

I don’t know about y’all but the older that I get, if there is one thing that I will fist fight you, passionately, about, it is messing with my sleep. That’s why I’ve gotten out of the habit of drinking something too close to bedtime (because I am not someone who can immediately fall back to sleep after going on a bathroom run) and I also make sure that my body has all that it needs to feel nice and comfortable before turning off the lights until morning. Because y’all, ain’t nothing like waking up and — for instance — scratching yourself to death.
Sometimes, it happens, though. For me, it tends to be my back. Sometimes, however? It’s my vagina (or vulva). And when that happens, it can be beyond annoying.
You know, one of the things that’s cool about writing for a women’s platform is you can freely talk about topics that might be hard to (easily) find anywhere else; including what to do if your vagina (or vulva) is itching in the middle of the night, you’re not sure why and yet, what you do know is you need to figure out a solution — quick, fast and in a hurry.
Look no further, sis. I got you.
Let’s First Talk About Why Your Vagina May Be Itching in the First Place
Definitely, a key indicator that something isn’t quite right down below is if you experience incessant itching. Here’s the thing about that, though — it isn’t always due to a yeast infection. In fact, there are several different things that can cause your vagina and/or vulva to itch a lot:
- Perfumed beauty products
- Laundry detergent
- Scented feminine products
- Tight clothing (no ventilation)
- Scented toilet paper
- Vaginal dryness
- Latex condoms
- Friction from sex
- Semen allergy
- A bad reaction to lubrication
- Eczema
- Psoriasis
- Bacterial Vaginosis
- STI/STDs
- Saliva (due to the bacteria that is in it)
- Latter stages of perimenopause/menopause
- Improper hygiene
- Diabetes
- Vulvar cancer
- Stress
I know, right? That is quite the list — 20 things, in fact. It’s necessary to share all of them with you, though. Why? Well, hopefully, by the process of elimination, you can get down to the root of why your vagina and/or vulva are itching to begin with.
For me, for the past few months, things would be completely fine throughout the day; however, when I would go to “lay my burdens down” at night — here came the itching and oftentimes, it would be in the wee hours of the night. After talking to my nurse practitioner about it, we realized that two things were the culprit. One? I sleep naked and although I adore me some Tyler Glamorous Wash Diva Fine Laundry Detergent (the real ones know), it’s too strong when it comes to my sheets.
The other challenge? Oh, that damn perimenopause, chile. Although my symptoms are pretty mild (in comparison to what I hear other women share), since a common symptom of it is a drop in estrogen, which can lead to an itchy vagina — welp, there you go. Plus, if you sweat in your sleep, that can cause quite a bit of itching too.
Okay, but I was washing my clothes in the same detergent with no vaginal issues and perimenopause doesn’t only happen once the sun sets — so, why was I only noticing the itchiness at night? Good question.
Now Let’s Get into What Makes It Worse At Nighttime
So, here’s what’s wild about the main reason why your vagina seems to itch more at night than it does during the day: it mostly boils down to how still you are. Just think about it — during the daytime, you’re running around, with your mind on dozens of different things and so, it’s not until you’re actually in bed that everything has slowed down and you’re able to focus on your body more.
That’s not to say that stillness is the only thing that causes vaginal itching. Health experts also say that an uptick in your body’s temperature, an increased blood flow to your skin and even your system losing water throughout the night can cause the itching to ramp up.
Now let’s be real: If you’ve got an infection going on, you cannot lower your thermostat enough nor is there enough water in the world that is going to make any of the itching just automatically stop. You will definitely need some type of medication to bring forth some type of relief. However, if the itching is minor and it’s due to some other issues that are on that 20-point list, there are some things that you can do to calm it down, so that you can sleep better.
I’ve got six of ‘em.
6 Things That You Can Do to Relieve Vaginal/Vulvar Itching
Again, getting down to the cause of your vaginal itching is the best way to find some relief from it. Still, if after narrowing everything down and you come to the conclusions that some small tweaks are all that you need yet you’re not exactly sure what they should be — my two cents would be to start with these.
1. Set your thermostat to 68 degrees. There are actually a lot of different reasons why you may feel hot throughout the night. It could be your hormones (i.e., hot flashes); however, there are many other causes including your diet (caffeine, alcohol and spicy foods); vitamin deficiencies; diabetes; thyroid medication, and your weight. Something that can help to offset all of this is to sleep in breathable bedding (like organic cotton sheets) and turn down your thermostat to around 68 degrees. You’ll sweat less and your vagina/vulva will feel more comfortable too.
2. Wash and dry your vaginal area thoroughly before turning in. Although it’s pretty much up to preference when it comes to whether you should shower during the day or nighttime (check out “Does Your Vagina Prefer You Take A Shower Or A Bath?”), if you want to significantly decrease the chances of having an itchy genital region, wash your vaginal area before turning in (check out “Are You Washing Your Vagina Correctly? You Sure?)” and “Love On Yourself With These 7 All-Natural DIY Vaginal Washes”). It will remove any irritants including urine which can sometimes lead to itching in itself.
3. Apply a blend of tea tree and coconut oil to your vulvar skin. Something else that can reduce the itching (or potential for itching) around your vulva is applying a blend of tea tree oil and coconut oil. Both contain powerful antifungal properties and can help to reduce/ease inflammation. Just make sure to add a drop only of tea tree oil to a tablespoon of coconut oil and to avoid your vagina’s opening while applying as much as possible (in case it is super irritated; tea tree oil can really sting torn or wounded skin).
4. Use polyisoprene condoms. Planning on some midnight lovin’? If you sense that latex is what’s pissing your vagina off, try some polyisoprene condoms instead. Since they are made of synthetic material, they don’t contain the proteins in latex that sometimes lead to vaginal itching and irritation.
