Being in a relationship with an Aquarius is like having a best friend and a lover in one. You can count on them to support you in all ways and make you feel like you are special. They love the individuality of others and there is nothing too weird or too unusual to the eye of an Aquarius, making the people in a relationship with them feel comfortable to be themselves. They have no problem finding a love match, but will only fully commit to the right one. They value consistency and loyalty, but will not restrict or dedicate themselves without being 100% completely sure about it.
Aquarius in Love & Relationships
Love for Aquarius is about making sense. This sign is ruled by Saturn and Uranus, and people often forget about the Saturn part. They are adventurous, rebellious souls, but they do so with purpose, intent, and in a structured way. They also expect this type of balance between freedom and commitment within their relationships. They are looking for a partner who can bring something different to the table and that isn’t like anyone else they’ve ever met before. An Aquarius is like a unicorn in love looking for another unicorn.
Aquarius Love Compatibility: Best & Worst Love Matches in the Zodiac
Although it can be difficult to get close to an Aquarius and they only let a few people in, when you are in, an Aquarius will be there for you until the end. Read below to see how your sign matches with this air sign:
Who Are Aquariuses Most Compatible With?
Aquarius + Aries Love Compatibility
This couple is fun, adventurous, dynamic, and supportive of one another. Aquarius and Aries are often on the same wavelength and they also respect each other's differences rather than being turned off by them. Being that these are both highly independent individuals, they do need to make sure they are taking the time to meet in the middle and not create too many completely separate lives away from each other. Other than that, when it works it works, and these two have what it takes to go the distance if they are both committed to doing so.
Aquarius + Taurus Love Compatibility
This match isn’t the best of the best, and for obvious reasons. The Aquarius and Taurus live in different worlds and don’t often want to visit where each other is. Aquarius thinks and Taurus senses. Aquarius wants to talk it out, and Taurus wants to experience it. Aquarius also tends to be a few steps ahead of Taurus, as Taurus likes to go at their own pace and rushes their energy for nobody. These two may work if they have other prominent air and earth factors in the birth chart, other than that, there are a lot of disagreements and conflicts here.
Aquarius + Gemini Love Compatibility
Aquarius and Gemini are soulmates. Aquarius is one of the only signs in the zodiac that flows well with Gemini rather than fights against them. They see something special and unique about Gemini and vice versa. The conversation between these two signs is impeccable, and they can talk for hours. This is a fun relationship, where they both like to go out and spend time with friends, and there is a lightheartedness that they both crave within a relationship. Aquarius and Gemini are a meant-to-be type of love.
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Aquarius + Cancer Love Compatibility
The compatibility isn’t the best match for Aquarius, but it is not the worst either. If these two can understand that they have a lot to learn from each other and that their differences aren’t weaknesses but rather mirrors of each other, then this relationship can be successful. The only major challenge here is the emotional world of them both. Aquarius is at a 1 and Cancer is at a 100. However, Cancer’s energy can be good for Aquarius and help them be more vulnerable and open emotionally, which is beneficial to any relationship.
Aquarius + Leo Love Compatibility
Aquarius and Leo are where opposites attract. They are sister signs in Astrology, meaning that these two signs are on the exact opposite sides of the zodiac wheel. You can envision this as yin and yang coming together as one. An Aquarius and Leo relationship is full of main character energy, and they both hold themselves well. Leo is intrigued by Aquarius’ eccentric and quirky behavior and supports them in their self-expression. Egos can clash here from time to time, all in all, however, Aquarius can’t deny how much they adore their bold Leos.
Aquarius + Virgo Love Compatibility
Aquarius and Virgo are where intellect and respect meet. They have a lot in common, and both express themselves emotionally in similar ways. This connection is a hit or miss, as they may meet and immediately have a soulmate connection and a relationship full of inspiration, understanding, and grace. On the other hand, they may never get to that place and the relationship may stay stuck at the beginning stages of a connection. These two must be willing to dive deeper than good conversation to make it work.
Aquarius + Libra Love Compatibility
Libra is one of the only signs that can get Aquarius to the altar. Aquarius is ready to risk it all for Libra and vice versa. These two just get each other, and Libra opens up Aquarius’ emotional world in a way where they don’t feel forced. Aquarius and Libra are a fun couple with the best outfits and outgoing demeanors. There is a good give and take in this relationship and they both meet each other where the other is. This is one of the best matches for Aquarius and they tend to fall for each other quickly.
