
Health is wealth. We've all heard it before and, as someone who is oh so well in her 40s at this point, I most certainly believe it. When it comes to food specifically, I am well aware that my mother's clean diet while carrying me played a huge role in why I am so healthy now. I also know that when I eat right, I feel so much different than when I go through some drive-thru line.
We as women are some amazing creatures. At the same time, our bodies are so intricately designed that it's important that we provide our system with the kind of fuel that will keep us thriving for years to come. That's why I thought it would be a good idea to share 12 foods that can help specific parts of the female body. If you add these to your diet on a regular basis, I'm confident that you will feel so much better for it. Ready?
1. Portabella mushrooms as a superfood are high in anti-inflammatories which helps your immune system.
I'm not a vegetarian or a vegan but there are times when I'll take a break from eating meat. One food that is a cool meat-textured substitute is the portabella mushroom. In fact, it contains about 20 percent of the protein that your body needs on a daily basis. As far as health benefits go, for starters, portabella mushrooms contain a good amount of selenium, potassium, vitamins B2 and B3, and copper.
This is the kind of mushroom that has conjugated linoleic acids (CLA) in it which is cool because those help to inhibit the growth of cancer cells. Not only that, but portabella mushrooms are high in antioxidants and anti-inflammatories which definitely makes them something that will help to keep your immune system in check in the absolute best way possible.
2. Eating the superfood asparagus supports brain health and keeps your heart strong.
A veggie that contains a good amount of vitamins A, B6, and B12, C, E, K, folate, iron, calcium, antioxidants, and protein is asparagus. If you're looking for something that will help you to lose weight, because asparagus is low in fat and calories, it's a food that can help you to do just that. Because it contains the amino acid asparagine, this vegetable can help to prevent UTIs. The Vitamin E that it contains will fight off free radicals, and there are even studies to support the fact that asparagus can help your body to overcome a hangover (buck, right?). As far as your brain and heart go, since it's loaded with Vitamin B12 and folate, asparagus can keep your brain in great shape and the potassium in it helps to keep your heart strong.
3. Citrus fruit can be a great superfood for breast health.
Oranges. Grapefruit. Lemons. Limes. Tangerines. These are all considered to be citrus fruit which basically means that they are "sour fruits". Since they are high in Vitamin C and C is a great antioxidant, it's important to eat this fruit to keep cold and flu bugs from getting you sick. Citrus fruit is high in fiber to keep you regular, water to keep you hydrated, flavonoids to strengthen your heart and potassium to help prevent kidney stones and strokes. Also, since Vitamin C can increase collagen production, citrus fruit is great at reducing signs of aging too.
The reason why peeling an orange or slicing a grapefruit on a weekly basis is such a good idea is because citrus fruit has a phytochemical limonoid in it which has antitumor, antiproliferative and anti-inflammatory properties. Since breast cancer in Black women has a lower incidence but higher mortality rate, it's definitely something to eat more often.
4. Greek yogurt is a superfood that supports gut health.
Ever wonder what the difference is between Greek yogurt and regular yogurt? At the end of the day, Greek yogurt is strained while regular yogurt isn't which means that Greek yogurt has more nutrients in it. It's the kind of food that is a wonderful source of protein and probiotics. It also has a good amount of vitamin B12, potassium, calcium, and iodine (which keeps your thyroid in good shape). If you're looking for a healthy snack that can replenish some of what you've lost after working out, Greek yogurt has totally got you in that way too. Plus, since it's a fermented food that is loaded with healthy bacteria cultures, it's also a food that can keep your gut in great health; that's a blessing because 80 percent of your immune system is located there.
5. For hormonal balance, quinoa is a good superfood for reducing bodily inflammation.
Quinoa is the kind of food that has grown on me over time. A part of what helped me to keep rocking with it was all of the health benefits that it contains. There is definitely no way around the fact that it is indeed a superfood. First, quinoa is one of the very few plants that is considered to be a complete protein (great news for vegetarians and vegans). It's also high in fiber, iron, magnesium, manganese and zinc. If you're someone who prefers foods that are gluten-free, quinoa totally has your back in that way too. Quinoa is good for your gut, helps to reduce bodily inflammation, and is even able to assist in lowering your cholesterol levels. And since it's a food that helps to keep androgen levels on point (including testosterone which women contain a certain amount of), it's also a really good nutrient to help keep your hormones balanced out.
