
Health is wealth. We've all heard it before and, as someone who is oh so well in her 40s at this point, I most certainly believe it. When it comes to food specifically, I am well aware that my mother's clean diet while carrying me played a huge role in why I am so healthy now. I also know that when I eat right, I feel so much different than when I go through some drive-thru line.
We as women are some amazing creatures. At the same time, our bodies are so intricately designed that it's important that we provide our system with the kind of fuel that will keep us thriving for years to come. That's why I thought it would be a good idea to share 12 foods that can help specific parts of the female body. If you add these to your diet on a regular basis, I'm confident that you will feel so much better for it. Ready?
1. Portabella mushrooms as a superfood are high in anti-inflammatories which helps your immune system.
I'm not a vegetarian or a vegan but there are times when I'll take a break from eating meat. One food that is a cool meat-textured substitute is the portabella mushroom. In fact, it contains about 20 percent of the protein that your body needs on a daily basis. As far as health benefits go, for starters, portabella mushrooms contain a good amount of selenium, potassium, vitamins B2 and B3, and copper.
This is the kind of mushroom that has conjugated linoleic acids (CLA) in it which is cool because those help to inhibit the growth of cancer cells. Not only that, but portabella mushrooms are high in antioxidants and anti-inflammatories which definitely makes them something that will help to keep your immune system in check in the absolute best way possible.
2. Eating the superfood asparagus supports brain health and keeps your heart strong.
A veggie that contains a good amount of vitamins A, B6, and B12, C, E, K, folate, iron, calcium, antioxidants, and protein is asparagus. If you're looking for something that will help you to lose weight, because asparagus is low in fat and calories, it's a food that can help you to do just that. Because it contains the amino acid asparagine, this vegetable can help to prevent UTIs. The Vitamin E that it contains will fight off free radicals, and there are even studies to support the fact that asparagus can help your body to overcome a hangover (buck, right?). As far as your brain and heart go, since it's loaded with Vitamin B12 and folate, asparagus can keep your brain in great shape and the potassium in it helps to keep your heart strong.
3. Citrus fruit can be a great superfood for breast health.
Oranges. Grapefruit. Lemons. Limes. Tangerines. These are all considered to be citrus fruit which basically means that they are "sour fruits". Since they are high in Vitamin C and C is a great antioxidant, it's important to eat this fruit to keep cold and flu bugs from getting you sick. Citrus fruit is high in fiber to keep you regular, water to keep you hydrated, flavonoids to strengthen your heart and potassium to help prevent kidney stones and strokes. Also, since Vitamin C can increase collagen production, citrus fruit is great at reducing signs of aging too.
The reason why peeling an orange or slicing a grapefruit on a weekly basis is such a good idea is because citrus fruit has a phytochemical limonoid in it which has antitumor, antiproliferative and anti-inflammatory properties. Since breast cancer in Black women has a lower incidence but higher mortality rate, it's definitely something to eat more often.
4. Greek yogurt is a superfood that supports gut health.
Ever wonder what the difference is between Greek yogurt and regular yogurt? At the end of the day, Greek yogurt is strained while regular yogurt isn't which means that Greek yogurt has more nutrients in it. It's the kind of food that is a wonderful source of protein and probiotics. It also has a good amount of vitamin B12, potassium, calcium, and iodine (which keeps your thyroid in good shape). If you're looking for a healthy snack that can replenish some of what you've lost after working out, Greek yogurt has totally got you in that way too. Plus, since it's a fermented food that is loaded with healthy bacteria cultures, it's also a food that can keep your gut in great health; that's a blessing because 80 percent of your immune system is located there.
5. For hormonal balance, quinoa is a good superfood for reducing bodily inflammation.
Quinoa is the kind of food that has grown on me over time. A part of what helped me to keep rocking with it was all of the health benefits that it contains. There is definitely no way around the fact that it is indeed a superfood. First, quinoa is one of the very few plants that is considered to be a complete protein (great news for vegetarians and vegans). It's also high in fiber, iron, magnesium, manganese and zinc. If you're someone who prefers foods that are gluten-free, quinoa totally has your back in that way too. Quinoa is good for your gut, helps to reduce bodily inflammation, and is even able to assist in lowering your cholesterol levels. And since it's a food that helps to keep androgen levels on point (including testosterone which women contain a certain amount of), it's also a really good nutrient to help keep your hormones balanced out.
