I Quit A Job After 2 Weeks & It Was One Of The Best Decisions Of My Life
There's that age-old saying that applies to major decisions in your life: "When you know, you know." And when it comes to my sanity, happiness, or financial future, it's a saying that has rung true time and time again. Finding the right time to quit a job is never easy, whether you hate the job, love it but have to move on, or feel indifferent about it.
In my case, I knew that quitting a job after just a few weeks would be a far less painful experience than sticking it out. Continuing in the role, for me, would have led to the digging up of old career wounds and a horrible reversion in the progress I'd made both professionally and personally.
In just a short time at the job, I felt like I was in a nightmare remake of a Christmas classic, except this film would be called, Ghosts of Toxic Workplace Past. It was like allowing my ex to take me on a 10-day baecation cruise. Immediately, no.
And as much as I'm all for giving something (or someone) second and third chances (as I often did in the case of my ex), I'm a huge fan of Black women taking up space by not taking crap in order to prove our worthiness, tenacity, or stamina. As "strong" women, we're supposed to accept that "work 10 times harder" and big-girl-panties mission, even at a job that makes us miserable. Not only are we to survive, but we must overachieve and thrive. As my favorite auntie Betty Wright once said: No pain, no gain, right?
Well, after too many years of that, I now advocate for nipping things in the bud early, especially in matters of the heart and profession and especially when it's to your detriment.
While I don't recommend this as a smart option for every professional, it's a good idea to think through why you'd want to quit a job and when is best to do it. Here are a few red flags that led me to push the resignation button so soon:
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1. From day one, the job description did not match my understanding of the duties.
Keywords: my understanding. I often overthink almost everything in my life, so I definitely asked quite a few questions during the multiple rounds of interviews for the job. I also re-read the description and asked questions via email so that I could get a few things in writing before the actual offer was made. I thought I knew exactly what I was getting into. As someone with almost 20 years of experience in my field, I figured, hey, a few minor things might be adjusted, but the overall expectations of the job, the people I'll be leading, and the nature of the work, won't deviate much---at least not in the first six months.
Wrong.
Immediately upon starting the job, I noticed that not only was I suddenly given an extra team to lead, but the switcheroo was done very casually as if it were normal. I was taken aback and expressed that I was not aware that I'd be taking on managing more people than what was told to me during the interview process. The response: "Oh, it's just..."
Yeah, anytime someone of authority at work uses the word "just," it's a clear dismissal of what it truly takes to do your job, and from my experience, is a key sign that many of your valid concerns related to your job will be dismissed, whether passively or aggressively. And the dismissive responses to your concerns won't end. You'll end up a doormat and out of fear and obligation, take on more work than you have the mental capacity to do well.
You'll grow sick, physically, due to burnout, end up using the few sick days you have simply for a break, have none for when you actually do get sick, then be labeled "difficult" for finally setting boundaries one day in a frenzied act of tears and desperation. (Yep, this happened to me as well, which is why, again, this job clearly wasn't for me. Too many triggers. Too many oh-hell-naw signs to run. It was like being on a date with an ex.)
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2. For me, the actual (well... "updated") job requirements did not match the pay.
Again, keywords here: for me, as in, in my professional opinion based on the job's requirements and market value for the role. Additional team members were added, along with the time, energy, and talent it takes to manage them, with no raise in pay or update on my benefits package. None.
Do I need to say more? I'd worked at major companies and for major brands---proven myself time and time again--for almost two decades, with the career receipts and education to prove it, only to be flagrantly asked to do the extra work for free. And as a Black woman, I found it even more insulting.
3. My "manager" had totally different work experience and credentials that I felt were unrelated to mine.
While this particular person was amazingly welcoming and great at what she did, her talents and skills were for a totally different aspect of the business than mine, yet she was serving as my supervisor. I also learned that she'd floated around to various "management" positions in different departments. She'd been taking on multiple jobs and "helping out" in order to onboard me.
In my experience, I've known that professionals who do this are often either looking to be promoted elsewhere or are the go-to person who takes on tasks nobody else wants to do. I also knew that this was a recipe for disaster, especially if I would be looking for leadership and/or mentorship support in my role.
It seemed to me that this person was simply biding their time until a better opportunity came along or that the person was doing a favor for someone in order to advance in some other way at the company. Also, if the person judging me on my performance does not have the educational or professional background and/or credentials I have, how can they offer a fair and reasonable review of my work, especially in my role as a manager? This, too, just seemed too problematic.
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4. I was given the responsibility to lead a team that was already emotionally battered from previous issues at the company.
During my first few weeks, I knew it would be a smart move to have one-on-ones with the teams I was meant to lead. The company had gone through a series of lay-offs before they'd hired me, and my experience taught me that it's good to get a gauge of where the remaining survivors' heads were at so that I could be of service and approach managing them in a strategic way.