Aquarius + Scorpio Love Compatibility
Aquarius and Scorpio are an oddball couple. They don’t immediately seem like a great match to others, but when you dive a little deeper, you can see where the connection forms. Being both fixed signs, these two value loyalty, confidence, and stability in life. They know where each other stands and there is no second-guessing here. This, however, is another relationship though where egos may clash often and some mind games and power struggles may arise here. This relationship can work if both are in it for the right reasons.
Aquarius + Sagittarius Love Compatibility
Aquarius and Sagittarius are a couple that is all about experiencing life together and learning from each other. They are both explorers of the mind, and Sagittarius helps Aquarius get out of their shell more. There are plenty of positive adventures that these two have together, and this is a couple who are both lovers and best friends. The chemistry is impeccable between these two, and that includes in the bed. Overall, this relationship has all the necessary components to succeed, and it’s all about being at the right place and the right time in life for both of them.
Aquarius + Capricorn Love Compatibility
Aquarius and Capricorn are often fond and intrigued by each other. Being both ruled by Saturn, they have a common ground upon a relationship to be built upon. These two work on their relationship from the ground up and are both willing to put in the necessary time and patience needed for it to work. Over time, the relationship may go stale with the lack of emotional energy on both sides, and if they can learn to switch up the usual routine, go on frequent date nights, and spend time together, this relationship can be a successful one where they build a nice life together.
Aquarius + Aquarius Love Compatibility
An Aquarius and an Aquarius duo are not very common, but when they do meet they feel the magic. There is an instinctual knowing and connection that they have right away, but a lot of the time these two are better off as friends than lovers. See, Aquarius is the least common sign in the world, and they like their sense of individualism. Being in a relationship with someone more similar to them than anything is more of a turn-off for Aquarius as they like the fact that no one is like them. This relationship can work depending on the place in life Aquarius is in.
Aquarius + Pisces Love Compatibility
This is a sweet pairing and a sweet couple. Pisces may be the best water sign match for Aquarius, as Aquarius finds something endearing about emotional Pisces rather than disruptive. There is a very special connection here that often goes missing, and Aquarius gets to take a break from all the logical thinking and indulge in a little fantasy when in a relationship with Pisces. Pisces may not always receive what they are looking for with Aquarius however, as they need that emotional rapport, but if Aquarius is willing to open up and be a little more vulnerable, this relationship can be magic.
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The questions that I recommend asking? The following six are what I think can get everyone on the same page, so that there is more pleasure than regret from the hook-up attempt.
1. Why Are They So Invested?
GiphyTwo things that I recently watched over again are the series Survivor’s Remorse (the writing is so damn good) and a movie called Trapped in Temptation (both are currently on Tubi). Something that both of them made me think about is the fact that motive reveals a lot when it comes to why people say and do the things that they do.
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Now, if it’s someone who loves all things love, they are in love and they want you to experience something similar — that’s sweet. Just make sure that they are approaching the set up from a healthy space. What I mean by that is they don’t see singleness as some sort of relational handicap or they aren’t trying to override what you want for your life as if they somehow know better (there are so many ways to be a control freak, y’all).
Hmph. Now that I think about it — make sure that the set-up crew isn’t trying to use you to “save” some male friend or relative of theirs. I say that because I once knew a mother whose son had — count ‘em — 10 kids and she was FOREVER trying to get me to date him. Girl, that wasn’t for me. She was looking for a Holy Ghost Jr. for that child of hers. I’ll pass. HARD PASS.
Bottom line with this one — if someone wants to set you up with someone else, the first thing to ask is why? Make sure to really listen to what their answer is. Then pay attention to if your mind, body and spirit are at peace with their answer(s).
2. Do They Know What You Want?
GiphyI don’t know about y’all, but the people (and let’s be honest, by far, it’s usually women) who have tried to set me up with someone? They didn’t even know what my preferences or type was. Hell, they didn’t even know my thoughts or timeline as it relates to being in a serious relationship were either. And what that boils down to is they were trying to hook me up based on their agenda, not mine — and that usually meant that the guys who they came up with? Yeah…I was good on them. LOL.
Yeah, if someone wants to hook you up, you definitely should ask them if they know what you are looking for in a guy when it comes to his looks, personality, passions, spirituality, relational desires and goals, location, etc. Because, indeed, what is the point in going out with someone who is fine as hell and yet, you want kids and he doesn’t (or vice versa) or who has a great personality yet he isn’t even in the same ballpark of your spiritual beliefs?
If your friend really wants to help you out, valuing your time should come with that — and that means bringing someone into your life who complements your lifestyle. No wiggle room here.
