
The significance of Astrology is that it helps you build relationships with others. You not only learn more about yourself through studying or understanding the stars, but you can also strengthen your connections in life as well. When it comes to building friendships, making new friends, or understanding more of who you are as a friend yourself, you want to look at the 11th house in your birth chart.
The 11th House in Astrology
The 11th house in Astrology rules your friendships, community, social networks, associates, aspirations, and where you find like-minded souls who resonate with you on a deep level. It represents the person you are within your community and the support you receive from others as well.
By breaking down the signs, planets, and aspects of your 11th house, you can further awaken to the beauty of friendship you were meant to experience in this lifetime. The strengths or weaknesses of your 11th house determine what type of experience you have when it comes to friendships and support in your life and how you can grow here.
What Do the Planets in the 11th House Mean?
Venus in the 11th house signifies someone who not only feels a lot of love for their friends but is constantly being reminded how much their friends or community support them as well. They build friendships through love and feel a lot of harmony. Jupiter in the 11th house signifies someone who has a bounty of friendships in life and feels blessed in this area of existence. They are the larger-than-life friend who always has something going on and wants you to be a part of it, and they build their friendships through their optimism and wisdom.
Chiron in the 11th house, however, can signify someone with deep wounds related to their friendships and may have a hard time making friends due to old betrayals or pain stemming from people whom they have associated with. Chiron in the 11th house are the healers in their friend groups and will build good friendships when they approach them with more confidence and understanding.
Saturn in the 11th house will show similar themes as Chiron, but friendships here feel more restrictive than painful. Having Saturn in the 11th house indicates someone who takes their friendships very seriously, but may not know how to loosen up and have fun at times.
Your Astrological Guide to Friendships & Zodiacs
The sign you have in your 11th house is also a determining factor in how you show up best in friendships. Virgo in the 11th house are the friends who are always there to lend a helping hand and build strong friendships through consistency. Sagittarius in the 11th house are the friends you want to travel with, and they create friendships in life through their outgoing and charismatic nature.
Cancer in the 11th house is the “mom friend,” the friend that will take care of you when you’re sick and create friendships in life through their nurturing and supportive energy. Overall, by understanding your 11th house, you understand the role you play within your community, the friendships you make, and the bonds you can build with others.
Read below for your rising sign and sun sign to see what influence your 11th house has in your life:
ARIES RISING/ ARIES SUN
You are the friend that always shows up exactly as they are today and receive support in your life through your authenticity. You aren’t the type of person to beat around the bush, and you are very direct when it comes to what you do or don’t want to be friends with.
Aquarius is your 11th house sign, and you tend to make friends pretty easily in life. You go through moods of being social and needing more independence and time to yourself, but your friends are typically very fond of you nonetheless.
You are an open-minded friend, and support the things in people that others may deem weird or unusual, and tend to attract progressive and inspiring people into your life. You will build strong friendships when you are getting out of your head, allowing yourself to take up space, connecting through social media, and being in spaces that resonate with you on a soul level.
TAURUS RISING/ TAURUS SUN
You are the loving friend. You are the type of friend who doesn’t let go of people easily, and you will put in action and dedication to keep your friendships strong. This can make you a little stubborn at times, but when you are going with the flow more you attract people to you.
With Pisces as your 11th house sign, you bring a lot of love, emotional receptivity, spirituality, and creativity into your friendships. You tend to meet friends in more creative settings or spaces where you are allowing yourself to let go and have fun.
You will build strong friendships in your life when there is a mutual understanding and respect for each other's differences, and you tend to be more attracted to spiritually inclined individuals. You tend to have rose-colored glasses on when it comes to your friendships as you always try to see the best in people.

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GEMINI RISING/ GEMINI SUN
You are the active friend. You are the friend who calls and the friend you can have a conversation with for hours. There is always something to talk about and something to do when it comes to you, and you easily make friends through your communicative approach.
With Aries as your 11th house sign, you are the type of friend who can be a little impulsive and unpredictable at times as well. You keep things interesting nonetheless and are someone who inspires people through your free-spirited nature.
Friendships for you tend to be short-lived, and if you want to build a more lasting community of support around you, being in spaces where you feel passionate, energized, and free will help you meet those people. You will build strong friendships in life when you let go of more of your competitive nature and when you focus on more harmony in your friendships.
