The Bed Is Overrated: Here Are 6 Types Of Furniture To Have Sex On Instead
There are plenty of places to have sex that can make things more exciting. The coffee table after a nightcap. The office desk after a long day of work. The couch on a lazy Sunday afternoon. But if you’ve ever smacked your head on the kitchen cabinet while getting frisky on the countertop (raises hand), then you know these locations leave something to be desired.
That’s where dedicated sex furniture comes in. This is furniture designed to make sex the best it can be, and I am here for it.
Whether you’re looking to spice up your cozy studio apartment or going all out and building yourself a sex room, there’s a piece of sex furniture to suit pretty much anything you can think of. So, let’s dive in!
Why Do You Need Sex Furniture?
There are so many reasons to invest in sex furniture. To spice things up, to achieve something that a bed just can’t provide, or to help with mobility issues. Apart from bringing something new into your play sessions, the best sex furniture makes certain positions easier and more pleasurable. In fact, some positions are only possible with sex furniture, so get ready to expand your repertoire!
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6 Sex Furniture Types to Have Sex On
1. Sex Pillows
These simple and non-intimidating sex aids are great for finding just the right position without putting strain on your body.
They usually come in wedge shapes and are great for missionary positions (vaginal or anal), doggy-style, and even cunnilingus. You can position the pillow under the receiving partner for easier access and more relaxing and pleasurable sex for everyone involved!
2. Sex Chaises, Chairs, and Couches
If you’re looking for a classy and discreet option, sex chaises and couches are the way to go. They’re designed to make new, exciting positions achievable in a way that a bed never could. Plus, they just look like fancy furniture, so your in-laws will be none the wiser!
Sex chairs, on the other hand, come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and purposes but are most often used for receiver-on-top positions. Some, also called sex stools or sex thrones, are wonderful for giving oral pleasure, with the giver positioned under the chair.
3. Sex Swings
Sex swings are an amazing way to make gravity work for you rather than against you! Usually, the receiving partner will be suspended in the air while the giving partner swings them back and forth instead of thrusting, but you can have two people jump in too!
This is especially great for people with mobility issues since it puts far less strain on your muscles and joints. Plus, it’s a fun way to explore your bodies in ways you never could on a bed!
Don’t worry if you don’t have the option of a permanent installation. There are door-mounted options, as well as free-standing frames that can be packed away when you’ve had your fun!
4. Sex Benches and Ramps
You can think of a sex ramp as a full-body version of a sex pillow. It’s designed to support your whole upper body and take all the strain out of sex so you can get down to what’s really important - enjoying yourselves!
A sex bench is pretty much what would happen if a massage table were designed by a kinkster. They’re intended for BDSM play and are usually designed with bondage and spanking in mind, so strap in and enjoy the ride!
5. Sex Toy Mounts
Sex furniture isn’t only for couples! If you've got yourself a dildo and want to make your solo play even better (or want to put on a show for your partner), a sex toy mount could be just the thing. They’re designed to hold a dildo or vibrator in place while you climb on and ride to your heart’s content.
6. Sex Machines
If a sex toy mount doesn’t quite do the trick, a sex machine almost certainly will! These machines simulate the thrusting of penetrative sex. Just attach your favorite dildo and let the machine do the work!
You can adjust the speed and stroke length, and some models even have dual attachment points, so you and your partner can enjoy it together!
If you’ve ever been bored in the bedroom, wished you could try that one exciting position, or wanted sex just to be easier, sex furniture could very well be the answer.
There’s so much to explore and so much to gain. And once you dive in, you’ll never look at a chaise lounge the same way again!
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This Black Woman-Owned Creative Agency Shows Us The Art Of Rebranding
Rebranding is an intricate process and very important to the success of businesses that want to change. However, before a business owner makes this decision, they should determine whether it's a rebrand or an evolution.
That's where people like Lola Adewuya come in. Lola is the founder and CEO of The Brand Doula, a brand development studio with a multidisciplinary approach to branding, social media, marketing, and design.
While an evolution is a natural progression that happens as businesses grow, a rebrand is a total change. Lola tells xoNecole, "A total rebrand is necessary when a business’s current reputation/what it’s known for is at odds with the business’s vision or direction.
