
Aries is a passionate lover. Aries loves the excitement, the chase, and the spark of a relationship and is often the initiator, being a cardinal sign and the first sign of the zodiac. They are not the type of people to shy away from anything, and they have no problem making the first move. An Aries loves their freedom and prefers to do things on their own terms, including love. They look for a partner who can match their energy and keep up with them in life, and not someone they feel is going to hold them back. Aries is a young soul and has a free spirit about them that often attracts others to them.
Aries In Love & Relationships
Aries in love is a unique experience, as Aries is more of an independent sign and isn’t focused as much on the relationship aspects of life. Aries value individuality and know and enjoy themselves well, so when they meet someone who they feel is more interesting than themselves or just as, they give it their all. This energy is felt by the people they are in relationships with, and they make their partners feel special.
Aries Compatibility: Best & Worst Love Matches in the Zodiac
Aries’ fire in the relationship, however, can go out if there isn’t enough spark and passion in the relationship, and being with an Aries long-term isn’t for the weak. Though, if you win their trust and treat every day like you just met for the first time, then your Aries will be there till the end for you.
Read below to see what each sign’s compatibility with Aries is like. Check sun, moon, and Venus signs.
Who Are Aries Most Compatible With?
Aries and Aries Love Compatibility
The love compatibility between an Aries and an Aries is a wild combination to see together. Dating your own sign and seeing couples in a relationship with their own sign is rare, however, fire signs in general typically do this better than most. An Aries and Aries combo is sexy, passionate, and loving. The good thing about this combo is that nobody knows Aries better than they know themselves, so when it comes to these two, it works because they just get each other. Aggression and conflict will have to be watched out for, however, as with Aries being ruled by Mars, if this sign is not feeling seen or heard then the relationship will be more chaotic than needed.
Aries and Taurus Love Compatibility
These two signs are more likely to butt heads than have a smooth-sailing relationship. Aries and Taurus are both very headstrong individuals, and they are both “my way or the highway” types of people. When two people are like this in a relationship, it can cause a lot of friction and ego clashes and this relationship often comes to a halt. In the beginning, the connection between an Aries and a Taurus feels exciting and like it could be something, though, as Taurus is attracted to the boldness and confidence that comes from Aries, and Aries likes the way Taurus makes them feel grounded and sane. However, at the end of the day, their stubbornness and unwillingness to compromise will either make or break this relationship.
Aries and Gemini Love Compatibility
The love compatibility between an Aries and a Gemini is fun, dynamic, and exciting. Both of these signs have an innate curiosity for life and love to do it together. These two complement each other well and are the type of couple to be best friends and lovers. They like to enjoy time together, be out and about, and tend to inspire each other in many ways. Not to mention, the chemistry is strong here between these two. They don’t have to force anything to make it work or to form a relationship together, and forming a connection is easy.
Gemini’s charm can easily sweep Aries off their feet, and Aries will have fun with Gemini. There will need to be some type of groundedness between the two for it to work long-term however, as they can get caught up in the moment and move without knowing where they are headed.
Aries and Cancer Love Compatibility
Aries and Cancer’s love compatibility is underrated. These two balance each other out well and although friction can arise in this pairing, this is ultimately a fun, dynamic, and in-tune duo. What works so well here is that these two signs are highly intuitive; Aries is very in-tune with themselves, and Cancer is very in-tune with others. If Aries had to date any water sign, it should be a Cancer. Cancer gives Aries the type of support they crave, but that they would never admit they need, and Aries gives Cancer the type of confidence that truly changes their lives. These two can form a powerful relationship that is layered and multifaceted, or they will be immediately turned off and will not pursue each other due to their immediate differences.
Aries and Leo Love Compatibility
Aries and Leo are a more obvious compatible couple, but at the end of the day when it comes to Aries in love it depends on where they are in their life and what they are looking for at that moment. These two, however, are very intrigued by each other and tend to form an immediate connection instantly. The passion is steamy here and the sexual chemistry between the two is off the charts. The only downside to a fire and fire sign duo though, is that it often starts very exciting and impulsive, and then turns into a complete mess afterward. This relationship can be the best of the best for Aries if both people are thinking long-term and aren’t just in it for the moment.
Aries and Virgo Love Compatibility
A Virgo may be one of the least compatible signs for an Aries. These two surprisingly have a lot in common and see things similarly in life, however, it’s difficult for them to feel that because they go about things very differently. Aries and Virgo tend to get into conflicts with each other as they both are the type of people to think they are right and that they know best. This facet of Aries works for some people, but when they meet a Virgo, they truly meet their greatest challenger. Virgo will challenge Aries in many ways, and not in a way that Aries likes. This pairing works more when it's a Virgo woman and an Aries man, and also works well as a friendship, but overall, this is not Aries' best match.
Aries and Libra Love Compatibility
Aries and Libra are a sweet combo. In terms of their love compatibility, these two are the yin and yang for each other, and this couple is the definition of opposites attracting. Aries and Libra are what we call sister signs in Astrology, which means these two are on opposite sides of each other on the Zodiac Wheel, forming a unique connection. The thing about sister signs is that they represent the part of you that is more hidden or unrecognized yet. This energy can be inspiring and life-changing, but it can also be triggering for people as it’s a relationship meant to challenge you and help you grow. Signs that are opposite each other have a karmic tone to them, and this relationship will often feel like they have known each other for many lifetimes before. This compatibility is 50/50- it works, or it doesn’t.
Aries and Scorpio Love Compatibility
