These Couples Are On A Never Ending Baecation

Wanderlust Love


Imagine waking up next to your bae on the other side of the world. Your only obligation for the day is to explore new experiences and create memories with your life partner, and no matter how far you are from home, you can always find it in the arms of one you love.

There are some couples that say that love should always feel like an adventure, and have chosen to make their lives a never ending baecation.

It has always been a dream of mine to travel the world solo, but I realize that I've spent so much time on my own. I would rather embark on that journey with a life partner.

The following couples have made that dream come true. Their only mission is to travel the world together on an explorative journey of love and fun!

Their stories are so inspirational and colorful, they allow us all to live vicariously through their experiences. Learn more about them below.

Jasmine & Clayton

@jasmariaa & @clay.buchanan

How They Met

"We met in Chicago, IL, where we currently live. We had mutual friend that introduced us. After about 1-2 months of getting to know each other, we began dating."

How The Wanderlust Begun

"We both grew up going on vacations with our family, so we both already had a passion for traveling. We started off traveling throughout the country. Our goal was to take at least one 'baecation' each year. We decided to take our first international trip to Cancun, Mexico for Clayton's graduation. We fell in love with everything that came with traveling overseas. You learn about different cultures, you appreciate being in different environments, tasting the different types of food each country has to offer, and you can't forget about some of the beautiful beaches."

Their Favorite World Destination

"We always have a hard time answering this question because we truly love each place for different reasons. Cartagena had some of the freshest food and fruit we ever tasted. Zanzibar had such a beautiful culture that we fell in love with. Dubai was simply amazing because of its luxurious lifestyle. Punta Cana had some of the best jerk chicken we ever had! Cancun had such a fun nightlife. We're grateful that we've been able to travel to all of these amazing places."

How They Manage and Budget For Traveling

"We try to make it a goal to travel to a different country at least 3-4 times a year. After our trip to Cancun, we began to get a lot of reposts from popular Instagram pages such as The Shaderoom, BlackLovePage, and many other popular travel pages. We got featured on Essence Magazine and began to grow our following. With so much positive feedback, we decided to start our very own travel blog. Now that we have a travel blog, we want to travel as much as we can and give reviews on each place we visit. We've learned that budgeting is very important when it comes to traveling. You have to sacrifice certain things if you want to travel often. I personally try not to shop as much or go out to eat as often when I have a trip coming up. Every penny counts! Planning in advance also helps when budgeting for trips."

How Traveling Has Strengthened Their Bond

"Traveling has strengthened our bond in various ways. It also is just a great time to get away, clear your head, and have a great time together. We've learned that some of the best times and memories you will ever have with your significant other is while traveling on vacation."

Advice For Couples Who Want To Travel Together

"Our advice is to make sure you find time to travel. Set goals of places you want to visit. This world is so big and unique in so many ways, you should want to see what all is out there. Come up with a plan and see it through. For those who are looking for recommendations or need help on where to visit, subscribe to our website at livetotravelphotos.com."

Tiara & Vimbisai

@tiara_africanah & @kafeleaura

How They Met

Vimbisai is Zimbabwean and African-American, and Tiara is Puerto-Rican and African-American. While they were both born in America, they met on the complete opposite side of the world in Dubai while completing undergrad.

After meeting, they remained best friends and became official last year when she went to visit him for a week in Zimbabwe. That quickly turned into being together 7 months and counting, as well as a beautiful marriage for the Kafeles.

How The Wanderlust Begun

"Before getting together, we had both been expats [which is a person temporarily or permanently residing in a country other than their native country] for some time. We knew there were lots more opportunities to make the money we want throughout Africa so we decided to take the risk and start our own venture!"

Their Favorite World Destination

"Our favorite place is our home in Zimbabwe. Lots of nature and good weather. Vimbisai is half Zimbabwean and it means a lot to us to see sites such as Great Zimbabwe, where kingdoms once existed and step on the same grounds as his ancestors."

How They Manage and Budget For Traveling

"We are based very close to South Africa, which is a major hub. It's cheap to get basically anywhere from there. Very cheap! We lucked up I guess.

