

Sometimes, when it comes to what I have written for this platform, it takes someone inboxing me with a link to trigger my memory. Take an email that I got not too long ago asking me about “These Are The Deal-Breakers You Shouldn't Hesitate To Have In The Bedroom.” Actually, they were using this as a segue into a different type of issue because what they wanted to know is, what if the deal-breaker, in their eyes, is the sex isn’t that good with their partner?
They weren’t talking about a casual sex situation either. No, this woman has been with her man exclusively for about 10 months, and it just doesn’t seem like the sex is improving. She shared that she senses that he is going to propose soon, and although she loves him, she is having a hard time thinking that she can spend the rest of her life not hanging off of chandeliers (my words, not hers; she was a bit more…graphic), and so, she wanted to know what she should do about it.
For her, there were some other factors that came into play that we had to work through. Anyway, I’m happy to share that she and her man are making some headway and it looks like they are going to be able to go the distance. However, because I’m aware of the fact that,reportedly, about one-third of Americans are not exactly happy with their sex life — this means that at least a handful of our readers are low-key pissed about theirs too.
If that’s you, you’re about at your wit’s end when it comes to your own bedroom, umm, situation, and you’re not sure what to do about it, here are my two cents about how you should tackle the question of whether or not bad sex is truly a relationship deal-breaker.
What Makes the Sex “Bad”?
Before we go any deeper on the topic, at the expense of patronizing y’all just a bit, let’s review what the word “bad” means. While I know that everyone learned it as a tot, actually, that’s kind of my point: words like bad and good are so elementary that sometimes we forget that they tend to have some pretty layered meanings:
Bad: not good in any manner or degree; having a wicked or evil character; morally reprehensible; of poor or inferior quality; defective; deficient; inadequate or below standard; not satisfactory for use; inaccurate, incorrect, or faulty; invalid, unsound, or false
Synonyms: awful, cheap, poor, abominable, careless, atrocious, imperfect, substandard, second-rate, unacceptable
See what I mean? When you think about your sex life with your man, it’s one thing if it’s second-rate vs. not being good in any manner or degree, or it’s below standard vs. careless and unacceptable. So…which is it? Pull out your journal (a sex journal if you have one; check out “The Art Of Sex Journaling (And Why You Should Do It)” if you’ve never heard of one of those before), ponder all of the definitions that I just provided and get really honest with yourself about what kind of bad sex you’re having; then think about what actually makes it bad.
For instance, I was once in a relationship with someone who, while the actual act of sex itself was pretty good, the kissing was damn near horrifying — not some of the time either. It was ridiculously inaccurate, about 8.5/10. Listen, a few years ago, I penned an article for the platform entitled “Wanna Climax More? KISS MORE.,” so I’m a huge believer that good kissing leads to even better sex, which means that I couldn’t ignore the fact that I really couldn’t go on, indefinitely, with our kisses being totally out of sync. So, while that wasn’t the only reason why I ended things, it definitely played a valid part.
Bottom line here is, sometimes, when you stop speaking in generalizations and you actually get to the root of a word and how it is directly impacting you, that alone can help you to see if there is a way to come to some sort of resolve or compromise — or, at the very least, it can help you to be clear and concise should you decide to communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs with your partner. Look over the definitions. Where do things land for you?
Is “It” Actually a Reflection of Your Relationship?
I promise y’all that I wish I could remember where I once heard that "good sex is 10 percent of a marriage while bad sex is 90 percent" because what happens in the bedroom sets the tone for the rest of the house. It’s so on-point when you stop to consider that sex is an expression of the level of intimacy, communication, and connection that two people feel. With that being said, the next thing that you should think long and hard about is if the coitus that is going down is actually mirroring some breakdowns in your relationship overall.
Let me explain. I’m pretty sure that it comes as absolutely no surprise to y’all thateven research reveals that what women look for most in a romantic relationship with a man is their ability to fully and completely trust him. So, if there is something transpiring in the relationship that is preventing you from trusting your own man, I’m sure you can get why and how that could influence how you respond or react to him sexually. Or, say that you know that you have trust issues, period — things that, if you were really honest with yourself, is your ish and not his. This could cause you to have walls (if not barbed wire fences) that could keep you from fully letting go and enjoying all of your sexual experiences with him.
