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Ever Tried To Get That Old Thing Back? 4 ‘Insecure’ Fans Sound-Off

'LowKey Happy' was the Black love display we needed this week.

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This season of Insecure just keeps getting more and more spicy. We went from Molly and Andrew keeping it hella hot in the bedroom in Mexico last week to Issa and Lawrence getting freaky in the sheets in Inglewood this week. That's right, Issa and Lawrence had the reunion we've all been anticipating—that is, unless you're team Nathan. Either way, this episode written by Natasha Rothwell, the actress who plays Kelli, gave us all the feels and a welcome escape from the pain the Black community is experiencing right now in the wake of George Floyd's death and the deaths of countless others. #RIPGeorgeFloyd #ICantBreathe #BlackLivesMatter

Here's the recap…

We saw Lawrence call up Issa to meet up last week and this week we finally got to see that meet up. It was perfect… almost. Distracting from all the rekindling and nostalgia was Condola and Lawrence's pending plans to meet up with her later that night. That was until things with Issa turned into a sleepover and Condola became a non-factor… at least for the night.

Watching this episode was such a sweet experience, it showed that whatever past issues Issa and Lawrence had just melted away and you got lost in their honest expression of Black love. It was a beautiful sight to see during times like these. BUT was getting that old thing back worth it? We'll have to wait till Insecure Sunday to see, but in the meantime let's talk about backtracking to exes or old flames.

Full disclosure, I wasn't sold on Issa and Lawrence reuniting (Lawrence Hive, forgive me), but then I saw the growth they both exhibited and may be having a change of heart. Although, Condola's urgency to talk has me STRESSED. But while we balance our breathing exercises and fighting for justice, I asked Insecure fans their thoughts:

Have you ever backtracked to an ex or old situation? Pros? Cons?

I’m Good Luv, Enjoy

"I once backtracked to an old flame. OK not once but many times, far too many times (laughs). What did it bring me? The same thing every time. Nothing. The best advice I can give is next time they hit you up or you feel like going backwards, hit them with the 'I'm good luv enjoy!'" –Sgt. Simone Victor U.S. Army

Don't Be The Side Chick If You Were Originally The Main

"I'm guilty. The comfort of backtracking to an ex has been a part of my past. I think there are so many factors that play a role in making this decision. I know when I watched this episode and saw it leaning towards Issa staying the night, I was like, 'noooo' but, I get it. Sometimes, you just need a temporary companion and we convince ourselves that at least we don't have to add a new person if we're still able to get that old thing back, even if it's just for a night. I'll start with the cons: 1) It opens the door to emotions that might not be mutually matched. You can't predict how that interaction, whether sexually or straight platonic, will affect you afterwards. 2) If you're longing for that ex because you're lonely or your other boo is not available, chances are you have to continue working on yourself a bit more. Leave them and any other prospect alone for that matter. Do you, boo! 3) Analyze how you both made it back into each other's lives and be mindful of their situations outside of you. Don't be the side chick if you were originally the main. Just don't do it.

"The pros: 1) If it's mutual and you both found the maturity to release the cause and purpose of why you broke up like Lawrence and Issa did, maybe it would help the growth of a newfound relationship. 2) Stepping into the past leaves no room for adding another mistake into your present. Possibly (laughs). 3) Sometimes after a breakup, we don't take accountability for ourselves. We are so quick to blame. Taking the time to backtrack after a breakup can help you understand things about yourself that maybe your feelings wouldn't allow earlier on. You can analyze and apply for your future—not necessarily with that person.

"Either way, don't act on emotions ONLY when you find yourself backed into a corner with your ex. Someone, perhaps both parties, have to be able to figure out how to get out of that 'corner.'"—Saphia Louise, photographer/poet

Same Old, Same Old

"I definitely backtracked before, but I see no pros in it. Old situations are old situations for a reason." –Marco Cayetano, Sales, Vast Auto

What’s The Reason? (Cardi B Voice)

"I'm sure a lot of us received random texts from old flames once the pandemic hit. Was it them genuinely checking up on you, reflecting on their wrongs, or pure boredom?!

"Yes, I've backtracked, and it never ends well. You spend so much time wondering what if, and maybe they've changed. When in hindsight, there was a reason we never lasted in the first place. Issa and Lawrence... well I guess we'll have to wait until episode 9." –Marie Lewis, Social Media Manager

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