When it comes to their love compatibility, Aries and Scorpio tend to hit it off right away. These two are similar in many ways, thanks to their shared ruling planet, Mars. In traditional Astrology, Mars is the ruler of Scorpio, and in modern times, it’s the ruler of Aries. Mars represents passion, energy, activation, sex, desire, war, and direction in life. When these two come together, they enhance these qualities in each other. This is a very energy-packed relationship and it works when they are flowing in harmony with each other but when differences arise, things can get very shaky and combative. The strengths here are that they both will want to confront issues head-on and always know where each other stands. There is no beating around the bush between these two.
Aries and Sagittarius Love Compatibility
Sagittarius is one of Aries' soulmates in this lifetime. More aspects are keeping this relationship together than tearing them apart, and this is a relationship that Aries can be in long-term. Both of these signs love adventure and will begin a big one once they enter this relationship. There won’t be many dull moments in this pairing, and when they come together it is often serendipitous. This is a power couple in Astrology and a match that works without having to try too hard. The world is their oyster to this couple and they will live an exciting life together. With all fire/fire sign duos, ego clashes are the downfall, and if this can be worked through then these two are endgame.
Aries and Capricorn Love Compatibility
Capricorn is the best earth sign match for Aries. They are both cardinal signs and share a similar drive and inspiration for life. Both of these signs want the best of the best out of life, and by coming together they can create just that. They are very supportive of one another and uplift each other to be their best selves. The energy between the two of them can get competitive, however, if they aren’t working together, though Capricorn's determination and unwavering loyalty often wins Aries over in the long run. Emotionally, they may have a difficult time getting there and forming that deep emotional bond that makes relationships last, but if they see the other in each other’s future, they will try to make it work.
Aries and Aquarius Love Compatibility
Aries and Aquarius are an eccentric couple. These two have a lot of fun together and enjoy each other’s company first and foremost. The love compatibility between this zodiac pairing means synergy here is enticing, and they flow well together when it comes to the day-to-day. This is a couple that would spend a lot of time talking and exploring each other’s worlds. These two learn a lot from each other and try to see the best in each other. Aquarius’ aloof nature may pull the wrong chords in Aries after too long, however, and for the relationship to work they will both have to recognize each other's individuals selves and know that both perspectives and sense of authenticity can be without being less than or unworthy of the other. This is a couple that is destined to meet.
Aries and Pisces Love Compatibility
This is more of an odd pairing for Aries as they are coming from completely opposite ends of life. Aries being the first sign in the zodiac and Pisces being the last explains this type of emotional distance between the two. Aries and Pisces almost live in different worlds, so coming together they can learn a lot from each other. Pisces feels and Aries acts. They are moving at different speeds at all times, but there is something about Aries’ passion and drive that spikes Pisces' curiosity. Pisces' emotional nature will either be a turn-off or an endearing trait, depending on the Aries. Ultimately, this is not one of Aries' best matches, but they both tend to have good intentions for the relationship at the end of the day.
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Because We Are Still IT, Girl: It Girl 100 Returns
Last year, when our xoNecole team dropped our inaugural It Girl 100 honoree list, the world felt, ahem, a bit brighter.
It was March 2024, and we still had a Black woman as the Vice President of the United States. DEI rollbacks weren’t being tossed around like confetti. And more than 300,000 Black women were still gainfully employed in the workforce.
Though that was just nineteen months ago, things were different. Perhaps the world then felt more receptive to our light as Black women.
At the time, we launched It Girl 100 to spotlight the huge motion we were making as dope, GenZennial Black women leaving our mark on culture. The girls were on the rise, flourishing, drinking their water, minding their business, leading companies, and learning to do it all softly, in rest. We wanted to celebrate that momentum—because we love that for us.
So, we handpicked one hundred It Girls who embody that palpable It Factor moving through us as young Black women, the kind of motion lighting up the world both IRL and across the internet.
It Girl 100 became xoNecole’s most successful program, with the hashtag organically reaching more than forty million impressions on Instagram in just twenty-four hours. Yes, it caught on like wildfire because we celebrated some of the most brilliant and influential GenZennial women of color setting trends and shaping culture. But more than that, it resonated because the women we celebrated felt seen.
Many were already known in their industries for keeping this generation fly and lit, but rarely received recognition or flowers. It Girl 100 became a safe space to be uplifted, and for us as Black women to bask in what felt like an era of our brilliance, beauty, and boundless influence on full display.
And then, almost overnight, it was as if the rug was pulled from under us as Black women, as the It Girls of the world.
Our much-needed, much-deserved season of ease and soft living quickly metamorphosed into a time of self-preservation and survival. Our motion and economic progression seemed strategically slowed, our light under siege.
The air feels heavier now. The headlines colder. Our Black girl magic is being picked apart and politicized for simply existing.
With that climate shift, as we prepare to launch our second annual It Girl 100 honoree list, our team has had to dig deep on the purpose and intention behind this year’s list. Knowing the spirit of It Girl 100 is about motion, sauce, strides, and progression, how do we celebrate amid uncertainty and collective grief when the juice feels like it is being squeezed out of us?
As we wrestled with that question, we were reminded that this tension isn’t new. Black women have always had to find joy in the midst of struggle, to create light even in the darkest corners. We have carried the weight of scrutiny for generations, expected to be strong, to serve, to smile through the sting. But this moment feels different. It feels deeply personal.
We are living at the intersection of liberation and backlash. We are learning to take off our capes, to say no when we are tired, to embrace softness without apology.
And somehow, the world has found new ways to punish us for it.