Another example (that I oftentimes have to deal with when it comes to some of my clients) is not having — which, at the end of the day, is more like not making — enough quality time in the relationship. When you’re not spending time with each other to solely focus on one another, not only does that lead to a disconnect, but it can also make foreplay a bit subpar. The correlation is, that if you’re not cherishing one another outside of sex, you may want to rush foreplay, and that can lead to all sorts of sexual displeasure (especially for us women).
And that’s why, yep, the next thing to do is ask yourself if there are areas within your relationship that are “missing the mark” and if that could be the main reason why the sex doesn’t seem to be blowing your mind.
Are You Taking Any Personal Accountability?
Uh-huh. I know that some of y’all may not want to hold a mirror up and look into it, yet stats are based on facts, and the reality is that 1 in 4 men fake orgasms too (check out “Men Fake Orgasms (And 14 Other Semi-Random Things About Them In Bed).” A top reason is that they don’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings by telling them that they are not completely satisfied with how things are going.
One time, when I took my own unofficial poll about all of this, the three things that guys told me that they wished was better when it came to sex with their partner was better fellatio (check out “Do You Swallow? The Unexpected Health Benefits Of Sperm,” “Umm...Wanna Learn How To Swallow? Try These 10 Hacks.” and “The Secret To The Ultimate Oral Sex Experience? Lip Gloss.”), not enough dirty talk and not enough initiating/spontaneity from the woman (check out “Why You Should Be Initiating Sex More Than You (Probably) Are”).
Yeah, I know that it’s oh so easy to think that if sex is not up to par, surely, it’s not because of anything that you’re doing, not doing, or could be doing better — however, just like it takes two to make a relationship work, it also takes two to cause fireworks in the bedroom to go off.
So, if you want to get to the root of what’s happening — or rather not happening — in between the sheets, you need to prepare yourself for your partner to have some critiques, insights, and/or suggestions…too.
After All Of This, Does It Seem Like Y’all Are Simply Sexually Incompatible?
And what if after going through all of what I just said, you’re pretty much responding, like “Nope, that ain’t it” — what should you do then? Listen, if I didn’t think that there wasn’t such a thing as “sexual incompatibility,” I would’ve never written articles like “What Exactly Does It Mean To Be Sexually Compatible?” for the platform.
For this one, let me first say that if you’re married, you definitely should take a different approach than if you are not. Marriage is serious, and no matter how much our culture tries to act like it’s nothing more than a glorified dating dynamic, that couldn’t be further from the truth. So, for you, before doing anything else, please read “6 Tips For Dealing With A Sexually Incompatible Spouse,” then consider seeing a sex therapist (check out “Have You Ever Wondered If You Should See A Sex Therapist?”).
I’ve worked with couples who, with the right tips and a mutual desire to turn things around, have been able to significantly improve their sex lives. After all, incompatible (“unable to exist together in harmony”) doesn’t have to be a death sentence. You can oftentimes learn things that can make you become more compatible in time.
For the rest of y’all, it’s always important to keep in mind that you’re not married until you actually are. What I mean by that is, if a relationship that will go the distance is what you are truly after, forever is a long time to sign up for exclusivity (if dating) or monogamy (if married), and there are far too many people who talk themselves out of areas of dissatisfaction only to “suffer in silence” or cheat.
Aight, so is this my way of saying that bad sex is a good enough reason to end a relationship? Deeper than that, what I’m saying is dating means that you are figuring out what/who works for you and what/who does not. And so, after giving it your best and all, dots still aren’t connecting or puzzle pieces still aren’t fitting well together, it is not shallow or selfish of you to move on. If anything, it is mean to stay and keep putting pressure on your partner to try at something that, with someone else, there may be no issue at all.
- If you like BDSM and he hates it, why stay?
- If you hate oral and he adores it, why stay?
- If you want sex three times a week and he prefers a couple of times a month, why stay?
I promise you that you both can find someone who wants what you do instead of you each trying to manipulate one another into being (or becoming) something that, at your core, you both know that you are…not.
What Are You Losing If You Leave?
Before I close this out, there is one more thing that I absolutely need to mention: what are you standing to lose if “bad sex” is indeed your deal-breaker? Because now that you get that not thoroughly enjoying sex with your partner may be about more than just the sex itself, it would be a shame to lose a great man if a few honest and open conversations, a bit of revising and tweaking, and some patience are all that you needed in order to get what you’ve been yearning for.
