
St. Jude’s Legacy Of Hope: How The Divine Nine And Black Communities Keep The Mission Alive

When it comes to supporting the Black community, St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital has been doing the work for decades—and last month’s Celebration of Hope was a powerful reminder of that.
If you’re not familiar, Celebration of Hope is an annual weekend hosted by St. Jude to honor its partners, supporters, and advocates from the Black community. It’s a mix of inspiring patient stories, strategy sessions on how to expand support, and a whole lot of love for the hospital’s mission of treating and curing childhood cancerat no cost to families.
I had the opportunity to attend this year, and let me tell you—it was an experience. From the moment we arrived, it was clear that this wasn’t just an event; it was a family reunion for people who genuinely care about the cause. The weekend kicked off with a tour of the hospital campus.
Kayla Walker and other media creatives at St. Jude's "Celebration of Hope"
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We toured St. Jude’s hospital and research facilities, where we saw firsthand how donations are making a difference. One of the most moving moments? Hearing from former patients about their journeys and how they never received a single bill for treatment, housing, or travel. That’s what St. Jude is all about—removing financial stress so families can focus on what matters: their child’s health.
St. Jude Was a Civil Rights Trailblazer in Healthcare
Before we get into today’s impact, let’s take it back. When Danny Thomas founded St. Jude in 1962, he wasn’t just opening a hospital—he was challenging the status quo in the segregated South.
“A lot of people don’t realize that St. Jude was one of the first hospitals in the South to integrate,” Kera Wright, CFO of ALSAC, the fundraising and awareness organization for St. Jude Children's Research Hospital, told me. “Black and white children shared hospital rooms, which was unheard of at the time. And beyond that, Black doctors and nurses were given opportunities here that they weren’t getting elsewhere.”
At a time when Black patients were often denied care or forced into separate, underfunded wards, St. Jude made it clear that every child deserved the best treatment—regardless of race, religion, or ability to pay. And that commitment hasn’t changed.
The Divine Nine’s Multi-Million Dollar Impact
Kayla Walker, member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated
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If you’re part of a Divine Nine fraternity or sorority, you already know the impact these organizations have had on St. Jude. But if not, let me put you on.
For years, the Divine Nine has collectively raised millions of dollars to support St. Jude’s research and treatment efforts—some organizations hitting seven figures on their own.
“It’s beyond the money,” Wright emphasized. “Kappa Alpha Psi has donated over $3 million, Sigma Gamma Rho hit their $1 million goal and is now pushing for $2 million by 2028, and that’s just the beginning. But what’s even more important is the awareness they bring.”
And that awareness is crucial. The Divine Nine isn’t just fundraising—they’re using their 9 million+ members worldwide to spread the word about childhood cancer, the importance of early detection, and how St. Jude is ensuring that families never receive a bill for treatment, travel, housing, or food.
I told Wright how my first introduction to St. Jude was through an annual Divine Nine step show fundraiser at Clark Atlanta University, and she wasn’t surprised. “That’s exactly why these partnerships matter,” she said. “They keep the mission alive in our communities.”
The Full Weekend Experience
Cowboy Carter Kickback
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Let’s talk about the vibes throughout the weekend. Celebration of Hope wasn’t just about honoring the cause—it was an entire experience that combined giving back with a whole lot of fun. From live performances to stylish events, the weekend was packed with moments to remember.
After a powerful hospital tour, the weekend’s first event, the Cowboy Carter Kickback, set the tone for the rest of the festivities. This lively gathering was full of music, food, and networking, giving everyone a chance to relax, unwind, and soak in the weekend’s energy.
The following day, attendees dove into a series of breakout sessions that focused on how our communities and organizations can continue to support St. Jude’s mission and expand its reach. These sessions were filled with thought-provoking discussions that reinforced the collective power of community.
CeCe Winans performing at St. Jude's Celebration of Hope
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Then came the highly anticipated Luncheon, which featured a heartfelt performance by gospel legend CeCe Winans. Her powerful voice had the entire room in awe, making the luncheon an unforgettable moment.
The Sneaker Ball wrapped up the weekend with an unforgettable vibe. Attendees swapped their heels for sneakers, dressed to impress in their most fashionable cocktail attire. The night was full of energy, featuring electrifying performances from legendary artists like Pepa from Salt-N-Pepa and CeeLo Green.
The performances kept the crowd on their feet, adding a special touch to the already incredible evening. The event proved to be the perfect blend of style, music, and fun, leaving everyone buzzing long after the ball ended.
The Celebration of Hope Left an Impact—But There’s Still Work to Do
The weekend wrapped up with a lot of love, but Kera Wright made sure to remind me that the work isn’t over. “We’re making progress, but Black children are still disproportionately affected by certain cancers, and we have to make sure they’re getting access to the best care,” she said.
That’s where we all come in. Whether you’re in the Divine Nine, a community group, or just someone looking to give back, there are plenty of ways to support St. Jude’s mission.
- Donate: Every dollar helps fund treatment and groundbreaking research.
- Spread the word: Educate your community about childhood cancer disparities and how St. Jude is working to close the gap.