"For example, if you’ve fundamentally changed what your product is and does, it’s likely that your brand is out of alignment with the business. Or, if you find your company is developing a reputation that doesn’t serve it, it might be time to pump the brakes and figure out what needs to change.
She continues, "Sometimes you’ll see companies (especially startups) announce a name change that comes with updated messaging, visuals, etc. That usually means their vision has changed or expanded, and their previous branding was too narrow/couldn’t encompass everything they planned to do."
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The Brand Doula was born in 2019, and its focus is on putting "the experiences, goals, and needs of women of color founders first," as well as brands with "culture-shifting missions."
According to Lola, culture-shifting is "the act of influencing dominant behavior, beliefs, or experiences in a community or group (ideally, for the better)."
"At The Brand Doula, we work with companies and leaders that set out to challenge the status quo in their industries and communities. They’re here to make an impact that sends ripples across the market," she says.
"We help the problem solvers of the world — the ones who aren't satisfied with 'this is how it's always been' and instead ask 'how could this be better?' Our clients build for impact, reimagining tools, systems, and ways of living to move cultures forward."
The Brand Doula has worked with many brands, including Too Collective, to assist with their collaboration with Selena Gomez's Rare Beauty and Balanced Black Girl for a "refresh," aka rebrand. For businesses looking to rebrand, Lola shares four essential steps.
1. Do an audit of your current brand experience — what’s still relevant and what needs to change? Reflect on why you’re doing the rebrand in the first place and what success would look like after relaunching.
2. Tackle the overall strategy first — before you start redesigning logos and websites, align on a new vision for your brand. How do you want your company to be positioned moving forward? Has your audience changed at all? Will your company have a fresh personality and voice?
3. Bring your audience along the journey — there’s no need to move in secret. Inviting your current audience into the journey can actually help them feel more connected to and invested in your story, enough to stick around as changes are being made.
4. Keep business moving — one of my biggest pet peeves is when companies take down their websites as soon as they have the idea to rebrand, then have a Coming Soon page up for months! You lose a lot of momentum and interest by doing that. If you’re still in business and generating income, continue to operate while you work on your rebrand behind the scenes. You don’t want to cut existing customers off out of the blue, and you also don’t want so much downtime that folks forget your business exists or start looking for other solutions.
While determining whether the rebrand was successful may take a few months, Lola says a clear sign that it is unsuccessful is negative feedback from your target audience. "Customers are typically more vocal about what they don’t like more than what they do like," she says.
But some good signs to look out for are improvements in engagement with your marketing, positive reviews, press and increase in retention, and overall feeling aligned with the new branding.
For more information about Lola and The Brand Doula, visit her website, thebranddoula.com.
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Lauren London Is On A Journey Of Self-Love: 'I Need To Learn Who I Am Outside Of My Trauma'
Lauren London has gone through many transitions in her life, from becoming a mother to experiencing loss when her beau, Nipsey Hussle, passed, and now she is focused on self-love.
During her conversation on A Really Good Crypodcast, the beloved actress revealed her struggles with self-love and why it's important to take this time in her life to learn how to love on herself.
"I've never really functioned in self-love. I've never really functioned in self-acceptance, and this is my time to learn what that is," she shared.
"I need to learn who I am outside of my trauma, from the childhood trauma and then the adult trauma. I need to really know what it feels like to be in sovereignty with me, and that's the space that I'm in.
"I don't really know self-acceptance like that and I would like to know that. I would like to see myself the way God intended me to see myself. Not through the reflection of anyone else right now, really just through the eyes of God."
She continued, "I didn't have that growing up. I had a lot of things I had to overcome. I've been in survivor mode for many years before the tragedy (Nipsey's death), and so I need to love on Lauren. I need to see what that is."
Being an actress, Lauren opened up about some of the things that come with the territory, including going to events and parties to stay relevant.
While she said going out doesn't fill her soul, it is a constant battle with her friends and her team. But according to the mom of two, she no longer wants her identity to be tied to her work.
"I think now I'm just, again, finding home within myself," she said. When it comes to what's next for the You People star, Lauren said she doesn't know and it's okay to just be and sit in what you just accomplished.
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