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Tamar Braxton Talks About How Her Dating Life And New Engagement Impacted Her Son
The dating world as a whole, depending on who you are talking to, can have its challenges. The list includes not meeting an individual's requirements, the constant game-playing, if any, between one or both parties and the external pressures from friends and family, to name a few.
But in Tamar Braxton's case, one difficulty she encountered prior to her engagement to Atlanta attorney Jeremy "JR" Robinson--whom she met on the Peacock's dating competition series Queens Court--when dating was getting her son Logan Herbert's approval. Braxton shares Herbert with her ex-husband and music producer, Vincent Herbert.
Tamar shares that Logan is overprotective when it comes to men she's dated
In a recent interview on The Jennifer Hudson Show, the "Love & War" vocalist spoke about her dating experience and why Herbert is highly protective over his mother.
When Hudson asked Braxton how the 9-year-old reacted to her dating, she joked that her son definitely "gives daddy vibes." The 46-year-old further elaborated that the sole reason behind Herbert's reaction is that he wants her to be happy.
"It gives daddy vibes," she said. "But you know, I think ultimately, our kids want to see us happy. I definitely want to have a husband and hope that he has kids so that we could have a blended family. Things like that, and I think he's attracted to that as well.”
Tamar initially wasn't ready to accept love when she signed on for "Queens Court"
While it appears that Braxton found her person, she was singing a different tune when she first signed on to be a cast member on Peacock's Queens Court. The "All the Way Home" singer told Entertainment Tonight that before her relationship and engagement to Robinson, she wasn't sure if she could accept love following her past hardships with her exes.
"The number one thing I learned about myself is that I wasn't as ready as I said that I was in receiving love," she said.
The star added that despite her initial hesitation after meeting Robinson, she's ready for the next step in their lives: walking down the aisle.
"I'm very sure. I'm confident. I'm ready, and let's see what happens," she said.
Since Queens Court has ended, Braxton and Robinson have reportedly been engaged for six months.
Tamar Braxton Extended Interview | The Jennifer Hudson Show
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xoMan: Joey Bada$$ On What Makes Him Feel Safe In A Relationship & Valuing Energy Over Everything
In our current era of internet culture, it’s rare to find a public figure who’s able to maintain a level of mystique and charm quite like Joey Bada$$. The 28-year-old MC has spent the last decade keeping our ears attuned to his rhythmic flow, all while keeping most of his love life close to his chest. But with his new single “Show Me" being his most transparent composition yet, the Brooklyn rapper is pulling back the layers and giving us a peak into his mind on all things love, communication, and relationships.
During an intimate IG Live conversation for xoMan, Joey opens up about how his song, “Show Me,” was inspired by the lessons from a past relationship and was an intentional depiction of the importance of cultivating a safe space within his relationships. “I kinda put myself in that person’s shoes. I considered the circumstances, and I considered what I would do in that person’s position,” he tells xoNecole. “Once all things were considered, I felt like I was able to find a way to communicate that security and that safeness. I even had to overcommunicate myself. I had to be a little bit more transparent to show this person that it’s okay.”
While he finds that vulnerability comes easily to him and that he’s naturally an open book, “especially with people who I share intimate spaces with,” Joey does share that in order for him to feel safe in a relationship, he has to feel seen and validated. “If I do decide to open up to somebody, what makes me feel safe is them acknowledging how I feel,” he says. “Because there are many ways that you can make somebody feel invalidated. By either not acknowledging or not taking accountability or just not being able to put yourself in someone else's shoes.”
“It’s really about communication. It’s about patience, giving me the time to communicate, and listening,” he continues. “The art of listening is something that people need to go back to school for. Because a lot of people engage in conversation, and they’re just waiting for their turn to speak.”
"It's about patience, giving me the time to communicate, and listening. The art of listening is something that people need to go back to school for. Because a lot of people engage in conversation, and they’re just waiting for their turn to speak.”
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For the Power Book III: Raising Kanan star, there’s an art to communication that involves a balance between active listening and emotional intelligence. “Truth is, a lot of us have an emotional immaturity because emotional intelligence was never anything that was prioritized when we were being raised,” he says. “I feel like for men, especially, it’s very easy for us to feel unheard or unseen.”
With his song “Show Me” being an honest display of his mindset around open communication, Joey reflects on his core values in any relationship he pursues. “Transparency has always been something that’s important to me, it’s something that I value,” he shares. “I value people who can tell the truth, no matter how much it may hurt.”
