If you are looking for love, are trying to put that spark back into your relationship, would like to reconnect with your ex or an old friend, or are contemplating switching up your look with one of your favorite old styles, then the new moon on October 6 is for you! Taking place in Libra - the astrological sign that rules relationships, beauty, justice and harmony - this month's new moon will highlight all of our romantic and platonic relationships.
The New Moon in Libra is urging us to correct any imbalances and to right any wrongs that have been causing a rift between ourselves, our friends, our significant others, and the way we view ourselves physically. It's time for a new beginning with the people you value the most, but who you may have been drifting away from.
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In astrology, the New Moon is a period of fresh beginnings. A New Moon in Libra cycle is typically an excellent time to embark on a fresh, new relationship. However, because this New Moon is taking place during a Mercury Retrograde period, your best bet is to use this time to reflect on a relationship that went awry that has the strong potential to be salvaged.
Whoever you meet for the first time during a Mercury Retrograde is unlikely to remain in your life for the long haul. Therefore, this isn't an ideal time to refresh that online dating profile (if you're looking for something serious, that is!). Unfortunately, because this new moon is hitting Mars at a tight angle and is quincunx-ing Uranus, many of you won't heed this advice! But don't say Jayde didn't warn you!
Many of us are likely to find ourselves giving old relationships a second chance in the three days preceding and following this New Moon. There is also an increased chance that you will take this time to address relationship imbalances and right any wrongs that have interfered with your ability to interact harmoniously with others, both romantically and platonically.
Single? Now is the ultimate time to get your work/life balance in order. Figure out how to adjust your schedule in order to incorporate mindful activities on a regular basis, like morning yoga or a ritual moon bath regimen. This is also a great time to refresh your look if you've been falling behind on your hair or nail appointments.
Here’s how your sign can make the best use of October’s New Moon in Libra:
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- Aries: Revisit what went wrong in your relationships and make amends.
- Taurus: Spice up your sex life with your significant other.
- Gemini: Take a moment to reconnect with your spirituality in a group setting. Visit your old church or join a spirituality-focused book club.
- Cancer: This is the perfect period for interviews or to shoot for that promotion.
- Leo: Reconnect with an old friend.
- Virgo: Reconnect with your spirituality in solitude. Meditate or take a ritual moon bath.
- Libra: Revisit one of your favorite old hairstyles or beauty routines.
- Scorpio: Give your credit card statements and budget a once over.
- Sagittarius: Pay a compliment or perform a kind act to your neighbor or roommate.
- Capricorn: Rearrange your furniture or add a new decor piece to your apartment.
- Aquarius: Pick up an old hobby that you haven't had time for lately.
- Pisces: Revisit an old workout or diet regimen.
Bonus for all signs: Take a moon ritual bath. It is wise to take a spiritual bath during this time because your mind and body's ability to release and detoxify itself is at its peak.
A New Moon is an ideal time for setting new intentions and goals. Use the rejuvenating energy of this moon phase to embark on a fresh start in your life.
With this moon phase taking place during a retrograde, the primary theme of the New Moon in Libra is that of revisiting old people and lifestyle choices that made us feel good about ourselves, and embarking on a new phase of life with these in mind.
For more about zodiac signs, horoscopes, and astrology, check out xoNecole's Horoscopes section here.
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My problem is I will oftentimes go “overboard” with my daytime zzz’s. What I mean by that is, in order to get the most out of a nap, they say thatyou shouldn’t sleep for longer than 25 minutes or so; otherwise, you could wake up feeling sluggish (I don’t but…). Also, it can make resting, soundly, at night a bit of a struggle.
So, what are you saying, Shellie? We should get quickies in? Yeah. And it’s funny that the word “quickie” would come up because just like a sex quickie can do wonders for you (and it can — check out “12 Super Solid Reasons To Have A Quickie Every Single Day”), it’s a full-circle moment when I say that something that can improve the quality of your sex life is to have a power nap (a nap that lasts between 10-30 minutes).
Wanna know how the two things correlate? Honestly, it’s no secret that sleep and sex work together to optimize both (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”). Today, though, we’re going to tap into how a nap, specifically, can have you partaking in some of the best sex that you’ve experienced in a minute. I’ll explain.