- Host a fundraiser: Whether it’s a step show, gala, or virtual event, every effort counts.
At the end of the day, St. Jude’s legacy in the Black community is about more than just medicine—it’s about hope, access, and making sure no child is left behind. And as long as there are people willing to give, advocate, and spread the word, that legacy will only continue to grow.
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Bored With Your Partner's Body? 10 Tips To Breathe New Life Into Your Bedroom.
Recently, while checking out a movie, a wife said that she and her husband were trying to come up with creative things to do in the bedroom because, it wasn’t so much that their sex life had become boring, but “it is stale and repetitive” (which gee, sure does sound like a definition of boring to me — LOL). It’s not the first time I’ve heard that because some of my own clients in real life bring that very issue up from time to time.
What’s interesting about boredom, though, is a variety of things can be the root cause of it: a lack of interest, no sense of purpose, stress or anxiety or having a short attention span are some of the popular reasons. And that’s why, whenever a couple presents boredom to me, especially sexual boredom, I encourage them to figure out what they mean when they use the word. Knowing that can help to point them in the direction of what they need to do next (seeing a sex therapist might be the way to go — check out “Have You Ever Wondered If You Should See A Sex Therapist?”).
Today? Today we’re gonna address another definition of boring: “monotonous or repetitive activities.” What should you do when, what you find to be boring is your partner’s body? It’s not because you don’t love them anymore or even that you don’t still enjoy intimacy with them — it’s just that you are in an exclusive (if you’re dating) or monogamous (if you’re married — check out “Why I Use The Word 'Monogamous' In Marriage And 'Exclusive' In Dating”) dynamic, what do you do when you kind of feel like the visuals are hella predictable which can make intimacy a bit…well, drab?
Listen, just because folks may not talk about it openly, that doesn’t mean that this isn’t a real issue. If it’s something that you’re currently experiencing right now — don’t feel bad or guilty. Sex has seasons just like almost everything in life. The key is to handle this season responsibly. These 10 tips are designed to help you to do that…so that you can get the excitement (of your partner’s body) back into your bedroom again.
1. Dress Up for Dates
Give pushback if you want to, yet it’s my personal opinion that the pandemic still has a chokehold on a lot of us when it comes to fashion — or the lack thereof. It’s like lockdown had us used to being in PJs and joggers for so long that far too many people are still struggling to actually dress up. That’s a shame too because if you wanna see our people show up and all the way out, put a woman in a little black dress and a man in a tailored suit. WHEW.
And just what does that have to do with today’s topic? Well, think about gifts that you’ve received in the past. What made them more appealing? When someone just handed them to you out of a shopping bag or when they made the time to “dress them up” in some fancy wrapping paper or a gift bag and some pretty tissue paper? Our bodies are similar because, well, just think about it — no matter how often you’ve seen your man with no clothes on, when he’s all dressed up, doesn’t he turn into a level of fine that makes him super sexy and hella appealing again?
That’s why my first tip would be for the two of you to not just go out on dates more than you currently are but to DRESS UP for them too. Seeing how good he looks in his clothes in public can motivate you to want to take them off in private.
2. Schedule a Professional Photoshoot and Post Them in Your Bedroom
Since a fair amount of my friends are entertainment industry folks, they are good for taking professional pictures. No, I don’t mean asking someone to use their phone to capture them while they are on stage. I mean that they schedule a photoshoot with a reputable photographer — and you know what? As much as I see some of these people, I continue to be awed by what photographers can bring out of them…hell, just with the lighting alone.
The same thing can happen for how you see your man. Yep, book a photoshoot — one that consists of consulting with the photographer about what your partner would look best in. Once the shoot is done, go through the pictures, select 1-4 of your faves, blow them up a bit, and then mount or frame them in your bedroom. Walking into the space where you probably have the most sex and seeing him at his best is the type of visual turn-on that is absolutely underrated.
3. Go “All Out Sexy” in the Bedroom
Sometimes the truth hurts and if you and your partner have been going to bed looking like who-shot-what, chances are, you’re not bored, what you are is low-key irritated — and you absolutely should be. The reality is most of us spend at least 6-8 hours a night in bed and if someone is in there with us, we should stop acting like they don’t want something appealing to look at. So, this coming weekend, y’all should make some time to hop online and select some attractively seductive sleepwear. It doesn’t always have to be a lace teddy for you or expensive silk boxers for him but damn, at least a really cute tank and booty shorts for you and some boxer briefs that are in your favorite color for him. Sex or not…tease each other a lil’ bit. Visually.
4. Play Around with Lighting
Personally, I find myself doing more online shopping and then altering whatever doesn’t fit the way that I like. A part of the reason why I prefer going this route is because the lighting that’s in a lot of stores? Oh, how they suck. Yeah, lighting can really alter our perception of so many things — which is why changing your lighting also makes the list of what you can do if you are in a season of being bored with your partner’s body. See how he looks under candlelight. See how he looks as a “red light special” (shout-out to TLC’s song and visual and how well actor Boris Kodjoe is aging — the real ones know).