“Because ideally what that does is, you’re giving me an opportunity to allow me to trust you,” he continues. “And you’re communicating to me that I can trust you. I can trust you to tell me the truth, regardless of my feelings.”
As someone who’s experienced manipulation in his past dynamics, Joey is upfront about his ability to spot someone with the wrong intentions and honors those who walk in truth. “There’s a thin line between the truth-tellers and manipulators,” he says. “The people who lie are lying to preserve a reality for themselves. When I do spot out the people who are transparent, who are honest enough to tell the truth, I value that.”
"There’s a thin line between the truth-tellers and manipulators... When I do spot out the people who are transparent, who are honest enough to tell the truth, I value that.”
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While the rapper-turned-actor confirms that he is in fact single, Joey is clear on what he’s looking for in his future lady and trusts that the universe will bring him to her in due time. “I’m staying ready so I ain't gotta get ready,” he says. “I don’t want to say it’s anything I’m looking for; I understand how the law of attraction works.”
But if you happen to cross paths with this 90s-fine heartthrob, make sure that you’re energy, and aura are beaming at their highest vibration. “The first thing I notice about a woman is her energy. I’m in a space where beautiful women are such a common thing to me' it’s not anything that’s rare.”
“Energy speaks the loudest for me because I am a sensitive person; I feel energy a lot. I can tell a lot just off of the air that comes with a person, so if that’s a gentle air and it’s feeling breezy and cool, I’m like, oh, what’s that over there?”
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Cue the vulnerability, the new season of Love Is Blind premiered today, and with it came the release of the season's first batch of episodes, episodes 1-5. And whether you tune in because you're a believer in true love or you’re skeptical at how many couples navigate the inevitable red flags they encounter throughout the show, Love Is Blind Season 4 will surely be cemented in our minds and our tea-time conversations for weeks to come. Yes, there will be love, and while I don't bask in the sorrow of others, yes, there will be tears. What more can you ask for from high-stakes reality TV?
For brevity's sake, I’m focusing on the melanated contestants and giving first impressions and highlights of their journey throughout episodes 1-3, beginning with the first three episodes that focus on couples making love connections inside of the Pods. The recap for episodes 4-5 that feature the post-Pods engaged couples will soon follow.
Editor's Note: These are my thoughts in real-time as I am watching each episode; spoilers are most definitely ahead!
Episodes 1-3: During the Pods
Kwame
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33, Sales Development Manager
Let me just say, with Kwame, the edit he received from the jump wasn’t the best, and I have a feeling the internet might go in a little bit on some of the soundbites he gave when we’re first introduced to him. From his storytime about having to prove his worthiness to the parents of his prom date, who wouldn’t let her go with him because “I’m Black,” to his early admission of thinking of using his first name “Alex” in the Pods instead of the name he usually goes by (Kwame) so that there were no assumptions from the other non-Black singles, the edit sometimes did him very little favors.
As a viewer, the point of the experiment is that “love is blind,” and to me, it felt like I could pinpoint very specific instances where it seemed Kwame was doing his best to still connect the dots between him and his real-world preference within the Pods. But maybe I misunderstood the point. However cringy his revelations of his dating history, they served as indicators that there was a chip on his shoulder, and I feel that shows in the way he dates in the Pods.
Case in point, feeling worthy is important to him, and there are times he seems to question that. He is into a woman named Micah, who is clearly lukewarm af about him (until she isn’t), as well as a woman named Chelsea, who is sure about him and has always been sure about him, but for whatever reason, Kwame can’t get Micah out of his head. What he likes about Chelsea, though, is that she validates him constantly, and he makes it a point to say this a few times over the course of the Pods episodes. See what I’m saying about those needing to feel worthy?
Although Kwame has things he likes about Chelsea overall, the trait that makes the top of his list when he is explaining her to other contestants, women and men alike, is that she validates him. For someone who might have navigated a dating scene where he always doubted himself and what he brought to the table, having someone like Chelsea in his corner who is constantly pouring into him in that way unprompted is something that feeds him in a way he didn’t know he was starving for. Will he choose Micah (side eye) or Chelsea, the woman who has been sure about wanting to be with him from minute one?