6. Among other things, the superfood sesame seeds can balance estrogen levels.
Speaking of hormones, if you want to add another food to your diet that will help you out in this area, sesame seeds are perfect. Not only are they a wonderful source of virtually all B vitamins, but these seeds are also a good source of plant protein, fiber, and antioxidants. Many nutritionists dig them because they support thyroid health, control blood sugar levels, encourage bone health, help to reduce bodily inflammation, and can even decrease arthritic discomfort that may be specifically in your knees.
What particularly caught my attention about them, though, is sesame seeds are also an awesome source of phytoestrogens; that's good to know because our estrogen levels tend to be lower during our menstrual cycle and also when we're going through menopause.
7. Orange and yellow vegetables are great superfoods for the skin.
Flavonoids. Vitamins A, C, and K. Potassium. Magnesium. These are some of the nutrients that are in orange and yellow vegetables. Thanks to the high amount of these vitamins that are in them, they are the kind of veggies that fight off free radicals, lower blood pressure, maintain oral health, promote healthy joints, keep your pH balanced, boost your immunity, and lower your cholesterol levels. The reason why veggies like corn, yellow and orange peppers, and carrots are great for your skin is that the beta-carotene (vitamin A) that's in them will help to improve the texture of your skin as well as protect your skin from damaging UV rays.
8. As a superfood, berries can help keep your scalp and hair health on point.
Berries are a low-calorie fruit that's full of water and high in antioxidants and fiber. That alone should be enough of a reason to want to eat them more often, I would think. If you're looking for a sweet way to lower your cholesterol levels, improve your blood sugar levels, fight off free radicals, strengthen your body's arteries, boost brain power, and even decrease your chances of being diagnosed with Parkinson's disease, a fresh bowl of berries can totally make that happen.
Also, if healthy hair is what you're after, the flavonoid anthocyanin in berries like blueberries will help your body to produce the collagen that your hair needs to stay strong. Plus, the vitamin C in berries will feed your hair follicles while increasing blood circulation to your scalp. The vitamin B in berries will give your follicles more oxygen in order to keep your scalp and hair in good shape.
9. Stinging nettle helps lower blood pressure and keep heart disease at bay.
If you're not familiar with what stinging nettle is, it's basically an herb that has antimicrobial, anti-ulcer, astringent, and analgesic properties. It's full of antioxidants too. If you're someone who is looking for a way to naturally treat a bladder infection, relieve joint pain, reduce hay fever-related symptoms or even make eczema symptoms more bearable, stinging nettle has totally got your back.
I decided to include it in this article, though, because of what it can do for your blood. Because stinging nettle is also an herb that is high in vitamin C and iron, if you consume it a couple of times a week, it can help your body produce more red blood cells which can prevent you from becoming anemic. It's also got the flavonoids quercetin and kaempferol in it which is awesome because those help to lower your blood pressure and keep heart disease at bay.
10. For the libido, dark chocolate is a great superfood to add to your diet.
It's kind of crazy that something as delicious as dark chocolate would be as nutritious as it is. There is a ton of iron, fiber, magnesium, zinc, omega-6 fatty acids, and copper, along with antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties that makes it well worth your time to have a 60-percent-of-cocoa-in-it piece a few times a week. Dark chocolate is also good for you because it can help to boost your mood, improve your blood sugar levels, reduce cancer cell growth, lower your (bad) cholesterol levels, reduce the chances of strokes and heart attacks, protect your skin from sun damage, and even suppress your coughs.
Plus, if you want to get in the mood (or get your partner in the mood), the compound phenylethylamine that's also in dark chocolate, along with the properties that in it can help to boost your libido and increases blood flow to your genital region so that you can enjoy sexual pleasure more.