Naps Reduce Stress
GiphyIf you’re feeling super stressed out right now, you are not alone. There is plenty of data out here that says that most of us are stressed for at least a couple of reasons at a time — and that can impact your sexual health on a few levels. For one thing, it can bring about feelings of depression and/or anxiety. Stress can also throw your hormone levels off (including your cycle) which can weaken your libido. Stress can make you want to put distance between you and your partner (yes, literally).
Stress can also make it challenging to get aroused or to have an orgasm. And just what can help to decrease stress? Taking a nap. Since sleep has a way of helping you to “get off of the clock” and relax a bit, that can lower your stress levels and “reset” your body so that you are calmer — and that, in turn, can do wonders for your sex drive and ultimately your sex life.
Naps Improve Your Mood
GiphyThere is one person in my life, and fairly 80 percent of the time, she’s in a super good mood. Oh, but let that girl go without sleep, and…who is this woman? LOL. There’s research behind why this happens. When a person is sleep-deprived, it messes with their brain chemicals, and that can amplify emotions like anger, restlessness and sadness. In fact, one study revealed that people who had their sleep disrupted throughout the night, they ended up having their positive outlook on life reduced by about 30 percent.
And geeze, who wants to have sex when they’re not feeling very good? Anyway, since serotonin is a neurotransmitter that helps to regulate your moods, your sleep patterns, and your libido and sleep is what helps to keep it in balance — by taking a nap, not only can it help you to feel better, it can also increase your desire for sex (it can also build up your endurance which is also…sexually beneficial).
Naps Increase Your Focus and Concentration
GiphySomething that some of my clients bring up is how, when it comes to having sex, sometimes the flesh is willing while the spirit is weak because, although the desire for intimacy is there, so much is going on that they aren’t able to get still enough to focus on experiencing copulation with their partner. This also tracks because, when you don’t have enough rest, your brain finds itself not working in harmony and that can make it hard to do everything from approaching life with a sense of flexibility to making necessary decisions.
Certain data also reveal that a lack of rest can cause you to have a really poor attention span and not process things in context (the more you know). So, if you really want to get some yet it’s hard for you to focus long enough to make it happen, ask your bae to lie down with you and take a nap. Between the sleep and the snuggling (check out “Fall's Coming: 8 Wonderful Health Benefits Of Cuddling”) — you may wake up with your mind and body totally on the same page. #wink
Naps Can Make You Feel Better About Your Body
GiphyEven if, overall, you feel really good about your body, I think that we all have moments when we feel less attractive than others — and who wants to have sex when they don’t really feel…very sexy? Well, something else that sleep, in general, can do is increase your confidence in your body.
For one thing, if you want to lose a few pounds, sleep can actually make that happen by helping your body metabolize the glucose (sugar) that’s in it so that you can better manage your appetite. Other studies go on to share that since sleep deprivation can impact one’s mental health and emotional stability in a negative way, of course, getting enough rest would increase body positivity.
Shoot, science even goes so far as to say that insomnia can cause people to have an elevated level of dissatisfaction when it comes to their body image. Don’t take their word for it, though. Look in the mirror before a nap. Then look in a mirror after waking up from me. Do you feel better? I’d be surprised if you don’t.
Makes Your Brain Bigger…Which Could Make Your Orgasms Better
GiphyI saved the best for last by design. Now if you’re wondering how in the world a nap can improve (and possibly increase) your orgasms — oh, there is a method to the madness…trust. For starters, the saying that your biggest sex organ is your brain? That isn’t a myth. Long story less long, the brain is what houses your central nervous system and that is what controls how men and women sexually function (yes, literally).
And since the brain also releases feel-good chemicals like dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin during sex and brain activity significantly increases in women during sexual activity (especially right before she orgasms) — well, would it trip you out to know that when you take a nap, your brain actually expands? A bigger brain (that’s healthy) can potentially intensify your sexual experiences (and your climaxes) — and who doesn’t want that to go down?
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Like I said earlier, I never have to be convinced to get a nap in. However, if your sex life has been a bit stagnant lately, you’ve been feeling a little sluggish and you’re not sure what to do — I’m hoping that a nap can get you right.
There’s enough science to prove that it can. All you need to do is give it a shot.
Now where’s your pillow and sleep mask, chile?
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