Unfortunately, we live in a world where folks will stay in some totally dysfunctional relationships because the sex is so good and yet will toss out a good man or woman in a heartbeat because the sex, well, isn’t so good. In real-time, I know someone who isn’t thrilled with their partner sexually, yet they have no intentions of breaking up with them because “they are one of the most amazing people I’ve ever met.” For them, sex appears to be the icing on the cake, so they can make it work. So-so sex is not a deal-breaker for everyone. Clearly.
So yes, the final focus is to answer the question: does the “bad sex” make up 10 percent or 75 percent of what is a top three priority for you? If it’s the former, stick it out. If it’s the latter…don’t lie to yourself and say that it isn’t. Typically, that only leads to you nitpicking other stuff about your partner and/or the relationship due to how unhappy, in the bedroom, that you are.
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If you thought that something like bad sex in a relationship was going to have a black-and-white, cut-and-dried answer — sorry not sorry. LOL. Sex is complex, like so many things in life.
I do hope that this, in some way, offered some light in the tunnel about what needs to be done about the matter, though.
Bottom line, sex is a valid enough need to get the need met.
If after some real effort, there’s no way that it can be…a deal-breaker, it is.
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It's kinda wild that, in 2025, my byline will have appeared on this platform for (what?!) seven years. And yeah, when I'm not waxing poetic on here about sex, relationships and then...more sex and relationships, I am working as a certified marriage life coach, helping to birth babies (as a doula) or penning for other places (oftentimes under pen names).
As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
Beyond that, Pumas and lip gloss are still my faves along with sweatshirts and tees that have a pro-Black message on them. I've also started really getting into big ass unique handbags and I'm always gonna have a signature scent that ain't nobody's business but my own.
As far as where to find me, I continue to be MIA on the social media front and I honestly don't know if that will ever change. Still, if you need to hit me up about something *that has nothing to do with pitching on the site (I'm gonna start ignoring those emails because...boundaries)*, hit me up at missnosipho@gmail.com. I'll do what I can. ;)
Luxury Hairstylist On Viral 'Hey Boo' Texts & Professionalism In The Hair Industry
As Black women, our hair is our crowning glory - whether we paid for it or not. We take pride in how we wear and take care of our hair. As with everything, hair care and hair styling have evolved over the years. Long gone are the days of Blue Magic (although I hear it’s making a comeback).
Now, we have a plethora of creams, oils, conditioners, shampoos, and stylists to choose from. Beyond wearing our natural curls, we have a range of options, from wigs and sew-ins to tape-ins, I-tips, and K-tips. So much choice! But you know what they say about too much of a good thing...
The Black hair industry has definitely blossomed in the last decade with a wave of new stylists and salons popping up all over the place. As much as I love that for us, many of these stylists have become the subjects of viral TikTok and Instagram tirades because of their alleged questionable behavior and bizarre rules.
Excessive policies, strange fees, long wait times, poor performance, and the infamous “Hey boo” texts. Beauty is pain, they say… xoNecole got to the root of these issues with luxury hair extensionist Dee Michelle, who’s been in the hair game for 20 years and runs a seven-figure business - all while being a mom of four.
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“I started my business with my career in the hair industry [at] very, very young age when I was maybe like eight...So, over the years, I've just built a very successful seven-figure business very quickly just by offering high-end services and creating great experiences for my clients, many of whom are high-profile professionals,” she said. “I'm also a mother of four, including a set of triplets, which inspires me daily to show what's possible with my hard work and focus.”
Dee’s business has gone viral on social media because of what many call outrageous prices for her invisible K-Tip installs.
“When I developed my invisible K-tip extensions technique, I made sure that it wasn't just about the hair or the style, but about providing a high-end experience from start to finish. So, my clients just aren't paying for the extensions or just the style itself, but they're investing into my meticulous, seamless craft and premium hair sourced from the best suppliers…I've spent so many hours mastering my craft, creating this seamless method that gives my clients long-lasting natural results, and my pricing just reflects that - the value of my expertise and the exclusivity of the service.”
The K-tip specialist stands on business when it comes to catering to her clients and giving them an experience worth the cost.
“And it's just important for me to also say that my clients are high-profile individuals who value quality, their privacy, and their time. They want a service that fits into their lifestyle and their time. They want things that deliver perfection. And I deliver that every single time.”