The answer of who Kwame should choose becomes a lot clearer as the episodes progress, and it becomes obvious to anyone with eyes that Micah is playing games and doing her best to secure her place on the series, whether it’s with Kwame or another contestant, Paul. Does she have real feelings for Kwame? I think so, in a way, but it’s definitely not the same energy Kwame gives to the courtship process in the Pods.
Though I loved his proposal to Chelsea (because Kwame can articulate his feelings so well, man), and Chelsea’s words back to him especially, the fact that I’m privy to some of his exchanges with Micah (including the fact that his strong connection with Chelsea was also about her validating and reassuring him of her feelings for him constantly) really made it hard for Kwame’s words to hit the way they could have.
His confessing to Micah that he wanted to propose to her earlier than he originally intended because she is “what I always envisioned” didn’t help alleviate those feelings of cringe I had that Chelsea probably wasn’t privy to these interactions pre-engagement. Sir was boo-hoo crying when Micah gave her official notice that she wanted to explore other connections (i.e., Paul) even though all the signs pointed to “Not Micah.” Honestly, how everything transpired gave me Jarette-Mallory-Iyanna teas from Love Is Blind Season 2, and I wish that on no woman. And I actually rock with Chelsea.
For that reason, the sweetness of what it should have been with Kwame’s proposal to Chelsea was a bit tainted. Chelsea said off-rip that she has never been with someone she could say in her “soul” that he is the person she wants to be with. It looks like Kwame could finally be that one. In all fairness, she is aware of his sadness over Micah “ending things,” but I’m certain she is not privy to the depths of all that transpired.
I just hope that by popping the question to Chelsea, he understands what he has and doesn’t get caught up in the shoulda, woulda, coulda of Micah that is sure to come in the episodes where the cast members inevitably interact with one another.
Tiffany
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Client Recruiter, 36
Now that the unpleasantness is out of the way, let's segue into a palette cleanser, otherwise known as my girl in my head, Tiffany! Yes, she's my girl. There was something about her that made me connect with her most immediately of all the contestants shown. However, I probably have a lot less to say about her because she has quickly secured her position on my list of "Love Is Blind: Season 4 Unproblematic Faves." At 36, she is one of the older cast members of the season, and it is her age that she admits made her feel insecure about coming into the experiment.
Tiffany tells the camera at one point that being her age makes her nervous about still not having her person, but she is all-in with this love experiment because she doesn't have "to shift through the BS" that is the dating scene in 2023 or any era really. She knows that whoever she is talking to is just as ready for marriage as she is.
Early in the first episode, she confesses to Brett that her longest relationship was 2 ½ years and happened more than a decade ago. He quickly reveals a similar romantic history in his past, and you can tell it was a vulnerable moment for Tiffany. We see the relief wash over her that she made a similar connection with someone else on something she was ashamed about. It was at that moment that I felt it between her and Brett.
Though she talked briefly with Marshall, who was a lot younger than her, her primary connection would be with Brett. Each scene we watch play out on screen feels like the intentional unlocking of a new level of intimacy. Something about their shared values and the fact that maybe they have some similarities with what they've experienced in love makes my heart flutter a bit during their first meeting in the Pods, and much of that continues throughout their time in the Pods.
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Later in the episode, I love how Tiffany owned the fact that her ideas of what her partner "should be" might have stopped her from dating someone like Brett outside of the Pods just because he didn't have a degree or a linear career path, criteria that turned out to be superficial in the grand scheme of things.
Tiffany tells the camera she thought she knew what she wanted until she "met" Brett. The experiment shifted what she wanted in love and partnership, and what she loves about Brett is that she feels like she can be herself with him. That's a win right there.
Things take a dramatic turn at the end of the episode when Brett talks openly about his discomfort with the word " love, " and Tiffany falls into a deep, deep sleep! Brett felt a way and started to shut down after feeling hurt, even saying to his castmate afterward that he was "done." To be fair, I could tell they both were sleepy right before she fell asleep, so I don't think it was malicious, but I love that she owned up to her misstep in the next episode. (And I will also say that this type of low-stakes drama points to why Tiffany is an unproblematic fave of the season, just sayin'.)
But will it be enough to get him out of his feelings and onto one knee?