6. Among other things, the superfood sesame seeds can balance estrogen levels.
Speaking of hormones, if you want to add another food to your diet that will help you out in this area, sesame seeds are perfect. Not only are they a wonderful source of virtually all B vitamins, but these seeds are also a good source of plant protein, fiber, and antioxidants. Many nutritionists dig them because they support thyroid health, control blood sugar levels, encourage bone health, help to reduce bodily inflammation, and can even decrease arthritic discomfort that may be specifically in your knees.
What particularly caught my attention about them, though, is sesame seeds are also an awesome source of phytoestrogens; that's good to know because our estrogen levels tend to be lower during our menstrual cycle and also when we're going through menopause.
7. Orange and yellow vegetables are great superfoods for the skin.
Flavonoids. Vitamins A, C, and K. Potassium. Magnesium. These are some of the nutrients that are in orange and yellow vegetables. Thanks to the high amount of these vitamins that are in them, they are the kind of veggies that fight off free radicals, lower blood pressure, maintain oral health, promote healthy joints, keep your pH balanced, boost your immunity, and lower your cholesterol levels. The reason why veggies like corn, yellow and orange peppers, and carrots are great for your skin is that the beta-carotene (vitamin A) that's in them will help to improve the texture of your skin as well as protect your skin from damaging UV rays.
8. As a superfood, berries can help keep your scalp and hair health on point.
Berries are a low-calorie fruit that's full of water and high in antioxidants and fiber. That alone should be enough of a reason to want to eat them more often, I would think. If you're looking for a sweet way to lower your cholesterol levels, improve your blood sugar levels, fight off free radicals, strengthen your body's arteries, boost brain power, and even decrease your chances of being diagnosed with Parkinson's disease, a fresh bowl of berries can totally make that happen.
Also, if healthy hair is what you're after, the flavonoid anthocyanin in berries like blueberries will help your body to produce the collagen that your hair needs to stay strong. Plus, the vitamin C in berries will feed your hair follicles while increasing blood circulation to your scalp. The vitamin B in berries will give your follicles more oxygen in order to keep your scalp and hair in good shape.
9. Stinging nettle helps lower blood pressure and keep heart disease at bay.
If you're not familiar with what stinging nettle is, it's basically an herb that has antimicrobial, anti-ulcer, astringent, and analgesic properties. It's full of antioxidants too. If you're someone who is looking for a way to naturally treat a bladder infection, relieve joint pain, reduce hay fever-related symptoms or even make eczema symptoms more bearable, stinging nettle has totally got your back.
I decided to include it in this article, though, because of what it can do for your blood. Because stinging nettle is also an herb that is high in vitamin C and iron, if you consume it a couple of times a week, it can help your body produce more red blood cells which can prevent you from becoming anemic. It's also got the flavonoids quercetin and kaempferol in it which is awesome because those help to lower your blood pressure and keep heart disease at bay.
10. For the libido, dark chocolate is a great superfood to add to your diet.
It's kind of crazy that something as delicious as dark chocolate would be as nutritious as it is. There is a ton of iron, fiber, magnesium, zinc, omega-6 fatty acids, and copper, along with antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties that makes it well worth your time to have a 60-percent-of-cocoa-in-it piece a few times a week. Dark chocolate is also good for you because it can help to boost your mood, improve your blood sugar levels, reduce cancer cell growth, lower your (bad) cholesterol levels, reduce the chances of strokes and heart attacks, protect your skin from sun damage, and even suppress your coughs.
Plus, if you want to get in the mood (or get your partner in the mood), the compound phenylethylamine that's also in dark chocolate, along with the properties that in it can help to boost your libido and increases blood flow to your genital region so that you can enjoy sexual pleasure more.
11. Aged cheese is a superfood that is great for fertility.
Uh-huh. I bet you didn't see this one coming, did you? Before getting into how aged cheeses can help you to conceive, let's first break down some of the cheeses that can easily go onto this list. Some include Fontina, Gruyere, Manchego Curado, Dry Monterey Jack, Parmesan, Piccante Provolone, and Sharp-Aged Cheddar because they are all cheeses that have gone through the aging process for six months or more (you can check out a pretty comprehensive list of other aged cheeses on Kosher's site here).
A few of the reasons why aged cheese is good for your overall health and well-being is because it's high in calcium, zinc, phosphorus, enzymes, and protein, along with vitamins A, B12, and K. If you're someone who happens to be lactose-intolerant, there's a pretty good chance that you can still enjoy aged cheese because the processing of aged cheese means that very little (if any) lactose is in it. Aged cheese is also a probiotic food which also makes it good for your gut health.
