Big, beautiful women were dominating the sex game long before Drake showed love when he rapped, "I like my women BBW." I'm on the curvier side and my husband can't get enough of squeezing, grabbing, and caressing my curves and edges. It's just something extra special when there's more to hold on to while he (literally) sits back and enjoys the ride. My sex drive has been through the roof lately, and there are only so many ways we can missionary and doggy style, no matter how much flesh and skin is at the party. But... all sex positions are not created equal.
The Best BBW Sex Positions
This isn't to shame any size - petite, curvy, or anything in between - but the reality is, what's orgasmic for a BBW might not hit the spot like it does for a size 2. And even beyond that, every woman is different anyway - no matter her size. It's all about the positions that make you feel confident, sexy, empowered, desired, and in control (and of course, sometimes being the "submissive" one).
These positions have proven to help the BBW reach her climax every time - from the inside out.
1.Randy Rider
This is my jam (*Lauren London in ATL voice*). For this position, your guy sits back against a couch, headboard, or comfortable armchair. Wherever you set the scene, make sure you have plenty of room because it can get crazy. Once you're settled, have him wrap his arms around your waist and move you up and down. Flaunt what you're working with and move your hips and waist in subtle movements to get maximum stimulation.
2.Cook It Up
What's better than sex in the kitchen? It might be a cliche but that's because it works so well. Does it ever miss? Hardly. For this position, all you have to do is sit on the kitchen counter and let your man enter while you both get all passionate and whatnot.
3.The Ohm
This is a solid switch-up when you want to try something new (even in the moment!). Here's how it goes: You lay on your back and lift your legs at a 90-degree angle. Your partner kneels with his legs near your chest. His pelvis should align with your vulva when he makes his way in. To make things more interesting he can move your legs to the same side. His torso stays upward and you should also squeeze your vagina (hope you've been practicing your Kegels!) to make sure he stays inside.
4.Cowgirl Remix
If you like being in control, this is for you. Just like when you're doing the cowgirl, kneel on top of your partner and lean on his chest to help your thighs go to work. But this time, let your partner grab onto your hips as they thrust themselves up to meet you. This makes orgasms easier for both of you.
5.The Z
Now, this is an adventure. But *sigh* it feels oh so good. With your partner kneeling on the bed, you lay in front of him (on your back) with each foot on his shoulders. This is actually a very intimate position because it encourages eye contact and gives him a full view of your body and all that it has to offer.
6.Missionary 2.0
Having sex without the missionary position is a hard habit to break. But no one said you had to give it up altogether. The fact that it's so basic only means there are ways to mix things up. While he's inside, you can play with his balls, put one leg up and one leg down, and slow it down to enjoy every moment. You can also lift your pelvis, add more lubricant, and even put a pillow underneath you to get a new angle.
7.Magic Mountain
This one might be easy, but don't underestimate its power. You and your partner both sit with your legs bent, leaning back on your forearms while facing each other. Slowly get closer to one another and rub your clitoris on his pelvis. To make things even sexier, put ice cubes on his chest so the water drips to his pelvis.
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Adrian Marcel On Purpose, Sacrifice, And The 'Signs Of Life'
In this week's episode of xoMAN, host Kiara Walker talked with R&B artist Adrian Marcel, who opened up, full of heart and authenticity, about his personal evolution. He discussed his days transitioning from a young Bay Area singer on the come-up to becoming a grounded husband and father of four.
With honesty and introspection, Marcel reflected on how life, love, and loss have shaped the man he is today.
On ‘Life’s Subtle Signals’
Much of the conversation centered around purpose, sacrifice, and listening to life’s subtle signals. “I think that you really have to pay attention to the signs of life,” Marcel said. “Because as much as we need to make money, we are not necessarily on this Earth for that sole purpose, you know what I mean?” While he acknowledged his ambitions, adding, “that is not me saying at all I’m not trying to ball out,” he emphasized that fulfillment goes deeper.
“We are here to be happy. We are here [to] fulfill a purpose that we are put on here for.”
