Six Simple Sex Positions To Help You Connect To Your Wild Side

Not feeling super confident? Here's some positions for you.


If you're struggling with connecting to your wild side in the bedroom, you are not the only one, sis. A lot of women lack confidence in the bedroom for different reasons. And I'm here to say, it's not your fault. For most of us, this goes back to what we were taught about sex by our mothers, in school, and by society. We are taught what not to do and what not to be. No one ever gave women a how-to about enjoying sex, like sex wasn't meant to be something that women enjoy. We still live in a society where sex is only OK with talking about when it comes to procreation. But when it comes to pleasure and leisure - not so much. Sex is a natural human behavior, but to talk about enjoying sex or exploring your sexuality has always been considered taboo.

However, I have to say we are getting better about openly talking about sex. This is because women are tapping into their feminine side now more than ever. We want to explore our bodies and do all the things that give us pleasure. And this includes exploring who we are in the bedroom. But most times we don't know where to start or what to do. Other times, our partners can be more sexually advanced causing us to feel less confident in our own sex skills. Listen, sex is a whole experience. You don't know what you're willing to do or not do until you try it.

Here are six simple sex positions that take things back to basics while helping you tap into your wild side in the bedroom.



The missionary position is a classic and a favorite for some women. If you love to be dominated by your partner and deepen emotional connection, this position is for you. What's great about this position is that you can let go of your insecurities by allowing your partner complete control of your body. And I have to say it's the eye contact for me. There is nothing sexier than making direct eye contact with your partner during sex. It allows you to connect with your partner. Caught up in this moment, you will build up the courage to want to try other positions with your partner or even take control.

2.Get On Your Knees


Nothing will make you feel sexier and more confident than giving your partner oral sex. Men love head and women love head too. With this position, you are in full control. You are the creative director of how you get to please your partner. You control the pace, and rhythm of all things you can do with your mouth and tongue. Don't shy away sis, show your partner what that mouth do.

3.Cowgirl or Reverse Cowgirl


Believe it or not, some women are not one hundred percent comfortable riding dick. It can be uncomfortable at first, but "girl on top" is where it's at. This position will help build your confidence by giving your partner a full-frontal view of your body. Remember, men are visual beings. With this position, you have their full attention. You are in control of the rhythm, depth, and speed.

But if you rather not make eye contact with your partner, flip it, and put that thang in reverse with reverse cowgirl. This way, your insecurities don't flood your mind. And you can do your thing while he admires you from behind. Still not convinced? Get your partner a blindfold - taking away one sense will heighten the others.

4.From the Back


"Face down, ass up, that's the way we like to fuck." Was it 2 Live Crew or Meek Mill that is known for this lyric? Anyways, what's good about the doggy-style position is that it's comfortable for both partners. It allows you to submit to your partner as they control the rhythm and power of each thrust with easy access to the box. If you're feeling self-conscious about your body, it hides the front of your body. You can relax and enjoy your partner stroking you from behind or participate with your hands or sex toys. And according to Bustle, doggy-style is America's favorite sex position for both men and women.



This position helps you feel more comfortable with your partner. How? Because you and your partner are pressed against each other. It's intimate, comforting, and allows for connection. With spooning, both partners can control the motion. This works especially well if you are not sure what speed or pressure is preferred by your partner. It's also a great position for women who don't orgasm easily.



Again, staring into your partner's eyes with close physical contact allows you to establish a deep, intimate connection. Here, anything goes. Masturbation or penetration. If you like watching your partner enjoy you, this is the position for you.

We all have insecurities when it comes to sex. But our insecurities shouldn't stop us from tapping into our sexual selves. Women are highly sensual beings. It's in our nature. And it's time we embrace that.

So, go ahead sis. Show off your wild side in the bedroom with one of the sex positions above.

For more love and relationships, features, dating tips and tricks, and marriage advice, check out xoNecole's Sex & Love section here.

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