In lifestyle, women like Kayla Nicole and Ayesha Curry have been ridiculed for daring to choose themselves. Tracee Ellis Ross was labeled bitter for speaking her truth about love. Meghan Markle, still, cannot breathe without critique.
In politics, Kamala Harris, Letitia James, and Jasmine Crockett are dragged through the mud for standing tall in rooms not built for them.
In sports, Angel Reese, Coco Gauff, and Taylor Townsend have been reminded that even excellence will not shield you from racism or judgment.

In business, visionaries like Diarrha N’Diaye-Mbaye and Melissa Butler are fighting to keep their dreams alive in an economy that too often forgets us first.
Even our icons, Beyoncé, Serena, and SZA, have faced criticism simply for evolving beyond the boxes society tried to keep them in.
From everyday women to cultural phenoms, the pattern is the same. Our light is being tested.

And yet, somehow, through it all, we are still showing up as that girl, and that deserves to be celebrated.
Because while the world debates our worth, we keep raising our value. And that proof is all around us.
This year alone, Naomi Osaka returned from motherhood and mental health challenges to reach the semifinals of the US Open. A’ja Wilson claimed another MVP, reminding us that beauty and dominance can coexist. Brandy and Monica are snatching our edges on tour. Kahlana Barfield Brown sold out her new line in the face of a retailer that had been canceled. And Melissa Butler’s company, The Lip Bar, is projecting a forty percent surge in sales.