As far as your fertility goes, these cheeses contain polyamines; they are proteins that help to keep eggs and sperm healthy. Now how dope is that? Oh! I almost forgot that aged cheeses have also been shown to increase longevity. Grilled cheese sandwich, anyone?
12. As a superfood, raw honey reduces stress, regulates blood sugar, and fights off free radicals.
One of the best things to ever happen to any of us is honey. The reason why I say that is it really is criminal that it can taste so good and offer so many health benefits at the same time. If you opt for consuming raw honey (which is honey that isn't processed and has as many health benefits as possible), it contains enzymes, amino acids, B vitamins, Vitamin C, antioxidants, and several minerals too. Eating honey can help to fight allergies (because it contains allergens that cause it to act much like a natural antibiotic); fights off free radicals; contains antibacterial properties to fight off salmonella and E. coli (for starters); promotes oral health, regulates blood sugar; reduces oxidative stress, and is a great hair and skin moisturizer (honey helps to heal pimples and fade acne marks too).
Even with all of this, I'm actually closing out with honey because certain properties in honey are able to offer a calming effect and reduce anxiety. Just take a teaspoon of raw honey at night before turning in and you'll sleep more soundly and feel more relaxed so that you can better handle whatever is coming the next day. Yep, definitely a superfood in every way. Enjoy!
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Exclusive: Viral It Girl Kayla Nicole Is Reclaiming The Mic—And The Narrative
It’s nice to have a podcast when you’re constantly trending online. One week after setting timelines ablaze on Halloween, Kayla Nicole released an episode of her Dear Media pop culture podcast, The Pre-Game, where she took listeners behind the scenes of her viral costume.
The 34-year-old had been torn between dressing up as Beyoncé or Toni Braxton, she says in the episode. She couldn’t decide which version of Bey she’d be, though. Two days before the holiday, she locked in her choice, filming a short recreation of Braxton’s “He Wasn’t Man Enough for Me” music video that has since garnered nearly 6.5M views on TikTok.
Kayla Nicole says she wore a dress that was once worn by Braxton herself for the Halloween costume. “It’s not a secret Toni is more on the petite side. I’m obsessed with all 5’2” of her,” she tells xoNecole via email. “But I’m 5’10'' and not missing any meals, honey, so to my surprise, when I got the dress and it actually fit, I knew it was destiny.”
The episode was the perfect way for the multihyphenate to take control of her own narrative. By addressing the viral moment on her own platform, she was able to stir the conversation and keep the focus on her adoration for Braxton, an artist she says she grew up listening to and who still makes her most-played playlist every year. Elsewhere, she likely would’ve received questions about whether or not the costume was a subliminal aimed at her ex-boyfriend and his pop star fiancée. “I think that people will try to project their own narratives, right?” she said, hinting at this in the episode. “But, for me personally – I think it’s very important to say this in this moment – I’m not in the business of tearing other women down. I’m in the business of celebrating them.”
Kayla Nicole is among xoNecole’s It Girl 100 Class of 2025, powered by SheaMoisture, recognized in the Viral Voices category for her work in media and the trends she sets on our timelines, all while prioritizing her own mental and physical health. As she puts it: “Yes, I’m curating conversations on my podcast The Pre-Game, and cultivating community with my wellness brand Tribe Therepē.”
Despite being the frequent topic of conversation online, Kayla Nicole says she’s learning to take advantage of her growing social media platform without becoming consumed by it. “I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out,” she says.
On The Pre-Game, which launched earlier this year, she has positioned herself as listeners “homegirl.” “There’s definitely a delicate dance between being genuine and oversharing, and I’ve had to learn that the hard way. Now I share from a place of reflection, not reaction,” she says. “If it can help someone feel seen or less alone, I’ll talk about it within reason. But I’ve certainly learned to protect parts of my life that I cherish most. I share what serves connection but doesn’t cost me peace.
"I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out."

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Throughout each episode, she sips a cocktail and addresses trending topics (even when they involve herself). It’s a platform the Pepperdine University alumnus has been preparing to have since she graduated with a degree in broadcast journalism, with a concentration in political science.
“I just knew I was going to end up on a local news network at the head anchor table, breaking high speed chases, and tossing it to the weather girl,” she says. Instead, she ended up working as an assistant at TMZ before covering sports as a freelance reporter. (She’s said she didn’t work for ESPN, despite previous reports saying otherwise.) The Pre-Game combines her love for pop culture and sports in a way that once felt inaccessible to her in traditional media.