CANCER RISING/ CANCER SUN
You are the homebody friend. You are the type of friend who will cook, host, and throw a friend a surprise birthday party. You are the thoughtful one in your friend group, and people deeply feel the love you share.
With Taurus as your 11th house sign, it takes you some time to come out of your shell, but when you do, most of the friendships you form in life are here to stay. You are the type of friend to know the best restaurants, and the best places to go to, and your friends see you as someone with impeccable taste.
You tend to attract more luxurious or high-status friendships into your life, as your love for luxury puts you in these spaces to meet these types of people. You will form strong friendships in life when you are doing the things you love and that put you at ease, and when you find friends who you share mutual interests, aesthetics, and tastes with.
LEO RISING/ LEO SUN
You are a fun friend. You are the type of friend who is always up to do something, and you like to stay active and be on the go. With Gemini in your 11th house, you are the more outgoing, talkative, and social friend.
In group settings, you don’t have a hard time making your voice heard, and there is something different and intriguing about you that attracts many people to you. You may have to be careful with gossiping when it comes to your friendships, however, as with Mercury influencing your 11th house, communication is important to your friendships.
All in all, your friendships strengthen when you are in dynamic and inspiring spaces and when you are checking in with people and building friendships rather than just forming associations. Your friend group will most likely be all different types of people with different interests and this is energy that you thrive in. Community is key, and thinking about the group more will sustain your friendships.
VIRGO RISING/ VIRGO SUN
You are the type of friend who gives great advice. You are always there for your loved ones, and the people in your life are often going to you for help or support. With Cancer in your 11th house, you are the friend who approaches people with open arms.
You are a safe space for your friends and community, and you truly love the people that come into your life. You love to have people over and you are someone who forms strong bonds with others in the home or more intimate atmospheres.
You are the type of person to still have love for or emotional attachments to people you knew when you were younger or don’t even talk to anymore because your bonds are forever. Friends are like family to you, and you build strong friendships in life when you are being supportive when you are in a safe atmosphere, and when you allow people to support you the way you support them.
LIBRA RISING/ LIBRA SUN
You are the type of friend that people love to have fun. You are open-minded, loving, confident, and not to mention, have great taste. You are the friend who knows what’s happening and where and who loves to be social and meet new people.
With Leo in your 11th house, you are the type of friend who shines when they walk into the room. You are the leader of the group, tend to be the center of attention wherever you go, and are also a little more dramatic than most, which keeps people entertained.
You are the type of friend who is confident in yourself yet also lifts people up and makes them feel good about themselves, too. You attract people to you and build strong friendships when you allow others to take up space and support the people in your life without losing your own authenticity in the process.

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SCORPIO RISING/ SCORPIO SUN
Friendships for you are about building deep, emotional connections, and you need consistency in your friendships. You strive in a group setting where there is reciprocal love and understanding, and around people who understand your more intuitive and introspective nature.
With Virgo being the sign in your 11th house, your friends see you as the wise one. You are always there for your people, and you are often the person your friends go to for help.
You prefer friendships where you can do daily tasks together, run errands, or share a mutual duty or interest. In your community, you have the power to bring healing into the lives of others, and you are usually dedicated to an important cause. You will attract support and good friendships into your life when you are approaching things with logic, practicality, and sincerity.
SAGITTARIUS RISING/ SAGITTARIUS SUN
You are the type of friend who likes to have fun and is always up for something new. You are exciting, adventurous, and outspoken when it comes to how you show up in group settings.
You have Libra in the 11th house, making you someone who generally has an easier time making friendships and finding communities that feel right for you. You openly give love and support to others, and in turn, receive this love back to you.
You are someone who brings people together and makes new friends wherever you go. You are the friend who is always dressed well, always surprises everyone in the group with your latest tea, and keeps people on their toes. You can build strong friendships with others by being more of the peacemaker, communicating, and approaching things with a balanced perspective.
CAPRICORN RISING/ CAPRICORN SUN
You are the friend that people can depend on. You are very selective of the people you let into your life, and you tend to keep the same friends for years. The community you build around yourself is very important to you, and you are dedicated in this area of life.
With Scorpio as your 11th house sign, you are the more emotional friend who takes their friendships to heart. Since you are such a private person, it takes a lot to let people in, and when you do, you do so with the intention that it’s going to last forever.
You are fiercely protective over your people, and you are the type of friend who makes people feel cherished. You will attract friendships, support, and community into your life when you are trusting your intuitive hunches on people when it comes to whom you truly resonate.