What I found from the one-on-one meetings were signs of disenchantment, disinterest in the questions I was asking, or lackluster responses when talking about what they love about working for the company. One person even seemed to be playing a game on his phone while in the meeting. There were a select few who were enthusiastic, welcoming, and forthcoming, but they seemed to have differing versions of their own roles and responsibilities. And the team members who were positive were newer hires, just like me.
The majority of the team seemed like they didn't even want to be there or as if they'd rather have been talking to someone else, maybe a previous manager who was laid off. As much as I love a challenge, at the time, I just couldn't stomach the idea of having to fight through and win the team members over. I just didn't have it in me. I'd be tasked with not only meeting certain company deliverables attached to my role but also appeasing the hardened hearts of disgruntled workers who'd been working at the company for years.
No, thank you.
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5. I found that I'd constantly have to re-affirm my credentials and skills.
As much as this is often seen as a "norm" at companies, I'd had my fair share and was tired of it. I went solo as a self-employed consultant for this very reason. I would no longer tolerate work environments where I didn't feel affirmed by those who managed me or who had the power to back me up when I'd need to assert authority. I also would not waste my time re-affirming what was already talked about during the interview process and was the very reason I was hired. This happens to Black women in leadership all the time and it not only takes a toll on your mental health, but it doesn't allow you room to grow in leadership.
I've had jobs where I had to test to even make it to the final round of candidates, where I've had to interview with multiple members of small staffs, and where I've had to constantly play along with what's called "micro" aggressions that were very much notmicro or small at all.
And yes, I learned all of this after only a couple of weeks in that position.
Years later, I can say that quitting so soon was the best decision of my life. It was scary at the time because I wasn't sure how I was going to supplement my income, but God always comes through for your girl. And it helps that I'm not new to self-employment and the savvy of finding solutions to unemployment.
I went on to work with more freelance clients and made more money than I would have if I stayed at that job. I still have a flexible schedule, I can travel when and where I want, and I'm proud of the work I do, serving women professionals and entrepreneurs as both a coach and a seasoned journalist and editor. The companies I currently work with value my input and my experience and make me feel like a loved member of their fam. While I still face challenges, they're the type that allows me to grow in leadership and learn more about myself and the world.
So, sis, here's your confirmation: Don't wait for things to get worse. Send that resignation email (of course, after looking at your contract or offer letter) today. Stop second-guessing that gut feeling and go for yours. The time is now.
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UnPrisonedhas returned for its highly anticipated second season, delving deeper into the complex dynamics of the Alexander family.
The series premiere comes a year after its debut season garnered rave reviews from fans and critics and earned record-breaking ratings for Hulu's Onyx Collective brand. UnPrisoned's success can be attributed to its raw, relatable themes and comedic appeal.
Inspired by creator Tracy McMillan's life, the show follows Paige (Kerry Washington), a therapist and single mother whose life takes an unexpected turn when her father, Edwin (Delroy Lindo) --who was released from prison-- moves in with her and her teenage son, Finn (Faly Rakotohavana).
Throughout UnPrisoned's first season, viewers witnessed how Edwin's incarceration deeply affected Paige's life and relationships. In the series, Paige unpacks her trauma through interactions with her inner child and her online followers. Meanwhile, Edwin is overcoming specific struggles with his own past that led to his life of crime, including a dysfunctional upbringing and his mother's arrest. As the Alexanders attempt to reconcile, new challenges arise.
This new season promises to further explore their unconventional family dynamic. Here are several compelling reasons why season two of UnPrisoned should be on everyone's watchlist.
The Alexander Family Life Is Still In Shambles
UnPrisoned's second season resumes where the series left off, with Paige grappling with the fallout from her troubled therapy practice and Edwin navigating life independently after moving out. Meanwhile, Finn faces his own challenges. The teenager is battling anxiety and seeking information about his father—a topic Paige avoids discussing.
The Alexander Family Are Attending Therapy To Resolve Their Underlying Issues
Amid the chaos in their lives, the Alexander family decides to mend their bond by confronting their past traumas. They seek professional help and attend therapy sessions with a “family radical healing coach,” played by John Stamos, a new cast member. This collective effort aims to unravel the complexities of their shared history and strengthen their relationships.
The process of unraveling each character's internal conflicts and their potential impact on future relationships may clash with Paige's textbook therapy approach. While Paige is used to being in the therapist's seat in both career and family, this forces her into the unfamiliar role of a patient during therapy sessions. This shift would compel her to look in the mirror and try a radically different approach.
The Alexander Family Learned A Big Lesson During A Therapy Session
In therapy, the Alexanders are tasked with addressing their individual traumas to salvage their remaining relationships. One of the family therapist’s eccentric suggestions was an exercise involving a family wrestling match. During this session, Paige faces tough questions about her refusal to share information about Finn's father.