11. Aged cheese is a superfood that is great for fertility.
Uh-huh. I bet you didn't see this one coming, did you? Before getting into how aged cheeses can help you to conceive, let's first break down some of the cheeses that can easily go onto this list. Some include Fontina, Gruyere, Manchego Curado, Dry Monterey Jack, Parmesan, Piccante Provolone, and Sharp-Aged Cheddar because they are all cheeses that have gone through the aging process for six months or more (you can check out a pretty comprehensive list of other aged cheeses on Kosher's site here).
A few of the reasons why aged cheese is good for your overall health and well-being is because it's high in calcium, zinc, phosphorus, enzymes, and protein, along with vitamins A, B12, and K. If you're someone who happens to be lactose-intolerant, there's a pretty good chance that you can still enjoy aged cheese because the processing of aged cheese means that very little (if any) lactose is in it. Aged cheese is also a probiotic food which also makes it good for your gut health.
As far as your fertility goes, these cheeses contain polyamines; they are proteins that help to keep eggs and sperm healthy. Now how dope is that? Oh! I almost forgot that aged cheeses have also been shown to increase longevity. Grilled cheese sandwich, anyone?
12. As a superfood, raw honey reduces stress, regulates blood sugar, and fights off free radicals.
One of the best things to ever happen to any of us is honey. The reason why I say that is it really is criminal that it can taste so good and offer so many health benefits at the same time. If you opt for consuming raw honey (which is honey that isn't processed and has as many health benefits as possible), it contains enzymes, amino acids, B vitamins, Vitamin C, antioxidants, and several minerals too. Eating honey can help to fight allergies (because it contains allergens that cause it to act much like a natural antibiotic); fights off free radicals; contains antibacterial properties to fight off salmonella and E. coli (for starters); promotes oral health, regulates blood sugar; reduces oxidative stress, and is a great hair and skin moisturizer (honey helps to heal pimples and fade acne marks too).
Even with all of this, I'm actually closing out with honey because certain properties in honey are able to offer a calming effect and reduce anxiety. Just take a teaspoon of raw honey at night before turning in and you'll sleep more soundly and feel more relaxed so that you can better handle whatever is coming the next day. Yep, definitely a superfood in every way. Enjoy!
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Because We Are Still IT, Girl: It Girl 100 Returns
Last year, when our xoNecole team dropped our inaugural It Girl 100 honoree list, the world felt, ahem, a bit brighter.
It was March 2024, and we still had a Black woman as the Vice President of the United States. DEI rollbacks weren’t being tossed around like confetti. And more than 300,000 Black women were still gainfully employed in the workforce.
Though that was just nineteen months ago, things were different. Perhaps the world then felt more receptive to our light as Black women.
At the time, we launched It Girl 100 to spotlight the huge motion we were making as dope, GenZennial Black women leaving our mark on culture. The girls were on the rise, flourishing, drinking their water, minding their business, leading companies, and learning to do it all softly, in rest. We wanted to celebrate that momentum—because we love that for us.
So, we handpicked one hundred It Girls who embody that palpable It Factor moving through us as young Black women, the kind of motion lighting up the world both IRL and across the internet.
It Girl 100 became xoNecole’s most successful program, with the hashtag organically reaching more than forty million impressions on Instagram in just twenty-four hours. Yes, it caught on like wildfire because we celebrated some of the most brilliant and influential GenZennial women of color setting trends and shaping culture. But more than that, it resonated because the women we celebrated felt seen.
Many were already known in their industries for keeping this generation fly and lit, but rarely received recognition or flowers. It Girl 100 became a safe space to be uplifted, and for us as Black women to bask in what felt like an era of our brilliance, beauty, and boundless influence on full display.
And then, almost overnight, it was as if the rug was pulled from under us as Black women, as the It Girls of the world.
Our much-needed, much-deserved season of ease and soft living quickly metamorphosed into a time of self-preservation and survival. Our motion and economic progression seemed strategically slowed, our light under siege.
The air feels heavier now. The headlines colder. Our Black girl magic is being picked apart and politicized for simply existing.