5. Stay hydrated. Something that definitely helps to regulate your body temperature is water. The main reason is because, when you sweat, your body loses water which causes your body temperature to rise. So, if you’re itchy and hot at the same time, drink some water. That might just do the trick.
6. Sleep naked. If you were to read an article on the benefits of sleeping naked (like these here, here and here), you’d be hard-pressed for vaginal health to not be mentioned. That’s because, in order for your vagina and vulva to “breathe,” for the chances of experiencing a yeast infection to be lowered and to regulate your body’s temperature, air is required. I’ve been sleeping naked for at least 20 years at this point, and I don’t see me stopping any time soon. I feel free and my vagina feels healthy. When it comes to getting a good night’s rest (and being itch-free), it doesn’t get much better than that! So, sleep naked. I can’t think of one solid reason not to!
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Roscoe Dash joined xoMan host Kiara Walker to share the journey of his personal and spiritual evolution—from the party anthems that made him famous to a deeper life rooted in faith, family, and purpose. This episode offers an honest look at how the artist has grown beyond early fame, addressing fatherhood, masculinity, creativity, and healing.
Dash opened up about the internal transformation that has guided him away from chasing the spotlight and toward seeking peace. “Faith and fear can’t occupy the same space,” he said, underscoring his shift toward a more spiritually grounded life. Throughout the interview, he emphasized the importance of self-reflection:
“The most important conversations to me, honestly, outside of the ones you have with God, is the ones you have with yourself in the mirror.”
Dash is focused on the man he’s become. “I’m not the accolades I’ve achieved—I’m the person who achieved them,” he added, pointing to a broader understanding of identity and worth. A large part of that growth has come through fatherhood, especially raising daughters, which he said has deepened his understanding of love. “Love is unconditional and love loves to love no matter what,” he shared.
He also spoke candidly about the pressures of fame and its impact on creativity. “Chasing fame can kill your creativity as a musician,” he warns. Instead, his advice to other artists is simple but clear: “Keep your focus on your art form, whatever that may be, and stay passionate.”
The conversation also touches on gender dynamics and emotional safety in relationships. “Safe men make soft women. If she feels safe, she’ll melt like butter,” he said, challenging traditional notions of masculinity. Roscoe also offers wisdom on discernment and spiritual testing: “Sometimes the devil will give you what looks better than your blessing.”
Ultimately, Dash has learned to embrace peace over chaos. “All I can do is control what I can control. And that's how I respond to things and what I'm giving out,” he said. It’s a thoughtful, soulful side of Roscoe Dash that many may not expect—but one that leaves a lasting impression.
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I Tried It: 3 Low-Maintenance Wigs That Will Elevate Your Look This Season
There's nothing like the feeling you get when your hair is done. It can instantly boost your confidence and put you in a great mood. I've never been a stranger to hair trends and I often experiment with the latest braided styles and colors.
But there are moments when I just don't feel like doing my hair. I'm natural and a lot of times I will braid or twist my hair up and cover it with a scarf or turban. However, when I crave a different look without the hassle of styling, I reach for a wig.
I've always had a love-hate relationship with wigs. Sometimes, I struggle to get them to lay flat and don't get me started with the bonding glue process. So when it comes to wearing wigs, I like to keep it nice and breezy around this b--- (word to Katt Williams), especially in the summertime.
That's why I jumped at the chance to try these three versatile wigs from Luvme Hair. Each one offers a unique look and is surprisingly low maintenance, which aligns perfectly with my philosophy that wearing wigs should make life easier. Let’s dive into the three styles below.
Headband Wig
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This was the first wig I tried on, and I instantly fell in love with it. So much so that it took me weeks to even consider trying the other two. I’m partial to colored hair, especially blonds, browns, and reds, so I was skeptical about the jet black hair. However, I think the color, combined with the curl pattern, worked surprisingly well for me.
One of the things I really liked about this wig was that I didn’t have to braid my hair down first. I could simply throw it over a low ponytail, which is the epitome of a low-maintenance style. The headband has combs inside and velcro on the ends, ensuring a secure fit.
Half Wig
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I had never worn a half wig before, so I faced some challenges. I cornrowed the bottom half of my hair where the wig would sit, but I believe this made it more difficult to use the combs. It might just be me though. I straightened the top part of my hair to blend it with the wig, which looked cute for about five minutes.
Firstly, I have a brown/blonde color mix on the ends of my hair, and the half wig is black. So, I had to hide some of the color (I didn’t have time to dye the wig). Secondly, straightening my hair myself is always a hassle because it never lasts long. Add to that the summer humidity, and you get a hot mess. Despite all this, I managed to get some cute pictures before things got out of control, and that’s all that matters, right?
Would I consider this a low-maintenance hair style? Yes and no. I think it’s unrealistic for me during the summer, especially since I enjoy summer activities. However, when the weather cools down, I’ll definitely rock it, dyed, of course.
Bob
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Now, this is the wig I was nervous about. I never had a bob and I didn't think I would like it. But once I put bobiana on, my mind instantly changed. I finally understood why the gworls rave about the bob so much. It was giving boss. It was giving grown woman. It was giving the bob means business. Iykyk. It was the ultimate statement.
I will say when I first put it on, one side of my wig just would not lay flat. It took some trial and error, but I finally managed to get it to look good. With the bob, I highly recommend braiding your hair down first as small as you can so it can lay as flat as possible. I really liked the ash blonde color, which is perfect for summer. The length also makes it a great low-maintenance style for the season, so you don't have to worry about the hair making your neck sweaty.
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