How Traveling Has Strengthened Their Bond

"When you travel, you sometimes see different sides of a person. We have gone to very uncomfortable places and that has strengthened us because we got to see each other's vulnerable sides, it's beautiful. We've agreed that we learned a great deal of humility and, again, vulnerability to each other and people around us."

Advice For Couples Who Want To Travel Together

"Pick up a skill that allows you to travel! Be open to exploring new places, and remember to focus on one another. There's honestly nothing more beautiful than exploring with the person you love, so take that time and be present! Take small/short trips together to get to know each other's travel styles and habits. That's important. Be patient because your partner also may not know their travel personality."

What do you think about traveling with bae? What's on your bucket list? Share with us in the comments down below.

You may not know her by Elisabeth Ovesen – writer and host of the love, sex and relationships advice podcast Asking for a Friend. But you definitely know her other alter ego, Karrine Steffans, the New York Times best-selling author who lit up the literary and entertainment world when she released what she called a “tell some” memoir, Confessions of a Video Vixen.

Her 2005 barn-burning book gave an inside look at the seemingly glamorous world of being a video vixen in the ‘90s and early 2000s, and exposed the industry’s culture of abuse, intimidation, and misogyny years before the Me Too Movement hit the mainstream. Her follow-up books, The Vixen Diaries (2007) and The Vixen Manual: How To Find, Seduce And Keep The Man You Want (2009) all topped the New York Times best-seller list. After a long social media break, she's back. xoNecole caught up with Ovesen about the impact of her groundbreaking book, what life is like for her now, and why she was never “before her time”– everyone else was just late to the revolution.

xoNecole: Tell me about your new podcast Asking for a Friend with Elisabeth Ovesen and how that came about.

Elisabeth Ovesen: I have a friend who is over [at Blavity] and he just asked me if I wanted to do something with him. And that's just kinda how it happened. It wasn't like some big master plan. Somebody over there was like, “Hey, we need content. We want to do this podcast. Can you do it?” And I was like, “Sure.” And that's that. That was around the holidays and so we started working on it.

xoNecole: Your life and work seem incredibly different from when you first broke out on the scene. Can you talk a bit about the change in your career and how your life is now?

EO: Not that different. I mean my life is very different, of course, but my work isn't really that different. My life is different, of course, because I'm 43. My career started when I was in my 20s, so we're looking at almost 20 years since the beginning of my career. So, naturally life has changed a lot since then.

I don’t think my career has changed a whole lot – not as far as my writing is concerned, and my stream of consciousness with my writing, and my concerns and the subject matter hasn’t changed much. I've always written about interpersonal relationships, sexual shame, male ego fragility, respectability politics – things like that. I always put myself in the center of that to make those points, which I think were greatly missed when I first started writing. I think that society has changed quite a bit. People are more aware. People tell me a lot that I have always been “before my time.” I was writing about things before other people were talking about that; I was concerned about things before my generation seemed to be concerned about things. I wasn't “before my time.” I think it just seems that way to people who are late to the revolution, you know what I mean?

I retired from publishing in 2015, which was always the plan to do 10 years and retire. I was retired from my pen name and just from the business in general in 2015, I could focus on my business, my education and other things, my family. I came back to writing in 2020 over at Medium. The same friend that got me into the podcast, actually as the vice president of content over at Medium and was like, “Hey, we need some content.” I guess I’m his go-to content creator.

xoNecole: Can you expound on why you went back to your birth name versus your stage name?

EO: No, it was nothing to expound upon. I mean, writers have pen names. That’s like asking Diddy, why did he go by Sean? I didn't go back. I've always used that. Nobody was paying attention. I've never not been myself. Karrine Steffans wrote a certain kind of book for a certain kind of audience. She was invented for the urban audience, particularly. She was never meant to live more than 10 years. I have other pen names as well. I write under several names. So, the other ones are just nobody's business right now. Different pen names write different things. And Elisabeth isn’t my real name either. So you'll never know who I really am and you’ll never know what my real name is, because part of being a writer is, for me at least, keeping some sort of anonymity. Anything I do in entertainment is going to amass quite a bit because who I am as a person in my private life isn't the same a lot of times as who I am publicly.

xoNecole: I want to go back to when you published Confessions of a Video Vixen. We are now in this time where people are reevaluating how the media mistreated women in the spotlight in the 2000s, namely women like Britney Spears. So I’d be interested to hear how you feel about that period of your life and how you were treated by the media?

