving away from in this lifetime.
In short, you want to be more like your North Node sign and less like your South Node sign. You will know if you are following your destiny by how well you connect with the aspects of your North Node sign and when you have fully embodied and embraced the archetype of this sign.
What Does Your North Node Tell You?
Think about some of the traits, essence, and characteristics of your North Node sign that you admire, and start there. Connect with what types of purpose, careers, life paths, or directions this sign typically takes in life, and define which ones you feel called to most.
Once you can step fully into your North Node energy and have learned the lessons it comes with, you will feel personal fulfillment on a deep level and be aligned with your destiny or be able to shape it.
Read on for your North Node sign below to see how you can follow your destiny and live at your highest potential:
North Node in Aries Meaning
You are working through being more self-reliant in this lifetime. Independence, freedom, confidence, and inner resilience are the energy you need to enhance your life to live your full potential. Staying active, getting your body moving, and exercising all help you get in the right head space and think clearly, especially about your future.
You are learning how to take more action, go after the things you want, be direct, and leave toxic relationships unapologetically in this life. You are following your destiny when you are putting yourself first and aligned with independence rather than interdependence.
South Node energy that you are working on letting go and moving on from in this lifetime: Libra
North Node in Taurus Meaning
A North Node in Taurus teaches you to be more self-sufficient in financial matters and to always be able to count on yourself. You want to move away from being too reliant on others by finding a deep sense of confidence and stability within.
Building a life for yourself, being financially responsible, not giving more financially than you have, having financial independence, and being willing to be vulnerable with others is important. You are following your destiny when you are being consistent, standing by your word, and keeping the promises you make.
South Node energy that you are working on letting go and moving on from in this lifetime: Scorpio
North Node in Gemini Meaning
Communication is very important for you and your destiny in this lifetime. The conversations you have with others hold significance, and you learn a lot through the different types of connections you make in life. Being outgoing, getting out of your comfort zone, being involved in your local community, and being around a lot of movement serve you well.
Having good friends and mental connections around you is everything for your well-being in life and purpose. You are following your destiny when you are sharing your ideas, connecting with people, and saying what you truly mean.
South Node energy that you are working on letting go and moving on from in this lifetime: Sagittarius
North Node in Cancer Meaning
With a North Node in Cancer, your purpose or destiny involves nurturing yourself and others. You have motherly energy to embody in this lifetime, and you feel more aligned with your purpose when you can live in compassion, let go of overworking, and give yourself some TLC. In past lifetimes, a lot of your life was surrounded by work, and you put all of your energy into your accomplishments.
In this lifetime, you are learning how to care for yourself more, find self-love, and build a supportive family or emotional support system for yourself. You are following your destiny when you are in a space of comfort and safety and have a strong home base.
South Node energy that you are working on letting go and moving on from in this lifetime: Capricorn
North Node in Leo Meaning
A North Node in Leo signifies that your destiny involves aligning with your higher self and living life boldly and with proud confidence. You are meant to show up, shine your light, and take up space. You are working on being the leader of your life, letting go of shyness or isolation, and making yourself or your energy known in the world.
Use your creativity to your advantage and put your work and intentions out there. You are destined for the spotlight, and you are following your destiny when you are taking on these types of opportunities, have a strong sense of self, and are confident in yourself.
South Node energy that you are working on letting go and moving on from in this lifetime: Aquarius
North Node in Virgo Meaning
Following your destiny involves being logical, critical thinking, being direct, and being more communicative. You are meant to evolve mentally in this life and to move away from a more spiritual perspective to a logical one. Spirituality is still important, but in past lifetimes, you got lost in this area of your life, and now you are learning how to be logical and realistic as well.
Helping others is also a part of your destiny with a North Node in Virgo, and the daily rituals and routines you have are beneficial to teach the people around you. You are following your destiny when you are healing, thinking logically, and creating healthy boundaries in your life.