With that climate shift, as we prepare to launch our second annual It Girl 100 honoree list, our team has had to dig deep on the purpose and intention behind this year’s list. Knowing the spirit of It Girl 100 is about motion, sauce, strides, and progression, how do we celebrate amid uncertainty and collective grief when the juice feels like it is being squeezed out of us?
As we wrestled with that question, we were reminded that this tension isn’t new. Black women have always had to find joy in the midst of struggle, to create light even in the darkest corners. We have carried the weight of scrutiny for generations, expected to be strong, to serve, to smile through the sting. But this moment feels different. It feels deeply personal.
We are living at the intersection of liberation and backlash. We are learning to take off our capes, to say no when we are tired, to embrace softness without apology.
And somehow, the world has found new ways to punish us for it.

In lifestyle, women like Kayla Nicole and Ayesha Curry have been ridiculed for daring to choose themselves. Tracee Ellis Ross was labeled bitter for speaking her truth about love. Meghan Markle, still, cannot breathe without critique.
In politics, Kamala Harris, Letitia James, and Jasmine Crockett are dragged through the mud for standing tall in rooms not built for them.
In sports, Angel Reese, Coco Gauff, and Taylor Townsend have been reminded that even excellence will not shield you from racism or judgment.

In business, visionaries like Diarrha N’Diaye-Mbaye and Melissa Butler are fighting to keep their dreams alive in an economy that too often forgets us first.
Even our icons, Beyoncé, Serena, and SZA, have faced criticism simply for evolving beyond the boxes society tried to keep them in.
From everyday women to cultural phenoms, the pattern is the same. Our light is being tested.

And yet, somehow, through it all, we are still showing up as that girl, and that deserves to be celebrated.
Because while the world debates our worth, we keep raising our value. And that proof is all around us.
This year alone, Naomi Osaka returned from motherhood and mental health challenges to reach the semifinals of the US Open. A’ja Wilson claimed another MVP, reminding us that beauty and dominance can coexist. Brandy and Monica are snatching our edges on tour. Kahlana Barfield Brown sold out her new line in the face of a retailer that had been canceled. And Melissa Butler’s company, The Lip Bar, is projecting a forty percent surge in sales.

We are no longer defining strength by how much pain we can endure. We are defining it by the unbreakable light we continue to radiate.
We are the women walking our daily steps and also continuing to run solid businesses. We are growing in love, taking solo trips, laughing until it hurts, raising babies and ideas, drinking our green juice, and praying our peace back into existence.
We are rediscovering the joy of rest and realizing that softness is not weakness, it is strategy.
And through it all, we continue to lift one another. Emma Grede is creating seats at the table. Valeisha Butterfield has started a fund for jobless Black women. Arian Simone is leading in media with fearless conviction. We are pouring into each other in ways the world rarely sees but always feels.

So yes, we are in the midst of societal warfare. Yes, we are being tested. Yes, we are facing economic strain, political targeting, and public scrutiny. But even war cannot dim a light that is divinely ours.
And we are still shining.
And we are still softening.
And we are still creating.
And we are still It.

That is the quiet magic of Black womanhood, our ability to hold both truth and triumph in the same breath, to say yes, and to life’s contradictions.
It is no coincidence that this year, as SheaMoisture embraces the message “Yes, And,” they stand beside us as partners in celebrating this class of It Girls. Because that phrase, those two simple words, capture the very essence of this moment.
Yes, we are tired. And we are still rising.
Yes, we are questioned. And we are the answer.
Yes, we are bruised. And we are still beautiful.

This year’s It Girl 100 is more than a list. It is a love letter to every Black woman who dares to live out loud in a world that would rather she whisper. This year’s class is living proof of “Yes, And,” women who are finding ways to thrive and to heal, to build and to rest, to lead and to love, all at once.
It is proof that our joy is not naive, our success not accidental. It is the reminder that our light has never needed permission.
So without further ado, we celebrate the It Girl 100 Class of 2025–2026.