EO: What I said earlier. I think that much of society has evolved quite a bit. When you look back at that time, it was actually shocking how old-fashioned the thinking still was. How women were still treated and how they're still treated now. I mean, it hasn't changed completely. I think that especially for the audience, I think it was shocking for them to see a woman – a woman of color – not be sexually ashamed.

I hate being like other people. I don't want to do what anyone else is doing. I can't conform. I will not conform. I think in 2005 when Confessions was published, that attitude, especially about sex, was very upsetting. Number one, it was upsetting to the men, especially within urban and hip-hop culture, which is built on misogyny and thrives off of it to this day. And the women who protect these men, I think, you know, addressing a demographic that is rooted in trauma that is rooted in sexual shame, trauma, slavery of all kinds, including slavery of the mind – I think it triggered a lot of people to see a Black woman be free in this way.

I think it said a lot about the people who were upset by it. And then there were some in “crossover media,” a lot of white folks were upset too, not gonna lie. But to see it from Black women – Tyra Banks was really upset [when she interviewed me about Confessions in 2005]. Oprah wasn't mad [when she interviewed me]. As long as Oprah wasn’t mad, I was good. I didn't care what anybody else had to say. Oprah was amazing. So, watching Black women defend men, and Black women who had a platform, defend the sexual blackmailing of men: “If you don't do this with me, you won't get this job”; “If you don't do this in my trailer, you're going to have to leave the set”– these are things that I dealt with.

I just happened to be the kind of woman who, because I was a single mother raising my child all by myself and never got any help at all – which I still don't. Like, I'm 24 in college – not a cheap college either – one of the best colleges in the country, and I'm still taking care of him all by myself as a 21-year-old, 20-year-old, young, single mother with no family and no support – I wasn’t about to say no to something that could help me feed my son for a month or two or three.

xoNecole: We are in this post-Me Too climate where women in Hollywood have come forward to talk about the powerful men who have abused them. In the music industry in particular, it seems nearly impossible for any substantive change or movement to take place within music. It's only now after three decades of allegations that R. Kelly has finally been convicted and other men like Russell Simmons continue to roam free despite the multiple allegations against him. Why do you think it's hard for the music industry to face its reckoning?

EO: That's not the music industry, that's urban music. That’s just Black folks who make music and nobody cares about that. That's the thing; nobody cares...Nobody cares. It's not the music industry. It's just an "urban" thing. And when I say "urban," I say that in quotations. Literally, it’s a Black thing, where nobody gives a shit what Black people do to Black people. And Russell didn't go on unchecked, he just had enough money to keep it quiet. But you know, anytime you're dealing with Black women being disrespected, especially by Black men, nobody gives a shit.

And Black people don't police themselves so it doesn't matter. Why should anybody care? And Black women don't care. They'll buy an R. Kelly album right now. They’ll stream that shit right now. They don’t care. So, nobody cares. Nobody cares. And if you're not going to police yourself, then nobody's ever going to care.

xoNecole: Do you have any regrets about anything you wrote or perhaps something you may have omitted?

EO: Absolutely not. No. There's nothing that I wish I would've gone back and said to myself, no. I don’t think at 20-something years old, I'm supposed to understand every little thing. I don't think the 20-something-year-old woman is supposed to understand the world and know exactly what she's doing. I think that one of my biggest regrets, which isn't my regret, but a regret, is that I didn't have better parents. Because a 20-something only knows what she knows based on what she’s seen and what she’s been taught and what she’s told. I had shitty parents and a horrible family. Just terrible. These people had no business having children. None of them. And a lot of our families are like that. And we may pass down those familial curses.

*This interview has been edited and condensed

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