AQUARIUS RISING/ AQUARIUS SUN
Friendships are a big part of your existence, and the way you see life is often colored by the friendships you build throughout life and what they have taught you. You are someone who is outgoing, interesting, and friendly.
Sagittarius is in your 11th house, and you will attract friendships to you while traveling, exploring the world and different cultures, and getting out of the norm. You are the friend who is always doing something and who brings that shock factor.
You may be a little hard to reach at times, however, and are also the friend who may take a few days or weeks to text back. All in all, your strength in friendships comes from your optimism and charisma. You will build strong friendships when you are being open-minded and having fun.
PISCES RISING/ PISCES SUN
You build friendships that last a lifetime. You form bonds with others on an emotional level, and your soft side usually comes out more when it comes to your friends.
With Capricorn your 11th house sign, you attract friendships and support to you by being there for others. You are someone others feel like they can rely on and you are the type of friend to always show up.
You have a strong loyalty to the people you love, which is why your friendships typically are for years. You also typically make friends with people who are older than you or exude a sense of maturity and accomplishment. You value history when it comes to the people in your life, however, you will be able to attract more support to you when you are open to meeting new people rather than just giving your energy to people you already know.
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Exclusive: Viral It Girl Kayla Nicole Is Reclaiming The Mic—And The Narrative
It’s nice to have a podcast when you’re constantly trending online. One week after setting timelines ablaze on Halloween, Kayla Nicole released an episode of her Dear Media pop culture podcast, The Pre-Game, where she took listeners behind the scenes of her viral costume.
The 34-year-old had been torn between dressing up as Beyoncé or Toni Braxton, she says in the episode. She couldn’t decide which version of Bey she’d be, though. Two days before the holiday, she locked in her choice, filming a short recreation of Braxton’s “He Wasn’t Man Enough for Me” music video that has since garnered nearly 6.5M views on TikTok.
Kayla Nicole says she wore a dress that was once worn by Braxton herself for the Halloween costume. “It’s not a secret Toni is more on the petite side. I’m obsessed with all 5’2” of her,” she tells xoNecole via email. “But I’m 5’10'' and not missing any meals, honey, so to my surprise, when I got the dress and it actually fit, I knew it was destiny.”
The episode was the perfect way for the multihyphenate to take control of her own narrative. By addressing the viral moment on her own platform, she was able to stir the conversation and keep the focus on her adoration for Braxton, an artist she says she grew up listening to and who still makes her most-played playlist every year. Elsewhere, she likely would’ve received questions about whether or not the costume was a subliminal aimed at her ex-boyfriend and his pop star fiancée. “I think that people will try to project their own narratives, right?” she said, hinting at this in the episode. “But, for me personally – I think it’s very important to say this in this moment – I’m not in the business of tearing other women down. I’m in the business of celebrating them.”
Kayla Nicole is among xoNecole’s It Girl 100 Class of 2025, powered by SheaMoisture, recognized in the Viral Voices category for her work in media and the trends she sets on our timelines, all while prioritizing her own mental and physical health. As she puts it: “Yes, I’m curating conversations on my podcast The Pre-Game, and cultivating community with my wellness brand Tribe Therepē.”
Despite being the frequent topic of conversation online, Kayla Nicole says she’s learning to take advantage of her growing social media platform without becoming consumed by it. “I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out,” she says.
On The Pre-Game, which launched earlier this year, she has positioned herself as listeners “homegirl.” “There’s definitely a delicate dance between being genuine and oversharing, and I’ve had to learn that the hard way. Now I share from a place of reflection, not reaction,” she says. “If it can help someone feel seen or less alone, I’ll talk about it within reason. But I’ve certainly learned to protect parts of my life that I cherish most. I share what serves connection but doesn’t cost me peace.
"I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out."

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Throughout each episode, she sips a cocktail and addresses trending topics (even when they involve herself). It’s a platform the Pepperdine University alumnus has been preparing to have since she graduated with a degree in broadcast journalism, with a concentration in political science.
“I just knew I was going to end up on a local news network at the head anchor table, breaking high speed chases, and tossing it to the weather girl,” she says. Instead, she ended up working as an assistant at TMZ before covering sports as a freelance reporter. (She’s said she didn’t work for ESPN, despite previous reports saying otherwise.) The Pre-Game combines her love for pop culture and sports in a way that once felt inaccessible to her in traditional media.