South Node energy that you are working on letting go and moving on from in this lifetime: Pisces
North Node in Libra Meaning
With a North Node in Libra, love, partnerships, and the connections you form in life are significant to your destiny. You are meant to communicate, connect, understand romance on a deeper level, and be in union in this lifetime. You are also learning the importance of thinking before speaking, not being too impulsive or reckless, and working cooperatively with others.
In past lifetimes, you were too independent, brash, and more of a lone wolf, and in this lifetime, you are learning how to connect more. You are following your destiny when you are being diplomatic, considering another's needs, and having balance.
South Node energy that you are working on letting go and moving on from in this lifetime: Aries
North Node in Scorpio Meaning
Patience, dedication, and following your intuition are aligned with your destiny with a North Node in Scorpio. You have a lot of potential to gain financially through marriage or an inheritance with this placement, and this is a good sign for wealth in this lifetime.
However, with a Taurus South Node, you are working on letting go of being too frugal or envious in financial matters, releasing attachments more, and honoring the more spiritual sides of life. You are following your purpose when you have a good balance between giving and receiving in your life and when you are not over-controlling things.
South Node energy that you are working on letting go and moving on from in this lifetime: Taurus
North Node in Sagittarius Meaning
With a North Node in Sagittarius, you have a natural philosophical and explorative mindset. You are working on embracing new opportunities, getting out of your comfort zone, traveling, and living life on your own terms in this lifetime. It’s important to travel, learn, pursue higher education, and expand in life.
You are moving away from your Gemini South Node energy, which is about being easily distracted, oversharing, being indecisive, or not standing by your word. You are following your purpose when you are growing your mind, exploring new places, meeting new people, and making confident decisions for yourself.
South Node energy that you are working on letting go and moving on from in this lifetime: Gemini
North Node in Capricorn Meaning
With a North Node in Capricorn, you are meant to grow financially and establish yourself in this lifetime. You have a lot of potential to make some great accomplishments, and you are destined to thrive in career matters. You are aligned with your destiny when you are working towards a goal or intention of yours and when you are building a legacy for yourself.
With Cancer on the South Node, you are moving away from feeling like you have to mother or nurture everyone and instead giving yourself that compassion and care. You are learning emotional discipline in this lifetime and are following your destiny when you have a healthy work-life balance.
South Node energy that you are working on letting go and moving on from in this lifetime: Cancer
North Node in Aquarius
You are aligned with your destiny when you have a humanitarian and open-minded perspective. You are meant to think about the collective as a whole, progress, and leave the world a better place. You have a lot of visions for the future and can be quite psychic as well. Manifesting your dreams and desires is significant, and you are learning how to strengthen this internal power.
It’s important to move away from egotistical pursuits, conforming to societal rules, or being too selfish as well with this energy. Overall, you are following your destiny when you are giving a voice to the voiceless, being your authentic self, and contributing to society in some way.
South Node energy that you are working on letting go and moving on from in this lifetime: Leo
North Node in Pisces Meaning
With a North Node in Pisces, following your destiny means following your heart and never giving up the dream. You are moving away from needing to have all of the facts and letting logic rule over your emotions in this lifetime. Getting creative, pursuing artistry, healing, and having compassion for yourself and others are all aligned with your purpose.
You are a true visionary and have a lot of creative potential and gifts to bring to the world. You are following your destiny when you are emotionally regulating, honoring your spirituality, and creating.
South Node energy that you are working on letting go and moving on from in this lifetime: Virgo
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'Sistas' Star Skyh Black On The Power Of Hypnotherapy & Emotional Vulnerability For Men
In this insightful episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Sistas star Skyh Black, as he opened up about his journey of emotional growth, resilience, and self-discovery. The episode touches on emotional availability, self-worth, masculinity, and the importance of therapy in overcoming personal struggles.
Skyh Black on Emotional Availability & Love
On Emotional Availability & Vulnerability
“My wife and I wouldn't be where we are today if both of us weren't emotionally available,” he shared about his wife and Sistas co-star KJ Smith, highlighting the value of vulnerability and emotional openness in a relationship. His approach to masculinity stands in contrast to the traditional, stoic ideals. Skyh is not afraid to embrace softness as part of his emotional expression.
