
Rewriting A Legacy: Jaleel White’s Complicated Relationship With 'Family Matters'

What Jaleel White did for the culture on Family Matters is unmatched.
Jaleel’s memoir Growing Up Urkel has reignited conversations about his legacy and the impact of Family Matters on Black television. As the actor who brought the iconic character Steve Urkel to life, the Cali native became a household name, yet his journey with the series has been anything but straightforward.
Through his memoir, White attempts to grapple with the highs and lows of his Family Matters experience—and in doing so, opens the door to a broader discussion about accountability, ego, and the legacy of Black storytelling.
Reflecting on His Comments
In an interview at the Wilmington Library for the launch of his new book, Jaleel said, “Being a part of the ‘TGIF’ [ABC programming block] brand sometimes makes you feel like you don’t belong in the pantheon of Blackness.” He went on to say, “Blackness has been treated as a very monolithic experience in entertainment. 'If it’s not a hood story, it’s not a Black story.' And you know, sometimes I feel left out of that.”
Jaleel continued, “If there’s ever a poll, and they say what are your favorite Black shows? Martin is in there, Living Single… I already know we’re coming in last. But if there’s ever a poll and it’s just your favorite family shows, suddenly we rank really high. So it’s kind of interesting in how we look at ourselves even as Black folks.”
Jaleel White on feeling left out in the legacy of Black entertainment, saying, “If it’s not a hood story, it’s not a Black story,” and speaks on Family Matters always ranking last on polls for favorite Black shows, underneath Martin and Living Single.
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This assertion dismisses the show’s groundbreaking representation of a middle-class Black family and its importance in cementing diverse Black experiences on television.
White’s recent reflections on Family Matters reveal a sense of tension about the role that defined his career. In one particularly striking statement, he expressed frustration that the show’s legacy often overshadows his personal contributions to its success. However, his commentary also delves into a narrative suggesting that he was unfairly labeled as "difficult" due to his popularity, a claim that has raised eyebrows among fans and former colleagues alike.
A Counterpoint: The Importance of Diverse Black Stories
Family Matters may not align with the "gritty" narratives White referenced, but its significance cannot be understated. As part of the TGIF lineup, the show offered a joyful, heartfelt portrayal of Black family life that resonated with audiences across racial and socioeconomic lines. Its success paved the way for more nuanced representations of Black life on television, proving that Black stories are not monolithic.
White’s comments seem to reflect a narrow perspective that undervalues the cultural impact of Family Matters. By focusing on what the show wasn’t, he risks overshadowing what it was: a celebration of Black joy, love, and resilience. This delusion echoes a broader challenge in revisiting one’s past with clarity and accountability.
Parallels with Will Smith and the 'Fresh Prince' Controversy
White’s narrative invites comparisons to another iconic Black sitcom: The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. Will Smith, the show’s star, faced similar accusations of ego-driven behavior, particularly in his tumultuous relationship with Janet Hubert, the original Aunt Viv. Hubert’s departure from the series became a long-standing source of tension, with Smith’s rising stardom often cited as a factor in their feud.
However, Smith’s recent reflections demonstrate a willingness to take accountability for his actions. In interviews, he has openly acknowledged his mistakes, calling his treatment of Hubert a "young and foolish" error. This maturity and growth stand in stark contrast to White’s current stance, which appears to deflect responsibility and place blame elsewhere.
They reconciled in 2020 and even this year, Will pulled up at an event to support Janet, proving that the work can be done.
Arrested Development vs. Accountability
The difference between Smith’s and White’s approaches underscores the importance of accountability in rewriting one’s legacy. Growth requires the ability to confront uncomfortable truths, to acknowledge harm done, and to make amends where possible. Without this, attempts to reshape the narrative risk falling into the trap of arrested development—a refusal to move beyond past grievances or to recognize one’s own role in perpetuating conflict.
In late December, he showed some remorse for his initial comments saying, “I want to say, I misspoke, but I could’ve worded things better if I had known I was speaking on a world stage and not just a small room in Delaware.”
Jaleel said, “I shouldn’t have invoked the word ‘hood.’ When you say the word ‘hood,’ it makes certain people feel like you’re demeaning them. And that’s not what I meant at all. I conflated a couple of ideas. There’s a lot of good in the hood, and I shouldn’t have generalized. Those are the two mistakes I made in that.”
Moving Forward
Jaleel White’s memoir offers an opportunity to reflect on the complexities of fame, ego, and legacy. While his frustrations with Family Matters are valid to an extent, they should not overshadow the show’s cultural significance or the positive impact it had on countless viewers. As he continues to navigate this chapter of his life, White has the chance to embrace accountability and celebrate the diverse tapestry of Black stories that Family Matters represents.
In the end, legacy is not just about the stories we tell—it’s about how we choose to tell them. For Jaleel White, the next steps will determine whether his narrative is one of growth or of missed opportunities to honor a history that shaped him.
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After Decades-Long Career, Terri J. Vaughn Is Finally The Main Character: Exclusive
Terri J. Vaughn first captured our attention in the late ‘90s as Lovita Alizay Jenkins on The Steve Harvey Show. Decades later, she is starring in her very own series, She The People, which is now available to stream on Netflix.
