OK so boom, I like to masturbate. Whether I'm single or not, I make masturbation a part of my sexual self-care routine. However, I know the topic of masturbating can still be uncomfortable for a lot of women. Aside from pleasure, masturbation is an enjoyable experience that any woman should take pride and confidence in with herself. It is a profound way to practice self-exploration and self-discovery. Masturbation gives you the keys to understanding what you like to do and what you like to be done to you.
If you find yourself intrigued by sex and masturbation, but don't know where to start, a dope resource is the Instagram account Sexual Essentials. On it, you can learn essential sex tips (including solo sex) and access classes that help you reach your climax like hands-on masturbation, squirting 101, foreplay, and vaginal orgasms, to name a few. For any woman looking for the best tips and toys to use for solo sex, the founder and sex educator behind Sexual Essentials, Samia Burton, is a vessel of knowledge.
"I realized the first time I had successful masturbation, I never had a real orgasm and I was disappointed," she revealed. "After I got into masturbation, I started playing with certain things and it was just easier. You can tell someone, 'Hey do this,' because you felt it before. That matters!"
For women who struggle with having orgasms during sex, indulging in solo sex can be a powerful tool in getting into the flow of sex and taking control of your vagina. The end result could make it easier to achieve orgasm through sex. Samia explained,
"A lot of people don't understand orgasms are like muscle memory, so the more you orgasm the easier it will be to have another one. Also, the more you orgasm, the more you will wake the vaginal area up. Masturbation bought my sex life back and I had stronger orgasms after, but it took work."
When it comes to the work Samia speaks of, the sex toy you use matters. You need the right toy to give you the feeling and the climax you want to reach. I would just pick up a vibrator and go because I know that as long as my clit was stimulated I was good, but Samia quickly let me know that the right toy makes a difference during your solo sex sessions. As we get through this list, remember to keep an open mind and eventually open legs…
With that being said, here are the best toys for solo sex.
This is a travel-friendly clitoral stimulator with 11 speeds and a circular suction tip settles easily into place over your clit to help suck and throb when you're ready.
The long and sleek double-ended dildo offers two oppositely-angled tips and a shaft-like texture for each. It's curved into nubs and swirls to give you a real dick-like feel while hitting that G-spot. Tip: make sure you're getting #55, that's the one you really want.
This is another hands-free option with harness compatibility, suction-based Basix dildo from the Rubber Works collection. The 6.5 Inch Basix is made from a jelly rubber that's latex and flexible enough to get the perfect positioning, but firm enough to satisfy.
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This toy has me the most intrigued. Not only is it a clitoral pump, but it actually has a tongue-like stimulator that's soft and temperature-sensitive. It licks and gyrates tirelessly which makes it perfect for your clit, nipples, and anywhere else you'd like. On the other end, there's a G-spot-loving silicone portion with 10 modes of vibration. Lastly, it comes with two suctions so you can attach it to the wall and really turn sh*t up.
This is not a sex toy per se, but necessary in the bedroom especially for solo sex. Samia recommends keeping some in your bedside drawer. Some good brands for lubricants are Astroglide and K-Y Jelly. You can also check out our cheat sheet for everything you need to know about using lubricants.
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