Big, beautiful women were dominating the sex game long before Drake showed love when he rapped, "I like my women BBW." I'm on the curvier side and my husband can't get enough of squeezing, grabbing, and caressing my curves and edges. It's just something extra special when there's more to hold on to while he (literally) sits back and enjoys the ride. My sex drive has been through the roof lately, and there are only so many ways we can missionary and doggy style, no matter how much flesh and skin is at the party. But... all sex positions are not created equal.
This isn't to shame any size - petite, curvy, or anything in between - but the reality is, what's orgasmic for a BBW might not hit the spot like it does for a size 2. And even beyond that, every woman is different anyway - no matter her size. It's all about the positions that make you feel confident, sexy, empowered, desired, and in control (and of course, sometimes being the "submissive" one).
These positions have proven to help the BBW reach her climax every time - from the inside out.
This is my jam (*Lauren London in ATL voice*). For this position, your guy sits back against a couch, headboard, or comfortable armchair. Wherever you set the scene, make sure you have plenty of room because it can get crazy. Once you're settled, have him wrap his arms around your waist and move you up and down. Flaunt what you're working with and move your hips and waist in subtle movements to get maximum stimulation.
2.Cook It Up
What's better than sex in the kitchen? It might be a cliche but that's because it works so well. Does it ever miss? Hardly. For this position, all you have to do is sit on the kitchen counter and let your man enter while you both get all passionate and whatnot.
This is a solid switch-up when you want to try something new (even in the moment!). Here's how it goes: You lay on your back and lift your legs at a 90-degree angle. Your partner kneels with his legs near your chest. His pelvis should align with your vulva when he makes his way in. To make things more interesting he can move your legs to the same side. His torso stays upward and you should also squeeze your vagina (hope you've been practicing your Kegels!) to make sure he stays inside.
If you like being in control, this is for you. Just like when you're doing the cowgirl, kneel on top of your partner and lean on his chest to help your thighs go to work. But this time, let your partner grab onto your hips as they thrust themselves up to meet you. This makes orgasms easier for both of you.
Now, this is an adventure. But *sigh* it feels oh so good. With your partner kneeling on the bed, you lay in front of him (on your back) with each foot on his shoulders. This is actually a very intimate position because it encourages eye contact and gives him a full view of your body and all that it has to offer.
Having sex without the missionary position is a hard habit to break. But no one said you had to give it up altogether. The fact that it's so basic only means there are ways to mix things up. While he's inside, you can play with his balls, put one leg up and one leg down, and slow it down to enjoy every moment. You can also lift your pelvis, add more lubricant, and even put a pillow underneath you to get a new angle.
This one might be easy, but don't underestimate its power. You and your partner both sit with your legs bent, leaning back on your forearms while facing each other. Slowly get closer to one another and rub your clitoris on his pelvis. To make things even sexier, put ice cubes on his chest so the water drips to his pelvis.
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