Love On Yourself With These 7 All-Natural DIY Vaginal Washes
I have a girlfriend in her 50s who claims she doesn't recall one time when she's ever looked directly into her vagina.
Not during sex. Not when she had her kids. Never. According to her, she basically washes it and trims it from time to time and that's about it.
Meanwhile, I'm the kind of woman who feels like my va-jay-jay is like a plant; it deserves to be loved on and even talked to on occasion. It's nothing for me to take out a handheld mirror and do my own impromptu inspecting to see how things are going down there. I'll even proudly shout her out when necessary.
Most of my friends know that my vagina and I are buddies. Maybe that's why it's not uncommon for them to hit me up with random questions like, "What should I wash my vagina with?"
OK. The short answer is "absolutely nothing". One of the best things about our vaginas is they are self-cleaning; our bodies provide everything they need to maintain a pH balance of 3.8-4.5, which is why we shouldn't douche; it throws the balance off. But when it comes to our labia — the external folds of our vulva, which is the outer part of our vagina — that is something that we can safely pamper and love on with a few beauty products (preferably all-natural ones).
If you want to give your vagina — and by that, I mean labia — a bit of a treat, here are some all-natural homemade washes that are not only safe to use but can benefit your lady parts in so many ways.
Disclaimer: When it comes to the recipes that require water, room-temperature distilled water is best because it's the kind of water that is contamination-free and helps to detoxify your organs.
Rosewater and Lavender Wash:
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Rosewater is great for your labia because it's full of antioxidants, helps to treat infections, and also helps to soothe skin irritation. Lavender oil works well with it because it provides a calming effect while it soothes skin irritation and reduces PMS-related symptoms. Witch hazel is awesome because it contains tannins that help to tighten up superficial cells (it's also great for healing hemorrhoids and postpartum swelling). Rosemary oil increases blood circulation while reducing stress. The more blood that's flowing to your genitalia, the more awesome your orgasms will be!
Recipe:
1 Cup of Distilled Water
1/3 Cup of Rosewater
¼ Cup of Witch Hazel
1 Tablespoon of Rosemary Oil
6 Drops of Lavender Oil
Mix all of these ingredients together in a bottle, shake well and immediately apply (if you wish). This wash should hold for a couple of months, so long as it's kept at room temperature.
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Different puzzle pieces are creating bigger pictures these days. 2024 will mark a milestone on a few different levels, including the release of my third book next June (yay!).
I am also a Professional Certified Coach. My main mission for attaining that particular goal is to use my formal credentials to help people navigate through the sometimes tumultuous waters, both on and offline, when it comes to information about marriage, sex and relationships that is oftentimes misinformation (because "coach" is a word that gets thrown around a lot, oftentimes quite poorly).
I am also still super devoted to helping to bring life into this world as a doula, marriage life coaching will always be my first love (next to writing, of course), a platform that advocates for good Black men is currently in the works and my keystrokes continue to be devoted to HEALTHY over HAPPY in the areas of holistic intimacy, spiritual evolution, purpose manifestation and self-love...because maturity teaches that it's impossible to be happy all of the time when it comes to reaching goals yet healthy is a choice that can be made on a daily basis (amen?).
If you have any PERSONAL QUESTIONS (please do not contact me with any story pitches; that is an *editorial* need), feel free to reach out at missnosipho@gmail.com. A sistah will certainly do what she can. ;)
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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Why We'll Probably Never Hear Lupita Nyong'o Share Her Relationship With The World
Lupita Nyong'o is sharing a transparent look into her life after a recent breakup.
In a cover story for NET-A-PORTER, the A Quiet Place: Day One star shed light on the significant heartbreak she experienced following the end of her relationship with ex-boyfriend and TV host, Selema Masekela.
As a public figure, Nyong'o, 39, sought to divulge the news of the breakup in hopes of presenting a more authentic perspective on the pain that follows a separation.
"I was living in a lot of pain and heartbreak," she told the publication. "I looked at the environment of my social media and thought I don’t want to be a part of this illusion that everything is always coming up roses. Surely there is a lesson for me to learn in this, and I just want to be real about it."
The Black Panther star went on to explain that her choice to be transparent with her fans about her breakup came from the certainty she felt after ending the relationship. “In my mind, when I shared my relationship status with the world, it was because I felt sure about it,” she said.
While she didn’t know how the news would land with her fans, she found relief in knowing she wasn’t alone in her experience.
“I knew how it could be interpreted; I knew it would have a life of its own,” she reflects. “But then I started to see the comments and people were being so loving and supportive. The ones that moved me the most were other people sharing their pain and their heartbreak.”
Nyong'o and Masekela went Instagram official in December 2022, publicly announcing their relationship in a couple's video. In October 2023, Nyong'o took to her personal Instagram account to share the news of her breakup in her caption, writing, "At this moment, it is necessary for me to share a personal truth and publicly dissociate myself from someone I can no longer trust.”
She continued the vulnerable note, "I find myself in a season of heartbreak because of a love suddenly and devastatingly extinguished by deception. I am tempted to run into the shadows and hide, only to return to the light when I have regained my strength enough for me to say, 'Whatever, my life is better this way.' But I am reminded that the magnitude of the pain I am feeling is equal to the measure of my capacity for love."
These days, Nyong'o tells NET-A-PORTER that she is prioritizing profound self-discovery that extends beyond her career. She notes having a deliberate and unhurried approach to understanding herself.
She also alludes to keeping her relationships private moving forward after noting it was "very, very sage" of her not to talk about her private life professionally in the days before her last relationship. "I'm going back to those days by the way," Nyong'o shares of her reinstated boundaries around her personal life.
Earlier this month, Nyong'o made headlines alongside her new boyfriend actor Joshua Jackson. Nyong'o and Jackson went through public splits from their respective SOs in October 2023, with the latter splitting from his long-time partner Jodie Turner-Smith following her divorce filing from the Dawson's Creek alum.
The pair have been spotted together as early as December 2023, but nothing screamed "couple" quite as loudly as their recent getaway to Mexico for Nyong'o's 41st birthday featuring passionate displays of affection.
"Our purpose in life is to love. And so you have to get back in it," she tells the outlet, seemingly alluding to her budding new romance.
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