If there was a way you could express yourself in the most aligned, harmonious, and beautiful-to-you way, would you do it? If you knew what colors look best on you, what fashion styles express your personality the best, and what hair or beauty tricks enhance your aura, would you trust Astrology more? This is what Astrologers have been teaching clients and students for years, and it’s easier than you think to dress like and align with your Venus Sign.
What Does Your Venus Sign Mean?
Your Venus Sign represents what sign the planet Venus was in when you were born. It signifies how you express yourself in love, how you receive love, what you are attracted to, and what people are drawn to in you. It also represents beauty, what styles look the best on you, and how you can attract admiration, success, and love.
Dressing like your Venus Sign has been trending on TikTok and social media as of late, but this is not a new phenomenon. Venus is the planet of love, beauty, creativity, art, and finances, and has been influencing the world of fashion forever.
Your Venus Sign is your personal aesthetic and learning more about it can help you discover aspects of yourself you weren't sure of or what to know better and enhance in your life.
Certain trends become more popular during certain Venus transits, and certain celebrities also make fashion trends more popular, in which these fashion trends match their Venus signs well. Rihanna is a great example of this, as when you think of her and her style you think reds, sexy, edgy, tomboy-ish sometimes, and not afraid to take risks. Her Venus in Aries explains her fashion taste and femme fatale energy well and also aligns with her lingerie line Savage x Fenty.
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Every Venus sign is different in what they look best in, and what type of colors, accessories, and beauty tricks reflect their natural energy and aura.
Fire Venus signs tend to look best in bold colors and often feel beautiful in reds or yellows. Air Venus signs love a flowy look and look their best in blues or lavenders. Water Venus signs have a dynamic style and are more drawn to wearing darker colors like black and gray. Earth Venus signs have a taste for the luxurious and are drawn to earthy tones, faux fur, and jewel-town jewelry.
Connecting with your Venus sign is like having your own personal stylists, and it’s all about working with what the stars have given you.
Read for your Venus sign below for a more in-depth view of dressing like your Venus sign.
VENUS IN ARIES
AriesWith a Venus in Aries, everything that makes you unique and different is what you are going to want to highlight. Venus in Aries should take risks with their style and should not try to pay attention too much to trends. You ARE the trendsetter. Let people get inspired by you and the style you come up with or uniquely wear. Venus in Aries looks best in deep reds, yellows, oranges, and also just a simple all-white or a monochromatic look.
Whatever you feel the most sexy, confident, and dominant in is what you should wear. Aries Ven
VENUS IN TAURUS
TaurusVenus in Taurus has an expensive taste, and rightly so. You are more of the type of person to spend extra on fashion and luxury items because you believe it’s a good investment. With a Venus in Taurus, you would look well in earthy tones, but accessories are going to be the highlight of any look. Gold jewelry, statement pieces, and bright accessories are favored. Your style borders comfy with fashion, and you have a way of executing the perfect balance here. You are also aligned with fabrics and material, and a good chiffon top in a soft pastel or earthy tone would be perfect for you.
VENUS IN IN GEMINI
GeminiWith your Venus in Gemini, you are the type of person to have a shock factor with your style as you typically wear things people may not expect or that don’t necessarily align with your personality in any one way. Venus in Gemini can rock any color and typically has a more maximalist aesthetic. There is nothing as “too much” for a Venus in Gemini, and you should focus on maximizing your look with an extra coat, color, texture, or style within another.
Your look should highlight your fun, outgoing, and light-hearted nature and have a balance of form-fitting and more lax, flowing clothes. The colors that look best on you are the colors you would see in the sky like blues, whites, yellows, as well as stripes, polka dots, and fun patterns.
VENUS IN CANCER
CancerVenus in Cancer has a nostalgic fashion taste. If you have a certain era or time period you are more drawn to fashion-wise, you should highlight that. Venus in Cancer looks best in deep colored tones like black and dark blue, but also draws a lot of attention to them in light pinks, off-whites, and light blues as well. Fashion styles that enhance their aura are soft materials like silk and velvet, and they look the best in vintage styles and silhouettes. Dresses, blouses, pearls, and romantic looks that align with their romantic heart work well for Venus in Cancers.
VENUS IN LEO
LeoVenus in Leo needs to shine in love and their fashion. They want all eyes on them and prefer to be adored and recognized wherever they go. This is why their fashion sense needs to stand out, and they often look best in bright and bold colors, a lot of jewelry, gold, and big or eye-catching hair. Venus in Leos often look beautiful in yellow and also turn heads in reds, black, and gold.