On Overcoming Self-Doubt & Worthiness Issues
Skyh reflected on the self-doubt and worthiness issues that he struggled with, especially early in his career. He opens up about his time in Los Angeles, living what he calls the “LA struggle story”—in a one-bedroom with three roommates—and being homeless three times over the span of 16 years. “I always had this self-sabotaging thought process,” Skyh said. “For me, I feel therapy is essential, period. I have a regular therapist and I go to a hypnotherapist.”
How Therapy Helped Him Heal From Self-Doubt
On Hypnotherapy & Empowering Self-Acceptance
Skyh’s journey is a testament to the power of tapping into self-development despite life’s struggles and being open to growth. “I had to submit to the fact that God was doing good in my life, and that I'm worthy of it. I had a worthiness issue and I did not realize that. So, that’s what the hypnotherapy did. It brought me back to the core. What is wrong so that I can fix it?”
Watch the full podcast episode below:
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Pack A Travel Case With These 12 Items For Amazing 'Summer Vacation Sex'
It’s kind of funny that while I’m literally in the process of writing this article, the Los Angeles Times published “How to get lucky on your family vacation” hours prior. LOL. Although this year marks a bit of a dip in the amount of Americans who plan on taking a summer vacation (because this administration ain’t making coin-keeping easy, y’all) — it’s still being reported that around 53 percent will do so in the name of rest, relaxation and spending quality time with their loved ones.
And for many, the loved ones category absolutely includes their bae. And if that is the case, that probably means that sex is somewhere on the menu.
Yep. I actually read one survey (that consisted of 2,000 people) that said folks tend to have twice as much sex while they are on vacation than they do when they’re at home. It makes sense too when you factor in that you have less to do (unless you’re traveling with those folks who act like you need an itinerary for every damn thing — and we all know one…SMDH), which makes you less stressed out, which makes it easier to feel sexy and to want to get sexual.
And so, in the spirit of that indeed being the case, I want to make sure that you carve out a corner of your suitcase or carry-on to include at least half of the following 12 things that are on this list — things that can help to make “summer vacation sex”…that much hotter, y’all.
1. Edible-Grade Sunscreen
It can’t be said enough that, no matter how melanated you may be, your skin needs sunscreen. Not only to protect yourself from the risk of skin cancer (which 1 in 5 Americans will get in their lifetime) but from premature aging that can come from sun damage too. That said, if the urge arises to have sex outside somewhere, I did find some edible-grade sunscreen, in case you’re either worried about what sex in the sun will do to your skin or how all of the chemicals in sunscreen will affect your (digestive) system. The company is called Sky & Sol and you can read up on them here.
2. Flavored Lip Balm
If you’ve ever wondered why your lips are so susceptible to being chapped, it’s because they don’t contain any oil glans to keep them moisturized. This is especially important to keep in mind when the weather is extremely cold or hot because that can do a real number on the sensitive skin that your lips are made out of. That’s why it’s essential to stay well-hydrated and to also keep some lip balm in tow. Lip balm is especially designed to moisturize your lips, reduce chapping, exfoliate, soothe irritation and protect your lips from UV damage. As a bonus, lip balm will also help to keep your lips super soft and kissable; especially if you get the flavored kind. #wink
3. Condoms
I’m still out here, literally shaking my damn head, that reportedly, only one-third of men and one-fourth of women use condoms (and even many of those folks don’t do it consistently). It can’t be said enough that if you’re not in a monogamous (married) or exclusive (dating) relationship where you both are getting regularly tested and are on some other form of birth control (unless you want to get pregnant) — you absolutely should be using condoms and, as a woman, you should not solely rely on your partner to have some that are ready and available.
Not just because you should be responsible for your body and health but because not all condoms are made equal, so you should bring along some that you prefer/enjoy. If you’d like a lil’ help picking those out, check out “These Are The Kinds Of Condoms Your Vagina Would Actually Prefer.”