Brett
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Design Director, 35
Much like Tiffany, Brett had me at hello. One of my first times seeing him on the show was in the Pods with Tiffany, so maybe that’s where my bias begins. He was straight up in their initial conversation, where he touched on his “purpose” for being in the experiment. Brett wants a partner, and he wants an equal. Similar to Tiffany, he reveals in his first confessional of the season that he loves that the experiment allows them to move past the guessing game of what the other person wants out of getting to know one another.
“I’m looking for a partner, and Tiffany’s at the top of my list,” he tells the camera. There’s something about certainty in a man. It opens doors, it moves mountains, and it makes me fall in love with someone through a screen. And that is my first impression of Brett. That he knows what he wants, and there’s something really refreshing about that because I don’t think I see that as often in the male contestants unless it’s some type of messy love triangle type setup. In so many ways, he and Tiffany feel like a breath of fresh air. He is drawn to her loving and caring nature and also loves the fact that she sometimes finds motivation in being doubted because he is the same in some ways. In a very vulnerable moment during one of their first “dates” in the Pods, Brett asks to hear her story before opening up about his own upbringing and how their shared mentality connects them.
As he is detailing a tough upbringing, to see Tiffany close her eyes while listening to him recount a time when he felt shame as a child for not having certain things, the empathy was beautiful. Love was being made. After he finishes his literal rags to riches story, Tiffany is in awe. “You’re an amazing person,” she tells him. Brett is beaming like the sun as she says this. Love was being made, y’all.
It’s truly the synergy for me. You don’t really see much interaction between Brett and other cast members inside the Pods or Tiffany and other cast members. So you know that this is real. The fact that they are both feeling so strongly about each other. Brett admits to feeling scared, but I love that one of the cast members, Marshall, advised him to push forward and “take the leap.” “I’m starting to become aware of how into you I am,” he admits to her.After years of dating and not feeling particularly connected, he feels fully seen by Tiffany and that she accepts him for him, which is interesting because she said something similar about him in her confessional earlier in the episode.
Despite Brett feeling a way that Tiffany fell asleep during his in the Pods confessional, he ultimately feels she is the one and proposes! Sis makes him a better man, and in her, he also sees the man he wants to become. The proposal is so sweet, and I could be reaching, but I love that she wore pink and he was wearing yellow, which reminded me of the previous episode when they accidentally matched each other. It’s the synergy, baby!
Their first meeting was as cute and wholesome as their journey together has felt so far.
Marshall
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Marketing Manager, 26
I can't be the only one who thinks Marshall gives Jesse Williams teas facially. I don't know about you, but when I turn my head to the side and squint my eye at the TV, I can see it. This is neither here nor there, but I had to clear the air. After not seeing much of him in the first episode, aside from the heart-to-heart message he delivered to Brett mentioned above in his time of need, in the second episode, we get more of a glimpse into his connections, particularly the one he has with Jackelina, who goes by Jackie.
In one of his very first scenes, we hear him describing Jackie as someone who is authentic and that she "feels like home" to him. And it's all real swoon-like. However, Jackie has options and is semi-entertaining Josh, who she also really vibes with. On the other end of that spectrum, Jackie is sir's #1, so this setup is feeling like yet another love triangle dynamic. Three in one season? Yes, that's where we are. Hell, there might even technically be four this season if I am counting correctly.
Marshall most definitely wears his heart on his sleeve, something he says to the camera in one of his confessionals. He is "bullied" by his emotions, in fact, his words, so I'm not surprised he is so passionate about Jackie and feels so strongly about their connection. The floodgates open early on when he and Jackie have a conversation about being raised "hard," and he recounts a moment when his father berated him as a child.
Jackie encourages him through his tears by saying he is a "good man" and that if she saw him on the side of the road, she would give him a dollar. Chile… "I wanna share my life with you," he tells her. It all sounds good, but there was something that felt a little off about their rapport. I can't quite put my finger on it, though.
Despite some reservations, Jackie does seem to be feeling Marshall and tells him that she will "break up" with her "other boyfriends" in the house for him. She says she gives him all that she comes with, 100%, which isn't a side of her anyone sees, so there might be something really special brewing there after all.
During a later date in the Pods, she admits to him that he is the only one that talks to her in an emotional way. "I want you to feel safe with me," he tells her. She has reawakened something in him, and he confesses to her that he is in love with her. IN LOVE, y'all. Jackie says nothing for a few beats before exhaling, "Oh my gosh," and then she goes into a download about a date she had with Josh earlier where he told her he would pack his bags and leave if he wasn't leaving the Pods with her.