They have a more sexy style and aren’t afraid to show skin if they feel like it. Venus in Leos shine when they are embracing their maximalist and loving character, and making a bold statement with their fashion. Hair is everything for a Venus in Leo, and they are often known for their hair or stand out in some way with this and should highlight it.
VENUS IN VIRGO
VirgoVenus in Virgo is all about a classy, put-together, and not-too-flashy style. They look best in both business and casual styles, and overall, they align with authenticity in fashion. Whatever they are feeling that day is what they are going to wear, and they often take on many different looks in fashion. Venus in Virgos looks best in whites, off-whites, coral, green, and earth tones. They know how to make a pair of jeans look like a luxury item and often have a coastal aesthetic.
Venus in Virgos have a more minimalist style and would look good in a basic tee, blazer, and sneakers. Whatever Venus in Virgo is wearing, their confidence will be the most important thing they have to make them shine, as they can get overly fixated on the details.
VENUS IN LIBRA
LibraVenus in Libra is all about the aesthetic. These are the people with a cohesive Instagram feed and that have a Pinterest everyone gets inspiration from. Venus in Libra is good at defining their aesthetic, highlighting it, and being known for it. They look best in soft colors like pastel pink, blue, and purple, as well as diamonds, faux fur, and silver.
Venus in Libra is another sign with a luxurious taste, and they often feel their best when expressing their romantic, loving, soft, and abundant nature. Venus in Libra is one of the best signs to have Venus in as Venus is the ruler of Libra, so overall, this is a Venus sign that is most likely already dressed like their romantic, feminine, and timeless Venus sign.
VENUS IN SCORPIO
ScorpioVenus in Scorpio is another Venus sign who is not afraid to take risks in fashion. They have a sexy fashion taste that pushes the boundaries and wants to make people feel something- whether good or bad. Venus in Scorpios should look more into edgy pieces and styles, as they look best in black, leather, gray, burgundy, brown, and, of course, a dark lip color.
They have a style that draws people in and would benefit from having the perfect black dress in their closet. For events, dates, or experiences they want to focus on drawing more attention or receiving love, they should be wearing a deep red.
VENUS IN SAGITTARIUS
SagittariusWith a Venus in Sagittarius, your fashion sense is inspired by the many different places you have traveled or the people you have met. You have a quirky fashion taste that gets people talking, and you love a good conversation. You are the one to have the pieces that no one else has, and you love a one-of-a-kind, special edition item. You are someone who could rock both sexy and sporty styles and look best when there is a mixture of both.
Venus in Sagittarius is also drawn to bold colors and more neutral tones, so a balance is what you are trying to reach here. Overall, your fashion should be highlighting your eclectic taste.
VENUS IN CAPRICORN
CapricornVenus in Capricorn is the perfect representation of femme fatale in fashion. Venus in Capricorns often have the best items that they have invested in and took time to research and receive. The perfect example of a Venus in Capricorn’s style is what you would wear to a gala. Meaning, that either a business suit or a long, classy dress highlights this Venus sign's aura well. The colors you should wear with a Venus in Capricorn are blacks, purples, whites, and anything that is well-tailored and sleek. You are often drawn to the more high-end pieces, and your style should match your classy aesthetic.
VENUS IN AQUARIUS
AquariusVenus in Aquarius is another Venus sign of a trendsetter. You don’t care what people think about what you are wearing, and this opens up many doors that are possible for you in the fashion world. You are someone who looks best in outfits with different patterns, textures, and colors. Fashion looks that make someone think, “Wow, I would never think to put those two things together; that looks so good,” are what you should be aiming for.
Your style should highlight your unique and unconventional character. This is a Venus sign that looks good in eclectic pieces, layers, metallics, crystal jewelry, mismatched patterns, and florals.
VENUS IN PISCES
PiscesA Venus in Pisces signifies an intuitive approach to fashion. You can often have premonitions on what styles are going to become trendy, keeping you ahead in the fashion world. Overall, you are going for styles that allow you to move around, dance, and be free. You don’t want to wear something too constrictive, and you would rather wear a dress than yoga pants.
You look beautiful in colors that resemble the ocean, like blues, teals, whites, and greens, and also in colors that represent your more mystical side, like indigo, silver, and black. Your style should reflect your romantic, dreamy, and ethereal heart. What are some of the styles you dream about or daydream of wearing? Venus in Pisces should dress the way they feel that day.
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Let me start this off by saying that of course, to a certain extent, the answer is subjective because it’s mostly opinion-rather-than-fact driven. However, I personally think that sex is hella impactful, which is why I hope that my personal breakdown will at least cause you to want to think about what you do, who you do it with, and why, more than you may have in the past.