While it's unclear whether this scene is reality or fantasy, the image of the family duking it out in the ring certainly makes for hilarious yet compelling television.
Paige Tries Dating Again Following Failed Relationships
Amid her life's chaos, Paige decides to step back into the dating field. However, her many attempts have left her with mixed results. The dating apps have turned out to be a fail, and an outing with her ex Mal (Marque Richardson), who is also her father's parole officer, doesn’t go quite as expected after he brings an unexpected guest – his new girlfriend.
The situation takes an awkward turn when Mal's new partner learns why the former couple split, partly due to Paige's self-sabotage.
UnPrisoned Is A Perfect Balance Of Comedy And Drama
As a dramedy, UnPrisoned takes a comedic approach to its heavy subjects. The show takes us on a ride with Paige's dating misadventures and navigating a friendship with her ex.
Other lighthearted moments include Edwin's attempts at CPR based on online videos and, of course, the antics of the Alexander family's unconventional new healing coach.
The second season of UnPrisoned is now available on Hulu.
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This Is How Tonight's Rare Super Blue Moon Will Impact Your Sun & Rising Sign
Once in a Blue Moon, we have a Blue Moon. This year, however, this celestial body is at its largest capacity, as the Super Blue Moon in Aquarius emerges on August 19, at 2:26 p.m. EST. This is the first of the four Supermoons occurring back-to-back in 2024, and it’s time to feel all the feels.
What Does the Super Blue Moon Mean?
With this Blue Moon happening in the air sign of Aquarius, themes of friendship, community, purpose, destiny, and alignment come into play, and this Supermoon is here to bring things into a better place. Aquarius is all about progression and forward-movement energy, but amid Mercury retrograde, we are being asked to slow down, think about it, and listen to what our intuition is telling us about the path ahead.
When is the Super Blue Moon of 2024?
On August 19, the day of the Super Blue Moon, Jupiter in Gemini forms a square to Saturn retrograde in Pisces and any limitations you have been feeling in your life when it comes to connection, spirituality, freedom, and a deeper understanding of where you want to evolve are coming into clear view. Full Moons are a time to focus on where you need to let go a little more and let divine timing do its thing.
This Full Moon is no different, and we are being put in a position for self-growth, improvement, healing, and letting go of the past to create room for our future.
Aquarius is a sign that also rules politics and rebellion, and we could see some shifts happening in the political sphere during this Blue Moon. What’s been hidden is coming to the surface, and where the collective needs to improve or move on will be brought to the world’s attention as well. It’s about nurturing your dreams and insights right now, connecting with like-minded souls, self-reflection, and growth.
Balance the head with the heart, and pay attention to what’s been brought to your attention during this Blue Moon.
Read below for your sun and rising sign to see how this Super Blue Moon will be for you.
What the Blue Super Moon of 2024 Has in Store for Your Sign
ARIES
This Blue Moon for you is a process, Aries, and you are healing. There is a lot that is coming to the surface during this time, and not all of it may be a comfortable awakening at first. Your friendships, community, and group associations are going through a stage of reflection, and there is more you are learning about this area of your life.
You are opening up to the idea of connecting and doing the things that matter with the people around you, instead of pushing people away too much. There is a lot for you to work on letting go of at this time, most importantly however, you are letting go of old pain and hurt that has been preventing you from connecting with new people, perspectives, and experiences.
TAURUS
The Super Blue Moon in Aquarius is asking you to slow down, Taurus. You are getting an opportunity to grow in stability, and to build a nice life for yourself through your purpose and dedication. You are reflecting on the areas of your life in which you feel the most stable and grounded and are finding gratitude in the little things.
It’s important to find a balance between career responsibilities and personal responsibilities right now and to prioritize what is worth your time and what aligns most with your future goals. Overall, you are evaluating your long-term goals during this time, and thinking about the big picture of what is going to serve you in the long run.
GEMINI
This Blue Moon, for you, is about protecting your energy and allowing karma to balance its scales on its own. You have had to go through some combative energy recently with your ruling planet, Mercury, in retrograde, and this Blue Moon is about taking your peace more seriously. You need space to grow, develop, and gain the full picture, and you are taking that time right now.
This Blue Moon is reminding you of the importance of creating boundaries in your life, and not feeling like you have to be everywhere at once when you don’t have the energy to. Life is opening up to you and you have a lot of opportunities to think about and ponder over right now, Gemini.
CANCER
The Super Blue Moon is here, and you are reflecting on what is worthy of your heart, time, and focus Cancer. Emotionally, you could be feeling a lot right now, and are being reminded to reach out for support, talk about things with someone you trust, and not take on all of these emotions alone. There is significance in being able to be vulnerable with another, and you are opening up to a deeper understanding of that right now.