On Passion vs. Survival
Adrian spoke candidly about the tension between passion and survival, describing how hardship can sometimes point us away from misaligned paths. “If you find it’s constantly hurting you… that’s telling you something. That’s telling you that you’re going outside of your purpose.”
Marcel’s path hasn’t been without detours. A promising athlete in his youth, he recalled, “Early on in my career, I was still doing sports… I was good… I had a scholarship.” An injury changed everything. “My femur broke. Hence why I always say, you know, I’m gonna keep you hip like a femur.” After the injury, he pivoted to explore other careers, including teaching and corporate jobs.
“It just did not get me—even with any success that happened in anything—those times, back then, I was so unhappy. And you know, to a different degree. Like not just like, ‘I really want to be a singer so that’s why I’m unhappy.’ Nah, it was like, it was not fulfilling me in any form or fashion.”
On Connection Between Pursuing Music & Fatherhood
He recalled performing old-school songs at age 12 to impress girls, then his father challenged him: “You can lie to these girls all you want, but you're really just lying to yourself. You ain't growing.” That push led him to the piano—and eventually, to his truth. “Music is my love,” Marcel affirmed. “I wouldn’t be a happy husband if I was here trying to do anything else just to appease her [his wife].”
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Colman Domingo’s Career Advice Is A Reminder That Our Words Shape Our Reality
When it comes to life, we are always here for a good reminder to shift our mindsets, and Colman Domingo just gave us one we didn't know we needed.
In a resurfaced clip from an appearance at NewFest shared as a repost via Micheaux Film Festival, the Emmy award winner dropped a gem on how he has navigated his decades-spanning career in Hollywood. The gem in question? Well, Colman has never identified with "struggle" in his career. Let that sit.
Colman Domingo On Not Claiming Struggle
"I’ve never said that this career was tough. I’ve never said it was difficult. I’ve never said it was hard," Colman said. "Other people would say that—‘oh, you're in a very difficult industry. It's very hard to get work and book work.’ I’m like, I’ve never believed that."
Instead of allowing himself to be defined by other people's projections about their perceptions of what the industry is or was, Colman dared to believe differently even if his reality was playing catch up with his dreams:
"Like Maya Angelou said words are things. And if you believe that, then that's actually what it is. Actually I've just never believed it. Someone told me some years ago, they said, 'I remember you were, you're a struggling actor.' I'm like, 'I don't.'"
"I wasn't attached to a struggle. I was attached to living..."
He continued:
"Even when I was bartending and hustling and not having opportunities or anything, I never believed that I was struggling because I wasn't attached to a struggle. I was attached to living and creating and being curious."
Colman’s philosophy of attaching to living instead of struggle has blossomed into an enduring career. He first made his mark on stage in acclaimed Broadway productions before transitioning to the screen, where his star began to rise in the 2010s following his role as Victor Strand in Fear The Walking Dead. From there, his presence only grew, landing memorable supporting roles in If Beale Street Could Talk, Ma Rainey’s Black Bottom, and the hit series Euphoria.
In more recent years, Colman has stepped fully into the spotlight with standout leading performances in Rustin and Sing Sing, both of which earned him widespread critical acclaim and Academy Award nominations for Best Actor.
With all that said, Colman's advice is no doubt powerful, especially for those who are chasing their dreams, building something from the ground up, or have question marks about what's next in their careers. Words shape our realities, and how we speak about our journeys even in passing matters.
Words Create Our Reality & Colman Is Living Proof
"I tell young people that. To remember the words that you say about yourself and your career are true. So, I choose to make it full of light and love and it's interesting and every day I'm going to learn something new even if it looks like I don't have what I want but it's important to be in the moment... you really build on the moments moment to moment.
"And you're looking back at your career as I've been in it for what 33 years and you're like, 'Wow, that's what I've been doing.' And I've stayed strong to that so I think that is truly my advice."
Let this be your sign to give your path a reframe. When the path you're on feels uncertain, the journey is still unfolding. Like Colman said: "I wasn't attached to a struggle. I was attached to living."
That's a Black king right there.
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