She’s not just a podcaster, though. When she’s not behind the mic, taking acting classes or making her New York Fashion Week debut, Kayla Nicole is also busy elevating her wellness brand Tribe Therepē, where she shares her workouts and the workout equipment that helps her look chic while staying fit. She says the brand will add apparel to its line up in early 2026.
“Tribe Therepē has evolved into exactly what I have always envisioned. A community of women who care about being fit not just for the aesthetic, but for their mental and emotional well-being too. It’s grounded. It’s feminine. It’s strong,” she says. “And honestly, it's a reflection of where I am in my life right now. I feel so damn good - mentally, emotionally, and physically. And I am grateful to be in a space where I can pour that love and light back into the community that continues to pour into me.”
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More Than Gratitude: 7 Signs You're Struggling With Contentment In Your Life
If Thanksgiving happens to be your favorite holiday — or you just happen to be a longstanding participant of it — then there is one tradition that you are probably familiar with. Usually, before everyone eats, each individual expresses at least one thing that they are grateful for. I actually think that is one of the best things about the holiday because it reminds people to slow down and really reflect on how to be in the moment and think about the blessings that they have. And that, my friend, is what gets folks into the mindset of knowing how to be…content — even if it’s just for a brief moment.
Contentment. By definition, it’s the state of not only being “satisfied with what one is or has” but also “not wanting more or anything else.” And you know what? Although it might not be a popular aspiration of many, it is a sign of spiritual maturity on certain levels. After all, it is the Apostle Paul who once said, “Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content…” (Philippians 4:19 — NKJV).
Being content is about not complaining. Being content is about learning to be comfortable in your present circumstances. Being content is about choosing to find joy and fulfillment, on some level, and in some way, on a daily basis.
Personally, I dig all of this so much because when you have mastered true inner contentment, it creates stability, self-awareness, and a type of resilience that makes you…shoot, powerful beyond measure, if you ask me. Because when someone knows how to “find the good” and “make peace,” regardless of what is going on around them, they truly are unstoppable. Yeah, on so many levels, contentment is the ultimate life hack. It’s something that each and every one of us should aspire to become: completely and genuinely content.
Thanksgiving is basically moments away at this point. In preparation for that time of self-reflection, pour yourself a glass of wine, turn on some soft music, sit on your coach, and then ask yourself, “Am I content?” If you’re not sure (or you need the definition unpacked for you just a bit more), here are seven signs that you may not be…and yet, there is no time like the present to do something about it.
1. You’re Super Impatient
GiphyHonestly, putting another Scripture right here could be all that is needed in order to bring this point to a swift and abrupt end. Which one? I Corinthians 13, the Love Chapter, starts off with “Love is patient” (I Corinthians 13:4). Yeah, if you want to know if you love yourself and love yourself well, how patient are you…including with yourself? Throughout the years, I have shared one of my favorite definitions of "patient" in several different articles: “bearing provocation, annoyance, misfortune, delay, hardship, pain, etc., with fortitude and calm and without complaint, anger, or the like.” For me, it’s a blaring reminder that mastering patience isn’t just about waiting (more on that in a sec); it’s about waiting with grace.
Content people can do this because, on some level, they know how to apply the John Piper quote, "God is always doing 10,000 things in your life, and you may be aware of three of them." Another way of looking at this is people who can wait well — without complaining or getting annoyed by delays or challenges in the meantime — get that in order for things to truly come together, there are lots of moving parts…some that they don’t even know about. And so, if they want the best outcome, yes, waiting well is oftentimes not just involved; it is required.
Impatient people don’t get any of this. That’s why they are so stressed out all of the time.
2. You’re Worried About Things You Can’t Control
GiphyThis. Past. Election. Chile. And then the cabinet that that man is putting together as we speak? I don’t even want to get my blood pressure up, expounding on it. Let me just pivot by adding one more Scripture — because it is beyond fitting: “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” (Matthew 6:34 — NKJV)
Although worrying is something that pretty much everyone does at one point or another, one of my favorite quotes on it is by an American humorist by the name of Erma Bombeck: “Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.” And really, when you stop to really think about worrying, isn’t that the truth? For one thing, all worrying does, by definition, is cause you to torment yourself by focusing on things that aren’t even going to happen (somewhere between 85-90 percent of the time, in fact; there is actually a science on that) or trying to control things that are beyond your control.