I’m sure we’ve all seen the various TikTok rants about people’s nightmare experiences with stylists and uttered a silent “FELT!” We asked Dee her opinion on a few nightmare scenarios that beg the response, “please be so forreal."
On stylists charging extra to wash clients’ hair:
“I think they should just include it in the price, to be honest. Because I feel like when clients go to a stylist, they're expecting you to wash their hair. Personally, if I see that washing is extra, I just wouldn't go to the salon because it just shows a lack of professionalism, in my opinion, and a lack of experience.”
“I think they should just include it in the price, to be honest. Because I feel like when clients go to a stylist, they're expecting you to wash their hair. Personally, if I see that washing is extra, I just wouldn't go to the salon because it just shows a lack of professionalism, in my opinion, and a lack of experience.”
On ‘deposits’ that don’t go towards the cost of the service:
“I think that's kind of weird, too, for deposits to not be like a part of the service. I've seen people have booking fees and I just don't understand it, to be honest. I disagree with that kind of policy…By all means, people should do what works for them, but to me, it doesn't make sense. Why does somebody have to pay a fee just to book an appointment with you? I don't get it. It feels like exploitation.”
On stylists charging extra to style (straighten/curl) wigs, sew-ins etc., after installing:
“I don't get it. Clients come to us to get their hair done, to get it styled. So why is it extra for you to style it? If you're going to charge extra, just increase your price. I feel like it could be just a lack of confidence in those stylists, feeling like people won't pay a certain price for certain things, or just their lack of professionalism as well, because people are coming to us to get styled.”
On the infamous “Hey boo” text stylists send to clients when they need to cancel/reschedule:
“Professionalism in any industry, especially the beauty industry, is everything. So texting a client the, “Hey boo” is so unprofessional, and it's damaging to the client-stylist relationship. Clients book their appointments expecting a level of respect and care, especially when they're investing their time and money and a service. And I get it, emergencies happen, we're all humans. However, it should be done with a formal apology and a clear explanation.”
“Professionalism in any industry, especially the beauty industry, is everything. So texting a client the, “Hey boo” is so unprofessional, and it's damaging to the client-stylist relationship. Clients book their appointments expecting a level of respect and care, especially when they're investing their time and money and a service. And I get it, emergencies happen, we're all humans. However, it should be done with a formal apology and a clear explanation.”
We know all too well what kinds of things will keep us from ever gracing certain hairstylists’ chairs with our butts again. So, what should hairstylists do to provide a good service to their clients? What is good hairstylist etiquette?
“For one, being on time is an important rule for stylist etiquette. It's just not okay to require your clients to be on time, and you're not on time. Also, communication. Being able to communicate clearly, respectfully, and professionally, whether that's in person, via text, or on social media. Style is etiquette. Appearance matters. So just maintaining a clean, polished, and professional look. Clients respect you more whenever your appearance reflects your work. There's just so many things, but another thing I would say is active listening. So, being able to pay close attention to what your client wants and also clarifying any questions that they might have. Just to ensure that they feel heard and to minimize any misunderstandings.”
Dee also shared some red flags to look out for when considering a new stylist.
“Even me as a client, if I'm booking somebody and they have a long list of rules, I don't even book with them. That's, for one, just such a huge turn-off. Also, stylists who have inconsistent or unclear pricing, that's a red flag. People who change their rates too much without an explanation. Poor communication. So, if a stylist is responding very slow or responding unprofessionally, or giving vague answers to questions, that can make clients question whether or not they are respecting their time and their needs.
Another red flag - an inconsistent or low quality portfolio. And I feel like, I see this a lot with stylists stealing other people's work, and their portfolio on social media is just very inconsistent.”
We couldn’t let Dee go without getting the tea on what styles she predicts will trend in 2025.
“I feel like people are going back to natural-looking styles. So, a lot of people are ditching the wigs, the lace fronts, things like that. People are still wearing them, of course, but it is becoming more of a trend to embrace your natural hair and something that's not looking too fake. That’s one thing that we're going to be seeing a lot. I would say a lot of layers are coming back, heavy layers. Those are becoming really, really trendy. And people are leaning more towards platinum-colored hair. I've been seeing lots of like blondes coming out. Also, jet black is always going to be a trend. But I would say more like natural colors, but natural colors that are still making a statement.”