Because although, at the end of the day, the physical aspects of making love, having sex, and f-cking are very similar, you’d be amazed by how drastically different they are in other ways…at the very same time.
Making Love
GiphyBack when I wrote my first book, I wasn’t even 30 at the time and still, one of the things that I said in it is, I pretty much can’t stand the term “make love.” Way back then, I stated that sex between two people who truly love each other and are committed for the long haul, when it comes to what they do in the bedroom, it’s so much more about CELEBRATING love than MAKING it. To make means “to produce” or “to bring into existence;” to celebrate means “to commemorate,” “to perform” or “to have or participate in a party, drinking spree, or uninhibited good time.”
The act of sex, standing alone? It can’t make love happen and honestly, believing otherwise is how a lot of people find themselves getting…got.
What do I mean? Tell me how in the world, you meet a guy, talk to him for a few weeks, don’t even know his middle name or where he was born and yet somehow, you choose to call the first time you have sex with him (under those conditions) “making love.” You don’t love him. You don’t know him well enough to love him. He doesn’t love you either (for the same reason). And yet you’re making love? How sway? Oh, but let that sex be bomb and those oxytocin highs might have you tempted to think that’s what’s happening — and that is emotionally dangerous. And yes, I mean, literally.
If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times before, that one of the reasons why I like that the Bible defines sex between a husband and his wife is by using the word “know” (Genesis 4:1) is because, well, I think that is what celebrating love is all about — we know each other well enough to know that we love each other, we know each other well enough to know that we aren’t going anywhere, and that knowing is what makes us want to celebrate that union by getting as close to one another and bringing as much physical pleasure to each other as we possibly can…as often as absolutely possible.
To me, that is what the peak of physical intimacy is all about — and the people who choose to use the term “make love,” it should be seen through this type of lens. When this type of mental and emotional bond comes together via each other’s bodies, they are amplifying love, enjoying love, embracing love.
Making it, though? Chile, the love has already been made. Sex is just the icing on the cake.
Having Sex
GiphyA few nights ago, I found myself rewatching this movie called Four of Hearts (which you can currently view on yep, you guessed it: Tubi). It’s about two married couples — one that is in an open marriage and another that isn’t although they somehow thought that sharing a night with the other couple would be a good idea (chile). Anyway, as one of the partners found themselves getting low-key sprung, the one they fell for said in one of the scenes, “It wasn’t a connection. It was just sex.” JUST. SEX.
Listen, when you decide to let a man put an entire part of his body inside of you at the risk of potentially getting an STI/STD or pregnant (because no form of birth control is 100 percent except for abstinence), it can never be “just sex” (somebody really needed to hear that too). At the same time, though, I got the character’s point because, if one or both people do not love each other or even deeply care for one another and/or sex is treated as an activity more than an act to establish a worthwhile connection and/or you and the person you are sleeping with have not really discussed what you are expecting from sex besides the act itself — you’re definitely not making/celebrating love.
Not by a long shot. What can make things get a bit complicated, though, is you’re doing the same act that “love makers” do without the same mental and emotional ties…or (sometimes) expectations.
You know, back when I decided to put all of my business out there via the piece “14 Lessons I've Learned From 14 Sex Partners,” now more than ever, I am quite clear that most of those guys fell into the “having sex” category. I wasn’t in the type of relationship with them where “making love” even made sense; however, because I was friends with most of them, we weren’t exactly f-cking (which I will get to in just a moment) either. We had a connection of some sort for the bedroom yet not enough to be together in the other rooms of the house.
We were really attracted and curious, so we decided to act on that. Oftentimes, the sex was good and so we rationalized that “having sex” was enough because if the friendship was, eh, “sound enough”, that we could justify the physical pleasure.
And y’all, that’s kind of what having sex is — it’s the limbo (or purgatory, depending on your situation) between making love and f-cking. The thing about limbo ish is it’s a lot like something being lukewarm: it’s not really one thing or another which means that it can completely blindside you, if you’re not careful (and totally honest with yourself as well as your partner(s)).
So, if you are contemplating having sex, I really — REALLY — recommend that you figure out how you feel, what you want (outside of the act itself) and if you are prepared for what “not quites” can bring. My mother used to say that the consequences of sex don’t change just because the circumstances do — and there is some solid “wow” to that, if you really stop to think about it.
GiphyAnd finally, f-ck. Although most experts on the word (and yes, there are some) agree that its origin is rooted somewhere within the German language (although some say that it might’ve come from Middle English words like fyke or fike which mean “to move about restlessly” or the Norwegian word fukka which means “to copulate”), you might have also heard that it is an acronym that once stood for “Fornication Under Consent of the King”; and there is actually some data that is connected to that as well.
