Mother's Day is the perfect time to bring back the "for us by us" movement. Maybe I shouldn't say "bring back," because it never really left. Black women have been doing it for the culture for quite some time. So, what better way to salute the women who birthed us?
While we uplift the special women in our lives, why not support a female, black-owned company in the process? While you're out shopping for those last-minute Mother's Day gifts, check out unique gifts to purchase from businesses owned by other Black women.
Addie Rawr Stationery Line
Baby 2 Be Card
Addie Rawr
Addie Rawr recently released a brand new stationary line and IT. IS. EVERYTHING. It was just in time to clap it up for the women in our family from our moms to the expectant mothers who will be celebrating their very first Mother's Day. How thoughtful is that? The best part is that the stationary doesn't just look amazing, it looks super personalized. It can also be paired with other items like a Goal Getter Journal, a Be Your Own Boss planner or Growth Journal that will remind your mom that it's never too late to go after her goals. Get into it!
Domaine Curry Wine Set
After raising us, it's safe to say our moms deserve one, or two… or four bottles of wine on us. Ayesha Curry, celebrity chef and wife to Golden State Warriors star Steph Curry, paired up with his sister Sydel to launch the Domaine Curry wine line. The blend is described as, "blended wine that mirrors [Ayesha Curry's] joie de vivre and embodies the essence of balanced flavors and palatal pleasures." If you ask me, that sounds like quite an amazing Mother's Day for any hard-working mom.
#GirlCEO Gear
Girl CEO Apparel
If you haven't gotten into Girl CEO, Mother's Day is the right day to try it. It's no secret women of color are making their own money, launching their own brands and being their own boss. Why not celebrate your mom for the boss she is with gear from Girl CEO? It also features the cutest line for kids, so the Mommy & Me cuteness can be on fleek even more for Mother's Day. Of course, it also offers t-shirt dresses, Dad Hats and accessories. Go for it!
The Lip Bar Drip
The Lip Bar
If your mom is into makeup, beauty and likes a little pop, an item from The Lip Bar could be perfect for her. The founder, Melissa Butler, launched the line after being upset with all of the red tape in the beauty industry. She broke barriers and released a lipstick line with unique and fun colors, from purple to blue. But of course, there are classic colors in there too like nude, which is super necessary, and red, which is the ultimate classic.
Good Night Darling Co.
Body & Room Mini Fragrance Spray
Good Night Darling Co.
What mom doesn't need a good night's sleep? From sleepless nights when we were little to keeping up the grind into our adult years, offering products to help your mom sleep in Heavenly peace is a beautiful idea for Mother's Day. Good Night Darling Co., started by Aycee Brown, features nighttime products like pillow spray, deep detox bath soak and some sleepwear that can make Mom feel even more comfortable (not to mention an adorable "real women nap" mug. Ultimately, this gift can help any mom feel better about getting some much-needed sleep.
Posh Candle Company
Mama Needs A Break Kit
Posh Candle Co.
It's safe to say candles have been a go-to Mother's Day gift since we were little. Whether it smells like cinnamon or vanilla, mothers around the world have gasped in excitement after opening their candle year after year. Whatever scent you decide on this year, each of the candles via Posh Candle Company are 100% soy and hand-poured. Basically, they're literally handmade with care. Plus, the jars are reusable. So along with making Mom smile once again, you can help save the world. Let us dust off your cape.
Effortless Composition
India Agate Decor On Stand
Effortless Composition
Help Mom step up her home décor! Whether it's your mother, grandmother, aunt, sister, any woman in our lives can benefit from a little home retail therapy. And Effortless Composition is the move. Its founder, Brittiny Terry, started the adorable line thanks to the influence she received from her own childhood home's décor; from a Cleopatra statue to the iconic praying hands photo. As for what Effortless Composition has to offer, the Boho chic line and unique artwork helps it live up to its name.
