Capricorn is one of the most loyal partners to have in life. Capricorns will never admit this but once they are in love or find someone they want to commit to, they are down bad.
Capricorn in Love & Relationships
Capricorns thrive in stable environments, and they need this type of energy in their relationships as well. They aren’t the ones to rock the boat or make the relationship more difficult than it needs to be. You know exactly what you are getting when you get into a relationship with a Capricorn, and they aren’t too fond of change.
Capricorn Love Compatibility: Best & Worst Matches in the Zodiac
If you are someone Capricorn believes in, they will give all of their dedication and time to the relationship and will set goals here that help the relationship in the long haul and the success of it overall. Being in a relationship with a Capricorn is like being with someone who always has your back.
Even if they don’t agree with something you are doing or want to do, they won’t put you on blast to others and tend to deal with challenges in private. Their respect for their partners in love is hard to shake, and once they commit to something, they see it as being a forever type thing.
However, Capricorn is a stubborn sign who is often stuck in their ways and it can be difficult for their partners to get them to understand their perspective or where they are coming from. Capricorns also isn’t the most emotional signs to be in a relationship with so if you are looking for public displays of affection, you are better off with a Leo. What Capricorn will provide, however, is something that will last the tests of time, something you can grasp, and a relationship built on mutual trust and stability.
Who Are Capricorns Most Compatible With?
Capricorn + Aries Love Compatibility
This pairing is the definition of a power couple. Capricorn and Aries individually are the bosses of the zodiac, and when they come together as a team they are truly unstoppable. If both of these signs are willing to put their egos aside for the sake of the happiness of the relationship then this can definitely work. What Capricorn wants in life, Aries wants as well. Being that they are cardinal signs, they both enjoy initiating projects, working toward something, and creating a legacy for themselves. However, Aries tend to get stuck at square one, and Capricorns also have a tendency for stagnation, and they could butt heads from time to time if they aren’t actively doing things for fun that they enjoy, and not keeping things too serious all the time.
Capricorn + Taurus Love Compatibility
Capricorn and Taurus are a match made in heaven. I don’t always ship same-element duos as I find they can get quite boring, but when it comes to earth signs, they do have a down-to-earth energy that works well together when it comes to the longevity of a relationship. Capricorn appreciates Taurus’ need for stability and security, as this is what Capricorn is looking for in companionship as well. This duo works because they are both going at the same pace and both enjoy the sensual nature they can provide for each other. This couple builds together and creates a nice, often luxurious life together.
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Capricorn + Gemini Love Compatibility
This is a match that rarely works out the way that’s intended. The thing about Gemini is that some people love what they are giving, and some are immediately turned off. Capricorn tends to be the sign that turns away from this air sign. Gemini is a sign you have to keep up with in a lot of ways romantically, and even though Capricorn is all about putting the work in, they are all about smart investments and don’t often see Gemini as being one. Gemini’s up-in-the-air qualities entice signs such as Libra or Leo, but when it comes to Capricorn, they want someone easier to grasp. Although this pairing can seem like fun at first, it rarely ends up at the altar.
Capricorn + Cancer Love Compatibility
This pairing is what I like to call the mom (Cancer) and the dad (Capricorn) of the zodiac. Capricorn’s dependable, loyal, and stable nature matches well with Cancer's nurturing, compassionate, and giving nature. These two are opposite signs, and opposites attract when it comes to both of them. There is more room for love and growth within this relationship than there is discord or discontent, and they often feel like they have met their match when they come together. This is a relationship where they both intuitively understand what each other needs and both naturally want to provide that. Although Cancer’s emotional mood swings can seem like a lot for an emotionally mature Capricorn, it's just what this earth sign needs to nurture the world they are creating for themselves.
Capricorn + Leo Love Compatibility
Capricorn and Leo can be another power couple if they are willing to grow together rather than separately, but this duo is hit or miss. Capricorns tend to be quite intrigued by the seemingly always-confident Leo, as they remind them of a part of themselves they often try to humble away. Leo helps Capricorn take their eyes away from climbing the mountain and enjoying what is in the moment. However, what Capricorn does best, which is ground energy, manifest, and stabilize, is something that Leo isn’t typically looking for in a romantic relationship. Leo needs more excitement than Capricorn is always willing to give, but through learning more about what each other wants and needs, this relationship can work out.