Legend has it that way back in the day, in order to keep reproduction rates where a particular king wanted them to be, he would instruct his residents to have sex with each other — whether they were married or not (hence, the word “fornication” being in the acronym). However, because sex outside of marriage was taken far more seriously at the time, residents had to apply for a permit to participate so that the king could determine if things like their occupation and lineage would prove to be beneficial for the kingdom overall. F-ck: no love; just necessity. And although some believe this to be more myth than fact, what is certain is it was only over time that f-ck was seen as a profane/swear/cuss word — a word that was perceived to be so offensive, in fact, that between the years 1795-1965, it didn’t even appear in dictionaries.
Personally, when I think of this four-letter word, the first thing that actually comes to my mind is animals. Take a dog being in heat, for instance. That’s basically when a female dog is ovulating and wants to have sex the most. It’s not because they are “in love” with another dog; they are simply doing what instinctively comes to them — and since animals do not reason or feel at the same capacity that humans do, although they science says that many of them do experience pleasure when they engage in their version of sexual activity, it’s not nearly as layered or even profound as what we experience.
Let’s keep going. Another reason why f-cking makes me think of animals is due to the doggy style position. Hear me out. Ain’t it wild how, most of us pretty much know that the term comes from how dogs have sex, even though most animals have sex that same way — and think about it: Doggy style doesn’t consist of making eye contact or kissing while having intercourse. It’s “hitting from behind” without much emotional energy or effort at all. Just how animals do it. And so, yeah, f-cking does seem to be more about pure animal — or in our case, mammal — instinct. I don’t need to feel anything for someone, so long as the sexual desire is there. Hmph.
Something else that I find to be interesting about f-cking is how dictionaries choose to define it. Many of them are going to provide you with two definitions: “to have sexual intercourse with” and “to treat unfairly or harshly (usually followed by over)” and that definitely makes me think of another term — casual sex and words that define casual like apathetic, careless and without serious or definite intention. So, the dictionary says that while f-cking is about having sexual intercourse — just like making love and having sex is — it goes a step further and says that it can include being treated unfairly or harshly.
And although that can make you think of assault on the surface, for sure — sometimes being treated unfairly or harshly is simply feeling like someone had sex AT you and not really WITH you; instinct (i.e., getting off) and that’s about it. Yeah, the way this puzzle is coming together, f-cking seems to be more about lust and self and not much else.
Now That You Know the Difference, What to Keep in Mind
Y’all, this is definitely the kind of topic that I could expound on until each and every cow comes home. That said, here’s hoping that I provided enough perspective on each act to close this out by encouraging you to keep the following three things to keep in mind:
1. Before you engage in copulation, be honest with yourself about what you’re ACTUALLY doing — and that your partner agrees with you. You know, they say that our brain is our biggest sex organ and honestly, breaking down the differences between making love, having sex and f-cking helps to prove that fact. I say that because, although the sex act itself is pretty much the same across the board, you and your partner’s mindset can make the experience completely different. That said, if you think that you are making love and they think y’all are just having sex — stuff can get pretty dicey. Bottom line: communicate in the bedroom before attempting to connect outside of it. It’s always worth it when you do.
2. Yes, you can feel one way and do something else. I can just about guess what some of y’all are on: Shellie, we can love our partner and still just want to f-ck. If what you are saying is you can emotionally love someone and physically lust them and want to act sometimes on the lust without really factoring in the love — yes, I agree. Doggy style continues to be a favorite sex position for people, in general, and I’m more than confident that many of the participants polled are in a serious relationship. However, having lust-filled sex with someone who you know loves you is vastly different than doing it with someone who you have no clue what they think about you or you barely know at all. Y’all, please just make sure that you know…what you should know. Sex is too amazing to have a lot of regret after it.
3. Have realistic expectations about sex. Listen, so much of my life consists of writing and talking about sex that I will be the first one to say that it deserves a ton of props for what it is able to do, in a wonderful way, for people mentally, emotionally and physically. Yet again, I’m not a fan of “make love” because something that feels really good doesn’t always mean that it is good for you. Meaning, you’ve got to be real about what sex with someone will do to your mind and spirit — not just what it will do for your body. An author by the name of Gabriel García Márquez once said, “Sex is the consolation you have when you can't have love.” For no one, should this be a constant norm. Feel me? I hope you do.
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One act. Three very different experiences.
It’s kind of wild that sex has the ability to create that — and yet, clearly, it does.
Please just make sure that you know which experience you’re signing up for.
So that you’re having sex (you know, in general) instead of sex having you. Real talk.
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