Oye Shea Butter
Oye Shea Butter
Oye
Can you ever go wrong with skincare? Especially when it comes from a brand owned by another Black woman. In this case, it's one whose own mother influenced her to start Oye Shea Butter. Tolu Oye's mom often went to Nigeria to get nuts from shea trees. She'd use that to help treat Oye's eczema and burns. And it was a miracle worker in its own right. Now, Oye Shea Butter offers not just skincare products but also healing agents for skin, hair, and all things woman.
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Although this might seem like a heavy way to intro this particular topic, because the O Method is an orgasm-achieving technique that centers around housing energy, embracing the mental practice of manifestation, and the attempt to achieve the best climaxes ever — it all works together pretty well if you ask me. If you want to take your orgasms to the next level, it’s important that you get out of yourself (to a certain extent), that you see the spiritual role that manifestation plays, and that you are open to trying new things. No doubt about it.
So, let’s learn more about what the O Method is all about and how it very well could be just what you’ve been looking for…even if you didn’t know it.
What Is the “O Method” All About?
GiphyQuestion: When’s the last time you’ve had an orgasm? Not just any orgasm — I mean a really mind-blowing one (I’ll give you a second to think about it). Now, what if you could manifest that experience to the point where it wasn’t a rare occurrence but something that happened almost every time that you and your partner had sex with each other? How absolutely awesome would that be?
That is pretty much what the O Method is all about — helping you achieve the kind of orgasms (and sexual pleasure, in general) that you desire through the practice of manifestation. And since your biggest sex organ is your brain, it would make perfect sense that even with all of the tips and techniques that you might learn to do as far as your body is concerned, honing in on what you think about is super imperative to sexual fulfillment, too. And that’s just where manifestation comes in.
What If You’ve Never “Manifested” Anything Before?
GiphyBefore we get into a quick lesson on manifestation, I think it’s important to mention two things. One, for the cynics, there is a lot of truth in the fact that it’s got some solid spiritual basis to it because even the Good Book says that as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23:7). At the same time, that same Good Book tells us that faith without works is dead (James 2:14-26). So, while it is always a good idea to focus on good, positive, and productive thoughts, just thinking about them isn’t enough — at some point, you’ve also gotta get out here and DO something (bookmark that).
Okay, with that mini-sermon out of the way, whether it’s in the bedroom or not, manifestation is basically about focusing on something tangible that you desire, harnessing your energy in such a way that your words and actions are directed towards that longing until what you want, well, manifests. For the record, aside from this having a spiritual backing to it, in many ways, science cosigns on manifesting, too. There is actually a scientific process known as neuroplasticity that consists of reframing your mind so that your actions ultimately end up aligning with your goals — and that is another way to look at manifestation.
So, what if you’re someone who has never set out to do a manifestation practice before? No worries. Something that’s awesome about it is there are several different approaches that you can take.
Some people manifest what they want in their lives via:
- Journaling
- Visualization/Creating vision boards
- Writing down their desires before going to bed (so that they can “download” them into their dream state)
- Creating mantras and affirmations
- Applying the 369 Manifestation Method (you can learn more about that here)
- Meditating
- Learning more about what you want to manifest (which brings forth clarity)
This is important to keep in mind because, when it comes to manifesting the types of orgasms that you want to have, as you can see, you can try different manifestation methods until you find one (or ones) that you are truly comfortable with. One that can ease you into the entire process rather smoothly is something known as sex journaling.
How Sex Journaling Can Actually Help You to Have an Orgasm
GiphyAs a writer, I’m a big fan of journaling. Mostly because it’s a way to get out some of your deepest thoughts and feelings so that you’re able to really process what is happening inside of you in a private setting. And when it comes to sex journaling, specifically, it’s all about centering yourself on the things sexually that you want to “unpack,” get clarity on or come to some revelations about. For instance, if there’s only been one partner from your past who’s been able to help you achieve the type of orgasms that you wish to manifest, journaling about what makes him different from the other guys can provide you with some solid ah-ha moments.
Or if you need help getting as specific as possible about the sexual experiences that you’re after, journaling can help to make that happen for you — because one thing that manifesting reminds us all to do is be as specific as possible.