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Capricorn + Virgo Love Compatibility
Capricorn and Virgo are a sweet couple. This is a couple that has history and that deeply values each other’s presence and perspective. Loyalty is what these two thrive on, and they are both willing to give it to each other. This earth sign duo is a couple that doesn’t ask for much but for love itself. They both have similar perspectives in life and in love, which keeps them on the same page. Being that these signs are both extremely hard-working, however, it can be difficult for them to put that same time and dedication into the relationship, and they’ll have to remember to take the time out for date nights and romantic ventures so the relationship doesn’t feel like another obligation in their life.
Capricorn + Libra Love Compatibility
This is a pairing you wouldn’t immediately assume is something magical, but it definitely can be for some. What brings these two together the most is their love of the finer things in life. Capricorn wants to build a beautiful life, Libra loves looking at beautiful things. They both value commitment and are both the type of signs to take their relationships in life seriously, and they enjoy knowing this about each other. Capricorn and Libra make great partners to have in life, and when they come together they can provide this sense of dedication to the relationship. If they can focus on their similarities more than their differences, they can be a great couple.
Capricorn + Scorpio Love Compatibility
This is a common pairing in love when it comes to Astrology. Not only do these two signs tend to be immediately drawn to each other, but they are often in the same spaces and environments that make meeting each other inevitable. Capricorn is intrigued by Scorpio and their mysterious nature, and Scorpio feels the same about Capricorn’s grounding and sensual energy. The sexual chemistry between these two is strong, and this is important to not only Scorpio but to Capricorn as well. These two have a lot in common and they both go at the same pace when it comes to relationships in life, making them feel extremely comfortable and open in each other’s presence.
Capricorn + Sagittarius Love Compatibility
Capricorn and Sagittarius' compatibility isn’t the strongest, but if other factors in the birth chart are there, this can work. Anything is possible, as they say. However, Sagittarius is a roller coaster Capricorn isn’t always down to ride. An evolved Sagittarius who is at that place in life where they are ready to commit and settle down can work for the stable Capricorn. Although, Sagittarius is typically looking for something different than what Capricorn is. Sagittarius lives day by day, and Capricorn needs a plan. If they can both lay everything out on the table and define the expectations of the relationship, there will be fewer disagreements and fallouts here. Sagittarius can teach Capricorn a lot and vice versa and there is always an underlying energy of love with the sign next to you on the zodiac wheel, after all.
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Capricorn + Capricorn Love Compatibility
These two earth signs coming together can either be a divine connection or a recipe for disaster. Capricorns are typically better off in a relationship with someone that can provide something different than they can because they like to feel needed and like they are providing something valuable to the relationship. By dating their sign, it can be hard to understand what they are bringing into the relationship, and will feel almost like the purpose isn’t there for them. What works here, however, is that Capricorn is a goal-oriented sign and this relationship can be one where they meet a lot of success in life together and a relationship that is rich in accomplishments and stature.
Capricorn + Aquarius Love Compatibility
You would think that Capricorn would stay away from such an air sign, but Capricorns are often very intrigued by aloof Aquarius. Capricorn and Aquarius are both ruled by Saturn which makes this relationship one where they take things step by step and evolve and grow together within the relationship. Capricorn appreciates Aquarius’ logical yet eccentric nature, and Aquarius finds Capricorn's down-to-earth nature comforting. These two have more similarities than most earth/air sign duos, and this is a homebody couple that enjoys spending time with each other or close loved ones, in safe environments. This is an easy-going pairing that doesn’t ask for much from each other but time.
Capricorn + Pisces Love Compatibility
Capricorn and Pisces is another soulmate pairing that you see often in marriage and committed relationships. Capricorn finds something sweet, romantic, and compatible about Pisces’ energy, and Pisces feels the same about Capricorn. This is a couple that wants to spend all their time together and nothing is forced here. They get into the relationship already on the same page and there is a lot of reciprocity here. Pisces helps Capricorn live in their heart more than their head and helps them see things with an open-minded view. Capricorn reminds Pisces of the importance of stability and security, and Pisces feels safe in this relationship. Commitment is easy for these two as they both want what the other is offering.