We celebrate the millions of us who keep doing it with grace, grit, and glory.
Because despite it all, we still shine.
Because we are still her.
Because we are still IT, girl.
Meet all 100 women shaping culture in the It Girl 100 Class of 2025. View the complete list of honorees here.
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Someone's Trying To Hook You Up? Ask These 6 Questions First
As we all know, it’s cuffing season. We’re also on the cusp of the holiday season, and that happens to be the time of year when a lot of people get engaged. And that’s why the fall and winter seasons are the times of the year when folks wanna play matchmaker.
And so, sis, if at least one person in your life is currently trying to set you up with someone they know right now — charge it to it being “tis the season” more than anything else. Because let’s be real — folks tend to be more lovey-dovey than ever right about now, and that is usually what inspires them to try to get as many people boo/bae’d up as possible. Chile…CHILE.
It’s not like it has to be a bad thing. In fact, studies say that somewhere around 15 percent of engaged couples actually met through a friend. All I’m saying is, before you entertain someone’s “I’ve got someone I want you to meet” invitation, it would benefit you to interview them first — for the sake of all parties involved.
The questions that I recommend asking? The following six are what I think can get everyone on the same page, so that there is more pleasure than regret from the hook-up attempt.
1. Why Are They So Invested?
GiphyTwo things that I recently watched over again are the series Survivor’s Remorse (the writing is so damn good) and a movie called Trapped in Temptation (both are currently on Tubi). Something that both of them made me think about is the fact that motive reveals a lot when it comes to why people say and do the things that they do.
When it comes to the movie, specifically, without giving the film away — let me just say that, if you are in a relationship, be really careful about listening to individuals who try to talk you out of maintaining it. More times than not, the motive is shady as hell. And honestly, sometimes people who are close to obsessed with you being in one deserve a bit of side-eye too.
Now, if it’s someone who loves all things love, they are in love and they want you to experience something similar — that’s sweet. Just make sure that they are approaching the set up from a healthy space. What I mean by that is they don’t see singleness as some sort of relational handicap or they aren’t trying to override what you want for your life as if they somehow know better (there are so many ways to be a control freak, y’all).
Hmph. Now that I think about it — make sure that the set-up crew isn’t trying to use you to “save” some male friend or relative of theirs. I say that because I once knew a mother whose son had — count ‘em — 10 kids and she was FOREVER trying to get me to date him. Girl, that wasn’t for me. She was looking for a Holy Ghost Jr. for that child of hers. I’ll pass. HARD PASS.
Bottom line with this one — if someone wants to set you up with someone else, the first thing to ask is why? Make sure to really listen to what their answer is. Then pay attention to if your mind, body and spirit are at peace with their answer(s).
2. Do They Know What You Want?
GiphyI don’t know about y’all, but the people (and let’s be honest, by far, it’s usually women) who have tried to set me up with someone? They didn’t even know what my preferences or type was. Hell, they didn’t even know my thoughts or timeline as it relates to being in a serious relationship were either. And what that boils down to is they were trying to hook me up based on their agenda, not mine — and that usually meant that the guys who they came up with? Yeah…I was good on them. LOL.
Yeah, if someone wants to hook you up, you definitely should ask them if they know what you are looking for in a guy when it comes to his looks, personality, passions, spirituality, relational desires and goals, location, etc. Because, indeed, what is the point in going out with someone who is fine as hell and yet, you want kids and he doesn’t (or vice versa) or who has a great personality yet he isn’t even in the same ballpark of your spiritual beliefs?
If your friend really wants to help you out, valuing your time should come with that — and that means bringing someone into your life who complements your lifestyle. No wiggle room here.
3. Are They Aware of Your Deal-Breakers?
GiphyLast year, I wrote an article for the platform entitled, “Should Bad Sex Actually Be A Relationship Deal-Breaker?” The thing that I think needs to go on record about deal-breakers is they aren’t exactly standards that you have. No, a deal-breaker is something that can’t be worked out even after trying to negotiate or compromise. When it comes to relationships, a deal-breaker might be how long two people should date before becoming exclusive or getting engaged. Another deal-breaker might be if being religious is more important than being spiritual and how that manifests itself (church or no church, etc.). And yes, another deal-breaker may be what each other’s sexual needs and expectations are.