It’s time to let go of focusing so much on what isn’t working out or coming to fruition for you and to bring your attention to the beauty and growth that has been surrounding you the whole time. Do the rituals and self-care routines that make you feel safe and loved today.
LEO
This Super Blue Moon is a big awakening moment for you, Leo. With the Blue Moon happening in your opposite sign, Aquarius, there is a lot to reflect on right now, especially in matters of the heart. Love is coming full circle, and the culminations you are seeing now may be difficult to grasp. Remember your power and your strength, and remember that whatever is being brought to your attention was meant to be shown for you at this time and place.
If you can look at obstacles or challenges that present themselves as learning moments right now, you can prove to yourself how much you have evolved from the way things were. Don’t be too hard on yourself, and allow your relationships to move into a space of growth and understanding without forcing it too much.
VIRGO
The Super Blue Moon is here, and you are being asked to move on and move forward, Virgo. This Full Moon is reflecting to you how much you have been holding in emotionally, and how this could be disrupting your health and overall well-being in life. It’s about moving forward with less weight on your shoulders right now and about understanding that you deserve the best for yourself on all levels.
The more negativity you let go of, the more room you have for positive experiences to enter your life, and you are cleaning house right now. You are ready to rewrite your story and let go of the past. Make your health and well-being the priority, and choose yourself, Virgo.
LIBRA
This Blue Moon is an opportunity for you, Libra. You are letting go of what has been disrupting your happiness and sense of confidence, and you are putting your intentions and joy first. It’s about recognizing your unique gifts, skills, and talents and about putting yourself and your needs out there more.
New doors are opening for you, but you need time to reflect on what it has taken to get here, where you want to see these new doors lead you, and how to best live up to your full potential. This is overall, a more favorable Full Moon for you with it occurring in a fellow air sign, and you are flowing well with the energies in the sky during this time.
SCORPIO
Happy outcomes are coming to fruition for you during this Super Blue Moon, Scorpio. You finally see the full picture you have been looking for, and you are breathing some more fresh air right now. There is a lot of hope, opportunity, stability, and compassion filling your world, and you are secure in what you have built for yourself and what options you have for your future.
There is so much to look forward to in life right now, and this Blue Moon is an opportunity to see it all right in front of you, Scorpio. Overall, this Aquarius Blue Moon is showing you how magical life can get and is helping you let go of doubting yourself or your potential in life.
SAGITTARIUS
On the day of the Blue Moon, you are being asked to look for the hope and the glimmers of love in your life. It’s time to let go of being too hard on yourself, your growth, or where your relationships have been and to have more faith in it all. This Blue Moon is showing you what is possible through a strong faith in yourself and is reflecting to you just how much your heart has grown.
Some important conversations are being had right now, and the clarity may be disheartening at first. Allow time to heal, and remember that you deserve to be heard, too, Sagittarius. Take the time to reflect on how you can feel more happy with life and how you can give yourself some more grace and compassion right now.
CAPRICORN
This Blue Moon is beaming with clarity for you, Capricorn. You are processing, communicating effectively, and moving through a major growth spurt in your life. You have been working a lot on your finances as of late, and your stability here, and new ideas and perspectives are coming into bloom for you now.
Although you still need more time to get all the details, especially financially, the inspiration you are gaining now and the communications you are having are creating a breakthrough in your life overall. Remember that to obtain something; you have to believe that you are worthy of it first and that it all starts with that belief. Start believing in yourself and your value more, Capricorn.
AQUARIUS
The Super Blue Moon is happening in your sign, Aquarius, and it’s your time to shine, be, and be loved. There is a lot of favorable energy surrounding you during this Full Moon, and you are overall letting go of what hasn’t been working in your life. The past is coming up a lot for you right now, but you are really taking this opportunity to heal, let go, and understand yourself a little better.
You deserve space to just breathe, move forward, and become, and you are seeing that path more clearly now to do so. Focus on the heartfelt connections in your life during this Blue Moon, and remember that things aren’t what they were in the past. You have new experiences ahead of you and to create for yourself, and this Super Blue Moon is a chance to thank where you have been and honor your energy.
PISCES
Rest, recuperation, and rejuvenation are what this Blue Moon is all about for you, Pisces. You are in a deep mode of healing, and there is a lot to process in your life right now. There is a sense of feeling like things have been at a stalemate, but all that’s required to move out of this energy right now is patience and self-understanding. Consider all options and avenues, but remember that at the end of the day, making no decision is still a decision.
Be confident in what your intuition is telling you, pay attention to the signs, and gain some spiritual guidance. This Blue Moon is helping you let go of misunderstandings and confusion and gain the clarity needed to make some new decisions for yourself that better align with who you are today.
Explore your sign’s 2024 horoscope predictions to learn what is in store for you this year in love, career, and more. Check out the love compatibility of each sign to learn more about zodiac pairings and all things compatibility.
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