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On December 15, Mars enters Capricorn until the end of January 2026, and this is the extra push we need to make important changes and to be on the path towards greater abundance, stability, and prosperity. Mars in Capricorn takes care of business, and we have extra energy at our disposal during this time to do so. This transit is an ideal time to focus on your career or financial goals for next year and to start putting some of these plans into motion now. A few days later, we have the New Moon of the month, which will be in Sagittarius on December 19, and this is the perfect New Moon to manifest.
The energy is high, magic is in the air, and it’s all about moving forward with the new beginnings that are inspiring you and bringing you joy to think about right now.
Capricorn Season officially begins on December 21, and this earth sign energy is how we heal, gain closure, and build new foundations in our world. With Venus also moving into a Capricorn a few days later, there is something about peace, prosperity, and security that we are gaining in life and in love as we close out the year, and this is what we need right now. This month is about reflecting on what was, letting go of old hurt, and renewing. December is an ending and a new beginning in one, and there is magic in this space to be created.
Read for your sun and rising sign below to see what December 2025 has in store for you.
AriesKyra Jay for xoNecoleARIES
December is a full-circle moment for you, Aries. You are seeing the gifts in your world and have a lot of gratitude for the way things have come about for you as of late. There are culminations in your world that are providing you with more abundance, stability, and community, and you are exactly where you are meant to be this month. With the Sun in a fellow fire sign and in your 9th house of travel for most of the month, December is a good time to get out of your comfort zone, explore the world around you, and get your body moving.
Mars, your ruling planet, also makes a change and moves into Capricorn on December 15, which will fuel your inspiration and power in your career space. You are making a lot of professional progress as we close out the year; however, make sure to be more mindful of your competitive drive right now. The New Moon on December 19 is the perfect opportunity for you to create some new plans and goals when it comes to traveling, education, and where you want to gain some new inspiration in your world. Overall, this is a month of things coming together for you serendipitously.
TaurusKyra Jay for xoNecoleTAURUS
December is about trusting your intuition, Taurus. You have a lot on your mind this month, and it’s best to delegate, communicate, and allow yourself some relief by opening up to someone and not feeling like you have to hold everything in. As we begin the month, we have a Supermoon in Gemini happening in your house of income, and the plans and projects you have been building here come to fruition for you now. This is the time to gain clarity on your financial world and to take a look at what spending habits you want to let go of here as well.
With Venus in your 8th house of shared resources for most of the month, you are doing a cleanse on your commitments, partnerships, and business ventures. You are taking a look at what you want to dedicate yourself to in the future, and what commitments you may need to let go of now in order to be in the space you truly want to be, both financially and within some of your relationship dynamics. Before we end the month, we have a New Moon in this same area of your chart, and it’s time to look at the opportunities that are presenting themselves and to trust your internal guidance system to lead you forward.
GeminiKyra Jay for xoNecoleGEMINI
You are moving forward fearlessly this month, Gemini. December is your month of love, passion, and dignity, and you are owning the light that you shine. We begin the month with the last Supermoon of the year, happening in your sign, and you are stepping up to the plate. You are showing up, owning how much you have grown this year, and allowing yourself to heal while also acknowledging that you have done your best and you deserve to have fun in the midst of the changes you are creating.
Mercury, your ruling planet, is officially out of retrograde, and you can use this energy to the fullest potential now. With Mercury in your 7th house of love, it’s time to speak from the heart and to talk about the things that matter and that are inspiring you right now to your loved ones. You never know what kind of epiphanies you may have when you open up the conversation to others. Before the month ends, you have a New Moon in this same love area of your chart, and this New Moon is all about manifesting romance, commitment, and abundance in your world.