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A Single Woman's Guide To A Fabulous Valentine's Day Staycation
Aight single ladies: even if there is a part of you that isn’t all that thrilled about Valentine’s Day (for whatever the reason), I promise you that there is an extra special reason to get excited this year — it falls on a Friday which means that you can turn it into a staycation and it can be one that’s filled with nothing but plans for how to celebrate your own damn self. And yes, sis, that is a good thing.
As an ambivert, I must admit that I constantly live in a state of staycations (LOL) because I enjoy my space and spending time with myself just that much. And, even though I’m personally not a “holidays person,” I must say that for those who do observe them, I think that taking staycations (vacations at home or in your city) during those days can be cool because you can center them around a theme — and what better theme can there be than love? Including self-love.
I’m telling you, devoting an entire weekend to rest, recharge, and holistic pampering, I’m not sure if life gets any better than that. So, why not seize the moment this Valentine’s Day weekend by incorporating (at least some of) the following 10 tips?
1. Get Yourself a Body Pillow
As a doula, I’ve gotta admit that the only time a body pillow really comes to mind is when I’m talking to a client about how she can make her second and/or third trimester more comfortable as far as sleep is concerned. However, when I was recently talking to a single woman about how she hates that her king-size bed feels so empty yet she’s not ready to put a warm body in it, “Get yourself a body pillow” came out of my mouth.
The truth is body pillows are great, in general, when it comes to supporting great posture, helping you to sleep better (if you happen to be a side sleeper), improving blood circulation, reducing snoring, helping you to toss and turn less throughout the night and even soothing aching muscles and joints. Plus, it gives you something to cuddle with. So, if you want to treat yourself to something unique that’s super practical at the same time, get a body pillow this Valentine’s Day. It’ll be one of the best investments that you’ve made in quite some time.
2. Buy Some Sexy/Comfy PJs Too
Unless you sleep in the nude, it’s a good idea toswap out your pajamas every 4-5 days or so. That way, between all of the dead skin cell shedding and sweating, you can be proactive about taking care of your skin as well as your bedding. Okay, but how often should you purchase a new pair of PJs? Well, when you stop to think about the fact that you are in them for 5-8 hours every night, every 6-9 months is probably a good idea. That said, if it’s been a couple of years longer than that since you’ve invested in some, Valentine’s Day is just as good of a time as any, wouldn’t you say?
And don’t get those granny-looking ones either. Just because you’re single, that doesn’t mean that all you have are dated moo-moos (although I’ve had some husbands sing the praises of those before — LOL) and oversized flannels in your near future. Pajamas that are made out of cotton are good so that your skin can breathe; however, try and go for something sexy like a baby doll set or a tank and some boy shorts. Science backs up the fact that how we choose to dress impacts our self-esteem — why would you think that only applies to how you look while you are outside of the house?
3. Put Some Flowers in Your Room
Personally, I adore fresh flowers. Yet if you happen to be someone who doesn’t see the point in them, thinks they are a waste of money, and/or feels like it’s kinda-sorta ridiculous to get your own self a bouquet — let me just say that there is plenty of research out here to support the fact that flowers help to put you in a better mood, decrease stress, reduce indoor air pollution, lower blood pressure and even make you more attentive.
Know what else is interesting? Red and yellow flowers can help you to feel more comfortable, cheerful, and calm. Red roses are pretty much the signature flower for Valentine’s Day — and now you’ve got some really solid reason to get yourself a dozen of ‘em.
4. Have Your Favorite Meal Delivered
If I were to ever have a social media platform or podcast, one thing that you will never hear outta me is that I am not Team Cooking. Cooking is healthier for you and (before this guy because POTUS) it’s significantly cheaper too. That doesn’t mean I don’t have a DoorDash account, though — and I am absolutely not afraid to use it! Sometimes, ordering a meal can feel indulgent because, not only are you letting someone else prepare what you enjoy eating, it is being hand-delivered to you too.
Since everything that we’re talking about today is how to set the stage for a bomb-sss staycation, definitely get food sent to you. No dishes to clean up is a very necessary step when it comes to chilling out and relaxing all Valentine’s Day (weekend).