Marshall hears this, and he gets hot. Meanwhile, I'm thinking to myself, is this the response to him telling you he's falling in love with you? If so, why? As a viewer, it felt like a deflection. But then she says that she didn't know how to tell Josh she was not going to be with him because of how hurt he was that Marshall was also into her. "I feel like I just ruined the moment," Jackie goes on to say about the moment transpiring between them. Bingo. Yes. And I think that was intentional.
At least Marshall wasn't born yesterday. In a lot of ways, sir seems wiser than his 26 years. And the fact that he notes Jackie brought Josh up to him because there is something there between them didn't fly over his head turns out. However, Marshall redirecting his upsetness to Josh felt like a choice, albeit the wrong choice. Jackie starts crying because Marshall seems mad at her. Chile…
"Be a man and talk to me," Marshall ends firmly in reference to Josh trying to talk to Jackie 'behind his back.' "I feel like I'm going to throw up," Jackie says through tears. What is this conversation about, bruh? Maybe it's the editors forcing that third love triangle I mentioned earlier, but the whole exchange felt off. When Jackie is crying on the couch with the other women moments later, it seems like she is overwhelmed by Marshall's emotions and feels forced to make a choice based on his declaration. My opinion, but I think that's why the conversation between them felt so awkward; she felt pressured to say certain things because of what he communicated so clearly and so effortlessly to her.
And I will delightfully skip over this forced pseudo-competition between Josh and Marshall because there's truly nothing to see here. To catch us up, though, Jackie explains to the camera that Marshall basically 'stepped' to Josh and 'let him know what's what,' and Jackie preferred not to see Josh again after that because she made her choice in Marshall because he "is just the better choice for me. He's gonna help me grow." Okay, sis! I do like when Jackie eventually admits she is going to have to "boss up" to be with Marshall. I appreciate the self-awareness there, at least.
I think some of my uneasiness in some of this couple's scenes is a maturity issue because I don't know how I feel about Marshall feeling like he has to check another man about getting rejected by Jackie versus Jackie rejecting that man for herself by herself... Like, whet? The difficult conversations I have seen some of the guys being really upfront about in the Pods when they've had to make another choice to pursue a different connection was needed here, but why did Marshall do Jackie's dirty work for her?
Of course, Marshall proposes to Jackie, and of course, she says yes. And no surprise there, but Marshall was utterly enamored with Jackie when they first met, and he matched the physical with the voice in the Pods. He called their first kiss "the best moment" of his life, and in her confessional, Jackie echoes much of the same, calling him a "good man" for her and saying that his vibe gave everything it was supposed to give.
It's something about how she talks about him and that repetition of him being a "good man" for her… Noted.
Sidebar: I'm not even gonna hold you. I love Brett and Marshall's friendship!
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Relationships reflect our inner world and what we believe is possible for us. As we navigate our lives, relationships serve as invitations to do inner work with others. When we are unaware of what is happening internally, it can be a recipe for disaster. You are no longer authentic.
Sooner than later, you may feel drained, depleted, and resentful due to unmet needs and boundary violations. When your needs aren’t met, you will serve someone else's standards while neglecting your own. This is why it is so vital that we take inventory of our relationships and assess if they are relationships that honor our needs, our boundaries, and our truth.
Here Is Why You Should Consider Spring Cleaning Your Relationships:
You allow yourself to build more intimacy in your relationships.
Intimacy is the heart of a healthy relationship. When we understand our partners, we build intimacy with them. Vulnerability is a conduit for emotional intimacy in safe relationships. Our relationships thrive when we feel emotionally connected and supported by our loved ones.
Nevertheless, a healthy relationship does not mean a perfect relationship, and sometimes we need to assess and address what's working in our relationships and what may need some fine-tuning. When we are open to learning, growing, and developing deeper bonds with our loved ones, we invite them to preserve our relationship through open dialogue centered around honesty, love, respect, and safety.
You are choosing yourself and are being honest with yourself.
When you consider spring cleaning your relationships, you offer yourself a token of love. You are communicating that YOU matter, and your feelings, energy, and the overall health of your relationships matter.
Spring cleaning your relationships allows you to be there for yourself. When we choose ourselves, we advocate for ourselves. For so many of us, we are starting to realize that we have every right to advocate for ourselves even if the environment we grew up in did not support our emotional or physical well-being.