When someone is setting you up, it is imperative that they know about your standards. For instance, for me, I am not interested in dating a divorced person, pretty much ever (I Corinthians 7:10-11). I’ve had friends who have tried to hook me up with that demographic before and it has always been a moot effort. The fact that some of them have gotten frustrated with my convictions has absolutely nothing to do with me. Some have tried to get me to compromise my deal-breakers too — like a long-distance relationship. Is it a firm “naw”? No. However, it’s not really something that I am interested in, so why not just…recommend someone local?
Yeah, if someone thinks that they know you well enough to hook you up, they absolutely should be well-versed in what your deal-breakers are before they do. And if they’ve never asked, all they are doing is assuming — and we know what that typically means. LOL.
4. What Is Their Track Record?
GiphyIt’s kind of wild that we now live in a time when more couples meet online than they do through “old-fashioned ways” like via their friends (although some reports say that Gen Z is getting back to that) — and yet, here we are. Still, if you are willing to let someone play pseudo matchmaker in your life, you are well within your rights to inquire about their track record in that department. Have they hooked others up, successfully, before? Has any of their “Cupid work” caused both people to get exactly what they wanted out of the situation? If/when things went awry, why was that?
I know someone who is constantly trying to hook people up. Thing is, maybe 10-15 percent (no joke) of their efforts have proven to be positive and fruitful — and we’re talking about close to close to two decades of them doing it. Listen, time is too precious to be out here doing stuff ONLY to please other people. That said, if someone wants you to devote some time to one of their grand ideas, you are well within your rights to ask about their past and current success score when it comes to it.
5. Can They Keep Their Own Feelings Out of It?
GiphyWanna know if someone who is offering to do something for you is actually doing it more for themselves? If they try to make it be about them when things don’t go the way they would like, that is a dead ringer. An example? They post a message about you on social media and then question you about why you didn’t do the same thing in return. Another example? They do something for you and then throw it in your face during an argument. Still another example? They set you up with someone, it doesn’t work out, and suddenly you’ve put them in a weird spot. No dear — you put your own self in that position by trying to hook two people up in the first place.
I promise you, it will spare everyone unnecessary energy spent (or even drama experienced) if, before you agree to be hooked up, you get the matchmaker on record stating that they will keep their emotions out of it as much as possible. MEANING — they will do the introductions and then let the chips fall where they may. If they can’t do this, my two cents (save it or spend it) would be to decline the offer. Because all you need is someone texting you about why you haven’t called their cousin back or having an attitude with you when you break up with some guy at their church who they thought was the perfect catch (P.S. These aren’t hypothetical examples — LOL).
6. Will They Respect Your Boundaries? Start to Finish?
GiphyYeah, this final one is a biggie. Just because someone sets you up with another person, that doesn’t automatically or necessarily mean that they should have the right to the details of the dynamic. I don’t care if it’s the first date or the 10th date. I don’t care if you decide to just be sex buddies or to have a full-blown relationship. I don’t care if you stay together or break-up — it’s your relationship which makes it your business. Whatever you share is privileged data.
Yeah, I would say that probably the most challenging thing about being hooked up by someone you know is they have a tendency to think that they are a part of the relationship too — and that is a lie. If things go well beyond a couple of dates, you and the guy should discuss what you will both share with the person who introduced you and then agree to stick to that boundary, no matter what. It’s a great way to protect the dynamic, to keep “outside voices” from influencing the growth and to navigate how you want to move, moving forward.
Someone who hooked you up for the right reasons and knows how to honor limits? They will understand. Will they ask questions? Absolutely. Will they pry? Nah.
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Should you sit and let someone hook you up? I mean, you never know how your blessing will come. Just make sure that they are prepared for you to do some digging into their mindset before they start sweetly meddling into your love life.
It’s only fair. Hell, and right. LOL.
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