She’s not just a podcaster, though. When she’s not behind the mic, taking acting classes or making her New York Fashion Week debut, Kayla Nicole is also busy elevating her wellness brand Tribe Therepē, where she shares her workouts and the workout equipment that helps her look chic while staying fit. She says the brand will add apparel to its line up in early 2026.
“Tribe Therepē has evolved into exactly what I have always envisioned. A community of women who care about being fit not just for the aesthetic, but for their mental and emotional well-being too. It’s grounded. It’s feminine. It’s strong,” she says. “And honestly, it's a reflection of where I am in my life right now. I feel so damn good - mentally, emotionally, and physically. And I am grateful to be in a space where I can pour that love and light back into the community that continues to pour into me.”
Tap into the full It Girl 100 Class of 2025 and meet all the women changing game this year and beyond. See the full list here.
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More Than Gratitude: 7 Signs You're Struggling With Contentment In Your Life
If Thanksgiving happens to be your favorite holiday — or you just happen to be a longstanding participant of it — then there is one tradition that you are probably familiar with. Usually, before everyone eats, each individual expresses at least one thing that they are grateful for. I actually think that is one of the best things about the holiday because it reminds people to slow down and really reflect on how to be in the moment and think about the blessings that they have. And that, my friend, is what gets folks into the mindset of knowing how to be…content — even if it’s just for a brief moment.
Contentment. By definition, it’s the state of not only being “satisfied with what one is or has” but also “not wanting more or anything else.” And you know what? Although it might not be a popular aspiration of many, it is a sign of spiritual maturity on certain levels. After all, it is the Apostle Paul who once said, “Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content…” (Philippians 4:19 — NKJV).
Being content is about not complaining. Being content is about learning to be comfortable in your present circumstances. Being content is about choosing to find joy and fulfillment, on some level, and in some way, on a daily basis.
Personally, I dig all of this so much because when you have mastered true inner contentment, it creates stability, self-awareness, and a type of resilience that makes you…shoot, powerful beyond measure, if you ask me. Because when someone knows how to “find the good” and “make peace,” regardless of what is going on around them, they truly are unstoppable. Yeah, on so many levels, contentment is the ultimate life hack. It’s something that each and every one of us should aspire to become: completely and genuinely content.
Thanksgiving is basically moments away at this point. In preparation for that time of self-reflection, pour yourself a glass of wine, turn on some soft music, sit on your coach, and then ask yourself, “Am I content?” If you’re not sure (or you need the definition unpacked for you just a bit more), here are seven signs that you may not be…and yet, there is no time like the present to do something about it.
1. You’re Super Impatient
GiphyHonestly, putting another Scripture right here could be all that is needed in order to bring this point to a swift and abrupt end. Which one? I Corinthians 13, the Love Chapter, starts off with “Love is patient” (I Corinthians 13:4). Yeah, if you want to know if you love yourself and love yourself well, how patient are you…including with yourself? Throughout the years, I have shared one of my favorite definitions of "patient" in several different articles: “bearing provocation, annoyance, misfortune, delay, hardship, pain, etc., with fortitude and calm and without complaint, anger, or the like.” For me, it’s a blaring reminder that mastering patience isn’t just about waiting (more on that in a sec); it’s about waiting with grace.
Content people can do this because, on some level, they know how to apply the John Piper quote, "God is always doing 10,000 things in your life, and you may be aware of three of them." Another way of looking at this is people who can wait well — without complaining or getting annoyed by delays or challenges in the meantime — get that in order for things to truly come together, there are lots of moving parts…some that they don’t even know about. And so, if they want the best outcome, yes, waiting well is oftentimes not just involved; it is required.
Impatient people don’t get any of this. That’s why they are so stressed out all of the time.
2. You’re Worried About Things You Can’t Control
GiphyThis. Past. Election. Chile. And then the cabinet that that man is putting together as we speak? I don’t even want to get my blood pressure up, expounding on it. Let me just pivot by adding one more Scripture — because it is beyond fitting: “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” (Matthew 6:34 — NKJV)
Although worrying is something that pretty much everyone does at one point or another, one of my favorite quotes on it is by an American humorist by the name of Erma Bombeck: “Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.” And really, when you stop to really think about worrying, isn’t that the truth? For one thing, all worrying does, by definition, is cause you to torment yourself by focusing on things that aren’t even going to happen (somewhere between 85-90 percent of the time, in fact; there is actually a science on that) or trying to control things that are beyond your control.