Now that we can advocate for ourselves as adults, we get to choose our relationships, not from a place of obligation or fear but from a place of reciprocity, love, and respect.
It can help you to get clear on things you may have suppressed.
Suppression happens when we actively push uncomfortable thoughts and feelings out of our minds. When something painful happens, and we are left with no resolve, we can suppress how we truly feel as an act of self-preservation for the relationship.
Nevertheless, with honesty also comes vulnerability with yourself. Maybe you have been unhappy in certain relationships for a while, but it was too painful to address, or maybe you have been suppressing how you feel because that is what is expected of you in your relationships. Although concealing your feelings may protect you from experiencing them, keep in mind that the body stores all of our emotions. There can be serious long-term side effects of emotional suppression, such as physical ailments linked to autoimmune disease.
Our mind, body, and heart are all interconnected, so assessing your relationships through spring cleaning not only improves your overall wellness but can also prevent anxiety, depression, and other chronic illnesses.
You can reflect on how you’re showing up in your relationships.
This one is my favorite! Spring cleaning your relationships gives you an opportunity to see yourself more clearly. If you are going through an imaginary checklist of what everyone in your life is doing wrong, you may be a part of the problem. Spring cleaning your relationships is not about what everyone else is doing wrong; it’s about accountability. Take this time to reflect on how you show up in your relationships. Are you kind and respectful to your loved ones? Do you honor their boundaries? What can you do to improve? How can you become a better listener? A better communicator?
Use this time to put a flashlight on your heart and take inventory of the places you love people from. Relationships are co-created, meaning both people play a role in the dynamic. Assess your role in your relationships and be the change you want to see.
Setting boundaries will reveal the health of your relationships.
Nedra Tawwab, the author of Setting Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself, defines boundaries as a "verbal or an action that you communicate to someone to feel safe, secure, and supported in a relationship." As we are spring cleaning our relationships, it’s imperative that we check in with our boundaries.
As humans, we are forever evolving, growing, and changing. As we grow, the boundaries that worked for us ten years ago may no longer serve us today. This is why it is important that we communicate our boundaries as they change. People cannot read our minds, and it is unfair to expect them to, no matter how much you think they should just “know” you.
All relationships need boundaries because people need to know how we want to be treated. In healthy relationships, boundaries are honored, and differences are respected. In unhealthy relationships, boundaries are constantly violated and not taken seriously. When you learn to set healthy boundaries and you start communicating them through your season of spring cleaning, allow your boundaries to reveal the health of your relationships. This may come with a sigh of relief, or this may come with immense grief, but I once heard someone say, “Struggling with the truth is much better than being comforted by a lie.”
Let your relationships reveal themselves to you so you can form healthier bonds, repair broken bonds, or release connections that no longer serve you.
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Aries is a passionate lover. Aries loves the excitement, the chase, and the spark of a relationship and is often the initiator, being a cardinal sign and the first sign of the zodiac. They are not the type of people to shy away from anything, and they have no problem making the first move. An Aries loves their freedom and prefers to do things on their own terms, including love. They look for a partner who can match their energy and keep up with them in life, and not someone they feel is going to hold them back. Aries is a young soul and has a free spirit about them that often attracts others to them.
Aries in love is a unique experience, as Aries is more of an independent sign and isn’t focused as much on the relationship aspects of life. Aries value individuality and know and enjoy themselves well, so when they meet someone who they feel is more interesting than themselves or just as, they give it their all. This energy is felt by the people they are in relationships with, and they make their partners feel special. Aries’ fire in the relationship, however, can go out if there isn’t enough spark and passion in the relationship, and being with an Aries long-term isn’t for the weak. Though, if you win their trust and treat every day like you just met for the first time, then your Aries will be there till the end for you.
Read below to see what each sign’s compatibility with Aries is like. Check Sun, Moon, and Venus signs.
Aries and Aries Love Compatibility
The love compatibility between an Aries and an Aries is a wild combination to see together. Dating your own sign and seeing couples in a relationship with their own sign is rare, however, fire signs in general typically do this better than most. An Aries and Aries combo is sexy, passionate, and loving. The good thing about this combo is that nobody knows Aries better than they know themselves, so when it comes to these two, it works because they just get each other. Aggression and conflict will have to be watched out for, however, as with Aries being ruled by Mars, if this sign is not feeling seen or heard then the relationship will be more chaotic than needed.