4. Crotchless Swimsuit
Packing some sexy lingerie? I certainly hope that goes without saying. If you’ve got a hot tub around, though and you want to “get it in” without getting totally naked (so that nosey people won’t see every damn thing), you do know that there are some crotchless swimsuits out in these streets, right? An example of one is here. Of course, you can always do what Beyoncé said in “Drunk in Love” and just move ish over to the side but…I’m just giving you another creative option…if you wanted one.
5. Blindfolds
If you’d like to cultivate an atmosphere of mystery or anticipation, a simple blindfold will do the trick. There is another reason why I think they are great for summer vacation (sex) trips, though — if your hotel room doesn’t come with blackout curtains and you want to have a quickie or two without the room being so bright, putting on a blindfold can solve that “problem” too.
6. Waterproof Sex Toys
Who said that you have to wait until you get to your hotel room to engage in some foreplay? If you bring a couple of sex toys around, you can tease each other practically anywhere — and if they are waterproof, that includes in the ocean or pool. Some, you can pair up with your smartphone in order to stimulate your partner from just about anywhere. Whew, chile.
7. Homemade Sex Toys Too
Speaking of sex toys, you’d probably be amazed at how many things in your house can double up as one. A spatula or wooden spoon is great for spanking. A necktie, some tights and a pair of clothespins work well for BDSM (use your imagination, sis). An electronic toothbrush is its own vibrator. A string of (lubricated) pearls in between your thighs? Girrrl…GIRL. Oh, and cop a silicone ice tray that comes in different shapes.
When you are rubbing ice in the shape of fruit, flowers or even animals over each other’s bodies, you’ll be surprised by how the combination of the cold with the texture of the space of the ice will stimulate you (make the ice out of juice instead of water for an extra sweet treat!).
8. Portable Charger
I don’t know what took me so long to get a damn portable charger but it’s one of the best things that ever happened to me. What I personally purchased is the ANKER Zolo Power Bank, 20,000mAh 30W High-Speed Portable Charger. I can throw it in my purse, it charges fast, I can use more than once before needing to recharge it; plus, it complements most devices. A great thing to keep in mind, so that your sex toys don’t end up going out on you while you’re…wherever you are.
9. Massage Oil Candle
Going through security at the airport can be a HEADACHE. And while, how long it can take, oftentimes varies on the airport you’re at and the time you are traveling (you can read more about that here), the process is going to be especially annoying if they have to go through your bags. Since you can currently only pack a quarter-sized bag of liquid products on your carry-on, my two cents would be to leave the massage oil at home and pack a massage oil candle instead.
That way, you can still engage in some temperature play (check out “Hot Sex: 10 Super Sultry Reasons To Bring Wax Play Into Your Bedroom”) while you’re on the road without going through any security hassle hang-ups. Some edible massage oil candles are located right here.
10. Wine Cooler Sleeve
Say that you end up going on a wine tasting tour while you’re on vacation and you end up purchasing a bottle or you simply want to toast with some champagne but you’re not sure how to store the bottle. Did you know that there are wine cooler sleeves that are lightweight, portable and will help to keep your bottles cold without condensation for hours on end? A brand that comes highly recommended is here.
11. Rose Petals
I think there are a few reasons why rose petals are oftentimes used to create a sexy mood. Red symbolizes love and passion. Rose petals are soft to the touch. The scent of them is considered to be an aphrodisiac as well. For all of these reasons, bring along some fresh rose petals for your hotel bed. If you put a damp paper towel in something like a small Tupperware container and then place the rose petals inside of that, they won’t dry out quickly which will make them feel great once you’re ready to start rolling around in them (you can also keep them in your hotel room’s fridge to further extend their shelf life).
12. Mints
Morning sex. Outdoor sex. Whatever kind of sex — it’s always going to be better when your breath and his smell good. And just so you don’t have to lug around a big bottle of mouthwash, pack some mints. Altoids are always going to be my number one draft pick — yet go with whatever are your personal faves. They’re the perfect hack for unbelievable summer vacation sex. Wouldn’t you agree? Enjoy!
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