If being a worry wart is your internal struggle, my advice would be to look at life this way: If you’re worried that you’re about to get written up for getting to work late again, leave your house earlier — you can control that. On the other hand, if you’re worried that you’re going to get laid off before the holiday season ends, so long as you’ve been doing your best (which is also something that you can control), please put your energy elsewhere because that is something that you can’t control.
And I promise that when you choose to be calm and confident over worrying yourself to death, that can help you to manage what you can’t control so much easier. Oh, and your health will thank you, too, because worry is attached to things like insomnia, muscle tension, headaches, overeating, and drinking too much. All this over things that probably won’t happen in the first place? Yeah, sis…(choose to) relax.
And by choosing to chill out, there is some contentment that follows because you will see the good as much as, if not more than, the potential bad. Trust me.
3. The Past and/or Future Consume You
GiphyOn the heels of the Scripture that I just provided for the previous point, it also applies to this one. You know, back when I was doing some intentional research on forgiveness, I always appreciated the insight of author Gary Zukav: “Forgiveness is accepting that the past cannot change.” While this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t hold people accountable for what they have done, it does help you to be compassionate with those who are truly sorry (check out “Heads Up: It's NOT An Apology If An Amend Isn't Made”) because, no matter what has transpired between you and them, one thing they can’t do is go back into a time machine and change it.
And you know what? When it comes to the mistakes — or, let’s be real, sometimes they are conscious poor decisions — you have made, you can’t either. So, why let their misdeeds or your own consume you to the point of internally destroying you?
Then there’s the future. What if you get robbed? What if your mom gets cancer? What if your husband files for divorce? Girl, if you are caught up in the future that hasn’t even happened yet, you are definitely gonna drive yourself up the wall! And this is why so many mental health experts and platforms are all about encouraging individuals to live in the moment. You can do this by meditating, taking breaks from social media (and the news), journaling, doing things that you enjoy (instead of waiting to put them off), and resting.
Listen, one of the best things about choosing to only focus on the here and now is you can find little things about it to be content with — and that helps you to be/become more content overall.
4. You Always Think About Wanting More
GiphyAlthough it certainly wasn’t my plan for this piece to be so Scripture-heavy, I’ve got to flow with what immediately comes to mind and, for this point, the verse, “So are the ways of everyone who is greedy for gain; It takes away the life of its owners” (Proverbs 1:19 — NKJV) is it. And just what does it mean to be greedy? A greedy individual isn’t just low-key obsessed with getting and having more — please catch it — they are also quite EAGER.
Eager folks also tend to be impatient. Eager folks are perceived by others as being very intense (and not in a good way). More times than not, eager folks haven’t really mastered how to take a moment to appreciate what they do have because all they care about is what’s next. And when you’re in a state of that kind of, well, anxiety…how could it not affect your quality of life? I mean, really.
And what if you read all of that and said, “I’m not greedy; I’m just ambitious” — listen, there is nothing wrong with having goals and wanting to obtain them. However, an ambitious individual knows how to find balance. If they get a promotion, they will schedule a vacation to celebrate it. If they just got a new car, they are not in a rush to get a new house until they can financially afford it. If they were just proposed to with a really nice ring, they aren’t hounding their new fiancé about setting a date within the next two weeks.
People who always want more, without taking the time to enjoy what they already have, are never going to be content. Why? Because there is always something else that you can want…even if you don’t need it or it really isn’t the time for it. Meanwhile, content people get that it’s a good thing to not go after everything all of the time; that it’s far wiser to embrace what is already before them — because some folks don’t even have…that.
5. You Compare Yourself to Others
GiphySomething that I actually get asked fairly often is, do I feel “some type of way” that I do so much work in the realm of marriage when I’ve never been married myself. The short answer is “absolutely not” because I know that I could’ve been married, a few times over, at this point; however, I am just as intentional about not wanting to be divorced as I am about being in a healthy marriage, not just “a marriage.”
I’m grateful to be in that head and heart space too; otherwise, I would be out here comparing myself to other people — and there is nothing good, healthy, wise, profitable, or beneficial about doing that. In fact, science isn’t a fan of playing the “keeping up with the Joneses” game, either.
According to science, that can ultimately do things like lower your self-esteem, cause you to only see the bad/negative things in your world (in comparison to other people), and it can jack up your perception of what’s really going on with other people. For instance, if you’re 33 and comparing yourself to your friends who are already married and parents, you might want to talk to them about what their day-to-day, beyond their IG posts, is like.