Yeah, simply saying, “I want to have better sex” isn’t detailed enough when you want to get your energy to match with your desires — instead, describe how all of your senses should feel in the experience, along with why, that can get you so much closer to achieving your goal. Once those things are documented, you can segue into creating mantras and/or meditation that are based on them. Yeah, sex journaling really is an underrated superpower on a lot of levels (check out “The Art Of Sex Journaling (And Why You Should Do It)”).
5 Tips for Making the O Method Work for You
GiphyNow that you know more about what the O Method is and how manifestation plays a direct role in its process, let’s talk about five ways to make the O Method truly effective in your own (sex) life.
1. Focus, FULLY, on your feminine energy. What do rose quartz, amethyst, moonstone (which is a Gemini birthstone as well; yes, I’m a Gemini), selenite, and rhodonite all have in common? They’re crystals that help you to go deeper into your divine feminine energy. Traits that are associated with this include compassion, creativity, kindness, gentleness, and sensuality (feminine energy is also accepting and forgiving). If you were to study energy from a biological standpoint, it’s about producing change, responding to stimuli, and having the ability to do what needs to be done (work). So, when it comes to manifesting the kind of orgasms or sexual experiences that you want, using things like your creativity and gentleness in your thoughts and actions can play a role in bringing balance to your partner’s masculinity, which can create a profound sense of pleasure — after all, opposites do attract.
2. Don’t hold back on what it is that you desire. Whenever I interview sex therapists, something that they all say is, a huge mistake that people make as far as sexual satisfaction is concerned is, they have walls up — not just with their partners but even within themselves. Sometimes, there is intimidation, fear, or even shame around what they really want to happen during sex to the point where they aren’t able to channel their energy fully in those directions in order to manifest what they want. For the O Method to work, you can’t let those types of negative emotions hinder you; the more you are able to articulate what you want and how you want it, the better chance you have of making it happen. So yes, get graphic. As graphic as possible.
3. Make manifestation a daily practice. Repetition is important when it comes to manifestation. That’s because the more you declare what you desire (a mantra), get still and think on it (meditation), or look at the “art” that you’ve created surrounding it (visualization), the quicker it becomes a part of you. So yes, make manifestation a daily practice. For instance, if one of your mantras is, “I am going to have intensely passionate orgasms, one right after the other,” don’t just state that 15 minutes before sex is going to happen. Wake up and declare it. Then say it on your lunch break. And again before turning in. The more your thoughts are “streamlined” in this way, the easier it will be for your body to follow suit.
4. Share this practice with your partner. If you were to do even more research on the O Method, one thing that most of the articles will mention is it’s a practice that you can do alone or with your partner. Indeed. However, I just want to make sure that you get into your psyche that great sex is, in part, about good communication. And so, the more comfortable you are sharing with your partner what you are doing as far as the O Method is concerned and what you ultimately want to happen as a result of the practice, the easier it will be for him to “match your energy” — both in and out of the bedroom. And when your partner is on the same page as you? That definitely increases the chances of attaining your sexual desires — exponentially so.
5. Stay in the moment. While I was reading one article on manifestation, I really appreciated something that the author said: manifestation isn’t some supernatural power. In other words, while it can be beneficial, it’s not like you can just think of something, and it instantly appears out of nowhere. Manifesting is a discipline, and it must be accompanied by action, consistency, and patience — this means that you must also practice mindfulness. Meaning, now that you know better what you’re looking to achieve as far as sex is concerned, every time that it transpires, maintain a level of positive energy, remember what your end goal is, and then determine in your mind to enjoy the moments as they come. Remember, manifestation isn’t to add stress…it’s to cultivate clarity.
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At the end of the day, the O Method is simply a way of reminding you that your mind plays a huge role in your sexual pleasure, and when you channel it and your energy exactly where you want them both to go, you’ll be amazed what your body is capable of doing…and accomplishing.
So, what kind of orgasm are you wanting to achieve? You’ve got a tool to get you there. USE IT.
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