Aries and Taurus Love Compatibility
These two signs are more likely to butt heads than have a smooth-sailing relationship. Aries and Taurus are both very headstrong individuals, and they are both “my way or the highway” types of people. When two people are like this in a relationship, it can cause a lot of friction and ego clashes and this relationship often comes to a halt. In the beginning, the connection between an Aries and a Taurus feels exciting and like it could be something, though, as Taurus is attracted to the boldness and confidence that comes from Aries, and Aries likes the way Taurus makes them feel grounded and sane. However, at the end of the day, their stubbornness and unwillingness to compromise will either make or break this relationship.
Aries and Gemini Love Compatibility
The love compatibility between an Aries and a Gemini is fun, dynamic, and exciting. Both of these signs have an innate curiosity for life and love to do it together. These two complement each other well and are the type of couple to be best friends and lovers. They like to enjoy time together, be out and about, and tend to inspire each other in many ways. Not to mention, the chemistry is strong here between these two. They don’t have to force anything to make it work or to form a relationship together, and forming a connection is easy.
Gemini’s charm can easily sweep Aries off their feet, and Aries will have fun with Gemini. There will need to be some type of groundedness between the two for it to work long-term however, as they can get caught up in the moment and move without knowing where they are headed.
Aries and Cancer Love Compatibility
Aries and Cancer’s love compatibility is underrated. These two balance each other out well and although friction can arise in this pairing, this is ultimately a fun, dynamic, and in-tune duo. What works so well here is that these two signs are highly intuitive; Aries is very in-tune with themselves, and Cancer is very in-tune with others. If Aries had to date any water sign, it should be a Cancer. Cancer gives Aries the type of support they crave, but that they would never admit they need, and Aries gives Cancer the type of confidence that truly changes their lives. These two can form a powerful relationship that is layered and multifaceted, or they will be immediately turned off and will not pursue each other due to their immediate differences.
Aries and Leo Love Compatibility
Aries and Leo are a more obvious compatible couple, but at the end of the day when it comes to Aries in love it depends on where they are in their life and what they are looking for at that moment. These two, however, are very intrigued by each other and tend to form an immediate connection instantly. The passion is steamy here and the sexual chemistry between the two is off the charts. The only downside to a fire and fire sign duo though, is that it often starts very exciting and impulsive, and then turns into a complete mess afterward. This relationship can be the best of the best for Aries if both people are thinking long-term and aren’t just in it for the moment.
Aries and Virgo Love Compatibility
A Virgo may be one of the least compatible signs for an Aries. These two surprisingly have a lot in common and see things similarly in life, however, it’s difficult for them to feel that because they go about things very differently. Aries and Virgo tend to get into conflicts with each other as they both are the type of people to think they are right and that they know best. This facet of Aries works for some people, but when they meet a Virgo, they truly meet their greatest challenger. Virgo will challenge Aries in many ways, and not in a way that Aries likes. This pairing works more when it's a Virgo woman and an Aries man, and also works well as a friendship, but overall, this is not Aries' best match.
Aries and Libra Love Compatibility
Aries and Libra are a sweet combo. In terms of their love compatibility, these two are the yin and yang for each other, and this couple is the definition of opposites attracting. Aries and Libra are what we call sister signs in Astrology, which means these two are on opposite sides of each other on the Zodiac Wheel, forming a unique connection. The thing about sister signs is that they represent the part of you that is more hidden or unrecognized yet. This energy can be inspiring and life-changing, but it can also be triggering for people as it’s a relationship meant to challenge you and help you grow. Signs that are opposite each other have a karmic tone to them, and this relationship will often feel like they have known each other for many lifetimes before. This compatibility is 50/50- it works, or it doesn’t.
Aries and Scorpio Love Compatibility
When it comes to their love compatibility, Aries and Scorpio tend to hit it off right away. These two are similar in many ways, thanks to their shared ruling planet, Mars. In traditional Astrology, Mars is the ruler of Scorpio, and in modern times, it’s the ruler of Aries. Mars represents passion, energy, activation, sex, desire, war, and direction in life. When these two come together, they enhance these qualities in each other. This is a very energy-packed relationship and it works when they are flowing in harmony with each other but when differences arise, things can get very shaky and combative. The strengths here are that they both will want to confront issues head-on and always know where each other stands. There is no beating around the bush between these two.