We are no longer defining strength by how much pain we can endure. We are defining it by the unbreakable light we continue to radiate.
We are the women walking our daily steps and also continuing to run solid businesses. We are growing in love, taking solo trips, laughing until it hurts, raising babies and ideas, drinking our green juice, and praying our peace back into existence.
We are rediscovering the joy of rest and realizing that softness is not weakness, it is strategy.
And through it all, we continue to lift one another. Emma Grede is creating seats at the table. Valeisha Butterfield has started a fund for jobless Black women. Arian Simone is leading in media with fearless conviction. We are pouring into each other in ways the world rarely sees but always feels.

So yes, we are in the midst of societal warfare. Yes, we are being tested. Yes, we are facing economic strain, political targeting, and public scrutiny. But even war cannot dim a light that is divinely ours.
And we are still shining.
And we are still softening.
And we are still creating.
And we are still It.

That is the quiet magic of Black womanhood, our ability to hold both truth and triumph in the same breath, to say yes, and to life’s contradictions.
It is no coincidence that this year, as SheaMoisture embraces the message “Yes, And,” they stand beside us as partners in celebrating this class of It Girls. Because that phrase, those two simple words, capture the very essence of this moment.
Yes, we are tired. And we are still rising.
Yes, we are questioned. And we are the answer.
Yes, we are bruised. And we are still beautiful.

This year’s It Girl 100 is more than a list. It is a love letter to every Black woman who dares to live out loud in a world that would rather she whisper. This year’s class is living proof of “Yes, And,” women who are finding ways to thrive and to heal, to build and to rest, to lead and to love, all at once.
It is proof that our joy is not naive, our success not accidental. It is the reminder that our light has never needed permission.
So without further ado, we celebrate the It Girl 100 Class of 2025–2026.
We celebrate the millions of us who keep doing it with grace, grit, and glory.
Because despite it all, we still shine.
Because we are still her.
Because we are still IT, girl.
Meet all 100 women shaping culture in the It Girl 100 Class of 2025. View the complete list of honorees here.
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These Black Women Left Their Jobs To Turn Their Wildest Dreams Into Reality
“I’m too big for a f***ing cubicle!” Those thoughts motivated Randi O to kiss her 9 to 5 goodbye and step into her dreams of becoming a full-time social media entrepreneur. She now owns Randi O P&R. Gabrielle, the founder of Raw Honey, was moving from state to state for her corporate job, and every time she packed her suitcases for a new zip code, she regretted the loss of community and the distance in her friendships. So she created a safe haven and village for queer Black people in New York.
Then there were those who gave up their zip code altogether and found a permanent home in the skies. After years spent recruiting students for a university, Lisa-Gaye Shakespeare became a full-time travel influencer and founded her travel company, Shakespeare Agency. And she's not alone.
These stories mirror the experiences of women across the world. For millions, the pandemic induced a seismic shift in priorities and desires. Corporate careers that were once hailed as the ultimate “I made it” moment in one's career were pushed to the back burner as women quit their jobs in search of a more self-fulfilling purpose.
xoNecole spoke to these three Black women who used the pandemic as a springboard to make their wildest dreams a reality, the lessons they learned, and posed the question of whether they’ll ever return to cubicle life.
Answers have been edited for context and length.
xoNecole: How did the pandemic lead to you leaving the cubicle?
Randi: I was becoming stagnant. I was working in mortgage and banking but I felt like my personality was too big for that job! From there, I transitioned to radio but was laid off during the pandemic. That’s what made me go full throttle with entrepreneurship.
Gabrielle: I moved around a lot for work. Five times over a span of seven years. I knew I needed a break because I had experienced so much. So, I just quit one day. Effective immediately. I didn’t know what I was going to do, I just knew I needed a break and to just regroup.
Lisa-Gaye: I was working in recruiting at a university and my dream job just kind of fell into my lap! But, I never got to fully enjoy it before the world shut down in March [2020] and I was laid off. On top of that, I was stuck in Miami because Jamaica had closed its borders due to the pandemic before I was able to return.