3. Are They Aware of Your Deal-Breakers?
GiphyLast year, I wrote an article for the platform entitled, “Should Bad Sex Actually Be A Relationship Deal-Breaker?” The thing that I think needs to go on record about deal-breakers is they aren’t exactly standards that you have. No, a deal-breaker is something that can’t be worked out even after trying to negotiate or compromise. When it comes to relationships, a deal-breaker might be how long two people should date before becoming exclusive or getting engaged. Another deal-breaker might be if being religious is more important than being spiritual and how that manifests itself (church or no church, etc.). And yes, another deal-breaker may be what each other’s sexual needs and expectations are.
When someone is setting you up, it is imperative that they know about your standards. For instance, for me, I am not interested in dating a divorced person, pretty much ever (I Corinthians 7:10-11). I’ve had friends who have tried to hook me up with that demographic before and it has always been a moot effort. The fact that some of them have gotten frustrated with my convictions has absolutely nothing to do with me. Some have tried to get me to compromise my deal-breakers too — like a long-distance relationship. Is it a firm “naw”? No. However, it’s not really something that I am interested in, so why not just…recommend someone local?
Yeah, if someone thinks that they know you well enough to hook you up, they absolutely should be well-versed in what your deal-breakers are before they do. And if they’ve never asked, all they are doing is assuming — and we know what that typically means. LOL.
4. What Is Their Track Record?
GiphyIt’s kind of wild that we now live in a time when more couples meet online than they do through “old-fashioned ways” like via their friends (although some reports say that Gen Z is getting back to that) — and yet, here we are. Still, if you are willing to let someone play pseudo matchmaker in your life, you are well within your rights to inquire about their track record in that department. Have they hooked others up, successfully, before? Has any of their “Cupid work” caused both people to get exactly what they wanted out of the situation? If/when things went awry, why was that?
I know someone who is constantly trying to hook people up. Thing is, maybe 10-15 percent (no joke) of their efforts have proven to be positive and fruitful — and we’re talking about close to close to two decades of them doing it. Listen, time is too precious to be out here doing stuff ONLY to please other people. That said, if someone wants you to devote some time to one of their grand ideas, you are well within your rights to ask about their past and current success score when it comes to it.
5. Can They Keep Their Own Feelings Out of It?
GiphyWanna know if someone who is offering to do something for you is actually doing it more for themselves? If they try to make it be about them when things don’t go the way they would like, that is a dead ringer. An example? They post a message about you on social media and then question you about why you didn’t do the same thing in return. Another example? They do something for you and then throw it in your face during an argument. Still another example? They set you up with someone, it doesn’t work out, and suddenly you’ve put them in a weird spot. No dear — you put your own self in that position by trying to hook two people up in the first place.
I promise you, it will spare everyone unnecessary energy spent (or even drama experienced) if, before you agree to be hooked up, you get the matchmaker on record stating that they will keep their emotions out of it as much as possible. MEANING — they will do the introductions and then let the chips fall where they may. If they can’t do this, my two cents (save it or spend it) would be to decline the offer. Because all you need is someone texting you about why you haven’t called their cousin back or having an attitude with you when you break up with some guy at their church who they thought was the perfect catch (P.S. These aren’t hypothetical examples — LOL).
6. Will They Respect Your Boundaries? Start to Finish?
GiphyYeah, this final one is a biggie. Just because someone sets you up with another person, that doesn’t automatically or necessarily mean that they should have the right to the details of the dynamic. I don’t care if it’s the first date or the 10th date. I don’t care if you decide to just be sex buddies or to have a full-blown relationship. I don’t care if you stay together or break-up — it’s your relationship which makes it your business. Whatever you share is privileged data.
Yeah, I would say that probably the most challenging thing about being hooked up by someone you know is they have a tendency to think that they are a part of the relationship too — and that is a lie. If things go well beyond a couple of dates, you and the guy should discuss what you will both share with the person who introduced you and then agree to stick to that boundary, no matter what. It’s a great way to protect the dynamic, to keep “outside voices” from influencing the growth and to navigate how you want to move, moving forward.
Someone who hooked you up for the right reasons and knows how to honor limits? They will understand. Will they ask questions? Absolutely. Will they pry? Nah.
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Should you sit and let someone hook you up? I mean, you never know how your blessing will come. Just make sure that they are prepared for you to do some digging into their mindset before they start sweetly meddling into your love life.
It’s only fair. Hell, and right. LOL.
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