Aries and Sagittarius Love Compatibility
Sagittarius is one of Aries' soulmates in this lifetime. More aspects are keeping this relationship together than tearing them apart, and this is a relationship that Aries can be in long-term. Both of these signs love adventure and will begin a big one once they enter this relationship. There won’t be many dull moments in this pairing, and when they come together it is often serendipitous. This is a power couple in Astrology and a match that works without having to try too hard. The world is their oyster to this couple and they will live an exciting life together. With all fire/fire sign duos, ego clashes are the downfall, and if this can be worked through then these two are endgame.
Aries and Capricorn Love Compatibility
Capricorn is the best earth sign match for Aries. They are both cardinal signs and share a similar drive and inspiration for life. Both of these signs want the best of the best out of life, and by coming together they can create just that. They are very supportive of one another and uplift each other to be their best selves. The energy between the two of them can get competitive, however, if they aren’t working together, though Capricorn's determination and unwavering loyalty often wins Aries over in the long run. Emotionally, they may have a difficult time getting there and forming that deep emotional bond that makes relationships last, but if they see the other in each other’s future, they will try to make it work.
Aries and Aquarius Love Compatibility
Aries and Aquarius are an eccentric couple. These two have a lot of fun together and enjoy each other’s company first and foremost. The love compatibility between this zodiac pairing means synergy here is enticing, and they flow well together when it comes to the day-to-day. This is a couple that would spend a lot of time talking and exploring each other’s worlds. These two learn a lot from each other and try to see the best in each other. Aquarius’ aloof nature may pull the wrong chords in Aries after too long, however, and for the relationship to work they will both have to recognize each other's individuals selves and know that both perspectives and sense of authenticity can be without being less than or unworthy of the other. This is a couple that is destined to meet.
Aries and Pisces Love Compatibility
This is more of an odd pairing for Aries as they are coming from completely opposite ends of life. Aries being the first sign in the zodiac and Pisces being the last explains this type of emotional distance between the two. Aries and Pisces almost live in different worlds, so coming together they can learn a lot from each other. Pisces feels and Aries acts. They are moving at different speeds at all times, but there is something about Aries’ passion and drive that spikes Pisces' curiosity. Pisces' emotional nature will either be a turn-off or an endearing trait, depending on the Aries. Ultimately, this is not one of Aries' best matches, but they both tend to have good intentions for the relationship at the end of the day.
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Joey Bada$$ sat down with xoNecole for an exclusive xoMan Live interview about his views on love, relationships, and life, and during that chat, he answered the questions we all wanted to know. The Power Book III: Raising Kanan star has been making headlines with singer/ actress Serayah after rumors of them dating began swirling. He posted a photo of them together on Instagram on what looked like a date, and a day later, the singer shared a photo of them together on her page.
Serayah also stars in the rapper's new music video "Show Me," in which they play a couple. While talking about how he and the Empire actress met, he revealed whether they were lovers.
“Serayah and I- I’m trying to think when did we cross paths?" he asked himself out loud. "We have some mutual friends. I think we found ourselves at a few, like at the same events. And you know, we just became really cool, you know?"
He continues, "We got a pretty cool friendship, and I think she’s gorgeous. I think she’s talented. I proposed– you know she was in the studio with me one time and you know she heard the song and I know that like she really liked the song. When it came to shooting the video, I just kind of proposed the idea to her and she was down, you know what I’m saying? Shout out to Serayah because she really came through for me and she killed it. She killed it.”
As far as the rumors about them dating, Joey says he's single. “I’m single. To clear all that up– to clear all the confusion on that up. I don’t know; things could happen. Or have those things happened? Not necessarily. It’s not anybody’s business, but for those who are wondering, yes, I am single. The speculation and everything could you know, could die now,” he ends with a laugh.
Serayah also denied that they were dating during an interview with Baller Alert.
Joey considers himself a sapiosexual and so intelligence is important to him in a woman. And when asked if he wants a relationship, he reveals he's "ready." “I’m staying ready, so I don’t gotta get ready if that makes sense, you know what I mean. I don’t want to say that it’s anything I’m looking for, like I understand the way the law of attraction works,” he says.
The self-proclaimed “rapper’s rapper” just finished the new season of Raising Kanan and plans on releasing a lot of new music. He has a new single coming out at the end of the month and is ready to open up his horizons musically to connect more with women.
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