LED lights that sync up to music? Those are bomb as well. I’m telling you, I don’t care how much of a “rerun” it might be, a Black man in some cool blue or warm gold lighting is sexy, sexy, sexy…and then some.
5. Use Blindfolds (More Often)
When you get a chance, check out “How To Incorporate All Five Senses To Have The Best Sex Ever.” Then afterwards, pick up a couple of (more) blindfolds. Part of the reason why blindfolds are such a staple for foreplay (especially) is because, when one of your five senses — sight, touch, hearing, taste, and sound — is subdued, that ends up amplifying the other four that remain (more on that in a bit). And chile, when you’re blindfolded during sex, not only does it increase anticipation about whatever is coming your way, but it can also help your imagination to run wild — and that can be quite the aphrodisiac.
6. Give Erotic Massages
When it comes to sex, specifically, something that I appreciate about the art of the massage is it encourages people to focus on not-so-common parts of the body (a common one? Check out “Blow Your Man's Mind By Giving Him This Tantalizing Massage”). For instance, sensual massages are all about slowing down and using your hands to not only focus on one part/area of someone else’s body but to do some exploring too.
And even though the main purpose of an erotic massage is to touch the parts of your partner that will turn them on, it’s still a massage that is all about touching lightly, using body parts other than your hands, and exploring new ways to turn your partner on. Since giving a massage is a way to encourage you to exercise a bit of restraint, that can “build you up” to have the desire to indulge in your partner’s body more — whether you’ve experienced it dozens of times before or not.
7. Explore Other Erogenous Zones
“If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” isn’t exactly a motto that I would recommend for the bedroom. The main reason why is because, if you’re not careful, it can cause you to become pretty lazy on the sexual tip — and that is never good. That being said if you’re at the point where you’re feeling a bit bored with your partner’s body, this (probably) means that you both have learned “which buttons to push” when it comes to sexually pleasing one another.
And that means it’s time to explore some new territory. If you already know their favorite erogenous zones, determine in your mind to learn some different ones — some “uncharted territory,” if you will. Healthline once published an article that said there are a little over 30 different ones out here. Can you honestly say that you’ve tested each and every one of those out? C’mon now.
8. Focus on Your Other Four Senses
Looking at your partner’s body only covers one of the five senses: sight. Okay, but what efforts are you putting into hearing, touching, tasting, and smelling? For hearing, how’s y’all’s dirty talk game been lately? Touch? Bring in different sex toys and fabrics to see what can cultivate new sensations. Tasting? Well, read “12 'Sex Condiments' That Can Make Coitus Even More...Delicious” and then try something new.
Smell? Scents that have been proven to be sexually arousing include jasmine, vanilla, rose, sandalwood, patchouli, cinnamon, and a blend of pumpkin and lavender (especially if they’re placed in erogenous-zoned spots). Honing in on the other senses can make you appreciate sight more. Try it. I think that you will like it.
9. Think of Their “Best” Body Part. Have Sex in That Position.
No matter how often you’ve seen his body before, I’m willing to bet that you’ve got a favorite part. Think about it and then figure out which sex position will give you the best view of it. If it’s his chest, get on top. If it’s his legs, fellatio counts as sex because oral sex is sex. If it’s his torso, have him penetrate you while he’s standing up. I could expound yet y’all get my drift.
And if I didn’t mention your favorite part, check out SheKnows’s “69 Sex Positions to Put on Your Bucket List Immediately” to get some inspiration — because how can you not see his body as eye candy when you’re looking at the part of it you like the most as you’re receiving all kinds of pleasure. Whew.
10. Record a Session (or Two)
Ever made a sex tape before? Although I will be the first to say that you need to exercise extreme discretion when it comes to this tip — if you’ve been having sex with someone long enough to experience bouts of boredom with their body, I’m assuming that you’ve built up some trust over time (right?). Anyway, something that’s sexy about a sex tape is it can help you to see you and your partner from another angle/perspective — and that also can be pretty damn appealing. So, if it’s something that the two of you have never tried…try it. Looking at the two of you enjoying each other can give you a greater appreciation for his body — and what it has the ability to do to you.
BONUS: Ask Yourself If You’re “Bored” or “Not Attracted”
It’s kind of a full-circle moment with this one because, as I bring this to a close, I’ve got to put on record that it really is one thing to be bored — another entirely to not be attracted. Case in point — when it comes to one of my exes, the sex itself was actually pretty good. Still, I had to kind of “force myself” sometimes through it because I wasn’t very attracted to him…not ever really (you’d be amazed how much that can happen when you like the person’s personality and not so much their looks).
Although I will NEVER put myself in that position again, sometimes people are so invested in their relationship that they don’t just want to end it due to this alone. If that is what you are going through, please speak with a therapist/counselor/life coach. Depending on how deep the issues go, they may be able to provide you with some tips and tools to make things easier.
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One thing about boredom is that creativity can totally help it out. And what this means is a part of what creates boredom is laziness (ouch) or a lack of intention. And what this means is if you’re willing to do something about the current state of boredom that you are going through, there is a big chance that you can get rid of it. No matter what the cause of it may be.
Try the steps. Report back. Something tells me that you might feel better about things in your bedroom.
Just a hunch.
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