Randi O
xoN: Tell us about your journey after leaving Corporate America.
Randi: I do it all now! I have a podcast, I’m an on-air talent, I act, and I own a public relations company that focuses on social media engagement. It’s all from my network. When you go out and start a business, you can’t just say, “Okay I’m done with Corporate America,” and “Let me do my own thing.” If you don’t build community, if you don’t build a network it's going to be very hard to sustain.
Gabrielle: I realized in New York, there was not a lot to do for Black lesbians and queer folks. We don’t really have dedicated bars and spaces so I started doing events and it took off. I started focusing on my brand, Raw Honey. I opened a co-working space, and I was able to host an NYC Pride event in front of 100,000 people. I hit the ground running with Raw Honey. My events were all women coming to find community and come together with other lesbians and queer folks. I found my purpose in that.
Lisa-Gaye: After being laid off, I wrote out all of my passions and that’s how I came up with [my company] Shakespeare Agency. It was all of the things that I loved to do under one umbrella. The pandemic pulled that out of me. I had a very large social media following, so I pitched to hotels that I would feature them on my blog and social media. This reignited my passion for travel. I took the rest of the year to refocus my brand to focus solely on being a content creator within the travel space.

Gabrielle
xoN: What have you learned about yourself during your time as an entrepreneur?
Randi: [I learned] the importance of my network and community that I created. When I was laid off I was still keeping those relationships with people that I used to work with. So it was easy for me to transition into social media management and I didn’t have to start from scratch.
Gabrielle: The biggest thing I learned about myself was my own personal identity as a Black lesbian and how much I had assimilated into straight and corporate culture and not being myself. Now, I feel comfortable and confident being my authentic self. Now, I'm not sacrificing anything else for my career. I have a full life. I have friends. I have a social life. And when you are happy and have a full quality of life, I feel like [I] can have more longevity in my career.
Lisa-Gaye: [I'm doing] the best that I've ever done. The discipline that I’m building within myself. Nobody is saying, ‘Oh you have to be at work at this time.’ There’s no boss saying, ‘Why are you late?’ But, if I’m laying in bed at 10 a.m. then it's me saying [to myself], 'Okay, Lisa, get up, it's time for you to start working!’ That’s all on me.
xoNecole: What mistakes do you want to help people avoid when leaving Corporate America?
Randi: You have to learn about the highs and lows of entrepreneurship. You have a fast season and a slow season and I started to learn that when you're self-employed the latter season hits hard. Don't get caught up on the lows, just keep going and don't stop. I’m glad I did.
Gabrielle: I think everyone should quit their job and just figure it out for a second. You will discover so much about yourself when you take a second to just focus on you. Your skill set will always be there. You can’t be afraid of what will happen when you bet on yourself.
Lisa-Gaye: When it comes to being an influencer the field is saturated and a lot of people suffer from imposter syndrome. There is nothing wrong with being an imposter but find out how to make it yours, how to make it better. If you go to the store, you see 10 million different brands of bread! But you are choosing the brand that you like because you like that particular flavor.
So be an imposter, but be the best imposter of yourself and add your own flair, your own flavor. Make the better bread. The bread that you want.

Lisa-Gaye Shakespeare
xoNecole: Will you ever return to your 9 to 5?
Randi: I wouldn’t go back to Corporate America. But I don’t mind working under someone. A lot of people try to get into this business saying, “I can't work under anyone.” That’s not necessarily the reason to start a business because you're always going to answer to somebody. Clients, brands, there’s always someone else involved.
Gabrielle: I went back! I really needed a break and I gave myself that. But, I realized I’m a corporate girl, [and] I enjoy the work that I do. I’m good at it and I really missed that side of myself. I have different sides of me and my whole identity is not Raw Honey or my queerness. A big side of me is business and that’s why I love having my career. Now I feel like my best self.
Lisa-Gaye: I really don’t. For right now, I love working for myself. It's gratifying, it's challenging, it's exciting. It’s a big deal for me to say I own my own business. That I am my own boss, and I'm a Black woman doing it.
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Originally published on February 6, 2023