Because while prayerfully, their life is filled with many blessings, if they are being totally honest with you, they will also share that you’ve got some “pros” to your life too (honey, there are some real benefits to being single; check out “If You're Not In Love With Being Single, Ask Yourself These 6 Questions.,” “10 Bona Fide Benefits Of Being Single,” and “10 Words That'll Make You Totally Rethink The Word 'Single'”). Content people get that every season does — because it’s true.
6. You Don’t Verbalize Gratitude Often
GiphyThere is someone in my world who I actually try to avoid as much as possible. It’s not that she’s not smart, and honestly, she’s one of the funniest individuals that I’ve ever known (and I’ve known her for most of my adult life). It’s just that…she is always wanting something, and I find that to make her a very draining individual. Lawd, even as I am typing all of this out, I’m trying to recall a time when I’ve heard her say, “thank you” for something (no joke), let alone express any form of genuine gratitude. She’s just got such a sense of entitlement that whatever she does receive, she thinks she’s owed and what she doesn’t have, she believes that something is wrong if it hasn’t arrived yet. Geeze, what a horrible type of existence.
You don’t have to take my word for it either because there is plenty of data out here to support that people who don’t take the time to be grateful for what they have ended up being unhappy, more stressed out, in more physical pain (yes, literally) and definitely more negative than everyone else — which would explain why people don’t like hanging out with them as much.
So, since this is the time when gratitude is the theme of the season, think about what you are grateful for when it comes to what you’ve accomplished this year, then write it down and post it up somewhere. Then, as far as the individuals, for whom you are grateful for — send them a handwritten note, get them a gift card to their favorite coffee shop, or even just call to tell them.
One of the most beautiful things about being in a state of contentment is it reminds you of a lot of what you already have. It really is enough…for now…in this very moment.
7. Being (and Living) Satisfied Is a Foreign Concept to You
Giphy“Tubi movies” really is a complete sentence. LOL. And yes, sometimes, when I’m taking a writing break, I will check out some of the most…I-wouldn’t-normally ones, just to lend my support. In walks Never Satisfied with its own self-explanatory meaning. Y’all, it really is oh so true that there are folks out here dealing with some unpredictable and sometimes even truly dire consequences — and it’s all because they didn’t know how to sit down somewhere and learn how to be satisfied with the people, places, things, and ideas that they already have.
That said, I am indeed a quotes gal, and one of my favorites on the topic of satisfaction is by actor Christopher Reeve: “Success is finding satisfaction in giving a little more than you take,” and although I don’t do what I’m about to do often (because I try to take Matthew 6:1-4 very literally and seriously), I’m going to illustrate what he said about satisfaction by sharing a recent situation.
This past week, a nurse practitioner (I prefer those to doctors) diagnosed me with wrist tendonitis for the first time in my life. If you knew how many keystrokes that I do a day, you’d probably be shocked that it took this long. Anyway, as I was waiting in line to get a prescription, a young Black man was basically freaking out because his insurance was refusing to cover his own meds. According to what he was telling the pharmacist, he always only pays $5; however, this time, they were charging $62, he simply didn’t have it, and the insurance company was not picking up.
As I watched him shaking and sweating while saying that he really needed it today and fretting while talking to his mom on the phone, I offered to cover it — and after going back and forth with him for about three minutes, I did. In my mind, although I didn’t plan on spending about $85 (total) that day, the little inconvenience that it was costing me was nothing in comparison to how much it was going to benefit him — I could tell from how he and his mother reacted (even the pharmacist mouthed “thank you so much”), and that is what made it money well spent.
To help someone who had no way of helping themselves in the moment? That brought me a lot of satisfaction because it’s nice to lighten someone’s load while leaving it to karma to handle it. ALL OF IT.
And that’s why I thought it was best to wrap all of this up with a reminder that being satisfied is being content. And when you can be so satisfied with your life that you want to help others? That is a level of contentment that is truly unmatched because you start looking for ways to bless others simply so that they can feel just as content as you do.
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Our culture? It really is never satisfied, which explains why a lot of people are so miserable. SMDH. You don’t have to be like the masses, though. This Thanksgiving, please purpose in your mind (and heart) to be(come) more content. It will make you a rare gem that benefits everyone and everything around you.
Including yourself, sis. No doubt about it.
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Originally published on November 28, 2024