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December is an opening for more love, more joy, and more freedom in your life, Cancer. You have come to a place where you hold so much gratitude in your heart for where you are today and where your heart is shining, and things come together for you with more ease right now. With the Sun in your 6th house of health, work, and daily routines for most of the month, you are getting your ducks in a row while also putting more energy and effort into taking care of yourself, your priorities, and your well-being. This month surprises you in many ways, and it’s because you are showing up.
Mars and Venus both move into your house of love, relationships, marriage, and abundance this month, and you are making strides in your love life. You have both of these opposing forces on your side and are being recognized for the love you are while also receiving the love you want. This month, overall, is about focusing more on the positives in your world and letting your heart have its joy. Before December comes to an end, there is a New Moon in Sagittarius, and this is the perfect opportunity to create the plans you want to see through next year, especially when it comes to your work life, colleagues, business ventures, and health.
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The scales of karma are balancing, and they are balancing in your favor this month, Leo. December is your month of truth, and of seeing it clearly in your world. The Sun is in your house of romance, pleasure, and happiness for most of the month, and it’s time to relax, be in the present moment, and allow what is meant to be, to be. With a Supermoon in your 11th house of manifestation as December begins, this is a powerful month for seeing your dreams come to fruition, and for feeling like the intentions you have set this year are finally here for you now.
Mars also moves into your 6th house mid-month, and this is the perfect energy to have to move into the new year. You have extra energy at your disposal right now and are feeling fearless with what is possible for you and your daily routine. Before the month ends, we also have a New Moon in a fellow fire sign, Sagittarius, and this is a breakthrough moment for you and your heart. December, overall, wants to show you how loved and supported you are and will be doing so in magical, unexpected, and concrete ways.
VirgoKyra Jay for xoNecoleVIRGO
December is a month of victory, Virgo. You are showing up and experiencing some new successes in your world that move you forward on your path in life. With a Supermoon in your 10th house of career as we begin the month, the effort and intentions you have made this year come into full bloom, and you are being recognized for who you are and the good work you have done. This month is all about showing up and allowing yourself to be seen and loved, knowing that you deserve the support and opportunities you are receiving.
Mars moves into Capricorn on December 15, which brings the passion and excitement into your love life, hobbies, and little pleasures in life that light you up. You want to have fun this month and are going to be walking into the new year with this fearless, happy, and spontaneous energy within you. Before the month ends, Venus also enters Capricorn, and in this same area of your chart, you have a lot to look forward to and believe in right now. Overall, December wants you to be happy and will be doing everything possible to make that happen for you. This is your month to shine, Virgo.
LibraKyra Jay for xoNecoleLIBRA
December is a month of opportunity for you, Libra. New doors open, and you are financially making breakthroughs this month because of it. December begins with a Supermoon in your 9th house, and you are getting a clearer view of where you have been making strides in your life and how it has all brought you here to this present moment of freedom. This month is showing you what happens when you are fearless with your purpose and when you believe in yourself and what you are worthy of.
Moving further into December, Mars moves into your 4th house of home and family mid-month, and you are closing out the year in your safe spaces. You are spending more time with your loved ones and taking the time to quiet your mind and listen to what your heart has been telling you. Before the month ends, we have a New Moon in Sagittarius, happening in an area of your life that deals with communication. This is a great time for getting the answers you have been looking for and for feeling more clear-headed and confident about the decisions you are making as you move into the new year.
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Patience is a virtue this month, Scorpio. December is all about remaining patient and vigilant with what you are creating in your world, and knowing that the universe has your back. It’s time to be reminded of the power of hope, and this month is an opening to greater clarity in your life. There is a lot of energy in your financial zones right now, and this is providing you with new opportunities and new insight; however, the speed at which things come about for you may feel daunting. Keep your head up and eyes focused on what you want and know that you are more than worthy of receiving it.
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CapricornKyra Jay for xoNecoleCAPRICORN
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Mid-month, the excitement picks up for you, and you are feeling more energized than you have in a while. Mars moves into Capricorn until the end of January 2026, and you are being proactive with your goals, intentions, and passions. You are a force to be reckoned with this month, and you are making things happen for yourself with confidence. Capricorn Season officially begins on December 21 this year, and this is definitely speeding up your healing process. You are breaking free from what was, and with Venus also moving into Capricorn before the month ends, you are leaving this year in high spirits and with love opening a new door for you.
AquariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleAQUARIUS
December is all about community, creativity, and manifestation, Aquarius. This is the month to work together with others to help bring your dreams to life. You are in a space of inspiration, empowerment, and beauty, and are creating more of this energy around you and in your world. Look out for what support comes your way this month and know that you don’t have to do everything alone to succeed. With the Sun in your 11th house of manifestation and friendship, your intentions are coming to fruition, and it’s time to celebrate with the people you love and to own how far you have come this year.
On December 19, we have a New Moon in Sagittarius, lighting up your life in all of the best ways possible. This is your New Moon of freedom, victory, and magic, and you are seeing new beginnings appear that you were once just hoping for. Before the month comes to an end, Venus moves into your 12th house of closure, and after an active and successful month, you are ready to relax, heal, and give your heart some of the attention it has been asking for. You are moving into the new year with the need to release and renew what hasn’t been working in your relationships, and you are finally ready to.
PiscesKyra Jay for xoNecolePISCES
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Oh, but there are plenty of people whose egos have them thinking that they can read someone else’s mind. Then there are others who have fantasies, which create unrealistic expectations that others in their lives actually should read their mind. And you know what — both of these things can cause unnecessary stress, drama, and trauma, if folks aren’t careful.
And that’s why I think it’s important that we unpack this a bit more. Because if you’re someone who thinks that if another person truly cares for you, they should be able to read your mind, it’s time to let that ridiculous yet semi-popular notion absolutely and completely go.
Here’s why.
It’s Scientifically Impossible for Someone to Read Your Mind
There are a couple of reasons why I am starting this off with R&B singer Avant. For one thing, I don’t think that he gets nearly enough flowers and secondly, clearly, this is a more-than-fitting song for today’s topic, wouldn’t you say? Because, lawd, there really is something that makes some of us feel all warm ‘n fuzzy about the mere thought of a man telling us that he is so in tuned with us that he can basically read our mind.
Hmph. Problem with that is, as I said in the intro, it is scientifically impossible (for us and for AI to do, praise the Lord!). And yet the fact that so many individuals think that they defy scientific data and research is oftentimes why there are so many breakdowns in communication — because if you run on assumption (that you can read someone’s mind) without clarification and confirmation, you can create issues that didn’t exist before you decided to fall for your own mind-reading theories.
Now to be fair, while science is still trying to figure out why we can’t read minds, what is sure is that we do have the capability to perceive the thoughts and actions of others if we’re willing to pay really close attention. However, do keep in mind that reading and perceiving are different. Reading? It’s about being able "to apprehend or interpret the meaning of" and "to anticipate, expect, or calculate by observation." Perceiving? It’s all about “to become aware of, know, or identify by means of the senses” and “to recognize, discern, envision, or understand.”
And already, do you see the differences? So much certainty comes with reading while perceiving is about humbling oneself (bookmark that) to not try to know everything but instead to try and understand what is transpiring. And since no one person (or their mind) is ever truly static, that is a huge part of the reason why believing that you can read someone’s mind — no matter how close you may be to them — is futile. You can change your mind on a dime. Others can do the same. Learning to perceive what is going on instead of assuming that you can “read” folks is far more beneficial.
Besides, you might be surprised by a particular demo who thinks that if you are truly who they need you to be, you will read their minds — and boy, once you know who they are, that may cure you of the whole “read your mind” ish…quick, fast and in a hurry.
The Expectation Is Oftentimes Rooted in Egomania
GiphyWhile doing a bit of research on this topic, I thought it was interesting that a particular type of person kept coming up. Can you guess which one? A NARCISSIST. What I kept noticing is a telling sign of a narcissistic individual is they expect others to read their mind.
I must admit that I was caught off guard by that at first because narcissists and their damn egos are so out of control (bookmark that) that it would seem like they would be more focused on acting like they know the thoughts of other people. Here’s the thing, though — the reason why narcissists want others to read their mind is because they want you to do things like guess what they want and need before they ask — and they want that to happen because they believe that they are so damn special that you should put in the extra blood, sweat and tears to figure it all out. Hmph. Now that tracks.