5. Take Yourself on a Date
Again, since Valentine’s Day falls on a Friday this year, this gives you the entire weekend to date yourself. Go to your local farmers’ market. Enjoy an indoor picnic. Check out an indie concert. Stop by a coffee shop, write yourself some love letters (check out “Every Woman Should Write A Love Letter To Themselves”), and then mail them to your house on the way home. Be a tourist in your own city. Go ice or roller skating. Schedule a photo shoot (for yourself).
Take yourself shopping. Read at least three chapters of a book or watch an entire movie while in the bathtub. Spend the night at a swanky hotel. Remember, at the end of the day, a date is a way of spending quality time with someone. Since Valentine’s Day is a day that celebrates love, why not spend quality time with who should be your favorite person: YOURSELF.
6. Or Go on a Virtual Tour
And what if what I just suggested sounds great in theory; however, you’re really just not in the mood? Well, another way that you can still “date yourself” is to open up your laptop and go on a virtual tour. For instance, if you’ve always wanted to go to Greece, Peru, or Ireland or you’re curious about Antarctica or the Amazon Rainforest, you can click here to check these places out up close and personally. Wanna learn more about Africa? There are several virtual tours available here.
To tell you the truth, these days, there are virtual tours that cover just about any place that you can think of. Personally, I think that this is a cool thing to do on a staycation because you can “be somewhere” from the comfort and convenience of your own home, and/or it’s a proactive way to put a plan together so that you and/or some friends can go on a trip before the year is out.
7. Give Yourself a Scalp and Foot Massage
If you’ve “got it like that,” something else that can make this a really special single girl’s Valentine’s Day staycation event is to have a massage therapist give you a massage (check out “12 Different Massage Types. How To Know Which Is Right For You.”) at your home. However, if coins are tight, you can still pamper yourself by engaging in a DIY scalp and foot massage. Both reduce stress. Both release tension. Both make for an amazing night’s sleep.
Tips for how to give yourself a stellar scalp massage can be found here. Tips for how to give yourself a wonderful foot massage can be found here. And definitely don’t forget to incorporate some soothing essential oils. I’ve got a list of some for you right here.
8. Start a Self-Love Scrapbook or Journal
Question: What tangible memories do you have of how you love yourself? Weird question, right? Still, that doesn’t make it an invalid one. I can only imagine how much better we’d all feel about ourselves if we actually had a self-love scrapbook to refer to — one that consisted of receipts from pampering days, self-love quotes that we enjoy, some of our favorite pictures of ourselves, written down memories of some ah-ha moments of transformation that particularly standout…anything that reminds us of loving ourselves (that can fit into a scrapbook).
If you like the idea and yet need some inspiration, check out Skillshare’s “40 Beautiful Scrapbooking Ideas to Try.” Or you can use this as an opportunity to get a fresh journal — one that is dedicated to nothing but mantras, quotes, song lyrics, and thoughts pertaining to how to love yourself more and better. Make sure to put the dates and times of your entries in. There’s nothing like seeing actual documentation of your own self-love journey and growth.
9. Turn It into a Sleepover with Your Friends
Just because you’re single, that doesn’t mean you have to spend Valentine’s Day alone — if you don’t want to. One woman I know, she hosts a Valentine’s Day party for the single men and women in her life every year. Another one? She has an old-school sleepover where her girlfriends wear heart PJs, watch throwback rom-coms, and eat every form of junk food known to man (and woman). Definitely one of the reasons why Valentine’s Day feels lonely for some people is because they think that love only means romantic love and that absolutely could not be further from the truth.
If the idea of using this coming Valentine’s Day weekend to fall off the grid to mankind isn’t your idea of a good time, you can always call a friend or two to spend the night with you. Or, you can have a virtual sleepover with homies who live elsewhere. You can learn more about how to execute one of those here and here.
10. SLEEP. IN.
If you don’t have to work this Valentine’s Day weekend, why not sleep in? When you stop to think about the fact that sleep reduces stress, improves your mental health, reduces your blood sugar levels, helps you to maintain a healthy weight, and strengthens your heart — how could putting your phone on DND (Do Not Disturb) and not setting your alarm NOT be an act of self-love? The world will still be waiting for you once you roll out of bed.
In honor of a phenomenal single woman’s Valentine’s Day staycation, let it wait. Sis, I’m pretty sure you’ve earned it. SLEEP. IN. (Yay!)
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