If being a worry wart is your internal struggle, my advice would be to look at life this way: If you’re worried that you’re about to get written up for getting to work late again, leave your house earlier — you can control that. On the other hand, if you’re worried that you’re going to get laid off before the holiday season ends, so long as you’ve been doing your best (which is also something that you can control), please put your energy elsewhere because that is something that you can’t control.
And I promise that when you choose to be calm and confident over worrying yourself to death, that can help you to manage what you can’t control so much easier. Oh, and your health will thank you, too, because worry is attached to things like insomnia, muscle tension, headaches, overeating, and drinking too much. All this over things that probably won’t happen in the first place? Yeah, sis…(choose to) relax.
And by choosing to chill out, there is some contentment that follows because you will see the good as much as, if not more than, the potential bad. Trust me.
3. The Past and/or Future Consume You
GiphyOn the heels of the Scripture that I just provided for the previous point, it also applies to this one. You know, back when I was doing some intentional research on forgiveness, I always appreciated the insight of author Gary Zukav: “Forgiveness is accepting that the past cannot change.” While this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t hold people accountable for what they have done, it does help you to be compassionate with those who are truly sorry (check out “Heads Up: It's NOT An Apology If An Amend Isn't Made”) because, no matter what has transpired between you and them, one thing they can’t do is go back into a time machine and change it.
And you know what? When it comes to the mistakes — or, let’s be real, sometimes they are conscious poor decisions — you have made, you can’t either. So, why let their misdeeds or your own consume you to the point of internally destroying you?
Then there’s the future. What if you get robbed? What if your mom gets cancer? What if your husband files for divorce? Girl, if you are caught up in the future that hasn’t even happened yet, you are definitely gonna drive yourself up the wall! And this is why so many mental health experts and platforms are all about encouraging individuals to live in the moment. You can do this by meditating, taking breaks from social media (and the news), journaling, doing things that you enjoy (instead of waiting to put them off), and resting.
Listen, one of the best things about choosing to only focus on the here and now is you can find little things about it to be content with — and that helps you to be/become more content overall.
4. You Always Think About Wanting More
GiphyAlthough it certainly wasn’t my plan for this piece to be so Scripture-heavy, I’ve got to flow with what immediately comes to mind and, for this point, the verse, “So are the ways of everyone who is greedy for gain; It takes away the life of its owners” (Proverbs 1:19 — NKJV) is it. And just what does it mean to be greedy? A greedy individual isn’t just low-key obsessed with getting and having more — please catch it — they are also quite EAGER.
Eager folks also tend to be impatient. Eager folks are perceived by others as being very intense (and not in a good way). More times than not, eager folks haven’t really mastered how to take a moment to appreciate what they do have because all they care about is what’s next. And when you’re in a state of that kind of, well, anxiety…how could it not affect your quality of life? I mean, really.
And what if you read all of that and said, “I’m not greedy; I’m just ambitious” — listen, there is nothing wrong with having goals and wanting to obtain them. However, an ambitious individual knows how to find balance. If they get a promotion, they will schedule a vacation to celebrate it. If they just got a new car, they are not in a rush to get a new house until they can financially afford it. If they were just proposed to with a really nice ring, they aren’t hounding their new fiancé about setting a date within the next two weeks.
People who always want more, without taking the time to enjoy what they already have, are never going to be content. Why? Because there is always something else that you can want…even if you don’t need it or it really isn’t the time for it. Meanwhile, content people get that it’s a good thing to not go after everything all of the time; that it’s far wiser to embrace what is already before them — because some folks don’t even have…that.
5. You Compare Yourself to Others
GiphySomething that I actually get asked fairly often is, do I feel “some type of way” that I do so much work in the realm of marriage when I’ve never been married myself. The short answer is “absolutely not” because I know that I could’ve been married, a few times over, at this point; however, I am just as intentional about not wanting to be divorced as I am about being in a healthy marriage, not just “a marriage.”
I’m grateful to be in that head and heart space too; otherwise, I would be out here comparing myself to other people — and there is nothing good, healthy, wise, profitable, or beneficial about doing that. In fact, science isn’t a fan of playing the “keeping up with the Joneses” game, either.
According to science, that can ultimately do things like lower your self-esteem, cause you to only see the bad/negative things in your world (in comparison to other people), and it can jack up your perception of what’s really going on with other people. For instance, if you’re 33 and comparing yourself to your friends who are already married and parents, you might want to talk to them about what their day-to-day, beyond their IG posts, is like.