The political sitcom, which she co-created with Niya Palmer and later teamed up with Tyler Perry Studios, is about a Black woman named Antoinette Dunkerson who runs for lieutenant governor of Mississippi. She wins and becomes the state’s first Black lieutenant governor. Now, she’s forced to balance working with a racist and sexist governor while also trying to keep her family from running amok.
According to the beloved actress, this project was a long time coming. “I’ve been trying to get my own television series for like 20 years, pounding the pavement, meeting with people, getting clothes, being lied to, just a whole bunch of stuff,” she says in an exclusive interview with xoNecole.
“But just keep going, because this is what I do. This is what I love, and I know how important it is for us to continue to show up and make sure that we are seen, make sure that our voices are heard. For several reasons. I just never give up. So here I am, 20 years later, finally sold my show.”
She The People is inspired by the true story of London Breed, who became the first Black female mayor of San Francisco, Terri’s hometown. And to help make the show more authentic, the Cherish the Day actress tapped former Atlanta mayor, Keisha Lance Bottoms to come on as a producer.'“I’ve been trying to get my own television series for like 20 years, pounding the pavement, meeting with people, getting clothes, being lied to, just a whole bunch of stuff."
After bringing the former mayor aboard, it was time to pitch again. And this time, the companies were pitching them. Ultimately, Terri decided to work with Tyler Perry on the series.
“We decided to do it with Tyler for several reasons. I love that. Well, most of the companies we met with were Black-owned companies, but he was the only studio,” she explains. “Tyler is like Walt Disney. That's literally what he is. He has the studio, he has the content. He operates just like Walt Disney.”
And thanks to the cast, the show is nothing short of laughs. The series also stars social media creator Jade Novah as Antoinette’s crazy cousin/ assistant, Shamika, Family Mattersstar Jo Marie Payton as Anotinette’s mom, Cleo, and Terri’s husband, Karon Riley, who plays Michael, her driver and love interest.
While we’ve watched Terri’s career blossom in various ways. From directing to producing, and playing diverse characters, the mom of two says her The Steve Harvey Show character will always be her favorite.
“Well, Lovita was definitely my favorite, especially for my time, the age and everything that I was. Now as a grown ass woman over 50, Antoinette Dunkerson is everything that I've wanted to play. She's everything. She's a mother of two teenagers. She's divorced, so she's co-parenting with her ex-husband. She has to wrangle in a very eclectic family,” she says.
“So I like playing characters that are really flawed and trying to figure it out and doing their best to try to figure it. And she's very flawed and she is trying to figure it out, and she fucks up sometimes. But her heart and what she's trying to do and what her vision is and purpose, it's all for the people. I mean, she the people. She’s for the people, she is the people.”
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5 Celebrity Couples Who Revealed They Sleep In Separate Bedrooms
Couples sleeping in separate rooms may signal that something is wrong to some, but research shows that’s not always the case. The American Academy of Sleep Medicine study revealed that over a third of Americans practice what is known as “sleep divorce.”
We all have different sleep schedules and styles that can potentially disrupt another person’s sleep. So sleeping in separate rooms can be a solution.
“Although the term ‘sleep divorce’ seems harsh, it really just means that people are prioritizing sleep and moving into a separate room at night when needed,” Dr. Seema Khosla said in the study.
This can not only lead to better sleep, but better relationships. Some celebrities have even acknowledged that they prefer a sleep divorce within their relationships. Check out which ones below.
Raven-Symoné
Raven-Symoné and wife Miranda Pearman-Maday sparked a lot of conversation on social media after sharing that they sleep in separate rooms. The couple made the revelation during a solo episode of their podcast Tea Time w/ Raven & Miranda.
"We really function in better in separate spaces, especially when it comes to sleep," she Miranda said. "And I was like, 'We should have separate bedrooms.' And then we can decorate our bedrooms as we want, number one, which is great because you had a different vibe, so we both wanted to have different style of bedrooms.
“Now, we get to have that. And we aren't fucking up each other's sleep schedules. Primarily, you're not fucking mine up, which is getting up at 2 a.m., 4 a.m.”
She added, “Raven, babes, you love to sleep in the reverse orientation."
Ms. Pat
During xoNecole’s recent interview with Ms. Pat, the comedian revealed that her form of self-care involves sleeping in a separate bedroom than her husband.
“Me and my husband don’t sleep in the same room,” she said exclusively. “That way, when I don’t feel like being bothered, I go to my space.”
John Legend & Chrissy Teigen
Chrissy Teigen has shared in the past that sometimes she and John Legend sleep separately. She cited their busy schedules, traveling, and her preferring to stay up late as reasons.
Larenz Tate
Back in September 2019, Larenz Tate stopped by The Breakfast Club and opened up about his marriage with Tomasina Parrott. The Power star gushed over his wife and even joked about how they have to sleep in separate bedrooms, so he won’t be tempted to impregnate her.
"There's a lot of stress in the world. I go home, I gotta stay away from my wife. I can't look at her too long,” he said. “The loins are tender, she's very fertile, and I just try to stay away from her man.
He added, “I sleep in a different room. When it's time for me to get a little somethin-somethin, she turns up pregnant, all the time."
Will Smith & Jada Pinkett-Smith
While they’ve been separated since 2016, Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith would sometimes sleep in separate rooms due to their busy schedules and practicing independence.
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