Push gifts are given by a spouse or to one’s self in order to celebrate the immaculateness of womanhood i.e. growing and birthing a new life. We’ve seen them on a more luxurious scale but it doesn’t have to be anything as extravagant as a new car or even jewelry. We’ve also seen the world of delusion in which people have made it out to be a controversial topic as though women didn’t come with dowries not all that long ago, which proves their value to the families or husbands they’re married off to. While I won’t waste time on that, what I will say is if they’re not for you, don’t invest in one but also don’t comment on your feelings towards other women who receive them either.
You can argue with your mama or Beyoncé, who was once rumored to have negotiated in the terms of her prenup that Jay-Z must pay her $5 million per child. We know all too well that giving birth is not for the faint of heart, and for Black women in particular the odds are even less in our favor when it comes to maternal-fetal mortality rates. Not to alarm anyone unnecessarily, but whether a mom-to-be desires children or not, they are entitled to a push gift. FYI, you don’t have to have "pushed" your baby out in order to be gifted – they’re for C-section mommies just the same.
Now that we’ve had that discussion, let's further discuss acceptable push gifts. This is for you and your partner to decide, however, we’re sure you’re open to suggestions and we have them. Here are six push gifts that you can either treat yourself to (hello, single mamas) or nudge your partner in the direction of.
Custom Footprint Pendant
My Forever Child
On this sterling silver round pendant, your child's handprints or footprints can be engraved as a customizable keepsake cementing a moment of time for you and your newborn. My Forever Child offers a range of options for custom engraving, from one footprint to one handprint and one footprint.
Talia Sari Custom Map Necklace
Talia Sari
Another custom jewelry find, what is unique about Talia Sari's offering is the custom map jewelry. Make a statement with a custom map that shows the location of your child and keep that place close to your heart always, but in a fashionable way.
Gold Circle Mama Necklace
Tiny Tags
This "discreet and dainty" necklace offers simplicity and charm and makes a statement in a subtle way. Wear your new 'mama' title close to your heart with a piece of jewelry that displays your new role with pride.
Wine Subscription Box
McBride Sisters
Now that I’m aware that even breastfeeding moms are able to have their wine and sip it too (without pumping and dumping), I strongly suggest a one-year subscription to a wine club. This subscription by McBride Sisters is a perfect choice.
Limited-Edition Zodiac Ornament Collection
Joanna Buchanan
For the Astro-mom, this is the perfect gift. These blinged-out ornament pendants will make for the perfect addition to your first Christmas and add a little glamor to the tree.
“On the Day You Were Born” Print
Etsy
Another gift for the Astro folk, especially the ones who can give you the entire rundown on their birth chart – and did I mention? One of my favorites! This is a canvas print showcasing the stars at the exact time your little one was brought into this world. OurLoveWasBorn has various sizes and price points that may better suit your needs.
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xoNecole sat down with Luke James to talk about his latest series and all the complexity surrounding it—from the challenges taking on this out-of-the-box role to the show's depiction of the perplexing history of the relationship between Black Americans and police. When describing the opportunity to bring Edmund's character to life, Luke was overjoyed to show the audience yet another level of his masterful acting talents.
"It was like bathing in the sun," he said. "I was like, thank you! Another opportunity for me to be great—for me to expand my territory. I'm just elated to be a part of it and to see myself in a different light, something I didn't think I could do." He continued, "There are parts of you that says, 'Go for it because this is what you do.' But then also that's why it's a challenge because you're like, 'um, I don't know if I'm as free as I need to be to be able to do this.' Little Marvin just created such a safe space for me to be able to do this, and I'm grateful for everything I've been able to do to lead to this."
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Them: The Scare, like the first season, shines a light on the plight of Black Americans in the United States. This time, the story is taking place in the 1990s, at the height of the Rodney King riots in Los Angeles. While the series presents many underlying themes, one that stands out is Black people and the complicated relationship with the police. "For the audience, I think it sets the tone for the era that we're in and the amount of chaos that's in the air in Los Angeles and around the country from this heinous incident. And I say it just sets the tone of the anxiety and anxiousness that everybody is feeling in their own households."
James has been a longtime advocate against police brutality himself. He has even featured Elijah McClain, the 23-year-old Colorado man who died after being forcibly detained by officers, as his Instagram avatar for the past five years. So, as you can imagine, this script was close to his heart. "Elijah was a soft-loving oddball. Different than anyone but loving and a musical genius. He was just open and wanted to be loved and seen."
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Luke continued, "His life was taken from him. I resonate with his spirit and his words...through all the struggle and the pain he still found it in him to say, 'I love you and I forgive you.' And that's who we are as people—to our own detriment sometimes. He's someone I don't want people to forget. I have yet to remove his face from my world because I have yet to let go of his voice, let go of that being [because] there's so many people we have lost in our history that so often get forgotten."
He concluded, "I think that's the importance of such artwork that moves us to think and talk about it. Yes, it's entertaining. We get to come together and be spooked together. But then we come together and we think, 'Damn, Edmund needed someone to talk to. Edmund needed help... a lot [of] things could have been different. Edmund could have been saved.'
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