Because while prayerfully, their life is filled with many blessings, if they are being totally honest with you, they will also share that you’ve got some “pros” to your life too (honey, there are some real benefits to being single; check out “If You're Not In Love With Being Single, Ask Yourself These 6 Questions.,” “10 Bona Fide Benefits Of Being Single,” and “10 Words That'll Make You Totally Rethink The Word 'Single'”). Content people get that every season does — because it’s true.
6. You Don’t Verbalize Gratitude Often
GiphyThere is someone in my world who I actually try to avoid as much as possible. It’s not that she’s not smart, and honestly, she’s one of the funniest individuals that I’ve ever known (and I’ve known her for most of my adult life). It’s just that…she is always wanting something, and I find that to make her a very draining individual. Lawd, even as I am typing all of this out, I’m trying to recall a time when I’ve heard her say, “thank you” for something (no joke), let alone express any form of genuine gratitude. She’s just got such a sense of entitlement that whatever she does receive, she thinks she’s owed and what she doesn’t have, she believes that something is wrong if it hasn’t arrived yet. Geeze, what a horrible type of existence.
You don’t have to take my word for it either because there is plenty of data out here to support that people who don’t take the time to be grateful for what they have ended up being unhappy, more stressed out, in more physical pain (yes, literally) and definitely more negative than everyone else — which would explain why people don’t like hanging out with them as much.
So, since this is the time when gratitude is the theme of the season, think about what you are grateful for when it comes to what you’ve accomplished this year, then write it down and post it up somewhere. Then, as far as the individuals, for whom you are grateful for — send them a handwritten note, get them a gift card to their favorite coffee shop, or even just call to tell them.
One of the most beautiful things about being in a state of contentment is it reminds you of a lot of what you already have. It really is enough…for now…in this very moment.
7. Being (and Living) Satisfied Is a Foreign Concept to You
Giphy“Tubi movies” really is a complete sentence. LOL. And yes, sometimes, when I’m taking a writing break, I will check out some of the most…I-wouldn’t-normally ones, just to lend my support. In walks Never Satisfied with its own self-explanatory meaning. Y’all, it really is oh so true that there are folks out here dealing with some unpredictable and sometimes even truly dire consequences — and it’s all because they didn’t know how to sit down somewhere and learn how to be satisfied with the people, places, things, and ideas that they already have.
That said, I am indeed a quotes gal, and one of my favorites on the topic of satisfaction is by actor Christopher Reeve: “Success is finding satisfaction in giving a little more than you take,” and although I don’t do what I’m about to do often (because I try to take Matthew 6:1-4 very literally and seriously), I’m going to illustrate what he said about satisfaction by sharing a recent situation.
This past week, a nurse practitioner (I prefer those to doctors) diagnosed me with wrist tendonitis for the first time in my life. If you knew how many keystrokes that I do a day, you’d probably be shocked that it took this long. Anyway, as I was waiting in line to get a prescription, a young Black man was basically freaking out because his insurance was refusing to cover his own meds. According to what he was telling the pharmacist, he always only pays $5; however, this time, they were charging $62, he simply didn’t have it, and the insurance company was not picking up.
As I watched him shaking and sweating while saying that he really needed it today and fretting while talking to his mom on the phone, I offered to cover it — and after going back and forth with him for about three minutes, I did. In my mind, although I didn’t plan on spending about $85 (total) that day, the little inconvenience that it was costing me was nothing in comparison to how much it was going to benefit him — I could tell from how he and his mother reacted (even the pharmacist mouthed “thank you so much”), and that is what made it money well spent.
To help someone who had no way of helping themselves in the moment? That brought me a lot of satisfaction because it’s nice to lighten someone’s load while leaving it to karma to handle it. ALL OF IT.
And that’s why I thought it was best to wrap all of this up with a reminder that being satisfied is being content. And when you can be so satisfied with your life that you want to help others? That is a level of contentment that is truly unmatched because you start looking for ways to bless others simply so that they can feel just as content as you do.
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Our culture? It really is never satisfied, which explains why a lot of people are so miserable. SMDH. You don’t have to be like the masses, though. This Thanksgiving, please purpose in your mind (and heart) to be(come) more content. It will make you a rare gem that benefits everyone and everything around you.
Including yourself, sis. No doubt about it.
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Originally published on November 28, 2024









