The self-quarantine gives you and bae nothing but time, space, and opportunity to explore your kinks in the bedroom, and Kelly Rowland says that adding toys to your bedtime routine might be the key to curing your cabin fever and spicing up your sex life at the same damn time.
Wednesday, Kelly joined La La Anthony on Instagram Live for a girls' chat that took a very intimate turn and we were here for absolutely all of it. La La told Kelly:
"I am saying no to a toy! I really am. Sometimes you just want to get to it. You don't need all the extracurricular stuff going on."
Although La La remained adamant about her "straight-to-business" attitude in the bedroom, Kelly advised that her adult toybox only maximizes the fun. During their chat, Kelly even revealed her go-to toy, which, of course, is a fan favorite:
"You know the little rings that goes around…That's so nice"
Along with the unspoken joys of the coveted cock ring, Kelly revealed that toys can also be beneficial during foreplay. While one commenter suggested that sex toys may be intimidating to men, Kelly explained that toys can also be used as tools to deepen intimacy and intensify orgasms for both parties.
"You can always have a warmup, a brief warmup. And then have them watch your brief warmup and then have them join you."
While Kelly is normally tight-lipped about her sex life, in a 2016 interview with ELLE, the singer said that with maturity, comes the ability to give no f*cks.
"At 30… I'm going to sound so crazy, but, at 30, sex just got better. And then, at 31, life just got really good. At 33, I just stopped caring so much."
If you and your man are ready to level up your foreplay game, scroll below for 4 sex toys to add to your Amazon wishlist right now.
WE-VIBE Sync Adjustable Couples Vibrator with Remote and App Control
Amazon
Let your partner give you all the vibes with this adjustable couples vibrator with 10 different modes that target your g-spot and your clitoris and can be controlled via remote or phone app.
Doxy Massager
Amazon
Known as the most powerful personal electric massager, this toy did not come to play.
LELO Tor 2 Couples' Vibrating Ring
Amazon
With 6 unique pleasure settings, this waterproof fully rechargeable vibrating couples ring by LELO promises to give you pleasure in any position.
Rocks Off Ass Berries Vibrating Butt Plug
Amazon
Whoever says you couldn't have your cake and eat it too was a damn lie and the Ass Berries Vibrating Butt Plug by Rocks Off is proof.
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The pair often says they’re two sides of the same coin. Skylar is an Aquarius. She attended art school, paints, and loves poetry. She’s more than happy to let the couple’s management firm and agency, Kensington Grey, handle their admin work. And, she loves to sleep in. Temi, on the other hand, wakes up early. He’s a Virgo. He loves a to-do list and regularly checks in on the couple’s brand partnerships spreadsheet to make sure everything is on track.
Because his storytelling was steeped in his love of technology, he didn’t always think of himself as a creative person. “Where I [am] the dreamer who wants to pluck things out of the sky and spend all day with my head in the clouds, Temi [is] so good at grounding me and helping me figure out how to make things make sense on paper. We just work together in such a complimentary way,” Skylar says.
It’s been more than six years since Brooklyn-based couple Temi and Skylar started dating, and nearly four since they cemented their working relationship. On TikTok and Instagram, the couple’s travel, fashion, and home content regularly rack up hundreds of thousands of views. They’ve worked with brands such as Coach, Aesop, Away, and Liquid IV, bringing their vibrant perspectives to every campaign they execute. Still, nearly two years since both Temi and Skylar committed to full-time content creation and creative directing, the couple says their romantic connection remains their priority.
“We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting,” Skylar says.
Working from home can make it hard to separate work from personal life for any entrepreneur. It can be even more challenging when your business partner is also your lover. Temi and Skylar had already used couples therapy as a tool to help them effectively communicate with one another. When they ran into challenges while working together, their therapist helped them set physical boundaries to help combat the issues.
"We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting."
“It actually took us doing very specific physical things to create boundaries between work and play in our relationship,” Skylar says. “So, for instance, we will only have conversations about work when we're out of bed or we're at the table or in the office. Initially, when we started, we had to light a candle to say that, 'Okay, this is a space where we're connecting, we’re not talking about work.' We needed really hard boundaries at the top. And then it became a little bit more organic.”
The boundaries have been crucial to implement, especially because the couple began working together so naturally. When the pair first met, Skylar was NY-based a social strategist for BuzzFeed and was using content creation to drive business to her lingerie company. She was shooting her own content. Temi was working for Microsoft in D.C. He’d recently traded in his DJing equipment for a camera. “I've always loved taking pictures,” he says. “Even when I was a kid, my African mother would wake me up at 3:00 a.m. [during a] party, and be like, 'Come take the family picture.'”
Growing up, Temi says he watched his parents support each other and be the true definition of partners. He knew he wanted the same for his own relationship. But, the couple also wanted to make sure they were being financially responsible. The pair didn’t quit their traditional jobs until they’d saved up two years' worth of their cost of living. And, Temi received his Master of Business Administration from New York University with the knowledge that it could either help him advance in his corporate career or be applicable to his business with Skylar.
Temi and SkylarCj Hart @hartbreakToday, they say their working relationship is more of a “quiet dance.” They still implement some of the boundaries they learned in therapy, but they also lean into their natural strengths and deep love for one another. When we speak, Temi has planned a date for the couple to see Princess Mononoke in 4K IMAX and added it to their Notion so they can factor it into their busy schedules. “I fully plan to date for the rest of my life,” he says.
Skylar says the couple doesn’t just wait for date nights to check in with one another, though. This often happens in the mornings, after Temi has made her peppermint tea and poured himself a cup of coffee. When they ask each other how they slept, she says, it’s not just a “nicety.” It’s a genuine question meant to foster connection.
“A lot of it happens during the day in the midst of work. We'll stop and we'll hug. Or we’ll slow dance in the kitchen,” she says. “Sometimes it's hard to set a whole date night when you have 7,000 things going on. So, we must grasp these moments and check in when we can. And I think it's become so organic to us that I actually didn't even realize how often we do it. But all day long, we're like, 'Are you good? I felt like your energy shifted,' because we're best friends, we just know. We just feel it happen.”
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Featured image by Cj Hart @hartbreak