Another reason why narcissists want you to be able to read their mind is so they can manipulate and deflect. Meaning, if you say and do things based on what you thought they wanted you to, should everything crash and burn, they can dodge accountability and blame you for it. Hmm, does reading someone’s mind seem romantic and beautiful now? SMDH.
And again, all of this is tied to ego because, at the end of the day, mind-reading is a form of control and narcissists are definitely very controlling people. And honestly, mind-reading is as well because why do you even want to know someone’s private thoughts before they share them and, at the same time, why would you want someone to have that kind of power in your life either? “Eww” is what immediately comes to my mind. “Yuck” is what follows.
So, why is it that so many people think that it’s a good thing to have someone read their mind — I mean, the ones who don’t show narcissistic tendencies, that is? Good question.
5 Reasons Why Some People Wish Someone Would/Could Read Their Mind
GiphyOkay, so ego and pridefulness aside, what would be some other reasons why people think that it’s such a wonderful thing if someone who they are in some sort of intimate relationship with can read their mind.
1. They are caught up in Disney and rom-coms. One day, I am going to do an article on all of the ways that Disney and rom-coms have destroyed the reality of relationships. For now, I’ll just say that the scripted tales of both have caused a lot of people to think that if someone loves them, they should be able to read their mind. Nooo…if someone loves you, they should care to know what is on your mind. And that brings me to the second point.
2. They aren’t as good at communicating as they think. Are you a good communicator? One way to know if you are is you’re able to clearly articulate your wants and needs — because really, if you are able to do that, why should anyone even need to read your mind? Feel me? Let’s move on.
3. They want someone else to work harder at their relationships than they do. I say it in my sessions often — it’s beyond crazy to think that someone should work harder at figuring out what your wants, needs and expectations are than you are willing to express them. Hmph. It makes me think of a friend of mine who says that “should” is a dangerous word. What she means by that is saying that someone should do or not do something simply because YOU THINK that’s how it “should” go is a surefire way to stay disappointed and even be disillusioned. No, your man shouldn’t just know what you want every year for your birthday. Did you state it? If not, why aren’t you playing fair? Who has time for all of the guessing games and then getting penalized if they guess wrong? Stop it.
4. They think it’s the sign of a healthy relationship (it isn’t). Anyone who knows me knows that I am always and forever going to be Team Healthy over Team Happy and my reason why never changes. Only children expect to live in a world where they are happy all of the time — and yes, there are a lot of childish people out here. People who want their mind read? They tend to live in happy land. Meanwhile, a healthy relationship knows that clear communication, mutual respect, keen listening, patience and understanding that humans make mistakes are foundational to its success.
5. They are lazy. And yes y’all, some people want others to read their mind because they are lazy and it really is just as simple as that. Thing is, while they are being passive aggressive, dropping hints or giving the silent treatment so that you can figure out whatever it is that they…want you to figure out, that tends to take more effort than simply speaking up. Ridiculous, chile.
How to Let the Myth Go
GiphyGee, after reading all of this, suddenly reading minds just seems like a lot of silliness with a sprinkle of drama and potential trauma, doesn’t it? And it’s all because some people choose to treat something that is a myth like it’s a bona fide fact. SMDH.
And what if you happen to be one of those individuals? How do you break free? COMMUNICATE. Openly, clearly and maturely share what’s on your mind and heart because, the true tell of a solid relationship isn’t that someone can read your mind; it’s that they can retain what you’ve already stated.
Less reading. More perceiving. That’s the secret sauce.
And when you accept this for what it is, you will realize that it’s far better for you, your partner and your relationship to stop expecting the impossible and to accept what is actual: that learning your partner, as they strive to do the same thing with you, is better than you both assuming that you know what…maybe you do, maybe you don’t.
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Author Frank Sonnenberg once said, “People can’t hear what you don’t say. Thinking isn’t communicating” — and I think this is a perfect place to bring all of this to a close.
Find the kind of relationship(s) where intention is so strong that mind-reading isn’t even desired.
At the end of the day, it really is as simple as that.
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